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Whoreish Mouth is way older than me. By like, decades or something. And it's awesome. Nothing like finding kinky ways to use a walker.

I don't see the issue. Their relationship neither skeeves nor creeps me out. They're consenting adults. They can pretty much love whoever they want and marry whomever they want as far as I'm concerned, old/young, man/man, woman/woman, you name it. So long as its consensual and their adults, I'm pretty much fine with it.

That said, I find the photo spread to be a bit much and I don't find Sam Taylor-Wood to be terribly attractive, but if they're happy, I'm happy for 'em.

It's creepy because 23 years is a huge age gap, always. And even if he really, really wanted to become a father at such a young age I cannot shake the feeling that it had more to do with her age than anything else. I just feel that he is at a disatvantage to a woman who has 23 years more life experience than he has. He cannot even legally get drunk yet! I just don't believe that relationships with these huge gaps in age and experience are relationships between equals and that is what feels creepy.

Huh. I don't see him bumping her face.

ba-DUM.

She may not be attractive but she DOES give him Wood.

ba-DUM.

OK, those were cheap shots for cheap laughs. She looks like she has some rough miles on her but I wouldn't kick her out of bed for eating crackers. How old is she? You don't say ...

WHAT? Jeebus, man, she's only 43, it's not like we're talking Betty White here. I can call her "girl" (one of the few good things about getting older is that every year there's another crop of "girls").

When I was 18, I had a summer job working as a deliver guy for a portrait studio. My supervisor was 42, blonde, with a great rack and a shaky marriage.

Yeah, I did her. Twice.

Don't knock it, is all I'm saying.

Also, I have come up with a line in case some 20-year-old hottie ever comes on to me (shaddup):

"Honey, if you were 20 years older I'd be all OVER you."

Well, I think everyone here can guess my reaction at this point, but just in case the obvious needs stating: I'm more turned on than grossed out.

You can't help who you love. And, as has also been stated, they're both consenting adults. AND, everybody's different. Your life experience at 20 may be completely different from someone else's; don't project.

Doesn't she feature in a few fairy tales as the antagonist?

"Speaking in May, Miss Taylor-Wood stated: ‘I’m in love, I’m blissfully content and I’m pregnant. No one’s getting hurt. We’re in a loving relationship. We’re engaged. Everyone who matters is happy. Hang on… Exactly which bit of that do I have to defend or apologise for?”

"Johnson, in turn, said that his fiancée was far younger in spirit than her age as he called himself an ‘old soul’. She then replied: ‘That’s definitely what he is. Since childhood he’s spent so much time away from home and in the company of established actors. I think it made him grow up fast. This whole age thing is abstract to us anyway. We don’t ever think about it. He’s more mature now than are a lot of men my age. He stops me from spinning out and being a complete nutter, which I’m definitely capable of. He grounds me and keeps me calmer.’"

"She added: ‘You know, this whole age obsession thing is funny. If I were going out with another woman, you wouldn’t ask me what advice I’d give to someone contemplating doing the same thing. If I were in a mixed race relationship, you wouldn’t say, ‘So what’s it like?’ People in love don’t see gender, colour or religion. Or age. It’s about the other person, the one that you love and who loves you. You don’t think of them in terms of a label. You just go with your heart. This, if anything, is what I find frustrating, the having to think of ways for people to accept our situation. You try and try and eventually you just think, ‘Oh, f*** it.’"

From: http://tinyurl.com/24xyh7t

Damn, ya'll, I'm a bit grossed-out by all the responses to her looks. Heaven forbid a woman show any signs of having lived on her face, without succumbing to the Botox.

Is she a supermodel? Hell no. But in that shot of them kissing, she looks radiant, which tells me a lot about (at least the current state of) this relationship - two people who make each other happy when they are around each other.

Talk to me when you've raised three amazing boys, have weathered three heart attacks with your spouse, and have celebrated nearly four decades of anniversaries with your spouse like my parents-in-law have.

I suspect a bit of this hubbub is more about "Hate on the Uggo" than legitimate concern about Dude's well-being. He looks like he's doing j ust fine.

Yeah, it's icky. None of my business, since they're both legal, but I can't imagine what they talk about and why they should have a kid together. Love doesn't conquer all. Not for long.

My younger brother married a woman who was over 20 years older than him. One day he woke up and discovered he was married to a 60-year-old. It wasn't long before he found himself a younger honey (honestly, she's a younger version of the same woman) and divorced his first wife. Now, my brother's pretty much a dick, too, but we all saw this coming....

I've had a guy hit on me in a bar recently and while he was smoking hot, he was at least 15 years younger than me, and even buzzed, I had to pass. It just would have been too weird.

The Other Agent Johnson (are you the one who was in Nam?) You make a great point, we dont know either of them so its a little harsh to judge and they seem sincerely in love, but yeah, at the same time, why does a younger man and older women get a pass when if it was flipped around we'd freak?
SInce I dont give them a pass because srsly, ew, I agree completely. It has nothing to do with looks but with age and the idea he was actually,what, like, 17, 18 when they met?
Which is weird

I saw them the other day. I thought she was his mother. Oh well.

I don't know if it creeps me out. At worst he's in way over his head because, at that age, you simply don't know shit about shit. Mostly I just don't see it as any of my business.

Nadine, we freak if the roles were reversed because there's a stereotype that older men are inherently more predatory and that younger women are inherently more susceptible/corruptible/innocent.

That standard doesn't seem to apply to the young man/older woman scenario for many people.

*NOTE: I AM HYPOTHESIZING*

I think it "skeeves" people out because there's an implied Oedipal-complex relationship going on here. When you consider that Johnson is only 20, it would lend itself to the thinking that he hasn't really slept with that many women. So along comes cougar-ish director with lots of power and stories and money yadda yadda, and sweeps impressionable young guy off his feet, and in his relative immaturity, he's taken with her.

There's always some less-than-virtuous traits we associate with an older man/younger woman relationship. The money, the taking advantage of, the career move. So is it kind of equal thinking to say that a woman is just as capable of these motivations as a man?

I think I'd be okay with it if he was a little older. At that age (figuring they met when he was what, 18?) your window to the world is only as big as a dark peephole at a sporting event. I dunno, it seems creepy to me if only because it's too easy to make the leap into negative thinking. I certainly wouldn't wish anything bad on them.

Initially this creeped me out, but now I think they look cute/happy together. But the next person to make a Cougar comment will get their comeuppance, for cereal.
She kind of looks like Toni Collette, and what with my binging on United States of Tara, this is just me manifesting my love for the show.

Yeah, I think if there's a fifteen year age gap when one person is say, 30, the other 45, yes, that's fine, they're both grown adult's who've lived long, experience rich lives and are both far more world wise.

The fact he's 20 and like I say, they met when he was how old now? Does make it creepy to me.

I agree, we shudder when it's a 20 year old woman and an older man because yes, there's this idea that older men prey on hot younger women or idolise them and it's a little sad and weird etc but like...okay, Demi is about the same age older than Ashton and it's weird and it's weird when that kid from Nip/Tuck started banging Joely, WHO PLAYS HIS MOTHER.
To me the creep factor comes from a different place; we inherently think of women as being maternal(which isn't always fair or appropriate) so yes, I think Oedipal is definitely the word to use, we think of women as motherly so it's weird to see a woman with a kid who could be her son.

And this photoshoot in particular is just weird because he looks even younger with his shirt off

The "inexperienced" theory is crap too, you know.

Reason # 1 - there are tons of 20 year olds who are plenty experienced.

Reason # 2 - Would we be saying that if he was dating another 20 year old? And they were in a serious relationship?

I have family members that do both gender arrangements of this. And they don't really work. And really weird me out for the reasons listed above. However, I agree that I don't know them or their experience - it's possible they have a magical love and it overcomes that obstacle. I'm all for dating across age gaps (4 of my boyfriends were more than 10 years my senior), but I feel like eventually that gap grows to a point where you can't get past it. I hope that's not the case - it's rare in Hollywood for ANY relationship to succeed, so I always like to wish them well!

I am 56. Mrs. Spender is 37. We have been married for seventeen years, so do the math.
Sometimes, these things work out and, as most of you know, we have a gorgeous 16 year old daughter who is happy, well-adjusted and almost ready for college.
It's not our place to judge any couple that manages to find a little happiness in a world gone bloody, fucking mad and I think that the comments denigrating this woman's physical attributes area step down in class and style from men and women who generally are more tolerant and open towards others.
I wish them a long and happy life together.

mswas:

That was perfect.

Whatever, I'm not feeling very eloquent. I just want to hi-five her for tapping that everyday.

Whatever, I'm not feeling very eloquent. I just want to hi-five her for tapping that everyday.
Posted by: jM at July 19, 2010 12:00 PM

Aww, yeah. Dude is BEAUTIFUL. (And jM = still my favorite.)

My sister married a guy about 23 years younger than her. She's extremely overweight and he's a bit (ok, a lot) spectrum-y. They are very well-matched and have a great relationship. I personally think they are soul mates-- there aren't a whole lot of other people who "get" either one of them. They were introduced through their common geeky friends who thought they would hit it off. Their age and experience differences have never mattered. Yes, people often mistake my sister for his mother, but they don't care. And I don't think anyone who sees them together thinks my sister is "taking advantage" of him. Get over it people!

If he were 30 and she were 53, it wouldn't be that creepy, but you change SO MUCH between the ages of 20 and 30 that he is missing out on now. Also, the maturity levels of a 20 year-old and a 30-year old are SO different. And, really? She can't even take him out for drinks! Too creepy. Give him 10 years and then sink your claws in, you weird old bat.

I’m amused at the venom that is being spewed by some of the women here towards this older woman for being with a younger man. Maybe the guy is interested in this woman because she isn’t interested in babbling incessantly about any fucking thing. Maybe the guy just likes silence, or just maybe they love fucking each other.

Also, I love YOU, Pookie. And I don't care who knows it, or how old you are.

43, and my tongue is not shy.

I think it's totally gross. I agree that there is a ceiling on how much of an age gap you can comfortably get away with, particularly when you are in your early 20s, or worse, EIGHTEEN freaking years old.

Until I was in my mid-20s, I NEVER dated anyone more than a year or two older because until that age, it seemed like every year mattered. 13 is way different from 17; 16 is completely different from 21; etc. When I was 23, I started dating a guy who was 30 and five years later, we've gotten married. There's a 6 1/2 year age difference for us, so not too bad.

However, even with that small amount, I noticed differences. At 23, I still wanted to go out all the time party a bit, while he had already had 9 years of being able to legally drink and was tiring of the bar scene. We were both in law school at the time, and that helped us find common ground, but it was sometimes strange to me that he had lived all over the country, traveled, and held a couple of different jobs before going back to school. I went to law school straight from undergrad and had no idea what it was like to work.

Now at 28 and 35, we're much more compatible. But it is STILL weird, for example, that almost of his friends have kids, and that some of their kids are in middle school, while my friends just started having babies in the last couple of years.

These differences are fun for us, and interesting, but we did encounter problems with even our small age gap (i.e., 23 year old me wanted to go out a lot more than 30 year old him). I can't help but imagine that the more years you add, the more issues arise.

Not to mention I unequivocally find (and have always found) the idea of dating someone my dad's age totally and utterly creepy. I apologize to those who are in relationships where age varies that much, but it totally skeeves me out, in terms of what I'd want for my personal life. You may look at the world differently...to each his own, I guess.

For Christ sakes tt_marie, you act like you’re married to ”Papillon.”

I'm doing well, how're you, Pookie?

mswas and I are going to be meeting in the parking lot after school. I'll be the one in the Whitesnake fringe jacket, smoking Marlboro Reds, standing next to the Iroc.

They have a certain taste that a younger woman just don't have.

Like a well aged beef......curtain.

"Why Do I Feel So Creeped Out By This May/December Romance?"

Because you're not in it.

Do I have to explain this to everyone?

No one forced you to play the voyeur card.

"I'm soooo creeped out! I can't look away!"

Stop being so Victorian ffs. Histrionics of late look like institutionalized trolling. Don't emulate the competition. Bad form in the long-term.

To quote the philosopher Richie:

All Night Long

(All niiiight).

Okay, let's try it this way... for those of you who have kids.

If your 17 or 18 year-old kid (regardless of gender) was getting it on with their 40+ year-old boss (whether a movie director or a Burger King Asst. Manager) , would you be okay with this? I'm guessing most of you would not.

This is not a person in their 50's and another in their 30's. Someone in their 40's should not act upon interests on someone who not only is young enough to be their child- but in fact is still one. And despite what many teenagers think, they are still kids. The fact that he's now 20 doesn't change things because it started when he was much younger. While I cannot say for certain since I don't know them, the dynamic seems to be the same.

This is about control. She had it, he didn't. She has all the advantages; financially, occupational, maturity, experience, sexual, and educational. Relationships need to have some balance, some equality. I'm just not seeing where he had any of it.

Call me Kreskin, but I do not see a long-term relationship with these two. I think as he gets older, he's going to realize he wants more.

P.S.- If this were my kid, there would be one less director in the world. But then again my kids would have more sense than this one to begin with.

At the age of 28, my age limit for date-able men is 5 under, 15 over. However, when I was 20, it was even-steven or 5 over. I could not even begin to relate to guys who were more than 5 years older than me... unless it was a professor or TA, in which case it was more of a fantasy.

I think this is one of those authority-figure crushes that's going to burn out in less than 3 years. It's a shame they brought a kid into it. It was selfish of her and she should have known better.

Seems like women are more on the side of "skeeved" while men are more to the side of "MILF Hunter".

What do I think about it? Bitch is lucky. He's gorgeous and interesting, and she's a successful artist/photographer/filmmaker/everything.

I'm involved with a 52 year old who looks like late-thirties David Tennant with the attitude and maturity of a 25 year old. Doesn't want kids and I can't have them. He's fun and playful and gorgeous, and to me, he is perfect.

It's all whether the minds connect. When it happens to you, you honestly do not see age. If anything, this speaks for Aaron Johnson's maturity and openmindedness. He obviously doesn't think it's skeezy.

Heather Mills! She looks like Heather Mills!

That has been bothering me all day. No, I don't have a thoughtful comment about the actual point of the post.

"Whatever, I'm not feeling very eloquent. I just want to hi-five her for tapping that everyday."
Posted by: jM at July 19, 2010 12:00 PM

My thoughts as well. If only I could be waking up to someone like that every morning when I am 43...

Anyway, who cares @ the age thing? He's hot, she seems like a cool lady, they look happy, and baby-sized converse are adorable.

I'm more disturbed at the fact that he could get probably any girl and he want for her. She's fuck ugly. Plus he's 20 he should be going to parties and shit but instead he is taking care of a kid. Dumb choice on his part if you ask me.

the age difference doesn't creep me out so much as the fact that he is SO YOUNG. Obviously they are both legal adults and can consent and everything, and the age difference itself, as other commenters have stated, might not matter so much if he was, say, 30. But ultimately it is their choice and if they are happy, I cannot judge them.

Riddle me this fuckheads:

What are the average ages for males/females in their "sexual peak"?

It's about 18-21 for men; late 30s-early 40s for women.

Again, you're not part of their fireworks show, so you go all sour grapes.

she looks like a 60 year old woman... this is taboo

WTF.
that's so eefin disgusting...
and how did that ugly troll get pregnant?
she's toooo old to have kids.