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For Auld Lang Syne

By Sarah Carlson | Posted Under TV Reviews | Comments (56)



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We barely knew you, 1964, and now “Mad Men” has rushed us through your holiday season to welcome 1965. That year, the Civil Rights movement will come to a head, from Bloody Sunday and more demonstrations in Selma and Montgomery, Ala., to the signing of the Civil Rights Act, and politics in general starts to change with the first American combat troops landing in Vietnam, the Social Security Act, the Voting Rights Act, etc. Culture-wise: The Beatles play Shea Stadium. Plus, Dylan goes electric! The world seems to spin even faster in 1965, but until then, we wait for the sea change with our advertising friends during the New Year’s holidays, biding our time in another great episode, “The Good News,” that features two of my favorite characters, Joan and Lane. Both are prominent figures this time, grappling with the feeling that they aren’t in control of their lives anymore. When will things get better, Joan even wonders, a question the entire country will be asking for the next few years.

First, Joan. She’s at the gynecologist as the episode opens, checking to see that the contraceptive pills (which weren’t even available to married women in all states until 1965 and unmarried women in all states until ‘72) are working correctly. You’ve been married two years, Joan? her doctor asks. “Most gals your age don’t wait.” Greg might be sent to Vietnam soon with the Army, so she wants to make sure they can start a family when he returns, she says, whenever that will be. But the real news, for us at least, is that she also wants to make sure the couple of “procedures” she’s had didn’t harm her ability to have children. “A couple? I only remember one,” the doctor says. “There was one before that.” “Was the other performed by a physician?” he asks. “She said she was a midwife.” He assures her that her health is fine and she should be able to have kids, news she passes on to Greg later, a man I can’t believe was able to snag a woman such as her.

That is her good news, though; the bad news is that Lane won’t let her take time off in mid-January, not after taking days off for New Year’s. She tried to butter up Lane at the office by offering to get him fried chicken for lunch (breast or thigh? she asked as he blushed). But when she asks for the extra days, he won’t budge and says he’s on to her fried chicken taunt. “I understand that all men are dizzy and powerless to refuse you,” he says, “but consider me the incorruptible exception.” As Joan leaves, he tells her, “Don’t go and cry about it.” She doesn’t cry, not to him or to Greg that night, but she does snap at Greg, who seems to be taking his impending and still undetermined Vietnam deployment in stride.

Don is trying to get out of dodge for the holiday and off to Acapulco, but he stops first in Los Angeles to visit the real Mrs. Draper, Anna (Melinda Page Hamilton). She’s broken her leg and is moving slowly, but she’s all smiles to see Dick (Don’s real name; if you don’t know what I’m talking about, you’ll have to look it up) as he crashes there for a night. Her uptight sister, Patty (Susan Leslie), isn’t as happy as she and her daughter, Stephanie (Caity Lotz), bring Anna her laundry. Anna invites her college-aged niece to spend the evening with her and Don. She wants Stephanie to meet Don, Anna tells her later, “and I know you’ve got grass.” Lord, help us.

The trio booze it up at a restaurant, with Stephanie showing off her Berkley book learnin’ and incredulity when she learns Don is in advertising — it’s “pollution, man.” Don and Anna catch up, though, as he talks about his divorce. He’s himself with Anna; there’s no front. She knows his whole story, but it was that story that Betty couldn’t handle, he says. “I could tell the minute she saw who I really was, she never wanted to look at me again. Which is why I never told her,” Don tells Anna. “Oh Dick, I’m sorry she broke your heart,” she says. “I had it coming” is his answer. Don drives Stephanie home that evening and gets close to making a pass at her, but she stops him. She knows he and Anna never had a romantic relationship, but they love each other, Stephanie says, she can see it. That’s why she must tell Don that Anna has cancer. That’s how Anna broke her leg; it’s in her bones, and she doesn’t have long to live — and she doesn’t know it, either. Patty and the doctors thought it best to keep the news from Anna, which Don can’t believe, and Stephanie asks him to also keep the news from Anna.

Back at the house, Don carries Anna to her room and then sits on the couch all night, thinking, before getting up in the morning and painting a water-damaged portion of the living room wall he’d noticed the previous day. Anna comes in from her bedroom, amused that Don is in his boxers painting and putting off his flight to Acapulco, and she lights up a joint. Patty comes into the house with groceries, however, and isn’t amused — “You just can’t keep your pants on, can you?” she says as she heads to the car. Don puts his pants on, follows her and confronts her about Anna’s cancer, offering to take over the expenses and have Anna get better medical attention. She’s already seen specialists, Patty protests, who all said the same thing. And besides, it’s not up to Don anyway. “You have no say in the affairs of this family. You’re just a man in a room with a checkbook.” Patty asks him to do the decent thing and not tell Anna, and whether that really is the decent action to take, Don ends up complying. Back in the house, he says he needs to tell Anna something, but he can only say that he can’t extend his L.A. visit after all and must leave.

In New York, Joan has received a golden box filled with a dozen red roses, which she assumes are from Greg. She discovers they are from Lane, though, as she reads the note, and she storms into his office. ” ‘Darling, I’ve been an ass. Kisses, Lane,’ ” she recites as she throws the box of flowers at him, furious. “I am not your darling and I don’t want your kisses!” She thought American men were bad enough, but not one of them has so consistently made her feel like a “helpless, stupid little girl,” she says, not quite topping her Season Three scene in which she shattered a vase over Greg’s head, but still coming close in awesome points. Lane tells her that yes, he sent her flowers, but he also sent flowers to his wife, Rebecca, who is in London. The note Rebecca received? “Joan, Forgive me. Lane.” Lane’s secretary, Sandy (Bayne Gibby), admits that the messages were switched but blames the florists, not herself. “Sandra,” Joan says, “everyone makes mistakes. But the fact that you are the kind of person that cannot accept blame is egregious.” [pause] “I don’t know what that means,” Sandra says. “It means I can’t believe I hired you,” Joan replies, and quickly, Sandra is fired. Her New Year’s Eve already off to a bad start, Joan waits up all night to celebrate with Greg, who arrives home in the morning in time to celebrate New Year’s on Hawaii time. Joan accidentally cuts her finger while making him food, but instead of taking her to the hospital as she asks, Greg gets out his doctor’s bag and patches her up, telling her jokes and using tricks to calm her that he’s learned from working with patients. Joan finally does cry, upset at how uncertain the couple’s future remains. But Greg, for once taking charge and being the one to comfort, mends her cut with care and says, “I can’t fix anything else, but I can fix this.”

Don has decided to ditch Acapulco and go back to New York and the office on New Year’s Day, where he finds Lane hiding out. Lane offers up a bit of good news to Don, saying that although things have been “precarious” financially, it has still been a magnificent year. Soon, they are breaking out the booze and later, after Don yells at and summons Lane from across the office, they decide to head to the movies. Thus starts an unexpected and entertaining Don-Lane adventure, first with the two still boozing it up at the movies, contemplating how many people were getting hand-jobs in the theater and refusing to be shushed by other patrons during the black and white monster flick. Next is dinner, where Lane admits that he’s felt left out of the American boys’ club at Sterling Cooper and Sterling Cooper Draper Price, and now, after a series of fights, Rebecca has told him she won’t be returning from London to New York. “How did you know when you were done?” Lane asks Don about his divorce. “Wasn’t my decision. And I’ve learned the hard way not to give advice in these situations,” Don replies. “You’re supposed to tell me to get on a plane!” “Is that what you want, or is that what people expect of you?” (Nice echo to previous episode/theme of the whole freaking show.) Lane wants his beef, he says, right before his steak dinner appears, and Don tells him he had planned to meet his lady friend, Candace (the one who slapped him for Thanksgiving), downtown, and asks if she should bring along a friend for Lane. Lane first says no, but then agrees, and soon stands up, holds his steak in front of his crotch and yells, “Look at me! I’ve got a big Texas belt buckle! Yeeee haw!” Drunk. Lane. Is. Amazing.

Next stop is a comedy club as they wait for the girls, and the young comedian on stage quips about Lane and Don probably being gay. When their dates show up, though, the comedian takes it back. “I guess I was wrong. You’re not queers, you’re rich.” The foursome leave for Don’s place and eventually split off, with the friend, Janine, taking a nervous Lane to Don’s bedroom while Don and Candace stay on the couch. After a kiss with Janine, Lane takes off his glasses and kisses her again. The next morning, as Don blearily brews coffee in the kitchen, Lane comes out of the bedroom, asking for water and offering to pay Don for Janine. “I should pay for the girl. How much was she?” Lane asks. “$25,” Don says. “Fascinating. Here’s $30.” And then, “Thank you for the welcome distraction.” Days later when work begins, Lane arrives late to a meeting with the partners and top staff. Joan, at the head of the conference table, says, “All right. Gentlemen, shall we begin 1965?”

Heartbreaking sums up most of “The Good News,” as well as the previous two episodes in the holiday arc that concluded 1964. There were more laughs than usual, too, but now the drama is delving deeper into the characters’ stories. Having watched them for so long, we see how much — or how little — they’ve progressed, and every setback hurts more. Lane, one of the more honest characters, continues to try to do the right thing, only to first be belittled by his former bosses in London before he left for SCDP, and now dismissed by his wife. Joan is stronger than most of the people she’s surrounded by, but she still somehow ends up feeling helpless. Lane’s dig at her being used to charming men and getting her way was tough, but was it completely inaccurate? Her banter about the fried chickens’ breasts and thighs was too cutesy, and too young of her, and she knows it. It’s time for her to be in greater control, and if Greg is shipped out to Vietnam, a lot could be in store for our Joanie. And Don — this season actually has me feeling for him, and I wish for him that he’d stay in L.A. for awhile with Anna. “I know everything about you, and I still love you,” she told him, and I think I understand why. All the characters are all too human, and that’s why we love them. Will Don tell Anna about her cancer? Do you think that’s the last we’ll see of Stephanie? And will Lane ever be happy?

Yes, I’m quite ready for 1965.

Sarah Carlson has a front-row seat to the decline of the newspaper industry and lives in Alabama with her overly excitable Pembroke Welsh Corgi.









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Comments

Great recap, Sarah. Drunk Lane is amazing.

Is it me, or as they move into the 60s, is the lighting getting brighter and a little more orange on the show? It'll be interesting to see how the characters adapt to the new styles.

Posted by: The Great Mango at August 9, 2010 10:01 AM

I loved this episode.

1. The monster movie they watched must have been "Godzilla vs The Thing."

2. Lane didn't go to the spare bedroom. Lane went into Don's bedroom, which is why Don strips the sheets later. When Don's girl wanted to go to the spare bedroom, Don said, "No, let's do it here," on the couch. The spare bedroom has the bunkbeds for Don's kids.

3. I always thought Greg was a creep, but when he was sewing up Joan's finger, he had an amazingly good bedside manner.

4. The concern about going to Vietnam seems a bit weird, after the fact, as nobody in the USA yet knows what a clusterfuck that's going to turn out to be.

5. Drunk Lane was fantastic. I almost choked on my popcorn when he slapped his steak on his crotch, and I wasn't even eating popcorn.

6. Joan's figure just keeps getting more amazing. CH should just buy all of Joan's outfits and wear them in real life.

Posted by: BWeaves at August 9, 2010 10:02 AM

7. Peggy seemed really shoehorned into this episode. I wonder if the actress has it in her contract that she HAS to appear in every episode.

Posted by: BWeaves at August 9, 2010 10:03 AM

I had the weird sense that Joan sliced her finger on purpose. She's always inadvertently emasculating Greg, and I got the feeling that it was her way of trying to will Greg some power in the relationship.

Posted by: The Great Mango at August 9, 2010 10:12 AM

Xenu commands that Peggy is in every episode.

Posted by: Forrest at August 9, 2010 10:21 AM

I was hoping they would go to see The Umbrellas of Cherbourg. It would have been hilarious to see them watching that and making fun of it. Although I was surprised the Don knew immediately who Cathrine Deneuve was since she had only made a handful of small films in France before Cherbourg was wasn't really internationally known until then.

Greg did have a very nice way of dealing with his patient: proof positive he would have been a bad surgeon since they're all cold aloof assholes, but too bad he didn't focus on going into another field of medicine.

Peggy is really grating on me: yes, all ten seconds of her appearance in this episode. She's so desperate for everyone to know she has a boyfriend and so frickin' nosy. What was she doing sticking her head into Lane's office to see what was happening.

I might have started to recover some sympathy for Don this episode, but then he started hitting on a girl five years older than his own daughter and I just hated him again.

Posted by: PaddyDog at August 9, 2010 10:37 AM

Could somebody clarify how old Sally is?

Posted by: Mrs. Julien at August 9, 2010 10:52 AM

Janine didn't take Lane into a spare bedroom, it was Don's bedroom. Don was very particular about not wanting anyone using the kids' room, which kind of stood out for me.

I don't think Joan sliced her finger on purpose, because she kept saying, "let's go to the hospital, you don't have to do this," etc. It was almost like she didn't want to see him in action? Or maybe just didn't trust him enough.

Posted by: shell at August 9, 2010 10:57 AM

Greg was a creep

Greg is in some ways a victim of the system, too. What makes him a creep is how he takes out his insecurities and failures on Joan.

Posted by: Matthew at August 9, 2010 11:07 AM

Good call on the spare/kids bedroom -- now that exchange makes sense.

Greg was suddenly likable. Meaning he's as good as dead....

Did I hear a Wilhelm Scream during the Godzilla movie???

Posted by: sansho1 at August 9, 2010 11:15 AM

Last night's episode was amazing. Don keeps tip-toeing the line of "pathetic" to "potential." Hitting on the college girl, "pathetic." Not letting the hookers use his kids' room, "potential." Every time he annoys me, there's this glimmer of him wanting to do right by the people he cares about. I just don't think he can even begin to comprehend what doing right always entails. He loves Anna, but can't protect her. He loves his kids, but can't be with them. So he sort of stills himself and let's things happen while he watches. Also, this is a true testament to Hamm's talent as a lesser actor would have left me seething a while ago, but I always end up forgiving the Drape.

Greg was charming with the stitches. It left me confused.

Drunk Lane was perfect. I want him at all my parties with his steak belt. Awesome.

Posted by: Kayanne at August 9, 2010 11:22 AM

I'm not sure Don really loves Anna. He believes he loves her because she is an enabler for his behavior. She never judges him or calls him on any of his crap. She's the storybook adoring mother/big sister figure he has always wanted, but he would sour on her as well if she ever criticized him. The thing I find fascinating about Don is that he is I believe a true psychopath: incredibly charming and well-functioning in one area, but incapable of taking any kind of constructive criticism or negativity. I really believe he is capable of murder if it suited his purpose and he believed he would get away with it.

Posted by: PaddyDog at August 9, 2010 11:29 AM

Paddy, you may be onto something with the enabler thing, but I'd argue that it has to do with the fact that Anna doesn't care about what he's done in the past and that she knows (mostly) everything about him. Of course, he'd probably feel some devotion for anyone else he could be honest about his past with, so while he may not love Anna, per say, he loves what she represents. The relief Don felt when he told Betty the truth was obvious.

And I don't think he's a murderer. Watching the past seasons over again and watching him interact with Sally and Bobby was enlightening. He did not want to hurt Bobby, come hell or high water. And he was genuinely concerned for Sally's fear of baby Gene being the ghost of her grandfather. And the suicide of his brother affected him deeply.

He has a cavalier attitude towards his own life, but I don't know if he'd kill. But I could be very wrong.

Posted by: Kayanne at August 9, 2010 11:49 AM

Kayanne:

I'm not saying he can't be wonderful with his children, but that's a real psychopathic trait: the ability to switch it on and off. I agree with you that he loves what Anna represents: she's his mother, she gave him life as Don Draper. But that's exactly it: he loves what she represents not who she is. I'm not saying the series would take him down the path to murder, but I do believe he would murder if he needed too: his brother's suicide affected him, but he was the author of that suicide, and what might he have done if the brother didn't go the suicide route? The more I see of him this season, I keep thinking Talented Mr. Ripley is coming out more and more.

Posted by: PaddyDog at August 9, 2010 12:00 PM

You know what's going on here right? Handjobs. Drunk Don + Lane = awesome.

Posted by: Snrub at August 9, 2010 12:39 PM

I've been thinking Don was a sociopath and how ironic it was that such a character could be so popular. I looked up psychopath on Wikipedia, downed some grains of salt (from the rim of my margarita glass) and it really does fit the character:

The prototypical psychopath has deficits or deviances in several areas: interpersonal relationships, emotion, and self-control. Psychopaths gain satisfaction through antisocial behavior, and do not experience shame, guilt, or remorse for their actions. Psychopaths lack a sense of guilt or remorse for any harm they may have caused others, instead rationalizing the behavior, blaming someone else, or denying it outright. Psychopaths also lack empathy towards others in general, resulting in tactlessness, insensitivity, and contemptuousness. All of this belies their tendency to make a good, likable first impression. Psychopaths have a superficial charm about them, enabled by a willingness to say anything without concern for accuracy or truth. Shallow affect also describes the psychopath's tendency for genuine emotion to be short lived and egocentric with an overall cold demeanor. Their behavior is impulsive and irresponsible, often failing to keep a job or defaulting on debts. Psychopaths also have a markedly distorted sense of the potential consequences of their actions, not only for others, but also for themselves. They do not deeply recognize the risk of being caught, disbelieved or injured as a result of their behaviour.

It certainly sounds like Don Draper and since he is a product of fiction, how better to define him than using Wikipedia.

I took umbrage when Don said that Betty had wanted nothing to do with him after she learned the truth of his identity. It was just the last straw and I think she would have accepted it if not for the incessant lying, manipulation, belittling,extra-marital shagging and that he waited a decade to fill her in.

Posted by: Mrs. Julien at August 9, 2010 12:45 PM

I agree that Don is a manipulator, but I'd argue it's less from psychopathic tendencies and more used as a survival technique. He likes being around people that allow him to be himself and not affect a charade (Anna, prime example, Connie to a lesser extent, there was some illusion there, but he sought to be the man he aspired to when Connie was his father figure). He so aches for anchors that allow him to eschew his fronts (how many of his mistresses has he offered to run away with?) that it seems like he's even exhausted by his masks. Even his hooker lady friend knows a lot about him (she knows his vacations, his fetishes, she discusses her family,e tc.) and he's at ease around her. Don even likes sharing his swinging bachelor lifestyle with Lane (a man he's never really shared a kinship with and certainly doesn't have to).

His character for me is ambiguous, but not maliciously so. The obvious theme (Is that what you want, or is that what people expect of you?) this season has been stated so many times I think we'll be getting a more concrete answer on Don's true nature coming up. Regardless of how he turns out, I think I'd accept either character step because the creators have done such an incredible job shaping this ridiculously complex character.

By the way, I'm enjoying the back and forth and will continue to play devil's advocate until you get bored of it and tell me to die in a fire. This is a fun discussion, thanks.

Posted by: Kayanne at August 9, 2010 12:45 PM

Kayanne:

If you die in a fire, then I'm jumping in with you. This is what these forums is about isn't it? Lobbying our perspectives back and forth and getting some new insight because of it. If just stayed at the "Don is handsome" level, it would be boring. I'll admit I may be a little prejudiced toward the psychopath argument because I just don't like Don Draper. I had a lot of sympathy for him in Season 1, but Season 2 drained that with little things like his cold contempt for Sal when he fired him and the way he dismissed Peggy's request for a pay raise because he wasn't having a good day (and I don't even like Peggy very much). I think the show has done a fantastic job of starting off with this character who was so unflappably charming and then very gradually like a slow virus we see the rot emerging in his character. I loved the Dorian Gray comment in the first ep of this season because it's so true that we had Dorian in the first season and now we're starting to see the portrait revealing all of the visible scars of his behavior.

Posted by: PaddyDog at August 9, 2010 12:55 PM

Gah! I loved the Dorian Grey comment, I thought it was a perfect way to sum up Don. I'm a little biased, too, because I tend to always grow to love well-constructed characters. If I met Don Draper in real life, I'd probably despise him, but because we're seeing all of his shades and nuances (deftly written and portrayed), I feel like I owe him the benefit of the doubt.

He does display some psychopathic tendencies, occasionally. But it's not consistent. He may be a total jerk to his child of a wife, but there's compassion and love in his eyes when he's with his kids. Sure he disappeared in LA, but he's damn fine at his job.

Don Draper is not what I would call a "good guy," but he's complex and I think he's a little more empathetic than he's often given credit for. Although I totally don't blame you for hating him. He's not easy to love.

Posted by: Kayanne at August 9, 2010 1:07 PM

"Shallow affect also describes the psychopath's tendency for genuine emotion to be short lived and egocentric with an overall cold demeanor."

Thank you Mrs. Julien. You have just handed us Don draper in a single sentence.

By the way, Mr. PaddyDog and I have a standing Sunday night argument over this because he loves Don Draper, not quite as much as he loves Roger Sterling, but still a lot and he refuses to see him as a psychopath. His co-workers even bought him a case of the same rye that they used to drink at SterlingCooper for Christmas last year.

Anyone know what brand of whisky Lane had received from his father? I write "whisky" since I assume it was a Scotch.

Posted by: PaddyDog at August 9, 2010 1:12 PM

Mr. Julien and I watch the show with anticipatory frustration. Granted I fell asleep last night and missed the Boys' Night Out, but we always watch the show and wonder at the tremendous ennui everyone seems to feel and how it is that no one seems to experience any joy in this world.

Really, I watch the show to see Roger Sterling (Hellooooo Slattery) and because I love Joan's character so much. She is simultaneously powerless and powerful in her world. Trapped between generations, she's trying to make a place for herself as she is able and as she is allowed to. So capable, but dismissed and, I think, quietly enraged, but taking her opportunities as she can; she recognizes that her appearance gives her some kind of edge, but still matches it up with an intelligence/competence that seems to inevitably overwhelm anyone who does not have a pre-determined higher position in the hierarchy. (Her husband is intimidated and she tries to appease him. Roger has all the power and her gifts/abilities benefit him therefore he can be "generous", but his idea of a generosity is to tell her she's the best lay he ever had.) I LOVE Joan.

Posted by: Mrs. Julien at August 9, 2010 1:32 PM

Good catch on the Don's bedroom/spare bedroom part, guys. I've corrected it. - S

Posted by: Sarah Carlson at August 9, 2010 1:40 PM

But isn't melancholy a genuine emotion? And that's seemed to linger with Don for a while. And I'd argue that Don was happy after his baptism in the Pacific. He came back rejuvenated and ready to make a change. He was frustrated with Betty's reticence to accept a new Don and his resolve faded. I'm not saying that it's Betty's fault he started to revert back to his pissy attitude, because Don's change could have continued, but I'd argue that his emotions aren't always short-lived.

Part of the issue comes with the fact that the timelines expressed through the episodes are not consistent. Some episodes encompass an afternoon and others go over a whole week and there's a full month from one episode to the next. Don's emotions feel like the wane more often than not because we see snippets of his life. We're not privy to his day to day all the time (we even missed a whole year). The portrayal of Don is faithful, to be sure, but our audience perspective has a lot of limited information.

Posted by: Kayanne at August 9, 2010 1:41 PM

Agreed on Joan. I felt so bad for her when she burst into tears last night because she's always the one holding it together and the fact that she just couldn't do it anymore, even for just a few minutes, was heartbreaking. She spends her days looking after all these manchildren at the office and then comes home to another manchild. And the sad thing is that she really seems to want a real child instead of these ridiculous adult babies, but her circumstances won't allow it.

Posted by: PaddyDog at August 9, 2010 1:43 PM

"Psychopath" seems like a stretch. He's not violent, he doesn't appear to have control issues. He can be ruthless, but that's true of every executive. Look at Roger or Cooper. He can be a bastard, but he did humble himself to ask Pete and Peggy to join the firm. He refuses to hit his kids under any circumstances.

He's not a bigot. He's kind of a sexist, but he gave Peggy her career. He can be selfish, short-sighted and petty, that's true of everyone. He's not exactly a prince among men, but that's a far cry from suggesting he's going to start strangling hookers in a Turnpike rest stop.

Posted by: Tracer Bullet at August 9, 2010 1:55 PM

Mrs. Julien & Paddy, that's why I love Joan. She was almost free from it when she was not going to have to work at Sterling Cooper and then the doc's dumb fingers got in the way.

Posted by: Kayanne at August 9, 2010 1:55 PM

Woo-hoo! Tracer's on my side. I was starting to feel like Sisyphus.

Posted by: Kayanne at August 9, 2010 2:14 PM

You know a person can be a psychopath without ever actually taking it to the extreme of being violent.
Of course he has control issues: he is attracted to strong women and then dumps them whenever they try to dictate some of the terms of the relationship. And he couldn't bare it when he was forced to sign an employment contract: guy has major control issues.
And he is a bigot: remember his horrible comment when he was firing Sal about "you people" and in the first season when Roger asked him if there were any Jews working at the firm he said "not on my watch".
He asked Pete and Peggy to join only because that furthered his own ends.
And remember how he grabbed and shook Betty, calling her a whore when he found out about her relationship with Francis? He didn't touch her when she found out about his real identity but when he thought she's given attention to another man, he was ready to hurt her physically.

Posted by: PaddyDog at August 9, 2010 2:17 PM

Yeah, uh, LOTS of men would likely get violent upon finding out his wife had been fucking around. That's not right, but it's not special. It's hardly evidence of some kind of deeper character flaw.

You're right about him being a homophobe, which again, isn't right but isn't special especially for that time. I was thinking in terms of race. The Jews thing was a joke. Roger had the next line: "Very funny."

If you're hellbound to view him as a psychopath, then bringing Pete and Peggy along was a purely selfish act. But it's not like he couldn't have found replacements if he didn't want them.

His first girlfriend (the artist whose name escapes me) fell in love with another man. Rachel Menken dumped him AFTER he asked her to run away to California. He stopped seeing Miss Farrell after he promised Betty he'd stop cheating. It would probably be complicated to continue seeing Bobbi Barrett after he'd punched out her husband.

Posted by: Tracer Bullet at August 9, 2010 2:27 PM

Mrs. Julien and Paddy Dog, I hear you on the Joan love. I love her strength and ability to hold it together, as evidenced by how amazing she was when Lane's replacement (I forget his name) got his foot run over by a John Deere at the office party. It was nice to see her finally cry last night as she realized that some things were out of her control.

I really do empathize with her though, because I am the office manager of a branch of a large company and, I too work with a bunch or man-children. The more I give them, the more they need. From making doctor's appointments and remembering spouses birthdays, to listening to their tales of self-inflicted woe when they whine about how crazy the ex-wife is.

It seems to me that men haven't fundamentally changed all that much since 1965. They want you to be authoritative and to take care of them, but they resent you for it.

And as for Lane ... hysterical.

Posted by: Carolina Girl at August 9, 2010 2:38 PM

But even though he fired Sal, his initial response was quiet acceptance. He saw Sal with his pants down and didn't make a big deal out of it, which for Sal at the time was huge. Unfortunately, Sal picked the wrong client to fuck with. That bastard from Lucky Strike has everyone by the balls and Sal was a casualty.

Is it right for Don to dismiss/fire/yell at people because he's had a bad day? No. Do bosses do this all the time? Yes. Don is in a position of power where he is working to brand his company through himself. The product is him and he must make sure that, like everything else in his life, it's well-guarded.

And Don's not great at letting over control, but it's not impossible for him to do. He let Betty name the baby Gene. He let Peggy sass him after the ham incident. He signed the contract when he realized he had to for the greater good.

I feel like labeling him as a psychopath is too neat of a diagnosis for Don Draper. It's easy to call him that because he's loathsome a lot of times, but he's not as much of a terror as someone psychotic would be (violent or no). He's so multi-faceted that it's hard to simply chalk him up to psychopathic. There's more to Don Draper than a devil in a Sunday suit.

Posted by: Kayanne at August 9, 2010 2:42 PM

If Don ever does murder someone, I hope like hell it's Pete Campbell.

Posted by: Carolina Girl at August 9, 2010 2:49 PM

Kayanne and Tyler:

You're both only convincing me further because while you defend a lot of Don's behavior as just what high-powered execs do, I actually have believed for at least ten years now that the the typical corporate exec personality is that of a psychopath. I don't mean the Bill Gateses of this world who build something, but the typical MBA-type who works his way politically and gets into a very senior position. I, unfortunately, have to work with a lot of these people and they display multiple psychopathic tendencies: narcissim, rationalizing of behavior, lack of remorse, tendency to charm one minute and treat people like shit the next. Again, I'm not saying any of them would ever murder someone: that's the far end of the spectrum, but they are on the spectrum.

Posted by: PaddyDog at August 9, 2010 3:00 PM

Carolina Girl, that made me snort. I almost spit out my water, thank you. Also, way to represent Carolina (hopefully the state not the team, my ACC rivalries run strong, but not really).

Paddy, some people would call me a bitch. They see me as strong-willed, opinionated and a lacking the ability to put up with bullshit. And that's ok, because that's how they perceive someone as a bitch. I can be perceived as abrasive, but at the end of the day I know where my heart and my head are at and I don't think that (deep down) I'm a total bitch (maybe a little bit). Don's poor choices don't necessarily indicate an over-arching characterization, while the signals my hit to an overall issue, they can be rationalized in another way (i.e. not psychotic).

Posted by: Kayanne at August 9, 2010 3:08 PM

Kayanne:

The traits you've just described are not the traits of a bitch. They're just the traits of a woman who knows her own mind and defends her position. That's admirable in my mind.
A bitch is a petty woman who is nasty for the reward of watching the victim of her nastiness squirm, and who mistakes nasty for clever.

But a psychopath is a psychopath.

Posted by: PaddyDog at August 9, 2010 3:29 PM

And Betty is totally a bitch.

Posted by: Mrs. Julien at August 9, 2010 3:33 PM

Carolina Girl:

This is my murder list for Don Draper when he finally loses it:

1. Duck. Any guy who kicks a dog out onto the Manhattan Streets deserves what's coming to him.

2. Conrad Hilton (guy was a real asshole to Don, and if killed in the 1960s, there would be no progeny and grand progeny so a win for the world I think).

3. Lucky Strikes guy. If anyone wonders why, we're clearly not watching the same show.

4. Jane Sterling. She hasn't done anything really wrong, but I just hate girls like her.

5. Roger Sterling's daughter. I hate girls like her too.

Posted by: PaddyDog at August 9, 2010 3:36 PM

"And Betty is totally a bitch"

Amen Mrs. Julien. Especially to her own daughter.

Posted by: PaddyDog at August 9, 2010 3:46 PM

Tracer. Feel free to curse my name but, please, get it right.

Where is the evidence that Draper is a prick just for the sake of being a prick? Or that he's ultimately insincere? I disagree with you that he doesn't feel remorse -- can paying a woman to slap you in the face during sex be about anything but shame? He may well be a bastard. His primary state of being might be as a bastard. But that's because he doesn't have it in him (at least not yet) to be the man he wants to be.

Let's use last week's exchange with his secretary. Admittedly, drunken sex with a woman 15 years younger does not speak highly of him (or maybe it does). But the dick-swinging jerk you want him to be would have either fired her outright or tossed her the money and said, "And there's more where that came from if you play your cards right, missy." Then he would have pointed to his dick and said, "Well???"

Instead we got an awkward, uncomfortable exchange that he obviously messed up. But while you might want to argue that he was toying with her for kicks, or that he just didn't give a shit what she thought about it, I see that as evidence that he didn't know how to handle the situation and made possibly the worst of all choices available to him. He fucked up and he knew it, but sensitivity training was a long way off at that point.

Posted by: Tracer Bullet at August 9, 2010 3:46 PM

But I'm not claiming he's a dick-swinging jerk. That would just make him ordinary. I'm saying he's a psychopath, something completely different.

Will it make you feel better if I called myself Patty?

Posted by: PaddyDog at August 9, 2010 3:50 PM

It would, actually.

I'm afraid that I'm confused. I don't understand what you mean by "psychopath" in this context. If you're saying that he is incapable of genuine emotion, I just don't see it. If you're saying he's motivated largely by self-interest, well, duh. So are 95% of people on Earth. Clearly, the standard definition as someone who doesn't know right from wrong doesn't apply. I think you might mean borderline personality disorder (Draper is incapable of feeling empathy and views people as objects), but I don't think that's accurate either. In any event, I think reducing him to a syndrome rather cheapens the character.

Posted by: Tracer Bullet at August 9, 2010 4:12 PM

Sorry, but stitching up a finger with a good beside manner doesn't really make up for the rape.

Posted by: jzhz at August 9, 2010 4:27 PM


I don't mean he's incapable of genuine emotion. I mean based on the list of traits that psychiatry deem to be psychopathic, he hits a lot of them, to wit:

* Glibness/superficial charm CHECK
* Grandiose sense of self-worth CHECK
* Need for stimulation, with a proneness to boredom CHECK
* Pathological lying CHECK
* Conning and manipulating behaviors CHECK
* No sense of remorse or guilt
* A very shallow emotional affect - they display emotions they don't really feel
* A lack of empathy for others
* They are parasitic - they live off of others
* They are impulsive, and show poor control over their behaviors CHECK
* They tend to be promiscuous CHECK
* Their behavior problems start early in life CHECK
* They cannot form long-term plans that are realistic CHECK
* They are impulsive, and irresponsible
* They do not accept responsibility for their actions - another caused it
* Marital relationships are short, and many CHECK

Granted, he doesn't hit them all, but I would say he hits a lot of them. Also, this isn't an isolated type of thing: the APA says about 1-4% of the population is sociopathic, but most are able to control it within the limits of social tolerability.

This isn't the same as Antisocial Personality Disorder, which as you point out, is characterized by an inability to really see anyone but oneself as a real person.

Love, PattyDog.

Posted by: PaddyDog at August 9, 2010 4:31 PM

THANK YOu jzhz!

Posted by: Mrs. Julien at August 9, 2010 4:40 PM

I'd argue against his charm, Roger is charming. Draper is not particularly charming. And I'd vehemently argue against a grandiose sense of self-worth. Maybe in his professional life (where it would be largely justified) but certainly not in his personal life. Yeah, he's a con man. He works in advertising. And we haven't seen enough of his childhood to draw any firm conclusions.

I just don't see him fitting enough of these categories, or with enough pathology, to call him a psychopath. He could probably use a fair amount of therapy, but that label doesn't ring for me.

Posted by: Tracer Bullet at August 9, 2010 4:41 PM

Psssh, the Drape's charm is hardly superficial.

Re: The rape. Yea, no, it doesn't. Not even a little bit, but it does for Joanie. Joanie fell in love with the man who pointed out bird's nests and she was willing to put up with his bullshit, because she wanted to get married. She was looking for a picture of her dream life and didn't quite mind that the frame was a little busted. Unfortunately, (and I mentioned this in the Dirty Talk thread last week since someone brought it up) Joan thinks that the rape is "just" a little bullshit to put up with. Yes, we don't agree with Doc and think he did a terrible thing, but this show always tries to reconcile a character's actions with something. People may have been confused as to why Joan would tolerate it, but she'd very used to taking good with the bad. She grows her strength through her vulnerability and taking her from just a supporting character to a fully formed person in the Mad Men universe.

Posted by: Kayanne at August 9, 2010 4:44 PM

Sorry, but stitching up a finger with a good beside manner doesn't really make up for the rape.

In the event this was directed at my earlier comment, allow me to clarify. Without an attempt to at least partially redeem the character, his impending death would leave no mark on us. Which would have led me to believe he might not die.

But giving him a moment of redemption as a character gets me back on board that he is probably toast, as we might see at least a bit what Joan would be grieving for. There is now a more compelling reason to kill him, story structure-wise. And that's all for the best, because the rapist should die.

Posted by: sansho1 at August 9, 2010 7:19 PM

@Kayanne and sansho1 - good point(s). During the rape, you could see the horror on her face, then the realization that she was powerless, and then stony acceptance. I think it was something far more painful and base than simple tolerance that got her through and made it so she could maintain her sense of self and stay with that ass. I think she pushed those feelings somewhere to keep herself from going a little bit crazy, because smart women had limited options and were powerless. That's what rape is all about, and why he did it.

In any case, your and sansho1's point about the finger-mending being a moment of redemption is a good one, story-wise. I just didn't want the fact that he raped her to go unmentioned.

Posted by: jzhz at August 9, 2010 8:22 PM

@Mrs Julien - PS - totally didn't mean to repeat your earlier comment, I just completely agreed with your assessment and unknowingly wrote something similar!

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Posted by: ashly at August 9, 2010 9:04 PM

I thought this episode was terrible: boring and hamfisted. And I love the show. A wise-beyond-her-years college student? Who Don propositions? Greg stitching up Joan as a metaphor? "Are we ready for 1965?" I mean, come on.

Posted by: Samantha T at August 10, 2010 7:55 AM

PaddyDog,
I think you're right about Don Draper and corporate execs in general.

I found these statistics relevant in regard to the arguement:
The average Psychopathy Checklist score for incarcerated male offenders in North America is 23.3, out of a possible 40. A score of around 20 qualifies as "moderately psychopathic." Only 1% of the general population would score 30 or above, which is "highly psychopathic," the range for the most violent offenders.

The study I quoted went on to say that they put a few big name CEOs through the test and they all scored "moderately psychopathic".

I think the confusion lies in the fact that most people don't realize there is such a thing as "corporate psychopathy."

Posted by: Uda at August 10, 2010 11:07 AM

Uda and Paddydog: I think what bothers me the most about corporate psychopathy is that these people actually think the rest of us don't pick up on it.

Posted by: samantha t at August 10, 2010 12:05 PM

Uda and samantha t:

Thank you. That is exactly what I have been saying. People hear (or read) the word "psychopath" and they immediately think Hannibal Lechter whereas it's actually a much more insidious thing and rampant in the upper echelons of corporations.

Posted by: PaddyDog at August 10, 2010 2:23 PM

@sansho1

Yes, you DID hear a Wilhelm Scream! The last sound before the cut away from the movie scene. Nice catch! I'm a post production sound designer, and I nearly blew milk out of my nose when I heard it.

Posted by: Peter S at August 12, 2010 2:57 PM

I believe the episode info should be Season 4 Episode 3.

Posted by: Arib at August 12, 2010 5:17 PM