When it comes to the stories of horrors that women have suffered at the hands of men and the patriarchy, there does not, unfortunately, seem to be any end. Even for someone who tries to stay relatively aware of these things, the constant stream of pain and fear never loses its power to shock. Just when you think you’ve heard it all, you’ll hear more. And bit by bit you come to an awful realisation, the depressing crux of it all: There’s no bottom to this. It’s not turtles all the way down, it’s men being shit. Sometimes it’s catcalling. Other times it’s the dreaded phenomenon that is the ‘nice guy’. We’ve had a roundup before of women telling their worst ‘nice guy’ stories, and the wealth of responses there was something to behold. Because there is an extra element to the ‘nice guy’—a creature who turns on a dime, who presents an amiable exterior and then, when things don’t go exactly his way, reveals his true, dangerous colours—that can make him seem the scariest thing of all. It’s one thing to be on the lookout for things that you know are dangerous, that don’t hide their claws, but to be constantly aware of the fact that even a benign or neutral appearance can mask a poisonous core—well, I can’t imagine how tiring that must be. To wit, the other day, Reddit asked the question: ‘Girls of Reddit Who Have Rejected People, What’s the Worst Way Someone Has Taken it?’
You can check out the full thread here, but below are some selected contributions. First, though, there is a stickied post for helpful resources that touch on the matters discussed in the thread; and secondly it should be noted that some people may find some of the stories (especially in the linked thread, I have left the worst off here) triggering.