Recently, as Gary Oldman continued to collect awards for his performance in The Darkest Hour, allegations that he’d abused an ex-wife, Donya Fiorentino, resurfaced. Fiorentino had claimed that, in 2001, Oldman hit her with a telephone in front of their children.
Well, one of those children came out to dispute that allegation and to speak in defense of his father. Oldman’s 20-year-old son Gulliver Oldman penned a letter in which he stated that his mother was troubled, that the abuse never happened (he was there), and that his father is a “wonderfully kind man.” Convincingly, he also wrote that the allegations have been discredited, and proof of that is the court’s decision to give custody of Gulliver to Oldman (when custody is rarely granted to the father).
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Gulliver Oldman's statment about the totally false allegations against his father Gary Oldman. It saddens us he had to write this, but hopefully he'll be heard and understood.https://t.co/JKIDGiR793 pic.twitter.com/POJu8bUhTN
Look: I know people who have been through divorces. My wife used to handle divorce cases for legal aid. People do and say some f**ked up sh*t during custody and divorce battles, and sometimes they do make up things, and sometimes they exaggerate events. A lot of what is said is not true, on either side.
Which is to say: I don’t know if Oldman hit his wife. His son doesn’t seem to think so. A court didn’t seem to think so. But I do know this: Gary Oldman is still a garbage human, and there is no dispute about these quotes attributed to Oldman (via Ira at The Daily Beast):
“Well, if I called Nancy Pelosi a c*nt—and I’ll go one better, a fucking useless c*nt—I can’t really say that. But Bill Maher and Jon Stewart can, and nobody’s going to stop them from working because of it. Bill Maher could call someone a f*g and get away with it. He said to Seth MacFarlane this year, ‘I thought you were going to do the Oscars again. Instead they got a lesbian.’ He can say something like that. Is that more or less offensive than Alec Baldwin saying to someone in the street, ‘You f*g?’ I don’t get it.”
“Mel Gibson is in a town that’s run by Jews, and he said the wrong thing because he’s actually bitten the hand that I guess has fed him—and doesn’t need to feed him anymore because he’s got enough dough. He’s like an outcast, a leper, you know? I don’t know about Mel. He got drunk and said a few things, but we’ve all said those things,” offered Oldman.
“We’re all fucking hypocrites,” he added. “That’s what I think about it. The policeman who arrested him has never used the word ‘ni**er’ or ‘that fucking Jew?’”
It’s worth noting, too, that Uma Thurman didn’t exactly have an easy marriage with Oldman. From Vanity Fair, years ago:
Another reason Uma dropped out of sight was that she was involved in a turbulent relationship with actor Gary Oldman, whom she married in 1991 She now regards it as “a mistake, but you know, what can I say? He’s a truly great actor. We met when I was 18. He was 12 years older. It was a crazy love affair that ended, as it needed to.”
Terry Gilliam recalled seeing the two of them at party for Bram Stroker’s Dracula. “There was a great change in Uma. She seemed to be drawn to difficult people-maybe she was trying to prove something-and had somehow aged overnight, lost her youth, which she has since regained.”
The marriage began to crumble after the fast-living Oldman was arrested for drunken driving. As a friend told an interviewer, “Gary will always be crazy. It takes a special kind of woman to put up with him.”
And not that this has any bearing on the abuse allegation, but I found it illuminating, in a way. Here’s Oldman on his fourth wife, in 2014: “I’m not proud that this is my fourth marriage. But this is a good one. Hopefully, my last one.”
Oldman married his fifth wife in 2017.