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We Went Down To The Courthouse And The Judge Put It All To Rest

By Brian Prisco | Posted Under Film Reviews | Comments (16)



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Blue Valentine was my favorite film of the year for the week that I saw it and I will never watch it again. It was like having someone sandpaper my soul. It’s a hauntingly effective work, one that defies encapsulation. Because at times it’s a relationship drama, at times it’s comedic, at times it’s typical indie romance, at times it’s straight up rom-com, and at times, it’s a tragedy. It’s so real, it’s such an honest portrayal of two people who come together and tear apart. It’s not like two pieces of driftwood in a riverbed — there’s no drifting. This is like a Band-aid being attached with superglue being torn off and reattached. There will be many folks who just hate the ever-loving shit out of this film, and that’s absolutely understandable, because when they say blue, they don’t mean Blue Christmas blue but the blue-violet bruise of a fresh attack. It’s agonizing and gorgeous, with two outstanding heartbreaking performances from Ryan Gosling and Michelle Williams. Writer-director Derek Cianfrance doesn’t just toe the line of cliche, he embraces it passionately, squeezing it somehow into something completely fresh and yet familiar.

Abortion, separation, infidelity, singing to your sweetheart, having your own special song — it’s all there, but in this really astonishingly well assembled form. Had the film been one long dreary sustained tone of melancholy, it would have been boring, but because Cianfrance infuses the story with moments of levity and sweetness, it’s all the more crushing. It’s everything I normally hate in films, and in particularly romantic films, but Cianfrance is able to shape it into something ugly beautiful.

Time isn’t linear in Blue Valentine. We follow two separate time lines: the disintegration of a marriage and the blossoming of a relationship. Normally, this kind of plotting sets my teeth on edge, and feels like a cheap screenwriting trick to fake subtext by offering up mirrored simplified comparison — now we happy, but now we sad. This is exactly what Cianfrance and co-scribes Joey Curtis and Cami Delavigne are doing, but it’s not so simple. Both timelines have their ups and downs, and that’s what makes the film so disarmingly effective. You’re never really sure when you’re watching the good times, and even when you think things are going to be happy, they always have the living potential to burn up and die. It’s the epitome of bittersweet.

Dean (Ryan Gosling) is a painter living with his nurse wife Cindy (Michelle Williams) and their daughter Frankie (Faith Wladyka) in their rural Pennsylvania home. Dean’s a big kid, a goofball, and Cindy is miserably struggling to succeed. The opening scenes feel like watching the aftermath of a human sacrifice to the Gods of Lower Middle Class of your hopes and dreams. And from there the film just gets more painful. Each aspect revealed — from what brought them together to what’s bringing them apart — elicits fresh levels of pain that Jigsaw could only fathom in his wettest OK GO videodreams. To reveal some of the details is to cheat you of the experience of living them with the couple.

Now that it’s been revoked, it’s a little like throwing rocks at a torn down building, but that still won’t stop me from raging at the MPAA. In the wake of Black Swan and it’s R rating, it’s a little bit ridiculous to have capped Blue Valentine with its NC-17 rating. The sex scenes aren’t graphic, and the explicit nature comes from the exquisite pain of the subtext. It’s not the typical indie reading Proust to blur the line of porn — it’s just sex with all the sexy siphoned out of it. I personally suspect The Weinstein Company of trumping up the charges to build up press for their fledgling little film, which is particularly disgusting considering all the battles being fought against the industry’s self-appointing policing arm. But since I can’t prove a goddamn thing other than speculation, I will support any motion that can get people to watch this outstanding flick.

Gosling and Williams are phenomenal. It’s not a simple chemistry to make a film like this, and you buy every moment. You believe their puppy love, you believe their fiery rage, you believe their loathing smoldering over years together. True love can breed equal amounts of hate, and that’s here. This isn’t just a simple chemical equation either — it’s incredibly complex. Every scene bubbles with so many infused layers of emotion, it’s a little daunting. And that’s entirely because of Gosling and Williams. Gosling takes his usual “hey girl” lovable slacker and blends him with a hateful dose of blue-collar disappointment and prideful rage. Williams has such a difficult job, because her character has to play world weary. She basically has to do almost nothing and do it well. It’s like watching a sad stick of dynamite, one that you know will have to explode, but you don’t know when. And when she does burst, it’s not a fireworks display, it’s a fucking housing development implosion. And although she’s only in the flick briefly, Faith Wladyka is possibly the most adorable child I’ve ever seen on screen. And for this story, she fucking needs to be.

Blue Valentine is a painful love story about a tense relationship tearing slowly and agonizingly apart. It’s not the feel good film of the year, and it’s damn good. It’s sour and sweet, and that’s what helps it go down. I couldn’t endure another viewing and it has nothing to do with the quality of the picture. Derek Cianfrance has simply created a haunting valentine to the pain couples endure when they’re lives don’t turn out like they hoped. And there are plenty of folks who won’t want to sit through that. But if you do take the effort, you will be painfully rewarded.










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Comments

Damn! Great review.

I appreciate your speculation over the rating hubbub, and suspect that as much is true. I always think of "This Film Is Not Yet Rated," which showed just how effed the system is.

Posted by: kristin at December 27, 2010 2:00 PM

I'm thinking of taking a really sweet girl to see this movie. Is that a bad idea?

Prisco is so good

Posted by: sailboat at December 27, 2010 2:07 PM

Thank you for this. I loathe most films dealing with love and romantic relationships to my core because they're usually so trite and require WAY too much suspension of disbelief. Joel Schumacher's Cousins is seriously the only romance movie I can think of that I really like. This sounds like a film I will enjoy.

Enjoy as in my nickname is Rest In Peace in real life for a reason. I'm headed to friggin' Arkansas so I doubt I'll be able to catch this there, gotta wait til I get back to LA next week.

Posted by: Rest In Peace at December 27, 2010 2:16 PM

So, what, belly laughs?

Posted by: Laurie at December 27, 2010 2:34 PM

Does this mean if I'm depressed because I'm NOT in a relationship during the silly season...that watching this will make me happy that I'm not in a relationship?

Posted by: DeistBrawler at December 27, 2010 3:39 PM

True love can breed equal amounts of hate

So true. So easy to forget sometimes, but always true.

I doubt I'll watch this, as I don't like having my real emotions toyed with quite so much. I'll stick to my zombie movies and watching "actual" guts get torn out, as opposed to mere figurative guts getting torn out.

Posted by: MM at December 27, 2010 7:24 PM

OK off the list thanks.

Posted by: clancys_daddy at December 27, 2010 7:43 PM

I want to see it but I really don't want to see it in theatres. I'd rather wait until it comes out on Netflix so I can enjoy it in solitude. Also I'm one of those people who deeply affected by movies and I'm also plum scared to see this one.

And Ryan Gosling is amazing. He just kills it in Half Nelson it's great to see him taking on more roles with intensity, he can totally do it. Michelle Williams, eh, she'll always be Jen to me.

Nice review Prisco.

Posted by: grace b at December 27, 2010 9:16 PM

"Time isn’t linear in Blue Valentine. We follow two separate time lines: the disintegration of a marriage and the blossoming of a relationship. Normally, this kind of plotting sets my teeth on edge, and feels like a cheap screenwriting trick to fake subtext by offering up mirrored simplified comparison — now we happy, but now we sad." And it's all hero's journey: http://www.clickok.co.uk/index4.html

Posted by: tim at December 28, 2010 1:01 AM

Oh. I am dying to see this. And I'm not sure that I can stand it. Even more so now. Great review.

Posted by: Az at December 28, 2010 9:44 PM

I'm sure this is compelling b/c there are such top-notch actors at the helm. But this:
True love can breed equal amounts of hate

"So true. So easy to forget sometimes, but always true."

Meh. Maybe I'm beaten down, maybe I'm just not that deep a person, but I've never, ever hated my husband. Not even for a second.

Posted by: samantha t at December 30, 2010 5:38 PM

I saw this yesterday and I wanted to punch something afterwards. Leaving the theater, I had to re-live emotions left buried from a relationship that lasted about the same span as theirs. The movie set my teeth on edge, an uncomfortable feeling persisted after the first 20 minutes. It's brilliant, but I wouldn't want to see this a second time. or if I do, I would wait until I process yesterday's viewing. This movie is relentless; it doesn't shield or make excuses at all.

Posted by: tallulahc at January 22, 2011 12:40 PM

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Posted by: Linken at January 23, 2011 9:23 PM

My heart just pounded and pounded. So good.

Posted by: Cindy at January 29, 2011 10:30 PM

I just saw it today and my heart broke every time the story went backwards and forwards in the last 40 minutes because I knew what was coming in their future. I so identified with all those feelings and it was awful and totally reminded me why I don't want to be in a relationship right now (Not that I forgot. Got out of one in March and I'm relieved every day that I still have my self. I really lost a sense of who I was in my relationship.)

This film was incredible and Prisco, your review is stunning because it convinced me to fork over $13 to see this.

I did feel kind of bad for the couple sitting behind me though. I overheard their conversation before the movie started - they were clearly a young couple and they were saying things like, "When did our relationship start? I don't know, I don't do anniversaries." Yea, you don't want to take anyone you are remotely interested in to watch this with you.

Posted by: denesteak at February 2, 2011 1:53 AM

Great review Brian, I also loved this movie and felt that it applies to anyone who has ever been in a relationship, past or present. The decision to look at the worst part of love is what makes the entire film so powerful. Williams and Gosling deserve Oscars. Not an easy watch, particularly, but one of my favorite films in a long time.

Posted by: Moviefraud at February 10, 2011 10:59 PM