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Eva Mendes Says She And Ryan Gosling Had A 'Non-Verbal Agreement' She'd Be The Stay-At-Home Parent

By Emily Richardson | Celebrity | March 27, 2024 |

By Emily Richardson | Celebrity | March 27, 2024 |


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Eva Mendes went on The Today Show yesterday and talked about taking a break from her acting career to raise her two daughters with Ken, aka Ryan Gosling. Eva, 50, and Ryan, 43, met on the set of The Place Beyond The Pines (2012), and began dating soon after. In her Today interview, Eva sings her partner’s praises:

“The way he works. His commitment to his craft. How he wants to make everything as best as it can be, and that means making his co-stars as best as they can be.

But unfortunately, or fortunately, there’s only one Ryan. So I pretty much stopped acting after that!”

Eva says it was a “no-brainer” for her to spend more time with her kids. She and Ryan just knew she’d be the stay-at-home parent:

“I still worked, I just didn’t act because acting takes you on locations, it takes you away. It was almost just like a non-verbal agreement that it was like, ‘Ok, he’s going to work and I’m going to work, I’m just going to work here.’”

Eva pivoted from acting to business. She currently has her own fashion line and co-owns an antimicrobial sponge business called Skura Style. At one point, she also had a dinnerware and linens line with Macy’s, as well as a makeup brand with Walgreen’s. Eva used her interview with Today to plug her sponges and talk about her “love of cleaning” (God, I wish I had that). She also dishes on Ryan’s performance of “I’m Just Ken” at the Oscars:

Back in 2022, Eva took to Instagram to clarify that she never “quit” acting, she just wanted to focus on being a mom and “other business ventures.” She added that she was “not excited about the stereotypical roles” being offered to her at the time:

Ten years ago, if I’d read that a couple had a “non-verbal agreement” that the woman would be the one to stay at home with the kids, I’d call sexism. Oh, so the husband just assumes his wife will give up her career? Greeeat. And, sure, for many new parents, that decision is rooted in misogyny.

But now that I’m older, I realize that not everyone’s situation is that black and white. If Eva made the choice to be the primary caregiver, and that’s what she really wanted, good for her! Recently, Lily Allen made headlines for saying that prioritizing parenting “totally ruined” her music career. She added that it annoyed her when people claim women can have it all, “because, quite frankly, you can’t.” Lily pointed to her own parents, who she described as “quite absent” during her childhood: “I feel like that really left some nasty scars that I’m not willing to repeat on mine.”

I’m currently expecting my first baby, and my partner and I have had some tough conversations about our respective careers and who will take the reins once our baby is older. For us, it’s not about gender, it’s about who’s more passionate about their career. Oh, and money. Cuz apparently you need a bunch of that to raise a kid? Sigh.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I have to check my messages on Facebook Marketplace. I have a lead on a used Baby Björn bouncer with the toy bar. For the low, low price of CA$180. Woo…hoo?