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The 9 Most Devastatingly Sad Documentaries of All Time

By Dustin Rowles | Posted Under Seriously Random Lists | Comments (69)



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9. The Cove: Psihoyos and Barry assemble a crack team like some sort of Clooney to infiltrate and record the goings-on. They gather world champion free divers to plant underwater cameras and microphones. They get Industrial Light and Magic to craft hidden HD cameras in realistic boulders and shrubbery. They get high-tech night vision and heat-sensitive cameras to scope out for guards and danger as they go all Spy Tech on the fishermen. It’s a tense and dangerous operation because they’re going espionage on a multi-million dollar industry. Water park dolphins sell for a minimum $150,000. But their efforts work. We see the butchery first-hand, and it’s unnerving. Essentially, the dolphins are harpooned to death, as the cove fills with blood. By the finish, they’re hooking carcasses out of the water, and the cove itself is drenched with sanguine waters.

8. Grizzly Man: Your view on whether Werner Herzog’s Grizzly Man is devastating or not may depend on your opinion of Timothy Treadwell, who is either a goofball who got what he deserved or a idealistic animal lover who became a tragic casualty of nature and a bear’s instinct to kill. In either respect, Herzog allows the viewer to come to that conclusion himself. Grizzly Man is chilling, engrossing and provocative, and from my point of view at least, Timothy Treadwell was a sad figure whose desperation for love cost him his life.

7. The Times of Harvey Milk: If you thought the feature film based on the life of Harvey Milk was devastating, this documentary is sadder still, as it focuses on the real Harvey Milk, his inspirational political life, his valiant (and often successful) fight for gay rights, and his differences with Dan White, who eventually takes the life of Milk. That is where tears of sadness turn to tears of indignation, as White is spared a heavy sentence in part because the jury found the act was not premeditated, despite the fact that Dan White carried a gun with 10 extra rounds and avoided security on the day of the shooting.

6. Silverlake Life: The View from Here: Silverlake is Tom Joslin’s 1993 video diary of he and his lover Mark Massi’s experiences in the year following their diagnosis of AIDS. The deeply emotionally affecting film takes an unsentimental look at the way in which AIDS takes a ravaging physical toll on the body, but more than that, it’s a tragic romance about two men facing death together.

5. How to Die in Oregon: As much potential as this film has for being emotionally manipulative, it mostly avoids the almost expected gut-punches usually associated with “serious” documentaries. Pathos abounds, but it never feels manufactured; the people in the stories come off as whole, with as much humor as there is black despair and pain. As much as How To Die In Oregon could have been a political or philosophical diatribe, Richardson takes the harder route with minimal editorialization or sensationalism, and just lets these people be. And what they are is sad, real, and still questioning why death is never easy. It can only be eased.

4. Restrepo: Heatherington and Junger follow the platoon from deployment. So we get to see the boys in the shit, fooling around, and getting fired on. It’s horrible and hilarious, touching on so many levels. These guys are soldiers. These are boys, these are men with families who risk getting killed every day, these are swinging-dick meatheads who make gay jokes and hoot and holler as they blast away with artillery. These guys wrestle and throw dance parties. They blow a guy apart with heavy machine guns and high-five each other when they destroy him. These guys cry hysterically when they find the body of a fallen friend. They fight on, because as he lays there bleeding, Taliban rebels are still gunning down on them. They don’t win, they don’t save the world. Those that survived go home. And leave OP Restrepo to the next batch of grunts.

3. My Flesh and Blood: Part inspirational, part heartrending, Jonathan Karsh’s documentary follows Susan Tom, a super-mom who adopted 11 kids, all with - -mostly major — disabilities. It’s essentially a treatise on selflessness; somehow, the woman is able to devote, voluntarily and mostly complaint free, her entire life to the care of these children. The doc focuses not just on the remarkable woman, but takes an emotionally heartbreaking look at many of the children in her care, and the death of one in particular is almost too much to bear, particularly given the suddenness.

2. Senna: By focusing on the real-life drama, the intense rivalry, the backroom politics, the life-and-death stakes of those races, and the effect they had on the people of Brazil, Kapadia manages to relate the themes and ideas to anyone that has an interest in compelling stories about remarkable people. Not that Senna was a particularly compelling person in the humanitarian sense, but he is a fascinating person for how he approached racing. He was an aggressive driver, a man who often put winning ahead of his own safety and that of the other drivers, so sure of himself that his ability and his religion would save him from disaster. He took losses hard, and even when he was winning, he rarely looked exuberant. There was something sad and foreboding about Senna, and even if you aren’t familiar with the story of his life, you’ll feel an ominous sense of what is coming. Even still, when it happens, it doesn’t make that ache in the pit of your stomach any less gnawing.

1. Dear Zachary: Dear Zachary is one messed-up motherfucking documentary, people. And the less you know about it, perhaps, the better. Or maybe not. I knew nothing about it going in, and made the mistake of forcing Mrs. Pajiba-hyphenate to watch it with me. Within 11 minutes, she was sobbing, begging me to turn it off. Before I could find the remote, however, she’d been sucked back into an all-too engrossing story of a man’s freakish, tragic murder. But by minute 32, Mrs. Pajiba-hyphenate was inconsolable but transfixed, watching the next 45 minutes of the documentary with bleary, tear-filled eyes. Before the documentary ended, those tears turned to silent shock. And, for the both of us, it was perhaps the first time we’d ever been completely paralyzed by a film. It is an experience unlike almost any other, and your emotions will run the gamut, from sadness, to pride, to despair, to anger, to ache, and to complete disbelief, and unbelievable, mess-you-the-fuck up shock.










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Comments

I seen Senna a couple of months ago and I can honestly say it was one of the most surprisingly good films of the year.

Restrepo made me cry the first time I watched it, and I've since tried to get everyone I know to watch it.

Posted by: Neil at August 15, 2011 2:09 PM

I'm terrified of watching Dear Zachary. I don't know if I can handle it.

You can't. No one can. -- DR)

Posted by: Luis at August 15, 2011 2:24 PM

I don't know how, but Dear Zachary was never spoiled for me (and by that I might mean I'm really uneducated and don't know news things). And when the punch to the gut happens, I did not see it coming. My scream of "HOLY FUCK" was heard housewide.

Posted by: Courtney at August 15, 2011 2:29 PM

Also, while its predecessor is superior, the follow-up to Paradise Lost destroyed me. Those boys (men, now) rot while that painfully obviously guilty fucker roams free.

Posted by: Courtney at August 15, 2011 2:31 PM

It always sounds so sick to say, "DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU ABOUT DEAR ZACHARY. JUST SEE IT," like it's an M Night Shyamalan movie but ... man. Seeing that movie not knowing is a powerful experience, that's for sure.

Posted by: Will at August 15, 2011 2:37 PM

I've only seen "Dear Zachary" (and it WRECKED me) and heard of only a few of these. Thanks for posting this list. Off to the Netflix!

Posted by: MelBivDevoe at August 15, 2011 2:42 PM

Goddammit it all, Dustin. That header picture gave me an instant knot in my stomach and chest.

Posted by: branded at August 15, 2011 2:49 PM

I knew that Dear Zachary was on my Netflix list, so I popped over there to push it up in the queue only to realize that it’s available on Instant.

Posted by: Scully at August 15, 2011 2:50 PM

Dear Zachary wrecked me.

I have Restrepo in my Instant Watch, but now that it's on a list with Dear Zachary, I don't know if I can watch it.

Posted by: Jeni at August 15, 2011 2:54 PM

If I could un-watch any movie, it would be Dear Zachary. I went in with little knowledge, except a warning that it was going to fuck my shit up. I was all, 'yeah right, I don't cry at movies'. Wrong. Friends don't let friends watch Dear Zachary.

Posted by: Cara at August 15, 2011 3:15 PM

Dustin, I'm very glad that you posted this list. And, although I've seen one of them (Grizzly Man), I suspect I probably can't handle the others. And I'm staying far, far away from Dear Zachary.

Posted by: tamatha at August 15, 2011 3:20 PM

Too many 'Jibans have mentioned the agony of watching Dear Zachary, so no matter how many times I'm bored and am tempted to push play on Instant Watch I just turn on Trick R Treat for the 23rd time.

Posted by: Julie at August 15, 2011 3:21 PM

Dear Zachary is extremely diffcult to watch but I think if you don't, you're somehow doing a disservice to the subjects. People should watch it. People need to watch it.

Posted by: JapJay at August 15, 2011 3:26 PM

I just watched Rabbit Hole this weekend so it might be difficult to convince anyone in the house to watch another depressing flick so soon. I want to see most of these though. I did try to watch Restrepo a while ago but I fell asleep. (Hangover, not boredom.)

Posted by: Paultera at August 15, 2011 3:26 PM

I had such a hard time watching Restrepo. Worth it, but oh so damn hard. Dear Zachary, on the other hand... I can't. I just can't watch that after reading about it.

Posted by: M at August 15, 2011 3:27 PM

Earthlings?

Posted by: Marcela at August 15, 2011 3:33 PM

Reading these responses made me look up Dear Zachary (because I cry at the stupidest shit, so I wanted to see if this was something I could handle at all). Nope, no way, not watching that. Holy shit.

Posted by: KatSings at August 15, 2011 3:37 PM

I was a shell of my former self after watching "Dear Zachary." I practice family law and was thinking the whole time that a child would NEVER be put with a father under the same conditions. I thought the documentary was so well-done, too. His PARENTS - ugh, my heart just frigging broke for them.

"I just watched Rabbit Hole this weekend so it might be difficult to convince anyone in the house to watch another depressing flick so soon. "

I watched it a couple of weeks ago. Damn. I thought it was so good and that the actors in it were kind of robbed at the Oscars.

Posted by: samantha t at August 15, 2011 3:41 PM

So glad Grizzly Man made the cut. I always found that story absolutely tragic, preposterous though Treadwell was. Testament to Herzog, really.

Posted by: samantha t at August 15, 2011 3:46 PM

I agree, JapJay. You just want to make legislators who deal with bail reform sit down and watch "Dear Zachary." You'd hope something good would come out of that story.

Posted by: MelBivDevoe at August 15, 2011 3:46 PM

Yeah, I still haven't watched Dear Zachary. Hearing his story on the news was quite traumatizing enough, thankyouverymuch.

Posted by: meaux at August 15, 2011 3:49 PM

Restrepo was incredibly...monotonous to me. I know that sounds awful. But I simply did not connect with that movie at all. It was the same with The Tillman Story, and The Hurt Locker. For me military movies are incredibly difficult to relate to. But while watching The Cove? My god, I was hysterical. I thought Grizzly Man was fascinating, but not remotely devastating.

Posted by: Scully at August 15, 2011 4:06 PM

I remember watching Dear Zachary at almost 2 in the morning during my non-sleeping phase and when the gut punch happens, I screamed so loud that I woke up my whole family.

Posted by: michaelceratops at August 15, 2011 4:17 PM

Reading about Dear Zachary is enough for me. I consider myself ridiculously sensitive to films and yea, it ain't happening. Plus the rest of you have freaked me out about it enough.

Posted by: grace b at August 15, 2011 4:29 PM

I wasn't devastated by Grizzly Man either. Honestly, I found Treadwell off-putting and highly irritating. He did seem like a lost little soul looking for acceptance in the wrongest of places, but his antics made me cringe. I am NOT the sort to say what happened to him and his girlfriend was something he had coming. No matter what situation he put himself into he was still a person who met a horrible end.

Posted by: Julie at August 15, 2011 4:30 PM

I don't think it matters if you thought Treadwell was crazy or not, nobody deserves to be eaten alive by a bear.

Posted by: annoyingmouse at August 15, 2011 4:36 PM

I loved the Tillman documentary. It was so interesting (and disturbing) to see how profoundly the right-wing media distorted his motives, etc.

Posted by: samantha t at August 15, 2011 4:39 PM

Dear Zachary and How to Die in Oregon are the only two documentaries I have watched that left me not just crying but openly sobbing. Part of what was so moving was not just the subject matter itself, which was devastating, but the people involved. In both films the people involved seem so likeable and genuine that by the end it's like watching a good friend go through this terrible suffering and you just want to reach through your television and hug them tightly and cry with them.

I'd say more but I'm on the verge of tears at work now.

Posted by: Bea Pants at August 15, 2011 4:43 PM

No "Capturing the Friedmans"?

RE "Grizzly Man": that dude was out of his fucking mind. I knew he was gonna get attacked by the bear, so it wasn't a surprise, and I gotta say, I wasn't all that broken up about it, either.

Bears are large carnivores. Not teddy bears. Rational adults know this.

Posted by: Slash at August 15, 2011 4:51 PM

The Bridge is one that I personally found deeply upsetting. Haven't seen the rest of these, though Harvey Milk and Restrepo are on my list. Now I'm not sure, though, that I want to put myself through those.

Posted by: Siege at August 15, 2011 4:57 PM

I'm of the opinion that Treadwell’s end wasn’t a tragedy at all. Dude decided to live amongst WILD animals. What the hell did he expect to happen?

Posted by: Scully at August 15, 2011 4:59 PM

i watched Dear Zachary with my wife a couple years ago. never cried so much during a film.
As some solace, Zachary's Bill has become law in Canada.

(spoilers but they warn you)
http://www.slashfilm.com/legacy-dear-zachary-zacharys-bill-law-canada/

Posted by: zach at August 15, 2011 5:11 PM

So, I had to look. I suspected from comments above what might have happened. I don't think I'll EVER be able to watch Dear Zachary. As someone who has lived through the murder of a friend, I truly think this might be more than I could bear.

Posted by: trixie at August 15, 2011 5:44 PM

"Trouble the Water" had me sobbing out loud. I was doing so well, then the lady next to me started crying and I was done for.

Just watched "Dear Zachary," and I knew the story. It's really sad - but it's also incredibly positive and full of hope. Definitely worth watching. But I did have to break it up by doing other things while it was on, because I had to distract myself.

I thought "Grizzly Man" was excellent. And really tragic.

Posted by: jzhz at August 15, 2011 5:51 PM

I probably will watch Dear Zachary some day, but for me the one that is a big no is The Cove. I get that it's important, but I just cannot emotionally take animal cruelty/abuse.

I think the only one of these I've actually seen is Restrepo. And it's great, and it is sad, but I don't think it packs nearly the gut punch of devastation that (based on comments here) Dear Zachary does. I mean, it's war. You're sort of clued in to the possibility of what might happen. It's a more global scale devastation, if that makes any sense. A sadness for the political predicament we find ourselves in over there along with the terrible loss of young life. Nothing about it really shocked me, but then again, I have had the opportunity to work with returning soldiers and hear about it face to face.

Posted by: CL at August 15, 2011 5:55 PM

I made my husband watch Dear Zachary, he was so angry and distraught afterwards it made me feel bad. Earthlings made me feel like the worst human being on the face of the earth and although I watched it months ago I still have a hard time sometimes.

Posted by: blacksred at August 15, 2011 5:57 PM

Cripes, now I'm just terrified to watch it. But I will, because I am a horrible masochist. This is all your fault, Pajibans.

Posted by: figgy at August 15, 2011 6:25 PM

Oh holy crap, I just figured out why Kurt Kuenne's name seemed so familiar--he was a senior at my high school my freshman year.

Damn. I want to be happy for his success, but to come at the hands of such a devastating situation. Yikes.

Posted by: Meggrs at August 15, 2011 7:14 PM

Just watched Dear Zachary on Netflix. I'm really glad that spoilers gave away that ending because I don't know if I could have survived it otherwise. A beautiful tribute.

Posted by: Mattie at August 15, 2011 7:34 PM

The Harvey Milk doc was on cable this weekend and watched it for the second time. I cannot watch the Sean Penn movie. And not just because I loathe Sean Penn. Devastating.

Posted by: greer at August 15, 2011 7:59 PM

Siege:
Oh man....The Bridge. I now smile at everyone I make eye contact with on the street because of that movie.

Posted by: April at August 15, 2011 8:07 PM

I'm an idiot - I just watched Dear Zachary (despite the clear evidence not to)...it's about 2:30 AM over here and I'm bawling my eyes out and have work in the morning and I really don't think I'll be able to sleep. My heart was not made to handle such sadness...

Posted by: Mona at August 15, 2011 8:35 PM

"Trouble the Water" had me sobbing out loud."

Aaaargh - the 911 calls. Jesus, that shit haunted me. What an unbelievable moral frigging failure.

Posted by: samantha t at August 15, 2011 8:57 PM

Dear Zachary was awful to watch, just awful, but I think it's important enough that you should. It's a lesson about a lot of things in life that hopefully you'll never see any other way. But, more importantly, it's also a testament to the awe-inspiring strength and love and beauty of David and Kathleen Bagby, who are absolutely amazing people that you wonder if you could ever possibly emulate in anything even approaching that situation. Their story and their work deserve to be known.

Posted by: Kim at August 15, 2011 9:14 PM

NO fucking way am I ever watching Dear Zachary. Dear god in heaven, what a mindfuck.

Posted by: Maryscott O'Connor at August 15, 2011 9:43 PM

Gotta agree with Scully on two counts.

First, I really wanted to be absorbed by Restrepo because the idea itself sounded incredible, and my heart goes out to all involved. But watching it, I just kept waiting for the wow and there wasn't one. Instead, listening to the soldiers' own narrative, instead of the one carved out by the directors, was more fascinating, I thought.

As for Grizzly Man, yeah ... when man versus nature ends badly for man, that's either bad luck or poor planning. This one seemed the latter.

Finally, I must add my own all-time number one gripping, riveting documentary. Not a stand-alone film at all, rather the episode of FRONTLINE called "Ghosts of Rwanda." From the very opening scene, you're just filled with dread that doesn't leave, and it drives home exactly what it intends to. In short, it is the most incredible documentary experience I've ever witnessed. And it frankly pisses me off that so much hoopla was made of the fictional Hotel Rwanda that I've still not seen it, nor will I.

Posted by: Johnnyboy at August 15, 2011 10:18 PM

As a vet student, The Cove has become the 'need to watch' for those interested in marine vet science. As someone who is more sensitive to animal abuse, The Cove messed me up for a week. The interview with 'Flipper''s former trainer had me in tears in the middle of a ZEW club meeting.

Posted by: thatsjesstastic at August 15, 2011 10:42 PM

Juat finished watching Dear Zachary based solely on this article and....wow, that was grim. I didn't know anything about it---what a gut punch. I didn't cry, (I never do) but I feel a little sick to my stomach.

Those parents are incredible people.

Posted by: chato at August 15, 2011 11:00 PM

Dear Zachary was devastating and it definitely left a mark. I e-mailed Kurt, the director, to tell him how much I loved his documentary, heartbreaking as it was, and he was kind enough to write a personalized reply. All-around awesome guy.

It is a very sad documentary, but after watching it you kind of feel good that you did. The more people know about the case and other similar ones, the better. We all should be so lucky to have someone like Kurt honor us the way he honored Andrew, Zachary, and David and Kate.

Posted by: Sofia at August 15, 2011 11:53 PM

I've only seen one of these: Dear Zachary, and I'm crying now thinking about it. Devastating is the only word that I can think of when I think about that film. And that photo...*sob*

I'd put these others on my list, but I can't make myself watch movies that I know will make me ball my eyes out. The Cove is one I am avoiding specifically. God bless those of you with the ablity to watch them. Maybe one day I'll be made of sterner stuff.

Posted by: Groovy Violet at August 16, 2011 12:56 AM

just watched dear zachary. i have never been so moved by a movie. its 1:15 am where i am and theyre is no way i'm going to be able to sleep. when the gut wrencher happens i had to pause the movie and scream into a pillow as to not wake my parents. EVERYONE MUST WATCH THIS

Posted by: Rachel at August 16, 2011 1:09 AM

I watched Dear Zachary one night about a month after I had my daughter. I'm not sure I have ever cried that much at a movie. I still get emotional just thinking about it. My husband refuses to watch it because I had such a strong reaction.

Posted by: Kathy at August 16, 2011 1:12 AM

Thank you for including the Harvey Milk documentary, which is not only one of the saddest documentaries ever made but also one of the best - enraging, inspiring, political and highly personal all at the same time. The Sean Penn movie, although extremely well done, can't compare to the raw emotion of the real events surrounding the murders and joke of a trial. The sad thing is, I feel that the same thing could easily happen again in today's climate.

Posted by: kimk at August 16, 2011 2:06 AM

Just watched Dear Zachary. Don't know what to do with myself.

Posted by: Joyeetargh at August 16, 2011 6:44 AM

I watched Dear Zachary because of the review here, but had accidentally spoiled it for myself, I guess by looking at wiki? I am not sure if it was a good or a bad thing, because at least I was...I was going to say prepared, but that's a lie because I kept hoping I'd read wrong (I clicked away fast as I was reading). It is just...there aren't any words for what it is.

Posted by: Carrie at August 16, 2011 8:32 AM

Waiting for Superman depressed the hell outta me.

Posted by: aroorda at August 16, 2011 9:54 AM

"Not a stand-alone film at all, rather the episode of FRONTLINE called "Ghosts of Rwanda."

Frontline's programs are always, always, always incredible. So well-researched and well-done. I remember this one. Jesus Christ.

Posted by: samantha t at August 16, 2011 10:06 AM

Boy Interrupted. That had me bawling like a small child. It was just inexpressibly sad, and his parents are incredible people.

Posted by: A.R. at August 16, 2011 10:58 AM

If "Dear Zachary" wasn't #1 on this list, I would have had to burn something to the ground on principle. I've watched it multiple times, because sometimes I just feel like a good cry. The story is amazing, the film itself is astonishingly well done and it deserves to be seen by everyone.

But as long as people touched by this film may be reading this, I need to ask - Am I the worst person alive for being a little jealous about the sheer number of people who had kind things to say about Zachary's father? I can only hope my time on this planet can lead to even a small fraction of the people he touched being as glad I was in their lives.

As long as I'm outing myself as a horrible person - I found Grizzly Man to be very, very funny.

Also, thank you for reminding me about The Bridge. I'll check that out as soon as possible. I don't know why, but much like a few of the films on this list, I need to see that.

Lastly, I wasn't interested in Senna until right this second, so thank you. I know NOTHING about racing, so I assume Senna's name is legendary because he dies in a horrible crash (sorry I didn't already know that, race fans). Still, if the film is only second to Dear Zachary in Dustin's opinion, that's enough for me.

Posted by: Steve at August 16, 2011 11:11 AM

Watched Dear Zachary yesterday and I was a wreck the whole night. I guess if anything though, I gave my two kids and my wonderful wife big hugs and kisses. That woman needed killin. In the South, she'd have been in little pieces in a swamp.

Posted by: Forrest at August 16, 2011 2:24 PM

Just wikid dwarf zac... and wholly fuck am I glad I did bc reading about it made me tear up; and I'm pretty sure the visual woul have been too much to handle

Posted by: Shera at August 16, 2011 3:37 PM

I'm going to Netflix right now. I'm afraid to watch Dear Zachary, but after watching that trailer and reading this thread, I'm compelled. Also, I'm a counselor-in-training, it will be an exercise to keep my body language impartial and my personal reactions completely within. Sounds like I shall fail completely, but I'm going to try.

Restrepo I will be watching to remind myself of what my family and close friends who are currently deployed get up to and about.

Posted by: hexadaisical at August 16, 2011 10:19 PM

You know, I must have seen "Dear Zachary" a year or more ago but when I saw that header picture, I still got a huge lump in my throat.

Some movies you desensitize to over time - "Dear Zachary" I really didn't. I teared up again just watching the trailer and seeing Zachary's image again as if I had just watched it an hour ago.

Posted by: Lyndsay at August 18, 2011 12:15 AM

why is 'deliver us from evil' not this this list? It was a very very sad doc

Posted by: lauwer at August 18, 2011 2:11 AM

I would add "There's Something wrong with Aunt Diane" to the list. Not as devastating as DZ, but it stays with you for days in the same way that DZ and Grizzly Man did for me.Very tragic.

Posted by: Sarah at August 18, 2011 7:01 AM

Also -- I am surprised by the inclusion of "My Flesh and Blood" on this list. I discovered this movie through Netflix last year and loved it. There were sad parts, like the unexpected death of one of the children, and I suppose that some of their situations were unfortunate (terminal chronic illness, abuse, etc), but I never found myself feeling sorry for these children, or their mother. I felt uplifted by the film, actually. The kids all seemed to enjoy life and thrive, thanks to this mother and despite their difficulties. I'd probably consider it "devastatingly sad" if these children had not grown up in such a caring home.

Posted by: Sarah at August 18, 2011 8:22 AM

"There's Something Wrong with Aunt Diane" pissed me off, so much so that I couldn't finish watching it. Everything about that story pisses me off, and makes me sad, but the fact that her family has basically canonized that woman I cannot abide. But Sarah is right in that it sticks with you.

There's also a doc I saw a few years ago on HBO, can't remember the name, but it's a couple documenting their baby's impending birth. Joyful, expectant. You think, "Oh, what a wonderful thing. A baby!" Then the baby is born, and promptly dies, and the story descends into a wallowing grief that is unrelenting as the couple continues to film themselves dealing with their loss. I wish I could remember the title. Very well done, remarkably tragic.

Posted by: cydeleida at August 18, 2011 10:26 AM

I literally could not breathe after the gut punch in Dear Zachary.

Posted by: Jackie at August 18, 2011 2:19 PM

A dear friend of mine had recommended Dear Zachary to me a while ago and it fell off my radar until I read this. I watched it last night and sobbed like I haven't in years. I feel utterly wrecked. I had no idea what was coming and it was like being hit by a mac truck. I'm getting teary right now just thinking and writing about it.

As gut-wrenching as it was, it was beautifully constructed and such a loving tribute to Andrew's life, his beautiful son, and his amazing parents. They are seriously heroes and the kind of people each of us should aspire to be.

By the way, this documentary also made glad I don't live in Canada.

Posted by: prairiegirl at August 18, 2011 3:33 PM