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Mawwiage. It's Wat Bwings Us Togeveh Today. I Give It a Year Trailer

By Steven Lloyd Wilson | Trailers | November 26, 2012 | Comments ()


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It's amazing what I learn from television and movies about what my relationships have supposedly missed. Seven year itch? No idea until the movies told me. I Give It a Year is premised on the supposedly common sensical logic that the hardest year of a marriage is the first one. Except for the seventh one. Or maybe that's second place.

You know what Einstein said about common sense while doing that physics thing as a side job? He said that it's "the collection of prejudices acquired by age eighteen." Smart dude.

One problem with common sense is that people start expecting things to happen because they know that they're supposed to. Is there good rationale for why the first year of marriage might be the hardest? Sure. But it's the behavior of individuals that determines how difficult that year is, behavior which is driven by the beliefs, attitudes, and preconceptions of the participants in the marriage. So if the spouses think the first year will be hard, they've just massively increased the chances that it will be. Common wisdom becomes a shared shackle.

Here's the trailer.

Ok, this looks much better than my rant suggested that it might. But I still cherish my hate.







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  • Dragonchild

    I worked with a lot of disillusioned old farts at my last job. Suffice to say, they gave me a LOT of assurances that my life was going to suck in all sorts of ways as I aged. The funny thing is, the goalposts kept moving as they kept waiting for me to suffer the consequences of their mistakes. It's pretty obvious THEIR lives are miserable, so maybe they take comfort in believing other people are the same way, but I can't live my life any more differently from them. I eventually quit that place over work conditions, but I don't miss the chatter.

    Not that I'd ever ask, but now I wonder what the differences are in what we considered "common sense".

  • Fabius_Maximus

    The premise is ridiculous. Who in their right mind would marry Rose Byrne, and then get the hots for that plastic surgery accident?

    Of course, I've seen Rafe Spall only in the role of a dickhead, so for him, the scenario might not be far off.

  • SittingPat

    Judging from the trailer, the hardest part is after showing the honeymoon pictures.

  • BWeaves

    My father says the first 100 years are the hardest, then it's smooth sailing. Considering my parents have been married for almost 60 years, he's more than half the way through the hard part.

  • The Other Agent Johnson

    The jokes work, for the most part, even if the premise is faulty. Particularly in modern times when most couples live together for a while before getting married. half the stress over that supposed first year is the stress associated with first-time cohabitation, which is fairly moot nowadays.

    That said, it looks decent.

  • Brown

    Oddly enough living together increases the likeliness of divorce.

  • pissant

    That doesn't seem odd to me. I can't think of any reason not to live with someone if you are considering marrying them except for societal pressures (parents, religion, etc.). And it seems plausible that people who can overcome these fears to live together before marriage (the horror!) would be more likely to overcome the probably greater fear of the stigma of divorce if they realized that the marriage was no longer working.

    I mean, strict Catholic women are as equally unlikely to live with their boyfriend/fiance before marriage as they are to seek a divorce when he turns out to be an abusive raging alcoholic.

  • Pajiba_Pragmatist

    There's another possible reason. Marriage is, at a certain level, overcoming selfishness. Being married means doing things for someone else even when you don't want to. I'm not talking big things, I mean the day to day grind of life; like getting up to put dishes away because i know it's important to her to have it done right after dinner, even if I could let them sit...quite a while.

    And part of this fight against selfishness is a commitment to gut it out in those moments you really really really are pissed at the other person and would just like them to go away. When you are married there is pressure and precedent to gut it out. When you are married, that moment when you really want to leave or have the other person leave butts up against the notion "I can't leave, we are married"; or "If I leave, I am going to have to unwind an entire married life".

    But that's the problem with living together first with the intent to marry (I'm excluding Euro-style partners who look at cohabiting much more like marriage without the church wedding or a court agreement). The entire precedent of living together first is "Hey, if it doesn't work out, we have left room to part ways relatively easily".

    And if this "we can always break up" sentiment carries over to your married world, then it's one less barrier at those moments of selfishness when you want to just walk away.

    Now of course, this is not relevant in cases of abuse, or cheating or other awfulness. I'm talking about those moments in every relationship when you want one thing and the other person wants something else.

    The very public act of marriage and moving into a single dwelling is an attempt to signal to the world (and most importantly to yourselves) that you are going to try super hard to fight every human's natural selfishness and gut out the bad moments for the larger overall goodness of the relationship.

  • ,

    Really? Cause watching it without the sound, it looks terrible.

  • ,

    Watching it WITH the sound reminds me that I'd be spending the first 20 minutes just acclimating my ears to the Brit accents. I wouldn't understand a word for at least that long.

    Does anyone else have that problem? Just curious.

  • Jezzer

    I used to have a problem understanding British accents when I was a kid, but I've watched so much British tv now that I can understand anything short of Brad Pitt in "Snatch."

  • BWeaves

    I lived in England for 6 years and I couldn't wrap my ears around their accents. I'd have to watch Top Gear for 3 hours before watching this movie to get anything out of it.

  • lonolove

    I wandered like a child into a field of daisies onto Pajiba this morning (Doo-bee-doo-bee-doooo) and glancing over the first headline I feel..."eh..." then...THEN! WHAT DO MINE EYES SEE?! Rafe Spall??! GADZOOKS! *Fast and Furious Clickery.*
    Then I watch the trailer and not only is he dashingly and dollsomely charming, but JASON FLEMYNG IS IN IT! With a speaking part! LAWD HAVE MERCY! This movie can't hit these shores fast enough.

  • Stephen Merchant should do all the speeches at all the weddings.

  • BAM

    I snickered at the article until the video loaded and I saw Rose Byrne on the screen. Just go ahead and take my money.

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