When I first heard there was a TV show called, My Husband’s Not Gay, I chuckled imagining a whip-smart satire about oblivious idiots that ignore science and insist people decide their sexual orientation. Then I saw it was on TLC—A.K.A. The Learning Channel that brought us 19 Kids and Counting, Breaking Amish and Long Island Medium. Oh boy.
As you may guessed, TLC’s My Husband’s Not Gay is a “reality show” that focuses on four gay Mormon men in Salty Lake City, all of whom insist they are not gay anymore because they married women. Basically, they turn it off.
As you might expect, the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation isn’t having this. In a statement to THR, GLAAD president and CEO Sarah Kate Ellis said:
“This show is downright irresponsible. No one can change who they love, and, more importantly, no one should have to. By investing in this dangerous programming, TLC is putting countless young LGBT people in harm’s way.”
TLC is defending the series by basically saying, ‘We’re the network that brought you Sex Sent Me To The ER. No one should take our shit seriously.’ (I’m paraphrasing a bit. You can read their full bullshit response at THR.)
My Husband’s Not Gay is set to premiere January 10th. But Josh Sanders, a gay Christian and former victim of “pray away the gay” therapy, has started a Change.Org petition in hopes of stopping it. He declares, “TLC is presenting [the subjects’] lives as entertainment, and sending the dangerous message that being gay is something that can and ought to be changed.”
Get a glimpse of My Husband’s Not Gay in the infuriating trailer below:
What’s that? It’s too early to rage watch this? Okay. How about I share its most cringe-worthy quotes below for your convenience?
“I’m attracted to my wife. For sure.” (Yeah. Totally buying that.)
“Oh, I’m interested in men. I’m just not interested in men.” (Emphasis his, and totally perplexing.)
“I want to marry a girl, but I don’t know how to work out these feelings.” (Spoilers: with a dude. That’s who you work them out with. Not a woman you will never desire as she deserves.)
“I like to say I’ve chosen an alternative to an alternative lifestyle.”
Snark aside, I have sympathy for these men. Their faith is clearly a huge part of their identity. And their faith refuses to acknowledge another major aspect of their identity as anything other than abomination. Their story is one worth exploring. But from the look of the ad above, TLC is presenting their struggles as another “well who’d have thunk it” narrative with no depth aimed solely at looky-loos. No one needs that.
And now a sermon from the book of Ru Paul: