Terry Crews, whom we all love and adore around these parts, was on Watch What Happens Live last night, and answered a fan’s question with the candor and honesty that he’s known for: “Whose support surprised you the most when you spoke out about the sexual assault that you experienced?”
It’s a really powerful answer, so I transcribed it for you below.
Terry: You know to be honest with you when it first happened, there was none, for a long time. But, but, I have to tell you that the people who surprised me the most were black women. Black men did not want any part of it. All my support came from black women, straight up. That’s kind of wild. It shocked me, it shocked my family, it shocked everybody. I thought because “Oh my god, here I am as a black man saying some things that we’ve all been though.” And a lot of guys were just like “Man, you’re weak. I’m sorry, you should have hit him. You should have knocked him out. You should have did all this stuff” And black women were like “No, no, it doesn’t work like that.” I was shocked at the spilt within my own community.
Andy: Wow you really noticed all that?
Terry: It was deep, it was deep!
Terry is walking the walk and talking the talk. He appears in a Gillette ad, via his testimony in Congress, which was released today that tackles toxic masculinity, and puts the onus on men to be better. I honestly don’t think in my entire lifetime I’ve ever seen a mainstream ad for a product geared towards men tackle this subject matter head on.
New @Gillette ad (“We Believe”) focuses on toxic masculinity, “boys will be boys” culture and the #MeToo movement. The ad also quotes Terry Crews: “Men need to hold other men accountable.” pic.twitter.com/P9g994MDsL— Keith Boykin (@keithboykin) January 14, 2019
Toxic masculinity is deeply entrenched in our society, and has been for oh, a millennia, give or take. Rather than try to jump in an give context to a situation that you either intrinsically understand, or you’re part of the system that promulgates it, I’m going to let Terry keep talking about how we tackle toxic masculinity, which boils down to “men must hold other men accountable.” Sounds like a good idea to me!
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