Listen, the dynamics of a healthy sexual relationship are complicated, but reciprocity is usually a good rule of thumb. WELL, because the internet is forever, a DJ Khaled interview from 2015 resurfaced this weekend, and it’s safe to say that the dude does not have the most progressive sexual politics.
“A woman should praise the man — the king. If you holding it down for your woman I feel like the woman should praise. And a man should praise the queen. But you know, my way of praising is called ‘How was dinner? You like the house you living in? You like all them clothes you getting? I’m taking care of your family, I’m taking care of my family…’ You know, I’m putting in the work.”
When asked if he would ever perform oral sex on a partner, he replied “Nahhh. Never! I don’t do that.”
“It’s different rules for men. You gotta understand, we the king. There’s some things that y’all might not wanna do, but it got to get done. I just can’t do what you want me to do. I just can’t.”
There’s a lot to unpack there. Obviously, people shouldn’t do things that they’re uncomfortable with, but for a man to just expect his female partner to just get over it and deal is pretty messed up. So messed up that Evan Rachel Wood, currently crushing it on Westworld and in her advocacy for women’s rights, piped in on Twitter to let Khaled know that this is an outdated take on sexuality.
You’re seriously missing out man. Take it from someone who has pride and thoroughly enjoys pleasuring women. 😋— #EvanRachelWould (@evanrachelwood) May 4, 2018
You should grow up. https://t.co/hllmvQ8mSS
Wood continued, adding a bit more nuance about consent and calling out the bi erasure that followed her original tweet.
No one should do anything they dont want to do. But if its based on outdated sexist propaganda, maybe you should re-think your stance, you could be missing out on something great. #justsaying✌🏻#sexpositive— #EvanRachelWould (@evanrachelwood) May 5, 2018
Ugh, can I be Evan Rachel Wood when I grow up? Or at the very least… Smashmouth?
A King who doesn't is no King at all. https://t.co/Jg1GAlfIjI— Smash Mouth (@smashmouth) May 4, 2018