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No One Else is Here: 12 Movies About Solitude

By Amanda Mae Meyncke | Guides | November 13, 2012 | Comments ()


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"Society is afraid of alonedom, like lonely hearts are wasting away in basements, like people must have problems if, after a while, nobody is dating them. but lonely is a freedom that breaths easy and weightless and lonely is healing if you make it." - Tanya Davis, from the lovely video poem "How to Be Alone."

I'm not good at being alone. My work is solitary work, writing or watching films, writing about watching films. As such, I tend to miss out on the daily basics of human interaction, and once calculated a three day period, a year or two ago, where I spoke to no one at all using my voice and felt overwhelmed by the kindness of a parking attendant who told me to have a good day. I've spent a lot of time alone but I will always choose to be with other people if given the opportunity, and it can be hard to understand when others express a desire to be alone.

Sleeping in the same bed as someone you used to love while not being sure of what you now mean to one another, this feels like the kind of loneliness that has killed the marriages of people I know. I want to say something about the future out loud, but I'm not sure how it sounds. Being scared to say something is a sign. Being somewhere you know in your heart you shouldn't be, is another one. You have to know what you want before you can get it, and I'm not good at that either. I only know what it is that I do not want.

I stood under a tree as it rained some weeks ago, talking with someone who said his father had three children by the time he was as old as he was. I said my mother had been married for six years by the time she was as old as I am now. We didn't understand how our parents could be so sure, marriage and the children seem almost impossible to comprehend. I already knew that being with someone else you can be just as alone as you were without them, but lessons are repeated until they are learned. I realized once I was out of college and still unmarried, that I was unlikely to be someone's first wife. As I get older, that seems to hold the potential to be more true. It's okay, I'm fine with ghosts, on the whole.

So many of my favorite films deal with time spent alone, and there's a kind of cheerful constructiveness that can occur, you can work on your projects, clean your home and read your books. So much time is spent wastefully though, and I am just as guilty, having written more than a few novel's worth of words in IM conversations over the past 14 years of a life lived on the Internet. I think waste belongs best to the very young, for whom life feels endless and infinite. There just doesn't seem to be as much time anymore.

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Amelie
This movie gets dragged around for being "twee" and "magical" and everyone feels smug about being over it, but it really felt like a bold new vision when it came out, a film so different that it encouraged creativity and explored a kind of story I'd never seen put to film before. Imaginative and robust, this is the story of a French woman who lives alone and somewhat within the confines of her mind, as she attempts to work things for the good for her co-workers and for herself. Beautiful imagery coupled with a fascinating voice over, this film is a bit twee and magical and perfect all the same, an exploration into a kind of aloneness that turns itself inside out.

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Into the Wild
When I was much younger, a boy I liked gave me this book and told me about how it had changed his life, changed the way he saw things. The movie is pretty powerful too, directed by Sean Penn, relating the tale of a man (Emile Hirsch) who leaves his life, his money and his privilege and heads out to discover the world for himself. Somehow the story felt better when it was confined to the page, seeing it writ large felt like it gave away power. It's easy to argue that Christopher McCandless was unprepared and isn't inspirational at all, but there's something incredibly moving about his attempts to strike out on his own, and when faced with the ultimate opportunity to be alone, his wish for community and his inability to access it can sometimes mirror our own feeble attempts to connect with others.

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Home Alone
This became the ultimate dream of every child after seeing this movie. There seemed to be something so wondrous about being alone in your own home with your parents and siblings gone, you could eat whatever you wanted, watch whatever you wanted on TV. While this movie borders on annoying, the first one is also... Sorry, I just fell down an Internet rabbit hole and found myself reading the entire Wikipedia plot of the fourth Home Alone movie. A movie for those of us who know that being alone doesn't mean being bored at all.

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127 Hours
A cautionary tale in being alone! The dangers of being alone! You will cut off your arm from boredom if you are left alone for one damn minute! A movie to make extroverts and introverts cringe alike, James Franco is trapped on a hiking expedition and must cut himself free in order to survive. When I first read about this story so many years ago, I came across a bit that said when a family found him after his ordeal, they gave him some Oreos to eat. I liked that a lot.

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Lost in Translation
The loneliness you can feel when you're with other people is often the worst sort, when this other person should be making you feel less alone and somehow it simply isn't. How many times I have imagined myself to be staring out at a Tokyo skyline in my pink underwear, just like Scarlett Johansson. Bill Murray is much worse in his solitude perhaps, and I think I didn't understand this movie the first time I saw it, hadn't been alone enough for long enough. A country where you don't speak the language, and an emptiness you can't seem to fill.

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Wings of Desire
One of the most gentle and beautiful films I've ever seen, they turned this Wim Wenders masterpiece into that deplorable romance "City of Angels." An angel wanders through the world keeping an eye on the thoughts of humans everywhere, invisible to them. What an entirely different kind of being alone! Entirely invisible to the world around you. Sometimes being in a city can feel like this, that we are the only living boy in New York. This movie emanates peace and solitude in comforting waves, as the angel decides he wishes to be among the living and leave his angelic life behind.

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Fish Tank
Rowdy and rude, this feature from director Andrea Arnold revolves around the life of one teenage girl living in semi-poverty in England. She likes to dance and she likes to drink and get into trouble, and there's a kind of loneliness in having your back to the wall, clawing your way out of every situation with no one really on your side.

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Solaris
The solitude of existence in a place where you're unsure if anyone else exists. This is a sprawling work exploring questions of human existence and a strange force that preys upon the human mind and causes one man to see his long-deceased wife, seemingly brought back to life. Probably the very definition of an art house flick, this Andrei Tarkovsky directed film remains one of my very favorite movies, a slow, methodical and gorgeous rumination on space and the solitude of the mind.

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Lars and the Real Girl
A charming story of someone who chooses to be alone in his very own unique way. Ryan Gosling stars as a socially distant man who wants to be left alone by his brother and sister in law. When he orders a Real Doll (you know, those creepy realistic looking sex dolls) everyone becomes concerned and mortified, but he begins to treat the doll as a person, bringing her to outings and acting as if she was his girlfriend (albeit in a very chaste way!). This film is absolutely charming, and a very sweet look at the manifestations of one person's loneliness and their slow migration back into the fullness of life.

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Cast Away
Tom Hanks stars, alongside Wilson the volleyball, as a man stranded on a desert island for years. This may in fact be the ultimate film about being alone, since he can't escape, can't do anything except adapt and learn to be alone without any means of contacting the outside world. As he struggles to make due with finding food and shelter, he faces the unknown with nothing left to lose, and must struggle through it all, essentially alone.

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Moon
Sam Rockwell stars as a man on a solitary mission on the Moon, eager to return to his life on Earth when things begin to go wrong on the space station. Absolutely spell-binding as the man meditates on his solitude and begins to attribute hallucinations and more problems to being left alone. Riveting sci-fi that absolutely must be seen to be believed.

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Diving Bell and the Butterfly
Paralyzed and confined by an accident, Mathieu Almaric stars as a man with locked-in syndrome who must learn to cope with communicating only by blinking one eye. Director Julian Schnabel absolutely captures first person perspective as we see out through an eyelid, and truly experience what life is like without mobility or the ability to speak to those around us. He loses his place in the world, even though he remains the same inside.


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  • The Far Side of the Moon (La face cachée de la lune) is a wonderfully lonely movie.

  • A great movie and book is "Alone in the Wilderness."

  • the Quiet Earth. a low budget sci-fi about a man who finds himself alone on the earth and goes a bit mad. though eventually the movie turns into Sartre's No Exit. But, like the first act of I am Legend, it's interesting to see depicted how a man stricken insane with loneliness behaves when he doesn't have to sink all his energy into pretending to be normal because there is no one to save face for.

  • the_wakeful

    I love this list. It makes me want to rewatch all of these over one rainy weekend, even though doing so would probably kill me.

  • hindulovegod

    Ming-liang Tsai's Goodbye Dragon Inn always hits this nerve for me. So many of the characters, even those you meet only briefly, seem to be carrying a very deep loneliness.

  • Sonja

    Also, Donnie Darko.

  • winged chorus

    I would respectfully add Never Let Me Go. From a great sci-fi story by Kazuo Ishiguro. The ending tore me to shreds.

  • The Kilted Yaksman

    Moon is one of my very favorite movies. Sam Rockwell should have won all the awards. I think Silent Running would make a good addition to this list.

  • wayne

    Good list. I would have included I am Legend.

  • I always liked the tedium of such a life depicted by Vincent Price in Last Man on Earth. The dull, sad, absolutely repetitive days. Dangerous to hope, dangerous to lose hope.

  • Wendy and Lucy, which focuses on financial, social, and finally complete emotional solitude, is still the most quietly desperate film I've ever seen on modern American life.

  • Quanion

    I'm really glad you started to write for this site, I like your things best nowadays.

  • Guest

    That is so kind of you to say, thank you.

  • KV

    You forgot to add possibly the greatest movie on loneliness, "Taxi Driver." But then, that movie is not everybody's cup of tea.

  • Amanda Meyncke

    I haven't seen it for a really long time, and I've been trying to include movies that I have a stronger emotional connection to, but I agree! It definitely counts.

  • KV

    If I were to choose my cinematic autobiography, I would have chosen "Taxi Driver." Another movie that you could have added was "Up in the Air."

  • Also, I absolutely adore "How to Be Alone." It and "Pretty" by Katie Makkai rekindled my love for poetry.

  • googergieger

    Spring, Summer, Fall, Winter, and Spring...
    Castaway on the Moon
    The Yellow Sea(before it gets kind of ridiculous)
    Gozu

    Two anime series as well
    Mushishi
    Kino's Journey

    Anyways good on having one-ish foreign films on this list this time at least.

    Oh and it bored the ever loving hell out of me but Silent Light.

  • Amanda Meyncke

    Diving Bell is foreign, Solaris is foreign, Amelie is foreign, Wings of Desire is foreign, Fish Tank is foreign?

  • googergieger

    Na yeah. I mean in the same way our movies are foreign elsewhere, yeah.

    But I mean, you know. Google and Netflix right there folks.

    But again, better than a total "America fuck yeah!" list.

  • Amelie is simultaneously one of my favorite movies and one I can't bring myself to watch again. I loved it so much and was so deeply moved by it that I immediately got a copy for myself, but it just sits on the self. I tell myself it's because I don't have time to sit down and give it the attention it deserves, especially since it requires reading subtitles, but the number of movies with subtitles that I've seen since I bought it proves that's a lie. I'm just afraid a second viewing won't be as perfect.

    I've added several of these to my Netflix queue. I've heard about and contemplated watching Lars and the Real Girl before, but this is the description that's decided me.

    Thank you for this list.

    All of the way back in high school, I knew I was going to have to face my life alone. People get weirdly, sometimes borderline violently angry about that and are all about denying that it's even possible to live and die alone. I haven't--or at least didn't--isolate myself or turn away opportunities, and I've actually gone out seeking companionship and/or romantic relationships, somehow I'm 30 and I've not only been in only one relationship that went beyond a second date, but over the last months I've discovered that I don't even have any friends. I have people who recognize me in public. I've started thinking about what it would be like to quit my job, sell my house, change my name, and move to somewhere no one has ever heard of me, a kind of suicide that wouldn't actually require giving up the world and what's good in it. The last six months in particular have taught me that no one would notice if I did.

  • Amanda Meyncke

    "You don’t have to yearn for love, you don’t have to be alone

    Somewheres in this universe there’s a place that you can call home"

    If starting over is what it takes, you might try it. But changing yourself or seeing someone to talk to, might help too. I know how hard this is, but things could be different.

  • The problem with moving somewhere new and starting over is that the one thing you have to take with you is yourself. I'm well aware that I've got to be the source of the problem, but I'm out of ideas.

    Joining clubs, starting groups, attending events, online dating, throwing parties...spending time getting to know and like myself, spending time deliberately alone in self-examination to figure out what to fix and what to cut out and what to nourish...

    And somehow I've managed about a dozen first dates, less than a handful of second dates, and one single person who thought I was worth a third date. I've got friends who can only be convinced to spend time with me provided I pay and I provide food and who otherwise don't think of me at all and don't need or want me in their lives. In August, I actually threw a party (Cthulhu Speakeasy in honor of Lovecraft's birthday) and not a single person showed up. For years, every single person I know has forgotten my birthday. These are friends who span from elementary school to high school to college to work and writer's groups and other organizations.

    The problem has to be me, and if I move, I'd have to take me. I don't have any illusions that I'd be alone wherever I went. The difference is that I'd have finally picked my circumstances.

  • KV

    " I've got friends who can only be convinced to spend time with me provided I pay and I provide food and who otherwise don't think of me at all and don't need or want me in their lives."

    I have a lost a number of people who I used to consider "good friends" in precisely this type of circumstance. Typically, I would take initiatives in arranging get-togethers. But the moment I asked them to be more pro-active, and show the slightest, most symbolic expression of reciprocity, they decided I was not worth the effort. One person categorically stated, "I don't want to have to make an effort [to maintain freindship]."

  • I find that so baffling. How does someone get categorized as not worth the time?
    I dropped off of facebook for that reason. It was hard to be unworthy of an invitation while seeing updates about activities and gatherings organized by someone(s) who didn't think I was worth including.
    I realized that someone I had considered my best friend since we met when we were both 13 wasn't such a good friend after, 1) she twice informed me that she would rather do her laundry than do something with me, 2) only invited me out when she was going to be performing, and she expected me to pay a cover somewhere and watch her, but not actually spend any time with her, and 3) would agree that we should go out and do something neither of us had tried before, then tell me she'd gone with someone else when I brought it up again. I withdrew a bit and she eventually left a passive-aggressive letter in my mailbox. When I answered with my problems, the response was to find the spare key to my house that I'd given her left in the mailbox.
    It's now approaching eight months since I've seen another person socially. If I didn't have to leave the house for work and grocery shopping, I wouldn't have any human contact at all. No uninitiated calls or texts, no emails, no messages on facebook, no dropping by, and one party where no one showed up.

  • i've dropped out of facebook more than once for similar reasons. . .it can amplify loneliness

  • I've also discovered, thanks to facebook, that a lot of my acquaintances (in this case, people I knew socially who were never really friends) are passive-aggressive, selfish, spiteful types. Since most of this came through facebook, I'm honestly not sure how much of it is some sort of internet/facebook related syndrome and how much is really just what they are at heart. It can amplify loneliness and turn you into a cynical bastard at the same time.

  • KV

    It looks like you and I share the same luck, or lack of it, with "friends". The way I see it, sometimes we tend to invest ourselves too much in a few particular individuals, the ones we feel we can connect beyond superficial sociality. Although we constantly remind ourselves not to expect too much, or anything at all, in return; inevitably, some expectation of reciprocity develops. And when the expectation does not meet a bare minimum, when we realize that not only are we not being appreciated for our efforts to make the friendship work, but we are also being treated as disposable items, frustration and disappointment crushes down on us...and the friendship dies.

    Some people look for more than just fun from their friends, they look for empathy and humanity. It looks like these are too much to ask for these days. And typically, when you explicitly ask for them, you are being accused of not respecting the friendship, or worse, looking for something beyond friendship. I suppose the lesson for me is not to appreciate someone any more than (s)he appreciates you. But unless you appreciate and invest yourself (materially and emotionally) in someone, you will never know how much that person cares for you, if at all. It's a gamble.

  • I'd say, based on this conversation, that it isn't too much to ask for so much as that finding someone else with whom you'd both enjoy spending time and who is looking for the same empathy and humanity in your geographic area is difficult to impossible.

  • Sonja

    I've lived the first 28 years of my life in the dark. This is how I explain it to myself now. I was surrounded by people who not only didn't love me, they didn't like me like at all.

    I have had 3 relationships because I am a pretty girl, that's objective. At the same time I have had to face the harsh truth: they didn't care about my soul. They fell for my physical appearance but didn't want to connect with anything that's hiding under my dark hair and long lashes.

    If I sound bitter, well, I am. It's the same solitude depicted in Lost in Translation and it's frustrating, excruciating, humiliating. So I know what you mean when you say they wouldn't notice if you were to disappear: I have not been there for so long, only the outer shell was, and nobody notice. My ex might as well have tried to get rid of whatever was inside me, of any trace of brain spirit soul, because a doll is much more practical to deal with.

    Then I had a major crisis and started getting ANGRY. Let me tell you that you are not angry enough. I agree with you needing to seek professional help BUT: I have once read a quote that says "before thinking you are depressed check if you are surrounded by a**hol**".

    I was a very good student, a bit of a geek, a shy, naive, romantic girl. The sharks around me managed to manipulate me into thinking I was wrong, strange, weird. Even further in life, when I went to University and actively tried to make new friends and build a new life, I still had this stigmata and instead of being myself became a people-pleaser, always asking them implicitly to please please please be my friends in spite of all my faults.

    Well, I was oh so wrong. I realized it when my ex almost destroyed my inner light (sorry if it's cheesy) with his manipulation and verbal violence. I broke free from him and then started to get rid of the other vampires in my life, people using me to feel better, "she's much more intelligent than me but look how she struggles! look how much power I have over her! It must mean I'm awesome!".

    They didn't come to your Lovecraft party? Are you sure they aren't illiterate a**hol** who a) have never read a book apart from dumb bestsellers b) pretend they read and enjoy it but lie because they want to be cool?

    I could go on ranting for hours. Sorry if I sound aggressive BUT you can't let these people make you feel like "I want to change my life but crap! Even if I do that, I'll always be myself!"

    PLEASE. Seek help, AND start LIKING yourself. Not loving, LIKING. You have given so much time and energy to those people who gave you nothing in return, at least give an ounce of the same things to you.

    And don't move to Germany: I live there and it's one of the loneliest cultures in the world. Sorry to say this, but it's the truth, and it makes it so hard sometimes. They even don't know what small talk is about, that polite, friendly way to make strangers feel that you have acknowledge them as fellow human beings. I am here because of Berlin, but as I said, it's sometimes physically painful.

    Sonja

    P.S. I am less lonely now. I had tried anything (courses, being proactive, ...) too but now I focus on what and whom I like, instead of making myself liked. It works. Don't give up.

  • I'm a fat girl and I refuse to use the fat as an excuse for why I've been lonely/unlucky in love/can't make friends/etc. There are way, way too many fat folks who are in happy relationships, who have friends, etc. to cop out and use physical experience as an excuse for not working on the rest of me.
    Watching the people I've known as friends has been baffling--the reason for the Lovecraft party was because I have a lot of friends who are fans, if not of the original written work, then at least of the movies/derivitive works/roleplaying games/etc. It's so weird to feel somehow excluded from their worlds, and the sampling of people who have been in my life has come from such broad groups and of so many different ages and backgrounds that I can't help but feel it's got to be me.
    In the end, they're missing out. I'm awesome. Lately I've been sad and maybe actually depressed, so I wouldn't expect anyone with any sense who doesn't already care to want to have anything to do with me, but it hasn't always and won't always be like that.
    I'm glad you're less lonely now.
    I've also never heard that about Germany, but considering how my mother and grandmother interact with other people, that's...not as surprising as it seemed right at first.

  • KV

    I can relate to your situation, because I've been going through a somewhat similar one. My realization is that nobody cares. People have got their own lives to deal with. And this loneliness has followed me my whole life...there is no escape.

  • It's so obviously not like that for everyone, too. People have their own lives to deal with, and somehow that involves other people, so it's strange to realize that you're not part of anyone else's life, not really.

  • Miss Laaw-yuhr

    I know this comment is late to the game, but Tyburn and KV - don't abandon hope. I've ranged in size from super fat to Christina Hendricks and let me assure you while I've not found my true love, I've had relationships and lots of friends. In the words of Dan Savage: it gets better. Or at least it can with a will to make it so.

    I think you simply haven't found your people and haven't known how to find them. I think seeing a therapist is a great place to start. I think deleting facebook is also great (I never use mine and I find it only depresses me when I'm down). It's time to get rid of friends who are not at all friends and find people who are far more simpatico who enjoy your company and make you happy. I've can relate to your feelings, so I'd encourage you to contact me: laawyuhr@gmail.com because I think making online friends is another good place to start.

  • Quanion

    Move to Germany and I'll be your friend. And I'm not just saying that because your comment almost made me cry. I know the feeling of being alone.

  • Germany is going on the list. Although I'm the daughter of a German immigrant with a lot of family still there, so it might defeat the 'where no one has ever heard of me' part of the plan.

  • BierceAmbrose

    I'm late to the game. This lovely digression hadn't started yet when I looked.

    Three things, Tyburn,

    - Some people are comfortable in their own skins without other people around. You sound like this might be true for you. There's nothing wrong with that at all.

    - The people you mention aren't "friends." They are something else. A friend is there when you need, but not necessarily when it's just for fun, understands your flaws and values you anyway, and trusts you to do the same.

    - To have friends, first, be a friend.

    It's OK to be a little lost from time to time, not knowing what you want to be or do. The good news - if you're having that problem, then you already know you are someone.

  • mona_sterling

    If only we could all be alone the way Lars was in Lars and the Real Girl. Such a sweet fairy tale.

  • Jt

    What a great list! 'Moon' was phenomenal. Also if you don't like 'Amelie', you are probably an asshole.

  • googergieger

    I prefer dick. A dick with taste. Yeah, I said it.

  • Xulux

    I enjoyed watching Charlton Heston talk to a bust of Caesar in The Omega Man more than Tom Hanks talk to a volleyball in Castaway. But I agree with you about Lost in Translation. Still can't believe Bill Murray didn't pick up an Oscar for that role.

  • Murray was too subtle in too subtle a film. The Oscars are not what they once were. If they ever were at all and only because the others were not around. They were the first. Not the smartest.

  • This is a really great article. But I've watched some of these movies and I hated them. I mean, I thought they were good movies, but I couldn't like them. If that makes sense. think I just can't watch movies about loneliness. They're not good for me.

    How about 'Melancholia'?

  • BWeaves

    I'd like to add "Local Hero." One of my all time favorite films. It's not so much about solitude, as being lonely in a sea of people.

  • Captain_Tuttle

    "Local Hero" is one of my favourite movies. Yes, it's definitely about solitude, but it's also about finding one's place in the world, no matter how odd it may be.

  • Abby

    I love "Local Hero." When I read the this list, I immediately thought of a different Bill Forsyth movie, "Comfort and Joy." Maybe it's just that all his films have a tinge of melancholy.

  • Skyler Durden is not logged in

    Great list, although I personally find McCandless and Ralston to be alone, not lonely. I like Repulsion and taxi Driver, and would also throw in Somewhere and Take This Waltz.

  • josé miguel

    please, watch "Mary and Max". wonderful australian animated movie about solitude, desperation and redemption.

  • Great addition! Loved this one.

  • Kitty

    Nice list. I would add Three Colors: Blue. Juliet Binoche's exploration of being alone after the death of her daughter and husband is touching and haunting.

  • Amanda Meyncke

    Good call, I meant to add Red, although all three are really about being alone.

  • BabyBearStrikesAgain

    I'm not sure what it says about me but not only have I've seen almost all of these movies, but some are my favorite movies of all time, and the ones that I haven't seen are in my Netflix queue.

  • Tinkerville

    Wonderful, wonderful list. Two of these are in my top five movies of all time. I'd also include The Station Agent. Peter Dinklage gives a knockout performance as someone who just wants to be left alone but isn't.

  • Tinkerville

    Derp, I should've read all the comments before posting since lowercase_ryan beat me to it, but that just makes me happy that other Pajibans love Station Agent as much as I do.

  • Excellent list. I completely relate - I am currently going through possibly the loneliest period of my life, and it is always nice to know that there is someone else going through the same thing. Not in a "misery loves company" way, but in an "You get me" kind of way.

  • frank247

    On Pajiba, you are never alone.

  • chanohack

    I really love the way you write.

  • Amanda Meyncke

    Thank you, that's terribly kind of you.

  • Ley

    Maybe it doesn't fit the theme of the list that much, but Taxi Driver was certainly a movie about lonelineness/solitude.

    Anyways, good list otherwise. Lost In Translation is one of my favourite movies. It's ridiculous how much I can relate to that movie (and I don't even have to be in a foreign country). Lars and the Real Girl was very charming and dealt with the quirky issue in a sweet way. Both films convinced me that Bill Murray and Ryan Gosling can do pretty much anything.

  • This is a fantastic list, Amanda, and it completely resonates with me - both the choices and the ethos.
    Just to pick out two of the films;
    Into the Wild is still (despite its few flaws) one of my favourite films of the last decade, and it breaks and uplifts my heart all at the same time every single time I see it.

    Lost in Translation might be the film that more than any other connects with me on that incredible, ineffable, ephemeral level that, to me, characterises 'art'. The kind of level that, to a large extent, flies clean over the grasping hands of critical faculties and cuts straight through and resonates with something deep and fundamental inside me. I've always been a person who has a pathological need for company and attention, despite often finding it - and the effect it has on me - distatestful. I've come to realise over the years that I can't live with people but I sure as hell can't live without them. When I watch Lost in Translation, all of that feels fine, and I never want that feeling to end. And then it does, and nothing is resolved, but for 90 minutes it always feels like it might be.
    -- end of rare zeke sincerity --

  • melissa82

    "I realized once I was out of college and still unmarried, that I was unlikely to be someone’s first wife"
    Really? I didn't think the majority of people got married THAT young these days. But good list, I need to rewatch some of these.

  • Sara_Tonin00

    Yeah, not out of college, but maybe out of 20s. Starter marriages and all.

    though it also depends where you live - in NYC not so much of an issue.

  • Guest

    Yeah, is that really a thing? Some of my high school classmates are trying to do some sort of 10 year reunion (stupid American movies), and I can't recall any of my classmate being married.

    Except for the smartest, sexiest classmate I've had, who used to have long conversations about atheism with me, and is now a born again christian who named his son Inri (yeah, I'm still not over this development).

  • Gina

    Inri? Wouldn't it be easier just to name the kid Jesus? 'Cause it boils down to the same thing.

  • Fine list. For an horrific take, I'd add Repulsion, one of Polanski's earlier films. It reads a bit schlocky as compared to either version of Solaris, let's say, but tackles the same question: What demons will confront us when we're alone too long?

  • Amanda Meyncke

    I absolutely love Repulsion! I used to say "Just another Saturday at home." Can't believe I forgot it uggggggh.

  • Ha. I thought you might! Anyway, not to worry, your list is terrific as it stands.

  • Rob

    I think, technically, "City of Angels" was the embarrassingly shitty remake to "Faraway So Close," Wenders' (pretty damn good) sequel to "Wings of Desire."

  • lowercase_ryan

    Really great list. I might include The Station Agent.

  • clatie

    Silent Running? Anyone?

  • idiosynchronic

    The Old Man and the Sea? Yes, the film version.

    While this has been a nice modern essay - we could use a follow-up of the old school of solitude.

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