It’s amazing what I learn from television and movies about what my relationships have supposedly missed. Seven year itch? No idea until the movies told me. I Give It a Year is premised on the supposedly common sensical logic that the hardest year of a marriage is the first one. Except for the seventh one. Or maybe that’s second place.
You know what Einstein said about common sense while doing that physics thing as a side job? He said that it’s “the collection of prejudices acquired by age eighteen.” Smart dude.
One problem with common sense is that people start expecting things to happen because they know that they’re supposed to. Is there good rationale for why the first year of marriage might be the hardest? Sure. But it’s the behavior of individuals that determines how difficult that year is, behavior which is driven by the beliefs, attitudes, and preconceptions of the participants in the marriage. So if the spouses think the first year will be hard, they’ve just massively increased the chances that it will be. Common wisdom becomes a shared shackle.
Here’s the trailer.
Ok, this looks much better than my rant suggested that it might. But I still cherish my hate.