You guys, I’m so, so sad that Edgar died this week. Because that’s totally what happened to him. Definitely, he’s dead and in the ground and not ruining all of the goodwill he’d created last week by trying to convince Jimmy to bail on Gretchen again mere hours before their wedding. Nope, he’s totes dead, and everyone is very sad about it. Because he died before he made the terrible mistake of trying to hurt Gretchen, and no one. Crosses. My girl.
So maybe he’s actually just dead to me. We’re going to address all of that in a second, but first: Things We Learned This Week
— Edgar (RIP) is playing Extreme Hide and Go Seek with a small child in the woods. Those are all of his flashforward scenes. My suspicion is that the child is Tallulah, that the wedding is Linsday and Paul getting remarried, and that Paul invited Jimmy because he still insists they’re friends. Paul is wrong about a lot of things.
— This isn’t a thing we learned necessarily, but further to my suspicions in the first point, Jimmy is not over Gretchen by any stretch of the imagination and is intentionally bringing Florist Girl to this wedding to piss off Gretchen. Reminder that Jimmy is, in fact, emotionally abusive. I’m not sure what to do with that yet.
— The last thing we learned this week is that Stephen Falk has magical powers. There’s literally no other way of explaining how months after the scene was shot, despite changes in release dates, Falk managed to align the stars so that this episode aired the week after Us was released.
Literal magic powers.
So setting aside what we learned, let’s talk about what we all collectively experienced this week. Which is to say Edgar and his ruining everything forever. For starters, I feel the need to really hit this point on its head: Edgar, who has been a good friend to Gretchen over the course of the past four seasons, proposed that he and Jimmy abandon her again on the eve of her wedding. On the same day that she explains in great detail how Jimmy’s acceptance of her flaws has given her a peace she’d previously not known. And that that gift was the thing that she’d been looking for her entire life. Despite the fact that he knew that the last time Jimmy left, Gretchen nearly didn’t recover and that the fear of Jimmy leaving still haunts her. So, yeah. Not that cool, Edgar.
However, if we’re willing to forgive the way in which Edgar made his point (which I am super not), it might be worth it to assess if his point is valid. And, shocker, I’m not that fond of it either. Edgar’s overall point is actually fairly similar to what I’ve been saying. That being in love isn’t always enough to sustain a relationship. Edgar is presenting Jimmy and Gretchen’s relationship as a bad alternative to something better. They’ll destroy each other vs. them meeting someone they won’t destroy. Or maybe more realistically they’ll destroy each other vs. them not destroying themselves alone. But it’s not an either/or situation. That fact is, Jimmy will hurt Gretchen. Maybe in ways that will matter. Gretchen will hurt Jimmy. Also maybe in ways that matter. And maybe all of those things will eventually be too much for Jimmy and Gretchen to keep overcoming.
But it’s not Edgar’s call to make on if the relationship should be sustained.
Edgar, because he hasn’t been able to watch the fictional show in which he exists, doesn’t understand the underlying point of You’re The Worst: Love doesn’t make you better. If Gretchen and Jimmy have improved even slightly as humans since the beginning of the show, “being in love” isn’t what did it. It was the actual work to make different, and hopefully better, choices than they’d previously been making. It was the willingness to make themselves open and honest with each other and allow themselves to be vulnerable. And the only reason they were able to do that is because they woke up every morning, and decided to continue working at being better in their relationship. Love might have been the motivator, but it wasn’t the cure.
Which means that not only is Edgar wrong in his assumptions of how Jimmy and Gretchen’s relationship will end, he’s completely wrong about why it was important to them in the first place. They didn’t choose love because it fixed them, they chose it because it mattered enough that they tried to fix themselves. The point isn’t that it will destroy them eventually, it’s that they had something they were willing to be destroyed for. It isn’t important that this is how they’ll go out, but that there’s no other way they’d rather go.
Too bad Edgar didn’t learn any of that before he died in that tragic paintball/wig accident. RIP, Edgar.
— Good to see Thomas Middleditch (Silicon Valley) of the first Sunday Funday episode make a return as Hipster Ringleader.
— That glass metaphor was such a great bookend to the episode. “It’s a metaphor for how I can do anything I want now.” “Yeah, I metaphor I’ll be cleaning up!” “You know you don’t need to fix my problems, Jimmy!” “So, you’re going to clean it up?” “Cleaning it up ruins the metaphor.” Then, 40 minutes later, Gretchen was hoisted by her own metaphor.
— “Chillax, dorkus, it’s good to challenge babies’ immune systems. That’s how you make an X-Man.”
— You’re the Worst summed up in one single exchange: “You’ll destroy each other.” “There’s no way I’d rather go.” Amen.
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