If any of us ever have the great misfortune of dealing with the very public suicide of a loved one, let’s only hope we deal with it with half the grace that Zelda Williams has. She would have every right to be a mess privately, but her public statements have been surprisingly mature, touching and, at times, good humored.
On Monday, shortly after Robin Williams’ death was announced, Zelda posted this to her Twitter account:
And yesterday, she released this statement:
My family has always been private about our time spent together. It was our way of keeping one thing that was ours, with a man we shared with an entire world. But now that’s gone, and I feel stripped bare. My last day with him was his birthday, and I will forever be grateful that my brothers and I got to spend that time alone with him, sharing gifts and laughter. He was always warm, even in his darkest moments. While Ill never, ever understand how he could be loved so deeply and not find it in his heart to stay, theres minor comfort in knowing our grief and loss, in some small way, is shared with millions. It doesn’t help the pain, but at least its a burden countless others now know we carry, and so many have offered to help lighten the load. Thank you for that.
To those he touched who are sending kind words, know that one of his favorite things in the world was to make you all laugh. As for those who are sending negativity, know that some small, giggling part of him is sending a flock of pigeons to your house to poop on your car. Right after youve had it washed. After all, he loved to laugh too
Dad was, is and always will be one of the kindest, most generous, gentlest souls Ive ever known, and while there are few things I know for certain right now, one of them is that not just my world, but the entire world is forever a little darker, less colorful and less full of laughter in his absence. Well just have to work twice as hard to fill it back up again.
I almost don’t know where to begin with this. If nothing else, her response to people who are saying terrible things about her father just after he’s died tragically is a good natured tribute to how much her father loved to laugh. How do you even find the strength to react that graciously?
I would suspect that it has a lot to do with her father himself. There have been lots of stories about how generous Williams was with his time, his money and himself. About how kind and gracious he was. Certainly there isn’t a better tribute to his kindness than the kindness he was able to instill in his daughter. The kindness that she’s showing the world even as she deals with what must be one of the worst things that’s happened to her.
Well done, Zelda. Your father would be proud.