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Recapping the Series Finale of "Big Love": “When Men and Mountains Meet”

By Melissa McKimmey | Posted Under TV Reviews | Comments (29)



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This last episode is mixed for me. Parts are poignant and well-crafted, but much of it is heavy-handed and geared toward manipulating the story for emotion. So it’s pretty much just like the season as a whole.

Bill walks out of a detention center with Barb where he’s been held for two days after his arrest for two charges of statutory rape. Bill meets Margie and Nicki and tells reporters he will fight the charges and see out his term in the senate. He is ambitious. The trial is in four weeks. We get some exposition that Alby is in the clink and Adalene’s out on bail. She’s protesting Bill’s bail and saying that Alby should get bail as well, saying it’s religious persecution. Yeah, he probably would have if he hadn’t, you know, KILLED some one.

Barb talks to her new church pastor (Sister? Bishop? I don’t know.) about getting baptized in the church. That should go over well.

Bill talks to Margie after he finds her passport in a kitchen cabinet. Nice hiding place, Margie. Of course, I can see Bill as the kind of guy who doesn’t do the dishes, so maybe it’s a decent spot. Anyway, Margie tells him she wanted to go on a medical ship that travels South America and do missionary work. She’s knows it’s something she can’t do and be in this family and it’s clear she’s really giving up on a dream. She tells Bill that she was unformed when she met him but now she has a foundation and she wants to share her faith and see the world that she now knows is out there. Margie’s really blossomed this season, I will say. She’s gone from a lost, unbalanced girl to a smart, stable though quirky, woman. It’s a nice progression. She tells Bill she knows what she wants to do but she’s afraid that it’s too late for her. Hello, she’s 23 years old! She shouldn’t be so resigned to her future as though it’s a death march.

Dinner. Nicki apologies to Cara Lynn in front of the family and Cara Lynn looks pissy. The family discusses Easter and Bill says that the wills have been changed so that if anything were to happen to Nicki and Bill, Barb will become Cara Lynn’s guardian. Cara Lynn looks rather pleased about it. Uh, I’d sleep with one eye open, Nicki.

Cara Lynn finds Nicki in the basement and I expect to be proven right. Cara Lynn tells Nicki that she knows Nicki isn’t sincere. Nicki says that she said what she did to Cara Lynn because she was desperate. Cara Lynn says she’s thinking about going back to her other family. I highly doubt that. She’s really going to give up school and clothing freedom and TV and all the luxuries the Henrickson’s have to go back to prairie dresses on a compound? It’s a good bluff, though, because Nicki looks worried.

Lois is in the home and sad because she can’t remember anything. She’s in and out of lucidity.

Bill and the wives give interviews to various news outlets and Bill introduces Margie as the wife he raped. It’s creepy but an interesting approach to the idea that these are trumped-up charges. It’s rather telling that Bill pops in to answer questions that are directed to the wives. Nicki gets in a great sound bite when she says that the reason they are being sought out is because they use the word “Mormon.” It’s a good point, if they’d left the church out of it, it might have blown over much easier than it did.

Ben tries to win back Heather by naming a star after her. She thinks it’s as stupid as I do. Hell, even Ben thinks it’s as stupid as I do.

Bill talks to Senator Barn about getting the municipality agreement take away from the compound. You know, since he’s got nothing else to worry about. At least he’s determined, I guess.

Nicki and Margie have a passive-aggressive fight about how Nicki thinks the whole Bill-rape-charge is Margie’s fault and Margie point-blank tells her that she doesn’t feel that’s true. Nicki tells her Bill told her about the missionary ship and that it’s stupid and selfish. Margie tells her it’s not ridiculous and she hurt her feelings. Nicki seems surprised. I can’t imagine why, she must get that reaction multiple times a day.

Bill and Barb fight about Easter. She’s not going to his services and tells him she’s being baptized. Bill doesn’t want to talk about it and packs up to go to Nicki’s. Damn, Bill. Take advantage of the multiple wives thing much? Bill tells her they have nothing in common anymore and maybe his life is elsewhere. She tells Bill that it’s not fair because she followed his ass into polygamy. It’s about time she brought that up. She changed her basic religious beliefs for him and he says that she’s trying to destroy them. Bill says he built the church for her when she was ex-communicated. Eh, half a point to Bill. He did do it to help Barb, but he also did it so he could do whatever he wanted in his own church.

Nicki catches Bill coming in from Barb’s.

Awkward wives meeting. Margie and Nicki want Barb to open up about her problems with Bill. Barb comes close, but she can’t open that door. Bill’s always standing between them in some way.

Barb goes out and picks herself up a shiny Mini Cooper convertible. It is adorable. She and Nicki and Margie go for a ride. Barb named it Honeybee. It’s so cute. They ride around and Nicki picks at it and complains, but for a moment they are all peaceful and happy together. The lines fade off of everyone’s faces, the smiles come out and the tension releases. Margie wishes they could just keep going forever. A fleeting moment of happiness.

Bill and the wives. Bill’s pissed that Barb sold the wagon. He says that was a piece of their history from before she got sick. Margie tells Bill that she and Nicki are in this marriage too and they need to work it out. So instead of talking about things, Bill drops another bomb that Homes Plus is no more. The loans got called in and the stores have lost too much money because of the boycotts and the only way to save it would have been to sell the houses and they can’t do that. He says that everything comes back to his being a polygamist.

Bill and Nicki have a moment where he tells her to support Margie, because what she wants to do is kind and unselfish. Nicki does not comprehend this idea and tells Bill that the best place for Margie is at home, with them. Bill says that they are all free.

Bill goes to see Cara Lynn when she doesn’t show for breakfast. She’s says “I don’t eat with Nicki” and Bill gets his parent game on and says “Her name is Mom and yes, you do.” It’s a nice, genuine moment.

Nicki is at the shelter helping out when Barb comes to find her. Nicki is scared; she doesn’t want to be alone. She thinks Barb’s on her way out the door and Margie wants to leave. If Bill leaves, she’ll be alone. She tells Barb in a moment of honesty and says “I have no ounce of the milk of human kindness in me. I’m spiteful, jealous and mean. No, really.” Barb’s all “I know. Trust me, got that memo.” Barb hugs Nicki and Nicki shifts and complains that she hates to be touched and they hug anyway.

Bill gets on the capital and tries to force his municipality hearing into a debate about the legality of polygamy. He had to make one last stand, I guess. I know I’m supposed to be moved here, but I’m not really. Making polygamy legal makes Bill’s life easier, but what about marriages like Roman’s or Alby’s? What about those trapped women?

Easter. Barb’s got her Baptism dress and she tells Bill she loves him before she goes.

Cara Lynn and Nicki have a nice, brief talk about how Nicki knows that Cara Lynn was in love and that she wanted to try out the dangerousness of love. Nicki tells her that it never feels any less dangerous.

Barb goes to be baptized and can’t do it. She’s not Barb Dutton; she’s Barb Henrickson and she needs her family.

Hundreds of polygamists come to Bill’s Easter services. Apparently they all saw on the news how Bill wants polygamy made legal. It’s feels like a forced manipulation to make Bill seem to be the hero one last time. Barb comes in and Ben gives up his seat for her. At least he’s polite, even if he is dumb.

Bill has a vision of the polygamists before him, including Emma Smith, wife of Joseph and rebel priesthood holder. He gets his sermon on.

Barb tells the other wives that she didn’t get baptized. Bill sits outside, writing pages and pages in a yellow tablet, while watching the wives through the window. He seems very happy and peaceful. Hell, he’s even tolerable to me. Ben comes out and Bill tells him that he felt a grace descend upon him at the service. Bill says everything’s going to be OK and to remember that faith comes from love, not the other way around.

Frank and Lois are laying together and Frank’s remembering when they were first married. The camera pans to the bedside table with some medicine and a syringe. He talks to Lois until she doesn’t respond. Oh, man. Way to come through at the end, Frank.

Bill heads out to pick up Lois, not knowing about her and Frank. Carl the creepy neighbor comes by and asks Bill about the sod on his lawn. Bill tells him he said he’d take care of it. Carl gets agitated. We cut back to the wives cooking and hear three gunshots. Damn it.

The wives run out Margie calls 911 because Bill’s on the ground bleeding. He’s in and out and he turns to Barb. He tells her he needs a blessing. She’s crying, shaking her head and he finally gets through to her and she blesses him, saying that the Heavenly Father knows what is in his heart. And then Bill fades out.

Yes, I cried. Bill wasn’t a bad person. He didn’t always do the right thing and he hurt a lot of people, but he wasn’t malicious about it. And it was really a kind thing to ask Barb to bless him. It was a gift that gave her purpose and something to hold on to after he was gone. Throughout the show, it’s clear how much Bill and Barb loved each other.

Eleven months later.

Sarah and her husband are in town for a christening ceremony for their baby. Aw. Barb did the honors. The baby is named after Bill. Sarah remarks about how interesting is was to see her mom up on the dais and Barb says that it wouldn’t have happened without her father. I’d say that Bill’s vision of Emma and all that writing were him writing about adding women to the priesthood. Ben’s with Heather and they are both wearing wedding rings. Heather’s such a sucker. I honestly thought she was smarter than that. I wonder how Ben conned her into it. There’s a fleeting glance of Cara Lynn with her hair down, looking lovely. Margie’s there and she’s got a pixie cut and I HATE it. I’m sorry, it looks awful. She looks like an elf. She’s back from a three month missionary trip. I guess Nicki and Barb are watching her kids. Nicki lectures Margie about not calling more often because Barb worries. Oh Nicki, never able to let herself feel anything. Margie says she wishes Bill were there and the women hug tightly and Bill’s blurry image is sitting at the head of the table, watching.

In the end, what I see in this show is the story that was supposed to be about a husband and his wives, but was really about how these women came together and formed a life and carried on even without Bill. He brought together these people and in the end they all chose to stay together, to build a family. And isn’t that what we all want? People who love us enough to stay with us when it’s crazy and when it’s bad and when it’s wonderful and when it just is.

Melissa McKimmey is thankful for this space and the trust to let her write here. She would like to thank her wonderful husband for reading and editing her recaps and telling her when she’s funny. Much love.









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Comments

I admit it, I cried too. Although throughout the entire show I kept yelling for someone to either punch Bill in the face or shoot him. Oops.

Posted by: Lemon Poundcake at March 22, 2011 11:41 AM

I so thought Cara Lynn was going to push Nicki down the stairs--that she was the one who was going to die.

Sobbed my eyes out at the end.

Posted by: Cindy at March 22, 2011 12:12 PM

HA! Ever since the first season all I could think about Bill was "Somebody shoot this guy..."

So allow me to again: HA!

Posted by: ada at March 22, 2011 12:25 PM

Just finished the episode and then opened my computer to your recap. Freaky timing! Okay, now to read the review.

Posted by: Austin at March 22, 2011 12:25 PM

There BETTER be some serious FNL reflection going down when it airs on NBC in the next few months...ya hear?

Posted by: grace b at March 22, 2011 12:28 PM

I cried too. It was a very bittersweet moment - the tears came when he asked for his blessing from Barb - the one wife that I think went thru the worst part of the ringer.
Lots of my friends have said that they were disappointed by the end. I was pretty content. I looked at Bill as the guy who could create big things, but also created massive amounts of misery along with them. That family - or those wives - could not have gone on to a decent life unless Bill was dead.
Thanks for the recaps, I really looked forward to them!

Posted by: jp at March 22, 2011 12:38 PM

Wait, what? Carl, the unhinged neighbor, plugs Bill over the sod?

Fucking Deus Ex Machina.

Posted by: idiosynchronic at March 22, 2011 12:41 PM

I didn't cry, but then again I'm dead inside. I agree that the show was about how a family chooses to stay together no matter what crazy shit goes down. I also agree that Bill was essentially a good guy even though he was selfish and egotistical and overall an asshole. He thought he was doing everything for the greater good.

My two complaints were, one, where were Joey and Wanda?? I kept asking that for the past 4 or 5 episodes. And yes, Heather is an idiot. I really thought she was smarter than that. I hope Ben doesn't drag her down the polygamy road too.

Posted by: Austin at March 22, 2011 12:46 PM

I liked the unexpected source of Bob's demise. All those riled-up Mormons were watching his every move, but in the end the one who shot him was the friendly neighbour who finally cracked.

However, I find it totally, completely and absolutely unforgiveable that the final episode of this series aired with NO ALBY. Alby was one of the best characters, if not THE best, on the show. And we didn't get to see him even once.

Posted by: J. K. B. at March 22, 2011 12:48 PM

*Bill's demise. Bill. Sorry. I do watch the show.

Posted by: J. K. B. at March 22, 2011 12:50 PM

Margene's new haircut = boner juice.

Posted by: Malcolm at March 22, 2011 1:00 PM

I don't think it was Deus Ex Machina. Carl has been a character since season 1. For me, it showed that while Bill believed he was doing everything for the greater good, he was completely unaware of the unintended consequences of his actions. I mean, he totally destroyed Don's life and seemed to have no idea.

The more I think about the finale, the more I like it. The car scene with the three wives was one of the best scenes in the show's history. I cried A LOT.

Posted by: Mel C. at March 22, 2011 1:14 PM

I didn't mention it, but I did tear up at the car scene. It was a really good moment for these women who made a life together.

Posted by: Melissa McKimmey at March 22, 2011 1:51 PM

Starting at the car scene, I cried on and off till the shot of the syringe and meds on the nightstand, at which point I just started crying, hard, the whole time. Mel C., I'm with you: the more I think of it, the more I like it. As much as I hated Bill throughout the entire series, he did always think he was doing things for the greater good, and he only wanted the best for his family--I don't think he deserved to die on the street. Kind of breaks my heart. I think it was a very fitting end -- Bill becomes a martyr, and the wives carry on.

Posted by: annie711pm at March 22, 2011 2:35 PM

I didn't read his death as martyrization at all. In fact, if that was how I believed the scene was intended I would have hated the finale.

Bill wasn't killed for his religious beliefs. He wasn't killed by a fundamentalist zealot or false prophet Alby. That Carl, the neighbor so harmed by Bill's actions (without Bill ever seeing his role in it), murders Bill proves that Bill's good intentions couldn't ever cover for the moral responsibility he had for so many ruined lives. (The detail about sodding his lawn was so perfect--what is sod but pretty cover up for dead ground when someone doesn't take the time and care to seed the ground properly?). Yes, Margene's participation in Goji was the direct cause of Carl and Peg's ruination, but Margene wouldn't have ever been involved in that scheme were it not for Bill's egotistical run for state senate ending her jewelry gig. Or to go back further, the decision to marry Margene when she was so young, leading to her thirst for all of the "something mores" she so desperately pursued in the last two seasons.

Personally, the last 15 minutes saved the show for me. I was so incredibly upset that Barb backed out of her baptism. But that it took Bill's impending death for him to recognize Barb's priesthood (I can't help but think of the phrase "over my dead body) struck me as perfect for the character. On the one hand, it's such a cynical interpretation of Bill--his pride would have prevented him from ever living with such an arrangement, but his death allows him to recognize Barb's equality. Yet, it was no less moving for that fact--I cried again even just thinking about it later, because after an entire season of fighting, it was satisfying to see Bill give Barb such a meaningful and heartfelt gift as asking for her blessing. Whether his conversion was real or not, it obviously meant everything to Barb. And ultimately, that's what I've always loved about Big Love--that all of the characters are capable of good and evil, sacrifice and selfishness, even within one action or one line.

I didn't exactly love Ghost Bill sitting at the dinner table in the epilogue, but for me, what Bill's death ultimately proved was that, as I and probably many viewers insisted, his wives are better off without him (that car scene will stay with me forever). There was always a tension, ramped up especially this last season, between our desire to see Barb, Nicki, and Margene happy, and our desire for the family to stay together. I was convinced that those outcomes were mutually exclusive. But Bill's death allowed for each wife to find self-fulfillment without breaking up the family. For me, it's this, rather than martyrization or validation, that motivates Ghost Bill's smile.

Posted by: bravesjade at March 22, 2011 4:31 PM

Margene's hair was probably Ginnifer's real life haircut. She's has been wearing a wig.

http://news.instyle.com/2011/02/25/ginnifer-goodwin-hair/

Posted by: Goddess at March 22, 2011 6:03 PM

*She has been

Please excuse my lack of proofreading!!!

Posted by: Goddess at March 22, 2011 6:04 PM

Also wanted to add how perfect it was to have Natalie Maines singing "God Only Knows" at the end during the credits. When they previously used that song for the opening I always viewed the lyrics as commentary of how Bill thought of each of his wives individually. How could each live without him? But listening to the words of the song now with the ending is a perfect description of the relationship the women have with each other.

It was a great cover, too. I want to know where I can find it.

Posted by: Austin at March 22, 2011 6:58 PM

My least favorite season of a show I absolutely loved. I thought Nickie was totally one-note and not all that believable this season, and she was traditionally one of my favorites. I just couldn't believe she would treat her beloved daughter like such shit about the whole Greg thing. Blow his brains out? Sure. But that whole awful speech she gave her at the edge of her bed was simply over-the-top.

What I thought was kind of cool was that the wives were already preparing themselves for Bill's absence b/c of the rape thing.

"That Carl, the neighbor so harmed by Bill's actions (without Bill ever seeing his role in it), murders Bill proves that Bill's good intentions couldn't ever cover for the moral responsibility he had for so many ruined lives."

Absolutely! When I started to think about the risk he posed to his family b/c of his need to control "the principle", to say nothing of his employees, neighbors, etc., I started to reflect on the burden all people of principle place on their families. A lot of it is just straight-up selfish. I wonder if somebody close to Bill dying would have been a more fitting punishment for him - in the end, he never had to reckon with what he'd wrought.

I say this as somebody who liked Bill as a character, flawed though he was.

Posted by: samantha t at March 22, 2011 7:42 PM

I thought that this was the perfect end to the season and agree with all the comments so far.

However, the scene with Cara Lynn and Bill bothered me. How can he be so fatherly to one 16 year old and yet still stand by his own belief that Margene was somehow ready for that marriage? I understand that a lot of what happened this season was about this conflict, but that particular moment really brought it home for me.

Posted by: Tits McGee at March 22, 2011 9:36 PM

bravesjade: that was fantastic. :)

Posted by: annie711pm at March 22, 2011 10:22 PM

The scene with Frank and Lois was the epitome of the definition of big love to me. To have the last words you ever hear be, "You gave them what for"... it was so beautiful. I loved that scene and still get worked up over it.

I missed the rings on Ben and Heather, but it figures they would get married. And is Ben no longer going into the Navy? Wouldn't he technically be deployes?

And I really liked the fuzzy Bill in the background in the final scene. When Margie came back for that final hug in slow-mo... beautiful. But yeah, um I guess Nikki and Barb are just watching her kids now???

Posted by: FullertonRegan at March 23, 2011 12:13 AM

Oh, and thank you Melissa for getting this review up so fast. I'm sure you had to work extra hard to do so and I appreciate it! I'm sure we all do... xoxo

Posted by: fullertonregan at March 23, 2011 12:14 AM

@Austin -- the Natalie Maines cover of "God Only Knows" is available on iTunes. Just be sure to search for Natalie Maines, not the Dixie Chicks.

I had a sneaky suspicion that Bill would somehow be removed from the picture by the end of the series. I didn't know if he'd go to prison or be killed, but I figured he had to go if the wives were to have any credible chance for personal growth and development. Margene's yearning for new vistas ("Margene-Without-Borders"? Hee!) and Barb's vocation and priesthood weren't going anywhere with Bill in the way. After Barb decided not to go through with her baptism and Bill had his vision, I was terrified that the whole series would turn into Father Knows Best and all the ladies capitulating gracefully to Bill's "better" judgment, which I would have just hated. I was so relieved when I saw Carl walk toward Bill in the street; the first thing I thought was, "Oh, good -- Bill's about to go bye-bye."

I'm only sorry that Nicki didn't seem to have changed much by the "Eleven months later" scene. Barb's a priest, Margene's off on her medical cruise, and Nicki? Still bitching and moaning, albeit with a little more pathos. Too bad. Chloe Sevigny did a fantastic job with what could have been a one-note character.

Posted by: PDamian at March 23, 2011 12:48 AM

@Fullerton Regan, well, they basically married her because she was young and fertile, so it's only fair.

Posted by: J. K. B. at March 23, 2011 3:38 AM

I think it makes a lot of sense for Ben and Heather to end up together. Their relationship seems a lot like what a younger Bill and Barb must've been like and poor Heather will end up following Ben down the road to polygamy.

Posted by: TheEmpress at March 23, 2011 4:37 PM

TheEmpress - Ben definitely has Bill's grandiosity.

Posted by: samantha t at March 23, 2011 5:12 PM

Nice review, but very badly proofread and the number of really, really short sentences got to be a little annoying.

Posted by: Joe T. at March 25, 2011 10:54 PM

Finally got around to finishing this series. I liked the ending. But I can't believe the people who are saying that Carl's marital problems and subsequent behavior are Bill's fault. Carl's problems had nothing to do with Bill. Bill did not cause Carl to lose his job. Bill did not cause Carl to conduct his marriage in the Mormon husband/wife dynamic that his wife complained about in earlier seasons. Bill did not cause Carl's feelings of inadequacy and helplessness. He was just the trigger and the victim.

Posted by: Three-nineteen at April 27, 2011 11:07 PM