First things first: When we found out that Patton Oswalt was involved with Meredith Salenger , I felt a little left out because everyone was like, “Natty Gann! Natty Gann!” I haven’t seen The Journey of Natty Gann, so I had no frame of reference until a friend pointed out that Salenger was also in Dream a Little Dream, the greatest Corey Joint of all time! And then I was like, “Oh! Her! Holy Shit. Good for Patton Oswalt. He’s getting hitched to Lainie Diamond!
Now? Now I feel invested, but of course not invested enough to actually assert an opinion about their private lives, or suggest that it’s too soon for Patton Oswalt to get remarried after the death of his wife more than a year ago, because f*ck you, that’s his business, and none of our goddamn concern.
Of course, that hasn’t stopped online trolls — or what Patton Oswalt refers to as “grub worms” — from attacking a man for falling in love. Who would do such a thing? What kind of insensitive dickrot would tell a man when he is and is not allowed to fall in love? There’s no timetable for this sort of thing. It can’t be controlled.
I’m reminded of the eloquent words of Lin Manuel Miranda:
Oswalt tells the Times that while he wasn’t going to engage with the grub worms about this, he eventually relented and retweeted a post that expressed better than he could how he felt from a woman whose husband died three days before Oswalt’s wife:
WOW. Thank you for this, Erica. I'd chosen to ignore the grub worms but your writing is just SO good here. Thank you, seriously… https://t.co/XwHejT5Dkr— Patton Oswalt (@pattonoswalt) July 8, 2017
You aren’t entitled to an opinion. You don’t get to comment on the choices of a widower while you sit happily next to your own living spouse. You didn’t have to stand and watch your mundane morning turn into your absolute worst nightmare. You didn’t have to face the agony of despair and the only person who could possibly bring you comfort had been ripped from your life forever. You didn’t have to stand in the ashes of what was once your life, when the sun itself darkened and the very air you breathed felt toxic in your lungs. Go back to scrolling Facebook and keep your ignorance to yourself.
I think that about sums it up. I would just offer one opinion: They look super cute together, and I’m grateful that Oswalt’s daughter has also found a new family member.