To recap: on August 31st, news broke that Lindsay Hubbard and Carl Radke, stars of Bravo’s Summer House, called off their impending nuptials. Then, late last week, People obtained a letter Radke had written to his friends and family, explaining the split and apologizing for any sunk wedding costs. Around that same time, both of them wiped each other from their social media profiles. Radke’s letter alleged that his ex-fiancée was “devastated.”
Last night, Hubbard broke her silence. Get out your highlighters because we’re doing a close reading.
“The last 2 weeks have been the most heartbreaking and emotional weeks of my life. My entire life and future was ripped out from underneath me and I’ve had a hard time making sense of it all—with no answers or closure on why.” Oof. Every woman who has the misfortune of dating men understands this feeling: you’re with a guy, you’re ignoring the red flags and thinking everything’s hunky-dory; then he wakes up one morning and says he doesn’t love you anymore, packs up his boxers and rides away into the mist. He offers no explanation beyond vague statements about “finding himself” and how you “deserve better,” which the girlfriends on the group chat will scoff at knowingly.
“My trust has been betrayed, and coming to terms with that has been difficult for me.” Yeah, because he was probably reassuring you constantly. Maybe at some point you had doubts, or your intuition was telling you something wasn’t quite right, but he bent over backward to appease your worries, making you breakfast in bed and buying you little turtle figurines because he “saw them in the store and thought of you because you’ve always said you want to swim with the sea turtles.” In other words, he overcompensated so much that when he was the one to end things, it felt like Opposite Day.
“This was not my decision, and I do not agree with quitting a relationship (at this level) without trying everything possible first.” Ah, yes. The quitting argument. Quitters never win, as they say. But, this is telling, because at some point we all have to learn that anybody can break up with anybody at any time for any reason if the spirit moves them to do so. You both probably did “try everything,” he just didn’t want to be in a relationship with you anymore. The choice was between marrying you or suffering through the humiliation and scorn of calling off the wedding, and he chose the latter. That really, really smarts; I get it. But when someone doesn’t want to be with you anymore, there is simply nothing to be done. Such is life, I’m afraid.
Hubbard turned off comments on the post, and Radke has yet to make a public statement beyond the People letter. Their castmates have alluded to the fact that we will see the dissolution of the relationship in the next season of Summer House.
In the meantime, Linds, take it from scorned women everywhere: this is about to be your best single era yet.