The Ashley Madison hack has opened up a strange can of ethical worms for all of us. On one hand, the site makes us all feel squicky. The idea that the person you have entrusted with your entire existence browsing that site to have sex with someone who is not you is the most hideous feeling. But as much as we can dislike the site itself and its mission, one thing is very important to remember: doxxing, which is what this hack is and has done, is wrong. We can’t be OK with the release of personal details of people who were not in any real way breaking the law while being horrified when private photos of celebrities get shared online or GamerGaters tweet addresses of women they don’t like.
It’s wrong. It’s very wrong. It’s important I get this across. So I will report this story using only facts. No additional commentary, no bias.
Josh Duggar, who of course very recently was discovered to have molested his sisters and other young children and who publicly and professionally works to support “family values” and work against those he and his family deems wrong or sinful, has been discovered to have an Ashley Madison account.
According to Gawker, Duggar paid nearly $1000 for two years of subscription to the site, from 2013 to this past May, which is of course when the news of his molestation erupted. At that time, he and his family, including his wife, took to social media, released public statements and were interviewed by Fox News to publicly declare Duggar a good person, doing God’s will. A good Christian.
Until the scandal broke, Duggar served as the executive director for FRC Action, part of the Family Research Council, an organization devoted to “traditional family values, by advocating and lobbying for socially conservative policies….It opposes and lobbies against LGBT rights (such as same-sex marriage and LGBT adoption), abortion, divorce, embryonic stem-cell research and pornography.”
The data released indicated Duggar’s set preferences in affair partner including:
“Conventional Sex,” Experimenting with Sex Toys,” One-Night Stands,” “Open to Experimentation,” “Gentleness,” “Good With Your Hands,” Sensual Massage,” “Extended Foreplay/Teasing,” “Bubble Bath for 2,” “Likes to Give Oral Sex,” “Likes to Receive Oral Sex,” “Someone I Can Teach,” “Someone Who Can Teach Me,” “Kissing,” “Cuddling & Hugging,” “Sharing Fantasies,” “Sex Talk.”
The data for one of his two accounts also includes this statement: “Do you have a spark? Let’s just see where this goes! I’m looking to have a steamy affair. I want to have a good time with someone who is passionate… and see where it leads!”
He also paid extra for an “affair guarantee.”
Our thoughts are with Duggar at this difficult time.