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Kurt Cobain's Death Still Holds Secrets 20 Years Later

By Agent Bedhead | Pajiba Love | March 21, 2014 | Comments ()


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New photos from the Kurt Cobain suicide scene have been released. Since we’re being morbid … where were you when Kurt’s death was announced? (Gawker)

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  • Ben

    I was 7 and didn't care. As I grew up I realized that I still don't really care.

  • Sara Habein

    I kind of like reading the book after the film because then you end on an upnote.

    I was almost 11 when Kurt Cobain died and found out by my dad flipping through channels, landing for a moment on MTV replaying the Unplugged set, and I read the ticker going across the bottom. I said, "Oh, he died?"

    My dad said, "Yeah, the idiot shot himself in the head." And then he changed the channel.

    I hadn't really come to appreciate Nirvana's music yet, but I still kind of looked at my dad like, "Well that's a rather harsh way of putting it."

  • John W

    Here's M.I.A.'s response:

  • The Kilted Yaksman

    I was 23 in 1994, basically the prime target for grunge. I hated it all.
    I was much more affected by Dwayne Goettel's death in 1995.

  • barcia

    I'm not even remotely a Madonna fan (she's untalented and overrated), but who the fuck decides that someone is "too old" to get dressed up as a TV character? Are there any more rules I should know about before I climb into my Sailor Moon rig?

  • I was scrolling through the comments to see if anyone else was thrown off by that before I posted my indignation. If it had been a wrinkly 80 year old in a Wonder Woman costume, it would've been acceptable and oh so adorable. God forbid a woman between 40 and 70 (probably more like 35 and 80) do something fun that all of the cool (young) people are doing. Thanks for speaking up!

  • barcia

    Ta, love. I'm so over facacta rules for what women (of any age, but especially those of us at "a certain age") are allowed to do and not to do.

  • Just two: 1) Unless there is a hot girl involved, or a ridiculously fat guy, nobody cares about cosplay and 2) costumes are best left to children and Hallowe'en.

  • barcia

    1) I'm both, so. 2) and I'm sad for you.

  • You're both a hot girl and a ridiculously fat guy? That must be confusing.

  • barcia

    Only to those with little or no imagination.

  • See, now I'm imagining some sort of Ms. Jekyll and Mr. Neckbeard type situation. Or does it work more like the Hulk? Does the full moon come into play at any point?

  • barcia

    See, now you're using your imagination! Sew up a costume and join us.

  • DominaNefret

    I was in my "tomboy" phase, wearing JNCO wide leg pants and hockey jerseys, but mostly listening to Ace of Base and disney soundtracks. I claimed my favorite band was The Smashing Pumpkins though; which actually ended up being true several years later.

    I never liked Nirvana. I thought they were boring.

  • PDamian

    On another topic entirely: If all the female cosplayers (and some males as well, fer shure) are playing Danaerys, who's going to wear the Princess Leia bikini?

  • Wigamer

    Oh, to be as young as some of you. I was 20 and tried to seem very sad because I felt like it was expected. I always secretly thought he seemed like an asshole, and I feel like time and Courtney Love may have proven me right. Plus in 1994 Eddie Vedder was still alive and so, so fine.

    Now, when River Pheonix died? I was legitimately crushed.

  • ljridley

    I was in Seattle, but I really didn't care enough about Cobain or Nirvana to remember where I was when I heard. I do remember being chatted up by some kid on a bus a few weeks later, he was telling me how depressed he was about Cobain's death and that he wanted to take himself out the same way. Then he asked me out. Worst pick up ever.

  • Dumily

    Ouch. Honestly the most painful thing about Cobain's death is remembering how awkward and awful I was at that age. 12 year old girls should not wear their older brother's Phish t- shirts.

  • ljridley

    I'm not sure it's possible not to be awkward and awful at 12. I myself subjected everyone to a lot of Air Supply (ugh) and for a lot longer than was reasonable to have such terrible taste.

  • Dumily

    Again, ouch.

  • Fabius_Maximus

    I was going on 20 when Cobain died. I didn't care much, just that I was save from his music from then on. The best thing Nirvana did was to - more or less - resurrect rock music and giving us Dave Grohl. The worst thing Nirvana did was completely overshadowing much better bands.

  • ljridley

    I am upvoting you, not for myself so much as for my boyfriend, who cannot for the life of him understand why Nirvana is so fucking influential. He can only hear how much better the Meat Puppets were.

  • Genevieve Burgess

    I was seven when he died. I knew his music, because my parents listened to the local alternative rock stations (99.1 WHFS and DC 101.1 for any DC area Pajibans) but by the time I knew who Kurt Cobain was as an individual he was already dead. I feel like this might be one of the brighter lines that can be drawn between Gen X and the older millennials: if you were old enough to know who Kurt Cobain was when he was still alive.

  • This feels right. I was 11 when he passed, I knew some songs from older friends and had just started playing some of Nirvana's music (for piano, because I'm classy) so i was aware of the band, but not necessarily the man. The ghost of Cobain then shaped the next 7 years of music as I consumed everything there was to consume.

  • DominaNefret

    I was 9 going on 10. I'd already decided I liked alternative rock, and started listening to DC 101.1. I had decided that my favorite band was The Smashing Pumpkins, and I knew who Kurt Cobain was.

    That being said, I'm pretty sure that 70% of the music I was listening to was my Ace of Base cassette and Little Mermaid Soundtrack DC on repeat.

  • Genevieve Burgess

    I went to my first two concerts in or around 1992. One was Raffi. The other was the Indigo Girls. I was on the cusp of being more aware of music and the people behind it, but not quite there yet. I was also a huge Little Mermaid fan, and a couple years later became hopelessly devoted to the Spice Girls.

  • DominaNefret

    My mom was a hippie, so I saw Peter, Paul, and Mary at Wolf Trap 4 or 5 times when I was really little. Like, '89-'92.
    We also saw Raffi at Wolf Trap, might have also been '92. Was that where you saw him? We might have been at the same show.

  • Genevieve Burgess

    Yes it was! Funny.

  • DominaNefret

    That's kind of awesome.

  • Bert_McGurt

    You might be right - and if so I'm somewhere on the bubble. I was old enough (11) to know who he was, but not old enough to really know his (their) music. In yet another example of the "Weird Al Effect", I was familiar with Smells Like Teen Spirit through Al's parody video.

    Of course I was just about to enter junior high school, so I became heavily familiar with Nirvana right quick.

  • Belphebe

    So many youngsters commenting on Cobain. I get it youth of America, our heroes aren't yours. Shut it.

    I found out on my way to high school (10th grade). I saw the article in a newspaper in my orthodontist's office and instead of heading to first period, I ditched school went to the park where I found a group of similarly devastated classmates and we spent the day smoking pot and listening to Nirvana played over the car radios by the local indie station. It was both the worst and best day of that year of my life.

    Oh and I got sooooo busted as the school vice principal drove by spotted us and then promptly called everyone's parents.

  • Dumily

    I'm not sure how to write this without sounding all "hey look at me and my dead dad" so let me assure you that in retrospect, I'm much more disturbed by how callously 12 year old girls treat each other than anything else. My dad killed himself in February of '94. In April, my very angsty, remarkably self-centered best friend at the time told me that "no one will ever be as affected by a death as I am by Kurt's death." Granted she was 12, but goddamn. I'm still slightly convinced she could be an Aileen Wuorons level serial killer.

  • Bert_McGurt


  • Dumily

    Right? Every once in a while, I'll have these moments of seeing childhood memories through my adult eyes. This one makes me think I should have just turned to her and said, "Shit, girl, what is broken inside of you?"

  • Salieri2

    That is what Quantum Leap should have been about: your future self jumping into your past self and knowing the right thing to say.

  • Dumily

    I could do that show for 12 straight seasons. I have so many jerk store moments.

  • BWeaves

    Who's Kurt Cobain?

  • stella

    I think he he was the lead singer of pearl jam.

  • llp

    Those are hurting words.

  • Wigamer

    No, he was NOT! (I so loved Pearl Jam)

  • Dumily

    Wait, this is ironic, right? Because if it turns out you're just 19 or something, I'm going to be really pissed.

  • BWeaves

    Nah, old. I quit listening to the radio in 1976.

  • Dumily

    Phew. I guess it's how I feel about the kids these days with their Harry Beibers and their Selena Lovatos.

  • BWeaves

    Hairy Beavers?

  • Dumily

    Only after he's washed up and has to start doing porn.

  • BWeaves

    So, tomorrow?

  • Dumily

    God I hope not. I at least need him to grow out of his weird, wispy facial hair phase before he releases his sex tape.

  • Bananapanda

    I remember it so clearly. I was in Claremont CA setting up for lunch at the student coop and the radio DJ was being very cautious to not say it was Kurt Cobain. During that shift there was a gradual evolution (911 is at the house, there's a body) and then confirmation that just seemed inevitable. And then Courtney Love, clearly heartbroken, was pleading with people that suicide isn't the way. It was a sad sad day.

  • Dennis Albert Ramirez

    i was 12 in 1994, and my dad had just hooked up the Prodigy internet service. the first thing that popped up was a news page saying that singer of some band named Nirvana was found dead. My reaction was to look for games to play since i had no idea who that was

  • stella

    Well I was four so Id imagine watching some Disney movie or pretending that I was a pirate.

  • cruzzercruz

    I was five years old and my dad gave me Nevermind so I could know who he was talking about.

  • lowercase_ryan

    That Time piece, well said.

  • BWeaves

    That first sentence! Oi!

  • Mrs. Julien

    I'd never wanted to give a news magazine a high 5 before.

  • Berry

    In the spring of 1994 I was thirteen going on Sylvia Plath, so probably in my room, writing something angsty in my journal, or reading something angsty.

  • emilya

    i am SO stealing that description of being 13 because it is just so damn perfect.

  • Berry

    Whee, I've never come up with an expression someone wanted to steal before. But now I can finally cross that off the bucket list. This is a good day.

  • Mrs. Julien

    I was in London, England when my friend told me, and I quote, "So, Kurt Cobain ate a shotgun". I replied, and I quote, "Who's Kurt Cobain?".

  • TheOtherGreg

    I had no idea who he was either. I still have only the vaguest notion of why he was significant.

  • Mrs. Julien

    I know now, I just didn't know then. I was a 27 year old Canadian woman, I was all about the Sarah McLachlan at the time.

  • PooPooNumber2


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