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Love Will Tear Us Apart Again

By Brian Prisco | Posted Under Film Reviews | Comments (26)



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Working on my fourth year in a long relationship, I start to appreciate what it takes to stay together. Enduring couples have to spar as often as they snuggle. After a while, long-lasting couples develop a certain smugness, a certain belief that they are far superior to others, that they can handle anything. This is tempting fate — daring Dorothy that no pussy tornado can touch you — and so there’s nothing quite as satisfying as watching one of these smug bastard couples get their comeuppance. It’s like praying that Maggie Gyllenhaal’s baby in Away We Go becomes a Young Republican.

The Freebie seems like a bad idea from the start — two young hipster marrieds, together some seven plus years, decide that it’s only logical that a couple as enlightened as they can go out and have one night stands and be none the worse for wear. Yet, writer/director/star Katie Aselton succeeds because she hates these stupid bastards just as much as we do. The Freebie is honest and smart and ugly, riding on the outstanding chemistry between Aselton and her co-star Dax Shepard, whose performance might have very well been the degree of difficulty that propelled this into the gold medal category.The Freebie rings painfully true, but eschews any of the slapstick or staged fights that would cripple this as a studio film. What makes the flick so endearing is that, as in real life, Aselton avoids going for the simple solutions. It’s a textbook example of what every indie romance should be — ugly, beautiful, and sincere.

The Freebie starts like all the best colossal fuck-ups — an innocent conversation about sex. But they’re never innocent, are they? The second the words pass your lips, it becomes a live ball in play — like a game of street hockey played with an active landmine. The couple start trying to figure out if their soup is still spicy, so to speak — the dreaded “Have We Gone Stale?” Darren (Dax Shepard) tap dances worthy of Fosse, trying to sugar coat truth in that bullshitty way we men have. Of course he thinks about other women, of course he feels some regret that this is the last vagina he will be seeing, of course he harbors secret wishes to go get some strange. Because guess what? She’s got those same damn feelings. So Annie (Katie Aselton) proposes that they give each other one free pass. No questions, no talking about it, they just both take the same night and go out and get laid, come home, and that will fix everything. Because if they’re honest and open with each other, and because they’re mature enough to understand each other, and because they’re love is obviously bigger than mere harmless dalliances, they can handle this. Right?

Oh, does it just blow the fuck up in their faces. It unfolds like a septic tanker speeding downhill towards a yellow intersection. Someone’s gonna eat shit. You can’t be honest about being unfaithful; it’s impossible. Infidelity tears relationships apart with the ferocity of a cougar. Feelings will be hurt. Aselton has enough confidence in her film to let us watch the couple collide in slow motion and then keeps filming as everyone climbs out to survey the damage — both external and internal. Particularly impressive is the set-up: the who, the what, the where. It’s not expressly clear whether or not the two actually go through with the intended sex, so any fights become all the more nuanced. All the jealous and bitterness can all be predicated on lies. It’s like two little kids daring each other to kiss a dog turd. Most of the outrage comes not out of chickening out, but that you would be disgusting enough to do that in the first place.

Aselton claims that there was no script, that it was improvised based on a six-page outline. As a screenwriter, I can’t say fuck you loud enough; as a film enthusiast, I say bra-fucking-vo. And so the relationship between Aselton and Shepard feels authentic and organic. Both of the leads bring realism and honesty to their respective roles. Aselton I can expect this from, but I didn’t think Dax had the chops. He was outstanding in Idiocracy, but he was playing an idiot. It’s the best kind of dramatic performance, coming from a place of comedy. Their entire relationship is based on “Wouldn’t it be funny if?” and then suddenly it isn’t.

The Freebie is the best kind of indie romance — one that makes you ponder. It’s almost a horror film in the vein of Reefer Madness. Harmless? Hardly. Aselton is on the audience’s side, showing just how incredibly stupid you have to be to think you can cheat fairly. Instead of relying on big shiny argument montages, tearful tissue shaking fists, and people sitting by lakes throwing rocks while alt rock plays in the background, Aselton tells it like it is. There’s still mooning, and crying, and shouting. But it’s done with such a deft hand, you can hardly believe this is her first feature. She’s got a promising filmmaking career if she can continue to keep it real.









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Comments

Sounds like something I'd love. Nice review, except for all that poopy stuff.

Posted by: Cindy at March 17, 2010 2:47 PM

I don't know, I guess I'm part of one of those smug couples, but my thinking is, how stupid do you have to be to think that a 'dalliance' isn't going to affect your relationship? The Mr and I have NOT had many of the conversations precisely because we both are of the opinion that if your relationship with your spouse (or long term significant other) is "stale" then you've been fucking lazy as shit and need to do something to spice things up - as long as it doesn't involve other people's hootinannies! Jesus Christ, how LAZY do you have to be to think fucking some stranger will make it all better? Fuck that. Goddam right that shit exploded in their faces.

I'll Netflix this so I can feel nice and smug in the comfort of my own damn home.

Posted by: Stella at March 17, 2010 3:48 PM

I am really starting to enjoy Dax Shepard as an actor, and I look forward to watchign him grow. This is hitting the queue.

Posted by: Patty O'Green at March 17, 2010 3:53 PM

Twelve years on a rocky road and I'll say this - it's what you learn NOT to say that is the key to long term relationship happiness.

(that is not a way of saying 'hide your true feelings' either, just...learning the arts of the democratic comment and developing a great sense of timing)

I will SO recommend this movie to a few fools I know!

Posted by: replica at March 17, 2010 3:57 PM

This sort of reminds me of Humpday, which I viewed kind of as a redeeming tragedy. The characters make a terrible decision, then the rest of the film is this slow train wreck where all you can think is "You idiots! Didn't you know this was going to happen?" and "Are they seriously going to go through with this?"

Come to think of it, a lot of movies have this same basic structure. Am I on to something, or has everyone else already noticed this?

Posted by: AM at March 17, 2010 4:26 PM

like a game of street hockey played with an active landmine.

Wow, there's a bunch of those, ain't there? I'll be using that turn of phrase. Thanks.

Posted by: BierceAmbrose at March 17, 2010 4:32 PM

Oh, how I love this kind of movie. This sounds terrif, thanks Prissy. Nicely reviewed. I'm totally gonna see this one. And cry like a child, I'm sure.

Posted by: Anna von SPARKLEBeaverpuppet at March 17, 2010 4:40 PM

Sounds like a really bad thing to see with a spouse/SO. Fraught with nightmarish possibilities of having to "talk" about the "relationship."

Please, wench, I just want to watch the ballgame.

And bring me a beer while you're up.

Posted by: , at March 17, 2010 5:51 PM

Dax Shepard? Seriously? Dude is one of the absolute shittiest actors alive. I would rather have my colon cleansed than watch that asshat "act" for 10 minutes.

Posted by: Alex at March 17, 2010 11:55 PM

Replica is spot on. It's totally about developing a sense of timing and understanding what you don't say (9 years married and living with him for 5 before that). Complete and absolute sharing of every emotion you've ever felt is NOT what good relationships are based on.

Posted by: PaddyDog at September 20, 2010 1:40 PM

25 years later and I STILL hear the Paul Young song when I read that title. I guess they need to Iron Out the Rough Spots so he can Come Back and Stay or he'll be left a Broken Man.

Try the veal!

Posted by: Mrs. Julien at September 20, 2010 1:41 PM

" Complete and absolute sharing of every emotion you've ever felt is NOT what good relationships are based on."

Amen. Whatever preposterous fleeting thought I'm having pales in comparison to the love and respect I owe my husband.

Posted by: samantha t at September 20, 2010 1:46 PM

@AM - I thought of Humpday too; not only are they both about a seemingly simple idea gone awry (that the audience can see coming a mile away), but they are both primarily improvised. I believe that Katie Aselton is Mark Duplass wife; he was one of the stars of Humpday. Also, they're on the show The League together (but they don't play a couple). And now I sound like I have some sort of shrine to them or run their fanclub or something, but I swear I just remember random bits of pop culture knowledge like I'm Rainman.

Can't wait to see this - Dax Shepard impresses me weekly on Parenthood; any and all doubts I had about his ability have been eradicated. Really looking forward to this.

Posted by: Nicole at September 20, 2010 1:51 PM

Posted by: , at March 17, 2010 5:51 PM
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You look familiar. Do I know you?

Posted by: , at September 20, 2010 3:24 PM

This is just like that movie earlier this year, where Julianne Moore hired the hooker to see if her husband would cheat on her. Yeah, what could possibly go wrong with that?

OTOH, I used to drink with a guy (by drink, I mean I chugged beer and he sipped Coke) who told me, in all seriousness, that he told his fiancee he thought they should both have one last fling before they got married. So, people really do think like this.

Guys mostly, I'm guessing.

Posted by: , at September 20, 2010 3:40 PM

Ha "," (

I read the comments and was all - who th' HELL be stealing MAH name? I'ma haveta chop this chuckle-upagus...but then I realized it was me all along.

It still confounds me that people would say, 'Rep is right...' about anything. A casual surf through my year wouldn't exactly inspire anyone with confidence in my wisdom.

Posted by: replica at September 20, 2010 3:43 PM

Posted by: replica at March 17, 2010 3:57 PM
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Also, I think replica is right about anything.

Posted by: , at September 20, 2010 3:54 PM

Alex, have you seen Dax on Parenthood? He really is a great actor.

Posted by: tinmo at September 20, 2010 10:45 PM

Hell, my motto in life now is: "Rep is right." I find it comes in handy in all sorts of situations.

My mom: You know, you have such a pretty face, if only you wore your hair down more often.

Me: Replica says my hair looks pretty in a braid.

My mom: Who in the what now?

Me: The rep is always right mom.

My mom: What?

Me: What, what?

My mom: What is a replica?

Me: The giver of wisdom and light and rightness.

My mom: You know, it's conversations like this that make me question whether the hospital gave me the right baby to take home.

I'll watch this movie and spend the entire time feeling bad about myself because even if my beloved and I agreed to a "freebie" night, I'd spend the entire evening sitting on my couch watching Sense and Sensibility and eating peanut butter out of the jar. Because, sadly I ain't got the looks to convince some random guy to sleep with me after knowing them only a few hours.

Posted by: Kelly at September 20, 2010 11:02 PM

Posted by: , at March 17, 2010 5:51 PM
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Geez, it's like "Invasion of the ,snatchers" here.

Look you fools Youre in danger Cant you see Theyre after your punctuation Theyre after all of us Our semicolon our parentheses everyone Theyre here already YOURE NEXT

Posted by: , at September 20, 2010 11:17 PM

Who the fuck is Paul Young? Prisco better be referencing Joy Division.

Posted by: Three-nineteen at September 20, 2010 11:18 PM

'Because if they’re honest and open with each other, and because they’re mature enough to understand each other, and because they’re love is obviously bigger than mere harmless dalliances, they can handle this.'

I'm sorry, I really am, but I have a medical condition very similar to OCD, which is making me do this.

THEIR LOVE, THEIR LOVE, THEIR LOVE

Again, apologies. It's a compulsion.

Posted by: It's Grammatical OCD at September 21, 2010 5:07 AM

I think this sounds fascinating, except for the fact that it'll probably lead to a whole new round of 'Polyamory? That's just cheating with permission, and it never works. You're just lying to yourself.'

It seems to me like this story is about what happens when people think they can do polyamory without any of the work. Which is all well and good, but is it too much to ask for a story where the poly people get it right? They can even be straight poly people!

Posted by: That Girl at September 21, 2010 9:45 AM

Is part of the compulsion having to do it three times?

Is part of the compulsion having to do it three times?

Is part of the compulsion having to do it three times?

Posted by: Mrs. Julien at September 21, 2010 4:50 PM

And I'm sure Prisco is not referencing Paul Young; he is much cooler than that.

Posted by: Mrs. Julien at September 21, 2010 4:51 PM

Yes, Yes, Yes.

It used to be ten.

Posted by: It's Grammatical OCD at September 22, 2010 6:14 AM