Have you ever gotten into an argument with someone when you know you were in the wrong, and you desperately want to to make amends, but she flat-out refuses to forgive you?
That’s what happened to Dan Harmon on Twitter. He found himself apologizing to a former Community writer, Megan Ganz — who we love, and who has since gone on to It’s Always Sunny, Modern Family, and Last Man on Earth — for his shitty, abusive behavior on the set of Community.
She would not give him the satisfaction of forgiveness, and you know what? From what I can glean here, he doesn’t deserve it. Great writer, brilliantly creative, but Harmon needs to sit in his shame, and stew in his guilt. Here’s how that back-and-forth went down:
This was truly the Year of the Asshole. Myself included. We don’t have to make 2018 the Year of the Mensch but I hope it can be the Year of the Not as Much of an Asshole. #RealisticGoals— Dan Harmon (@danharmon) January 1, 2018
Care to be more specific? Redemption follows allocution. https://t.co/THKaqaF3dN— Megan Ganz (@meganganz) January 2, 2018
Was just shown this. And a previous sub tweet I think was about me. I didn’t want to add narcissism to injury by naming you without permission, but I’ve talked on my podcast about the lines I crossed. I will talk about it more in any way that you think is just. I am deeply sorry.— Dan Harmon (@danharmon) January 3, 2018
i’m filled with regret and a lot of foggy memories about abusing my position, treating you like garbage. I would feel a lot of relief if you told me there was a way to fix it. I’ll let you call the shots. Til then, at least know I know I was an awful boss and a selfish baby.— Dan Harmon (@danharmon) January 3, 2018
I wish my memories were foggier. I wish there was a way to fix it. It took me years to believe in my talents again, to trust a boss when he complimented me and not cringe when he asked for my number. I was afraid to be enthusiastic, knowing it might be turned against me later.— Megan Ganz (@meganganz) January 3, 2018
You want relief? So do I. I want to watch the first episode of television I wrote again without remembering what came after. Figure out how to give me that relief and I’ll return the favor.— Megan Ganz (@meganganz) January 3, 2018
I’m disgusted and sorry that I stained our show and your talent with my selfish, childish shit. I get that I can’t erase it, don’t want to, but have felt sick about it. I have kept a wall between me and coworkers and I have preached doing so as gospel because of how I treated you— Dan Harmon (@danharmon) January 3, 2018
I haven’t listened to your podcast, but I don’t think walls are the answer. Unless you put them up with male coworkers, too. Otherwise you’re falling into the Mike Pence School of Gender Relations that says men can’t be trusted with women’s phone numbers.— Megan Ganz (@meganganz) January 3, 2018
But if I can offer this: It’s good to recognize power dynamics, but it’s also good to recognize you’re no different from those you employ. You’re not a king on a hilltop, nor a beast in a labyrinth. Isolation isn’t always best. Connection breeds empathy. Empathy allows growth.— Megan Ganz (@meganganz) January 3, 2018
I’m a chickensh*t when it comes to confrontation, and I would have immediately absolved Dan Harmon, because I know that’s how I am. Megan Ganz is a far stronger, braver person, who rightfully refuses to let him off the hook, given the years she was tormented by Harmon and the five years she’s had to sit with it. And look: Dan Harmon admitted himself that he was a shitty dude in 2017. It’s been four years since Ganz left Community. Harmon clearly had not changed, so why the hell should she forgive him?