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I, myself do not have a numerical quota, I do have a shame quota though. As in there are some people you just do not give the time of day.

Pink Hulk I read that as "when I was in grade school" and for a split second I hyperventilated.

I think my big issue is his attitude towards his number. Like if he thought he was this big bad ass because he's had x number of lays, it'd be a turn-off. But that has to do with the whole "douche/nottadouche" factor.

Whatever a girlfriend does before me is her business. I mean, I know for a fact that some girls I have have the good fortune to have established a relationship with are not virgins, by no means whatsoever.

That said, I guess I am one of those few guys who doesn't allow the 'idiot gear' to kick in, that meaning to not ask the always heartwrenching question of how many people my significant other has been with. Not just sex, but all the other entailings that lead up to sex. Shit, there was this one girl who I loved so much that I didn't even want to ask how many guys she kissed, let alone had sex with. I just don't want to hear it, because no matter what, I'll feel both inadequate and frustrated over things she has done in the past, way before we were ever together.

So, I guess my point is that I don't care how many people my significant other has been with, so long as that past remains in the past. If I'm with a girl now, what difference should it make, right?

Man, I got kind of depressed writing this...

My number's pretty low, but I would never ask a partner what theirs was. It's just asking for a problem. Same as asking if you're "the best".

My BIGGER problem is that my last boyfriend kept trying to work his previous sexual conquests/ the breadth of his experience into conversation and I just did not want to hear it. At all. No, I didn't expect him to be a virgin, but past is past, you know? And if it's not… that's a whole problem on it's own.

I couldn't even tell you what my number is, personally. Good question, DR, do people even still count? Do they make notches in the bedpost, or have a "little black book" anymore? Or a spreadsheet, or a database?

It's all very unseemly, isn't it? I mean, it's kind of a personal question, personal information. I think if I were dating, and a guy asked me how many previous partners I'd had, I would tell him it was none of his business. It's no concern of anyone's, really, so long as I have a clean bill of health and am not randomly infecting people with STDs.

It's no concern of anyone's, really, so long as I have a clean bill of health and am not randomly infecting people with STDs.

Well as long as it's not random. Sorry, I just had this vision of an STD smart bomb streaking in and giving certain specific people herpes, certain people syphilis, etc.

Jeremy, you're a porn star, you shouldn't worry about your number. You'll be this sites gay sexual king in 5 years tops. Except for Pink Hulk, his name is too badass and gay at the same time for anyone else to take the crown from him.

I don't want to get all crude here, but what are we counting, exactly? Are we counting the smaller, more messing-around-y type stuff or does it have to be full-on all the way stuff? Because there's a grey area, as far as I'm concerned.

What I'm saying is, help me juke my stats.

Wait a minute, Rowles, what do you mean by "37 dicks. That I can understand. But 20 lays? Bah"? Are you insinuating that dick sucking makes a girl more of a slut than fucking???? I think I take offense. No, I don't. But I am curious. I've only had actual penis in vagina sex with seven guys (okay, maybe eight, I'm iffy on one). But I've sucked a lot of dick, especially in high school when I had such an unholy fear of getting stuck in my shitty hometown that I refused to allow a peen near my poon.

Is there a number that is too small for some out there? "Some experience necessary"?

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I don't have an issue with the number, mine's relatively low due to long term relationships. As far as I'm concerned, while I'm in the relationship, the only number that counts is two. The two of us.

Q. How many dicks can a fag suck before he passes out?

A.A hundred million billion.

At first I thought this was playing on the word "fag" and using it in the British sense, like, how many (cigarette) fags can a (metaphorical) dick (of a person) suck before he passes out from lack of oxygen to the brain.

But no, turns out I just don't get it.

And I didn't get doggie's joke either...

Oh, was it a hateful thing? Making an allusion to gay men being giant sluts?

By the way, I loved playing you as a kid, Guess Who.

Well, two were women. I like to think of the other more as a girl.

Because she was 7.

Two!! Two!? I guess that's just how you was raised...

Also, I am kidding any potential employers/girlfriends who find out my name and search through a history of my internet records. My cock is delightfully average. Perky even.

It can't like, heal over, can it?

Try super glue. What's the worst that could happen?

I lost count and had to start over.

True story.

I feel like I'll always be one of those people who will be able to recall everyone she's ever slept with (a very small number at the moment), partly because I want to be able to say I've had sex people I've cared about in some fashion and partly because I just like lists.

Wow. I'm familiar with the feelings of inadequacy, but the numbers divulged here have left me inconsolable. Thanks guys.

I dunno, a high number doesn't impress me or necessarily turn me off. For me, it's about the quality of sex and the relationship, not the quantity of people. I'd rather have a guy tell me, "I've been with three people, I was in love with them, and we had sex all the time" than "I've loved a few, and banged a whole lot more just a couple of times."

By the way, thanks George, for noting my moniker awesomeness. And JerBear, you up for making that number +1? Giggity giggity.

Honestly, I don't remember half the dicks I've seen in my life. But I clearly remember every one of their owners who either stole or broke my heart. It's not the sex that matters. It's the experience of the heart.

Btw, this is just Ambien ramblings at this point...

I remember avidly keeping track until I was 19 or 20. To the point of having a coded list in my day planner. The day my girlfriend found that old day planner, man. I had to say, "Really? Me literally referring to when we met as The Summer of Promiscuity didn't clue you in?"
She called me a slut. And it turns out she slept with more people than I had.

However, I met someone the other day (acquaintance of an acquaintance, you know how that is) and she said, "Oh my god, you sleep with girls?" I looked at her and said "Actually, it's just the one girl. For 10 years now."
Sanctimonious bitch. I'm still a little peeved.

My number (not that it'd interest someone) is lower than 1.

What? Do you think it's by choice?

Now, who's got the right to feel inadequate?

I just realized why I don't care about this at all: because I'm a firm believer that the past is the past, what's done is done, too late to change it, not that I would anyway because all that I've done and all that's happened to me has shaped who I am today and all that I do today will shape who I am tomorrow, but I live right. Now. What's the point in getting all worried about whether you've slept with too many people, or not enough people? Who's to say how many is too many or not enough people for me to have slept with? I am me, you are not, and you can't tell me.

Welcome to Pajiba, Guess who!

Mrs. Kballs and I were friends for about a year before we started dating, so we knew quite a few of each other's partners. One of hers was this guy we worked with who CONSTANTLY bragged about all the women he'd banged. They got drunk one night and messed around. I found out months into our dating relationship and got pretty pissed, thinking she would be better than that. She actually asked if I could forgive her, which broke my heart. I felt like an ass for my reaction, apologized, gave her a night of a dozen orgasms, and married that slut.
The lesson? I have no idea. I just felt like sharing.

I personally always promised myself I would marry one of my dicks before I hit number 20. I am marrying number 17 next year whew. Just made it

24.

Like Kiefer Sutherland, ya'll!

Why are there two other people here who are getting married after hitting 17? Because that's what I did too. Maybe it really is a lucky number.

It doesn't bother me, as long as they've been safe and have a clean bill of health.
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About time someone brought that up. A reason to ask "How many?" is because the odds of literally fucking yourself to death tend to be a bit higher at 1,000 than 1 (though, of course, it only takes one). You might want to insist on some testing. Oh for the good old days when people thought herpes was a horror.

Welcome aboard, Clementine.

You too, Guess who! You're new around these parts, ain'tcha? Well, some of the womenfolk here can make your acquaintance, show you around, make you comfortable. Help out a polite, well-behaved person such as yourself.

You DO like women, don'tcha?

What I think pisses me off about 'numbers' is the prevalent macho belief that if a guy has had loads of partners he's a stud, but a girl in the same situation is a slut. But, it applies to the fabulous gays and fabulous lesbians too, a gay guy with lots of partners is a slut. But if dudes are studs, why is a gay dude a slut?!

I think it all goes back to the ancient idea that he who is doing the penetration is in the dominant position, and she/he who is in the other end receiving said penetration is submissive. It's "okay" to be a stud because it means you're in control, you're dominant. Males are supposed to spread their seed. It's "bad" to be a slut because you submit and become someone's bitch.

I learned this in The Dog Whisperer, by the way.

I've actually been dumped not once, but twice for having a number that was too low.

One of the women was seriously stressed about the whole thing. She thought at first I just meant I'd never been with another woman, and really flipped when she found out I'm a gold star member. She said it was too much pressure, stood me up for our first date, and never talked to me again. Another lady did almost the same thing.

My response to both of them: What made you so damned sure you'd be my first?

Sofia,

I think you're on the right track with the whole dominance thing, but I'm not sure that the culture at large thinks that long and hard about it (oh, excuse the pun).

For the most part, I think that we as a culture are programmed from a very early age to associate sex in certain ways. Because men are biologically programmed to spread their seed, it's acceptable for them to have multiple sex partners. It's part of masculinity, it reinforces gender roles.

But for females? We learn from an early age that we're supposed to be demure, chaste creatures. If we succumb to the pleasures of sex, we're chastised for it and called names that shame us. In my own opinion, these names have become so commonplace in our society that people don't think about the consequences of using them. (Also, the amount of slut-shaming that takes place is appalling.)

Guess who, you can call me , . I can just tell we're going to be real good friends.

I was a bit of a late bloomer, but I stopped counting in the 20's somewhere. I might have reached triple-digits, but I guess a lot of it depends on definitions.

As for how many have been truly memorable, that's in the single digits.

but as long as people treat each other with kindness and respect I’m going to like being here.

Ummmmmmmm. We are capable of that at times...

Mr. Bucdaddy. hehe.

I've had the numbers conversations with all serious exes and it was never an issue. With the current boypants, we have yet to have that conversation. He is a few years younger than me, and I suspect the situation has not come up because he probably feels his might be substantially less than mine. Which is 15 guys, 2 girls, and I've made out with probably well over 100...I'm a make-out whore. Also I just figured out (while writing this down) that I've slept with 2 Billys, 2 James/Jims, and 2 Chris'. What fun. I've told you people way more personal shit than that, so why not.

I lost track of my number a long time ago. I know it's more than 20, but less than 100. My fiance and I have both readily admitted that we were sluts before we met each other (I got my swerve on in college, while he married young, and then took to sewing some wild oats when he divorced at 30), but we have agreed that we will never, ever talk numbers.

Plus, we remind each other that we may have learned something from any or all of those sexual encounters, and that's what benefits our astronomically great sex life right now.

In a row?

Um, does the number matter more or less if you're bad at sex?

By that I mean, if your number is high and you're still a lousy lay, exactly how much does the number matter anyway? If I thought that a high number was automatic indication of competence, maybe it would matter, but that hasn't been my observation about any other endeavor, and I doubt it's different for sex. Some people can do something for years and years and still suck at it. From what I've heard.

But seriously, this fixation on numbers is a hallmark of immaturity. I understand curiosity about it, but when someone freaks the fuck out over it, that's not a good sign.

I like Eyvi's and her husband's approach. I've decided my number will be 20,000. Yes, that's right, me and Wilt Chamberlain are in the pantheon.

Um, I guess I'd say, "Who gives a fuck?" I'm in favor of you and your partner getting tested before you ever have unprotected sex together, so as long as everything comes back clean, who cares how many have came before? As it were...

I am not the least bit bothered by hearing about my hubby's exes - I actually find it hilarious as they are all crazypants. I press him for details, like the one about how his last girlfriend before me would meow during sex. She MEOWED. Like a cat. The years of material that little detail has given me.... it really is the little joys of marriage that make it all worthwhile.....

I am not sure about my exact #, and my bf is higher than me, but I was with my ex husband for most of my 20s so I have a disadvantage.

We discuss our pasts, there are lots of funny stories in there and I think that it is interesting to talk about. My ex and I were of the type that never talked about it, but he was jealous and controlling so now I like the freedom of being able to acknowledge that I was super hot back in the day and I fucked a lot of super hot guys!

2 and holding. I'm no longer sure that I'm experienced enough to be on this website.

Like, 37 dicks at once? Damn, I only have room for one at a time!

Triple digits? TRIPLE DIGITS?! As in, over a HUNDRED people you've fucked??? Are you people fucking kidding me?! Jesus, what did you do? Just fuck anything that came across your path? Are your crotches just giant vacuums or what? God, be a LITTLE picky, why don't you?

Posted by: Case at April 24, 2009 12:34 PM

Let me see...to answer your questions:

Yes. YES. Yes. No. Lots of things, actually. No, but that's an interesting idea. And I am; that's why it's only triple digits, and the LOWER triple digits at that, thank you. (Granted, I count sex as any time that the dick makes an appearance.)

I think that just about covers your questions there, Case. Thank you for playing.

I think this might be an age thing, but I was recently asked "how many" by a friend (I think he was hoping to steer the convo toward helping me increase the number by one). I stopped counting before I hit double digits, because, frankly, who cares? It's just a fuck. The friend accused me of lying - telling me that "everyone counts." *shrug* Whatever. Should I also count every time I made out with a stranger in a bar? Cause, I'm gonna have to break out the abacus for that one (I *earned* the nickname 'kissing bandit" thankyouverymuch!).

I'm entertained by the fact that my first post on this site is on this topic. Maybe I should create another list where I count things that others might consider shameful. Hm.

I was tempted to blast Pink for having so many gay partners considering the epidemics that have plagued homosexuals in much greater numbers than hetero guys, and I still think there is something too that presuming that with at least 20% of those partners it was unprotected, but I don't want to be hypocritical.

If I was a gay dude I would probably be trolling on craig's list for easy scores. I would offer the extra rooms in my house to other gay guys for free in exchange for sex, and then they would bring their gay friends over and the number would grow exponentially, like a gay sex ponzi scheme.

With that said, for the love of God, dude, by condoms in bulk, please.

You know, Guess who, its not really about me. Its about all those underlingus who gave so much of themselves. They truly deserve the recognition for the services they provided.

So the new plan is to preemptively derail the weekend thread? This right here is vintage pajiba, and great godtopus I've missed it so.

Personally I only care about 2 things: healthiness in past activities, and exclusive commitment while we're together. That said, my number's extremely low and the lady's isn't any higher.

You know, Guess who, its not really about me. Its about all those underlingus who gave so much of themselves. They truly deserve the recognition for the services they provided.
Posted by: Beyonce Rowles (L.O.V.E.) at April 24, 2009 4:13 PM

I don't know what underlingus entails but I'm willing to give it a good ol' college try.

I will marry this woman who asks for underlingus and do my best to pleasure her until the stars fall from the sky. (I'm a sucker for the thigh-high boots.)

I had a friend in college whose quota was 5. That seems kind of low to me, but I've recently decided to start lying and saying 8 whenever I'm asked. My number is low(especially for my age), but apparently not low enough because every guy who's ever asked has seemed upset after I'm honest.
The last guy had numbers in the triple digits and was upset about my measley dozen. But then he was also certifiable so I doubt his opinion means anything.

I refuse to answer the numbers question. Most guys find any number more than one to be upsetting no matter what they say.
The numbers question is enough to start alarm bells ringing for me. You might as well have a giant neon sign over your head saying "I'M POSSESSIVE AND INSECURE!"

You're welcome, Pink Hulk. You human toilet, you.

Case, as usual I'm catching up late, but in case you check back to see who may have responded to your comments, may I say - Fuck you for judging.

I will call your ass out if you pull gay bashing, hating shit in the goddamn clubhouse. There is no room for that in an honest discussion about sexual values. Sure, you have a place to air an opinion on the topic but when you try to cut a commenter you best look out, small fry.

I have to say, hearing about triple digits made me goggle a bit too. It makes me a kinda exhausted just to think about it. The time management alone!

Column A: a little grossed out.

Column B: a little jealous.

Case, you've got a lot of growing up to do, and probably some personal issues to work out if you are so enraged by other people's decisions about their own bodies.

Shame to think you'd have a completely different opinion of me based on whether I'd slept with three or three hundred. How would that even affect your interaction were we to meet? How can you assume that sexual self respect has a numerical value? What on earth have you decreed to be the golden digit?

Not that I'd care too much about anyone who thought their morals were superior to mine. If I see you at the 'Con, you'd better wear your nametag.

(And I'll agree with you - upon clarification you're not gay bashing - just distasteful and rabid.)

I think that the world today has no restraint from geting what it wants when it wants. Everyone wants immediate pleasure be it with food, sex, or whatever it may be.

SO it is sad that the world and people stop caring about what sex means and should be. The fact that a lot of these people on here who have so many partners is pretty disgusting and pathetic. and i honestly beleive noone wants someone who is in the triple digits. ANd yes people do stil count and it does still matter what number of partners a person has. sex to me and others whom i know and asociate with still hold it to a high respect, that it should be soemthing special with soemone you love, not instant gratification with a stranger.