Last week, we mentioned that Reid Ewing, whom you probably know as Dylan from Modern Family—
—wrote a heartbreaking account of his struggles with body dysmorphia and addiction to cosmetic surgery. His story garnered a lot of attention, and people have been reaching out to Ewing and speaking up as to how much his honesty helped them. But then Ewing stole his own spotlight by coming out as gay on Twitter. Or at least he would have come out if he had been in the closet to start with. Which he wasn’t. Here’s the exchange that sparked this attention:
Saw Eugene Bata on @GMA in the Body Dysmorphia segment connected to my article and I just want to say he is hot af.— Reid Ewing (@media_reid) November 21, 2015
@MichaelJMapes I was never in— Reid Ewing (@media_reid) November 21, 2015
You may chalk this up to Ewing ending a “don’t ask, don’t tell” mentality. There are so many actors who live their lives following Matt Damon’s advice of just not talking about yourself (which of course works out a lot easier for straight actor, who can “not talk about themselves” without having that translate to “having to actively hide parts of your fundamental self”). But that’s not actually the case. Reid Ewing never hid the fact that he was gay, he never omitted it or tiptoed around it. If you scroll through his Twitter history, he has specifically said the words “I am gay,” in addition to countless obvious implications. But because we are conditioned to think of straight as the default, lots and lots of people still see mentioning a different sexual preference as a scandal. Ewing, for his part, is reasonably annoyed at the attention this story is getting.
Writes a cosmetic surgery article, people care more that I'm gay.. pic.twitter.com/pwwTebw6qM— Reid Ewing (@media_reid) November 23, 2015
And yes, I’m obviously aware that by even writing this up, I’m contributing to the misplaced attention, but can I at least try to justify it as drawing attention to the idiocy of this non-story, rather than the story itself? No? Okay, fine, I’ll just be over here in the corner, nursing my own hypocrisy, being fine with it, and reminding you that Reid Ewing is a delight.
Ewing retweeted that, by the way, with the caption, “When you’re told there is another gay coming to the party.” See? A delight.