I’ve seen some really, really bad shows in my day. I once saw RATT. In the ’90s, people! IN THE ‘90S. I once walked out of a Counting Crows concert because Adam Duritz’s unprocessed voice sounds like two cats in heat killing each other inside of a set of bagpipes. I saw Rusted Root once, you guys! I’m pretty sure they played “Send Me On My Way” for 45 minutes and then played a different song that I’ve never heard of and then played “Send Me On My Way” for another 45 minutes.
And yet, I have never seen a show worse than Ryan Adams at the Avalon in Boston sometimes in the mid-aughts. Dude stood up on the stage, turned his back to the audience, and never once looked back at us. It was a two-hour view of the back of his jacket. He said nothing between songs. Nothing. He just went from one song to the next. He didn’t give a damn about anyone in the audience. He didn’t even register we were there.
I still think his music is amazing, but that guy is a pretentious wanker, and I wondered back in the day why Mandy Moore ended up with him.
Moore, who is now engaged to rocker Taylor Goldsmith, told Glamour of her first marriage to Adams: “I don’t feel guilty for it. I don’t fault myself for it. When people said, ‘I’m sorry,’ I was like, ‘No. Sorry would have been had I stayed in a very unhealthy situation.’ I didn’t. I found my way out. And when I did, things opened back up again.”
She didn’t choose the right person, she said, and Ryan Adams spotted that pull quote on Twitter and added his own thoughts:
She didn't like the Melvins or BladeRunner. Doomed from the start… If only I could remember the start lol https://t.co/wbMqzJFRAp— Ryan Adams (@TheRyanAdams) October 10, 2018
Pop-culture shaming. Middle-finger emoji, dude. YOU WERE BETTER IN WHISKEYTOWN!
That said, whenever one of his white-boy rock songs shows up in a medical drama or a sappy trailer, it still kills me every time, and no one makes me want to buy a pack of cigarettes more than Ryan Adams.
Still a petty wanker. But also maybe not that bad a guy. I dunno! And I know it’s backwards as hell, but his 1989 album actually introduced me to Taylor Swift, which is weird and true.
The thing about not being perfect is NOBODY is perfect. We all have our shit. But you can choose to lift a person up, help a person who is down or you can punish. I am sarcastic and I bark back. But on #WorldMentalHealthDay I would like to say, Choose Love. It might save a life— Ryan Adams (@TheRyanAdams) October 11, 2018
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