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Our Bodies Get Bigger, But Our Hearts Get Torn Up

By Jen | Posted Under Book Reviews | Comments (16)



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Throughout reading High Fidelity, I realized I’m a lot like Rob Fleming aside from a few glaring differences (I’m a 22 year old woman, not a 35 year old man). He likes lists (he starts off the novel by naming the top 5 girls who broke his heart). He’s pretty good at being an asshole when he wants to be. He’s a music elitist. He enjoys mocking people. He’s in a bit of a rut. Check, check, check, check and check.

This is somewhat worrying to me, because I don’t want to be like Rob. He’s a great character, an interesting fictional person to read about in a book. But to be the female version of him? No, thanks. If I wanted to model myself after a certain character, I don’t think Rob Fleming would be at the top of my list. (Now I’m thinking about who I’d want to be … Elizabeth Bennett, Hermione Granger, Elinor Dashwood… that’s all I got. Apparently the characters of books I read have unhappy endings.)

The book revolves around his break up with Laura, a woman he’s been seeing for a couple of years. They break up because they seem to have grown out of each other, they want different things, but there’s a lot of backstory to it, too. Rob owns a small music store and has two employees, Dick and Barry, who end up being his close friends. There’s a lot that goes on in the novel, as well as a good amount of past incidents to help us understand Rob and Laura’s relationship. But the plot is pretty simple: we’re watching Rob grow up. Even though he’s 35 years old, he’s got a lot of growing up to do. It’s not just about committing to his relationship with Laura, but also acting like an adult and getting out of his rut. His music business is failing, but he doesn’t do anything about it.

There’s a thought raised by Rob in the early goings of the book when he considers the relationship between his love life and music — what came first, the music or the misery? It was pretty clear I would adore this book upon reading that line. I started thinking to myself, when did I truly start appreciating music about relationships and unrequited love and all that sad crap? Does he mean misery as a whole? Or misery regarding a certain event? What was the event that made me disregard happy pop music and turn to Fiona Apple, Bon Iver, etc etc.? You can argue it a part of growing up, but why is it that some people don’t need listen to the sad stuff? What do my musical tastes say about my life?

I feel like I can’t properly put this book into words because it’s too personal. I can’t really describe my feelings for it without making this my own therapy session. So I’ll end my review with this: The book had good timing and I needed to read it at this time in my life.

This review is part of the Cannonball Read. For more of Jen’s reviews, check out her blog, I Can Read You, You’re My Favorite Book.









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Comments

I walked out of the movie completely identifying with Rob so I know what you mean. I would like to think I have somewhat grown since then, at least enough to read the book, but recent events make me wonder. It's been on the list for quite a while, though.

Good review.

Posted by: TylerDFC at March 1, 2010 8:22 AM

Rob and Laura? Never noticed that before. There's a rather famous TV couple of the same names. Coinky-dink?

Posted by: , at March 1, 2010 8:48 AM

The book had good timing and I needed to read it at this time in my life.

I had a stupid breakup followed by a really messy fallout a bit later. This book came out that winter whilst I was in the throes of "I completely suck, but is there a way out of this?" Unfortunately there was one more such mess to follow, but at least I had Rob to still look to. I've loaned Hornby books to women who get really mad halfway through them. "Keep going" I reassure them. Rob's enlightenment mirrored my own as I realized through the years to follow what I don't want and don't need. Spent a lot of time single because there's a whole hell of a lot of what you don't want and need as you're going toward 30 and beyond and I mostly ignored them. Now I'm not single, but I'm still learning, and trying to stay on the wise side of things while I figure out the tricky grownup relationships I've mostly just read about. I've got some catching up to do.

Posted by: Jay at March 1, 2010 9:46 AM

I just watched the movie for the first time last week (I read the book too for CBR) and I think this might be one of the instances where I think the movie is actually better than the book. Shocking huh? Well, I think with the book, I saw Rob and i understood all the back story.... but I still thought he was a massive asshole and wasn't sure if I was completely won over by him. But in the movie, I thought John Cusack did a good job of balancing the asshole parts of Rob and letting the non-asshole parts win out, and I really liked Rob in the movie.

Posted by: dene at March 1, 2010 10:14 AM

Jay, awwwww! I love these unguarded moments.

Posted by: replica at March 1, 2010 12:23 PM

This book and Mysteries of Pittsburgh by Michael Chabon regularly duke it out fo my all time favorite book. Love it.

Posted by: Sara at March 1, 2010 1:20 PM

Great book. It was my bible in the wake of getting dumped back in the day.

I do think the movie is almost as good as the book, but there's a lot of material that didn't make it into the movie that is wonderful, particularly as it relates to Rob's transformation. I think the chapter in which he and Laura hang out with Laura's friends and Rob is compelled to reverse his mantra of "It's not what you're like - it's what you like" is particularly important.

Check out more of Hornby if you're so inspired. I always find his fiction entertaining and truthful.

Posted by: DarthCorleone at March 1, 2010 3:08 PM

liked the review, I'm actually re-reading this book right now so very timely. Quick question - how do Hermione Granger and Elizabeth Bennett have unhappy endings? Is that a typo? Don't want to spoil it for anyone, but both Pride and Prejudice and the HP series end pretty well for both of them...

Posted by: J at March 1, 2010 3:24 PM

I'm still glad, to this day, that I found, and read, this book. Like you, it got me through some tough times, that I created for myself and that were created for, and with, me. It feels deeply personal in a way that's hard to describe. It goes far beyond relatable, and yet (depending upon the day and my mood) so foreign, as well.

Posted by: JapJay at March 1, 2010 5:08 PM

I give this book as a birthday.holiday present to any guy in my life who is about to hit 30 and hasn't read it yet. And to girl friends who are going through breakups and at some point utter "I just don't get it!"

This book is one of my all-time favourites. It makes sense of so many of the baffling questions about, well, everything, which is probably what makes it so hilarious as well; that the answers to so much of what bugs us could be so darn simple.

Posted by: kiyo-chan at March 1, 2010 5:37 PM

J, I meant that Hermione, Elinor and Elizabeth have happy endings so I wouldn't mind living their lives.

Too many characters in the books I read have tragic endings. For instance, I wouldn't want to be Cecilia from Atonement.

Posted by: Jen at March 1, 2010 6:32 PM


Hermione! Hermione during the Harry Potter years, or Hermione scantily clad on the cover of magazines????
I'm rooting for the latter.
Yes, her name is Hermione in real life. i dont care.

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