With age comes either wisdom or the loss of f*cks to give, enabling a lot of people to let go and be as happy as they can be. Sometimes that effortless ability to let things roll off of your back comes naturally and other times someone else has to lay down the knowledge needed to see the light.
Reddit u/peeledraspberry wanted that sweet, sweet information to kick them into a better place. So, people who are 40+ and happy with their life, what is your advice to people in their 20s?
u/GWS1121 This! Relax and don’t get overly angry
While others talk about material things or experiences the real lesson is to accept that things won’t always go the way you want them to and that’s ok.
Didn’t marry your perfect spouse? That person doesn’t exist - align expectations to reality and appreciate those who love you for who they are. Or find new people
Didn’t buy the perfect car? Oh, well, it still gets you where you’re going. Define your criteria for the next one and work towards it
Didn’t get the perfect house? Probably not. But it’s yours and you can fix it
Didn’t get that promotion? Don’t be so sure it would have worked out the way you think it would have.
Vacation wasn’t perfect? Are you sure about that, or were your expectations too high?
Point is, relax, enjoy the ride, work to your goals but remember none of it matters if you can’t enjoy it along the way.
u/Denaris21 I am 40 years old and I have three pieces of advice for anyone in their 20’s
1. Accept that perfection doesn’t exist. Your relationships will have problems, your car will break down, someone else will anyways have a better phone, a newer car, or a bigger house than you, no matter where on the social ladder you stand. Constantly chasing perfection will keep you permanently stressed. That doesn’t mean you should not try to better your life, just know that if you expect perfection you will never be statisfied.
2. Pay attention to your diet and health. I have been working out at least 4 times per week since my mid 20’s. I am fitter, healthier and look younger than almost everyone else my age
3. Don’t stop doing the things you love. Even though I have a wife, kids, job etc. I still make time to play video games, draw, write stories, read comics, play basketball, listen to music, etc. There is no reason to become a miserable old bastard!
u/NoiseBarn I’m 40. This is my input.
Everyone is focused on themselves to care too much about their opinion of you. So fuck what they think.
Social media is only an illusion.
Zero debt is an amazing feeling. Think twice before dropping that down payment on that fully loaded 2020 dream mobile that offers nothing but looks and depreciates value quickly.
Falling out of love is perhaps more powerful than falling in love.
Use up ALL of your vacation time / sick time at work.
Don’t lose sight of the hobbies you enjoyed as a child. They will help you live as you grow older.
Family is not necessarily blood, but instead who you would bleed for.
There are just as much benefits to being a night owl as there are to being an early bird.
Forgive yourself first before forgiving others.
Do not be a doormat in submission, but hold the door open in kindness.
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