By Dustin Rowles | Miscellaneous | October 11, 2016 |
By Dustin Rowles | Miscellaneous | October 11, 2016 |
Devin Faraci, the editor in chief of Birth.Movies.Death, has “stepped down” from that position amidst accusations of sexual assault.
I do not like Devin Faraci. For years, I have witnessed him on social media bully and torment other movie bloggers, filmmakers, screenwriters, and people on social media who dared to criticize his opinions. He has told people to kill themselves. He has publicly shamed well intentioned people for their opinions. He’s given a lot of people a lot of grief over the years, and he very often targeted and harassed newcomers into the movie blog world, hitting them at their most insecure. He was also a bully with a large entourage of movie bloggers and social-media friends, and when Devin Faraci attacked someone, that entourage would often join in. On social media, he was a mean-spirited presence with a sizable influence, an influence he used to belittle, degrade, and insult people.
I wish that Devin Faraci had been fired for the way he presented himself to the world on social media. I wish that he had been fired for bullying. I wish that Tim League at the Alamo Drafthouse had fired him for being a petty, unkind human being.
That’s not why Faraci has “stepped down,” however. He stepped down after he ranted on Twitter about Donald Trump’s treatment of women in the wake of the Access Hollywood tape, and a woman he assaulted came forward to call him on his hypocrisy.
@devincf quick question: do you remember grabbing me by the pussy and bragging to our friends about it, telling them to smell your fingers?
— INVISIGOTH (@spacecrone) October 9, 2016
Faraci said he didn’t remember the event, but apologized for his “vile” behavior.
She shared more of her story on Twitter. It’s something that has clearly been sitting heavy with her for a decade.
I've avoided making that public for over a decade but I guess my rage at trump has uncasked the Gorgon in me.
— INVISIGOTH (@spacecrone) October 9, 2016
It's not just your Trumps or your Republicans, it's your friendly neighborhood film critics and twitter feminists.
— INVISIGOTH (@spacecrone) October 9, 2016
Others have come forward since and shared dozens and dozens of stories on Twitter, not only about being inappropriately touched by Faraci, but about being bullied or tormented by the movie writer.
This incident has also once again proven Courtney right.
If one thing has become abundantly clear over the last few days/few years/life as a woman, it's this: beware of male "allies."
— Courtney Enlow (@courtenlow) October 11, 2016
Most are wonderful. But many are trying to lull you into a sense of security to grab you by the pussy with their helpful male feminist hands
— Courtney Enlow (@courtenlow) October 11, 2016
Faraci, obviously. But there's way more. The takeaway? Listen to women. Always listen.
— Courtney Enlow (@courtenlow) October 11, 2016
And believe.
— Courtney Enlow (@courtenlow) October 11, 2016
It’s also telling that after Faraci committed the assault, he went back and bragged to his friends about it.
Literally stuck his hands down my pants at a bar while I told him to stop, then told our friends he had 'fingerbanged me'
— INVISIGOTH (@spacecrone) October 9, 2016
This is the act of a bully. Bullies torment, and then they rally support behind them. They use their friends as a shield. I cannot nor would I dare to speak to the experiences of women who have been assaulted, but I do know how helpless it feels to try and take on not just a bully, but his friends. You’re not only confronting one tormentor, you’re confronting his posse. It’s painful and humiliating when that bully uses only Tweets as weapons. I can only imagine how much worse it feels when the bullying is sexual.
I don’t want to paint bullies with a broad brush here — there might be bullies who do not violate women against their will — but that pattern of behavior lends itself to sexual assault. If a person can torment, harass, and belittle others online and get away with it, it gives them the power to believe they can do so in person.
Ultimately, I think it’s important if any of us see someone being bullied online or otherwise that we try and step in, not only so that the person being bullied doesn’t feel alone, but also to let the bully know that we’re not going to stand by and let it continue unchecked. The more times they get away with it, the more likely they are going to continue it online and in the real world.