AITA is a Reddit staple, where posters propose a problem, how they dealt with it, then ask: Am I the *sshole? Thanks to the Twitter account @AITA_reddit, you don’t need to be on Reddit to get in on the fun of weighing in on strangers’ self-reflection. Often, these AITA quandaries spark passion, either because the poster is CLEARLY a jerk, or because they make you want to scream, “RUN, THIS IS THE BEGINNING OF A HORROR MOVIE.”
All this brings us to this curious post about a person, a girlfriend, and the mysterious box they won’t let her open:
“It’s just some stuff that is private and personal to me that I don’t want to talk about.” Cool cool. Twitter does want to talk about it.
Previous girlfriend is in the box. Calling it from now. pic.twitter.com/jEh7b3LOZ6— Lish | ðŸ‡¨ðŸ‡¦ðŸ‡¬ðŸ‡¾ðŸ‡¹ðŸ‡¹ (@queenlishers) October 13, 2020
Only thinking about Joe and his box of teeth right now. pic.twitter.com/LGqxbdvYt9— Shima, Queen of the Espresso Machine â˜•ï¸ (@luvbtrfly) October 14, 2020
Apparently there are a lot of people with secret boxes and I’ve watched too much law & order and criminal minds to stay w someone who has a Secret Box.— Give Garcelle Her Own Show (@BravoWatching) October 14, 2020
Greek myth retelling in AITA format— DistractedGlowb (@DistractedGlowb) October 13, 2020
I swear, if its not our own universe within that box… pic.twitter.com/zeX4Zfrfhm— 12 Foot Home Depot Skeleton Cinderella (@stonercinderlla) October 14, 2020
I think it’s a small portrait of OP in the box and this is a Dorian Gray situation. He doesn’t want his girlfriend to see the hideous portrait and his secret to be revealed.— SAMO (@Sam_iam86) October 14, 2020
I’m convinced this is someone trolling-this is literally the plot of a spongebob squarepants episode pic.twitter.com/zdnv95a08q— Girl Fieri (@WAPerwithcheese) October 14, 2020
OP: I just have a box that I don’t want to tell anyone what the contents are and now my gf thinks I’m an AH.— FrankenAngel (@angelt18) October 14, 2020
How hard is he vaguing her on the existence of the box?— alake@dix (@alakedix1) October 14, 2020
There’s a non-sketchy way to be like “it’s personal, no touchy” & if she insists on violating that boundary than NTA but if he’s making it sound like he’s hiding a head in the box then I can see why she’d want confirmation
Jokes aside, some users pointed to less murderous possibilities for the mystery box’s content, shedding some light on the reasons for secrecy.
Unless you are hiding the bones of someone you murderer, no. NTA. We are all entitled to privacy. Interestingly this was enshrined in 18th English common law. A servant’s “box” or trunk could not be opened by an employer.— Farah Mendlesohn (@effjayem) October 14, 2020
I also feel like people don't necessarily understand how I feel which is a big reason I don't like sharing. I care about my ex husband very much and we're still friendly but there's zero romantic feelings there anymore and like having to explain that nuance always sucks.— Ros Hollow â–ªï¸ CEO of Spooky Bitches â–ªï¸ ðŸŒŒðŸ¦‡ (@RosHollow) October 14, 2020
Speaking as a girl whose box like that is full of pictures of her as a boy, RESPECT BOUNDARIES— Brigadier General Athena, Anarchist Legionnaire (@ThatQueenMab) October 13, 2020
And no, if that's his secret he doesn't owe disclosure to anyone, not even a committed partner. Some shit is always yours to hold or show as you feel you need.
I had a "secret private box" until my ex went through it.— â›§ Pentacle Torn â›§ (@RicheyWright) October 14, 2020
It has court documents and copies of witness statements etc. from something traumatic that happened to me as a child.
It had never been opened in all that time. My grandparents grief was too much to bear and they couldn’t look at those things.— Amanda Dell (@dellvink) October 14, 2020
Essentially, this debate can be distilled in one single tweet:
Part of me is like “boundaries should be respected,” but more of me is concerned this may be some kind of Bluebeard situation. https://t.co/AwFv31xnRU— Crista Reed (@cristareed) October 14, 2020
So, is the Reddit poster the *sshole? And more importantly, what is in the box!?