One of the lovely side effects of the growing acceptance of gays and lesbians is that celebrities are beginning to feel more comfortable about who they are, and are more likely to discuss their relationships. And the more gays and lesbians in the public eye who discuss gender orientation, the more accepting the country becomes. What’s even more remarkable is when someone reveals their sexual orientation in a way that highlights its importance to the family relationship, and how these nontraditional families are no longer just sitcom premises: They are a delightful reality.
Maria Bello highlighted that very aspect in the Modern Love section of The New York Times this weekend, casually using that experience to explain to her son that she is dating a woman.
My feelings about attachment and partnership have always been that they are fluid and evolving. Jack’s father, Dan, will always be my partner because we share Jack. Dan is the best father and the most wonderful man I’ve known. Just because our relationship is nonsexual doesn’t make him any less of a partner. We share the same core values, including putting our son first. My more recent ex, Bryn, remains my partner because we share our activism. And Clare will always be my partner because she is also my best friend.
So I would like to consider myself a “whatever,” as Jackson said. Whomever I love, however I love them, whether they sleep in my bed or not, or whether I do homework with them or share a child with them, “love is love.” And I love our modern family.
Love is love (and a person’s a person, no matter how small!)