Pajiba

Meh, it's my opinion that women get the press because women are the consumers.

My sexual fantasies are usually kept on a list; fetishes are a shorter category. I will elaborate, but only if pressed on the subject.

The most sexual organ in any human being, male or female, is located between the ears. People can sexualize anything - Richard Hammond on Top Gear sounded as if he had an orgasm at the sight of the Zonda Cinque.

I suppose I'd be terribly indiscreet in elaborating on this, but suffice to say it's great to discover you can be even more complex and varied than you thought!

The reason people (men and women) think that men aren't sexually complex is because MEN THEMSELVES say it ALL THE TIME. Everywhere. On TV, in movies, in magazines and newspapers, on the intertubes, in real life.

"Men aren't complicated, they just want ___________." The blank being the same relatively small number of things men say they want (as opposed to the supposedly gigantic number of things women demand). Sex, a blowjob, steak and a blowjob, a sammich, a naked woman, several naked women, twins, any woman who will have sex with them.

Men constantly and consistently claim that all they need to be happy sexually is one or two very simple things. Because they're so very easy-going and undemanding, you see, compared to the womenfolk. So men really have only themselves to blame for our belief that they are simple, uncomplicated creatures who have only to see boobs and/or a vagina and they're ready to go.*

* Obviously, applies only to the heteros. I guess the homosexual men would prefer a muscular young man in this scenario.

Speaking of the sex drive's being rooted in the brain, this header pic just put me off for, probably, weeks.

Maybe it's a consequence of being a middle aged white guy, but my impression is that the one person the entire world could care less about is the middle aged white guy.

And yeah, I realize the irony of an old white male complaining about discrimination, but the fact is that we, as a group, are one of the few who the world is still allowed to crap on.

Depends upon which class of middle-aged white guy you happen to fall into...

"Speaking of the sex drive's being rooted in the brain, this header pic just put me off for, probably, weeks. "

Not to get too uh informative, but NO. Just NO. I can smell the Axe and desperation from here. Just. F'ing NO.

I'll tell my husband to blame Pajiba.

"The world doesn't crap on middle aged white guys. They just don't feel sorry for them. And rightfully so."

For that, Mrcreosote gets 500 pleasure points and a bonus spank.

I used to be in the "Men are ALL the same ALL the time!" camp, but I've learned to experience each man as an individual after I graduated from college, just I like would want to be. When it comes to attraction and relationships (in adults), one thing I've found to be so invariably true: if he wants to be with you, he'll act like it. If he doesn't act like it, move it right along and stop wasting your time. I don't know why, but my homegirls are always asking me for sex, dating and relationship advice. I generally have no clue, except for the above.

Just to follow on branded's point: bravado/bluster tends to be the main way in which guys discuss sex. It's how we're trained/reared. Short of the one birds-bees talk we might get from dad, the majority of our sexual knowledge comes from bluster spoken amidst our young friends. It's the blind leading the blind.

And that doesn't go away because, as men, we continue to think that discussion of sex that doesn't involve our abilities as sexual conquerors is unwarranted/unneeded.

Pisaster, the reason why the majority of studies reported are about women is because the women's magazine empire needs them to justify their inanities and fill their issues.

I didn't say we didn't deserve it or we were the only ones getting crapped on, I said we're the only ones everyone is allowed to crap on with no social or political consequences. And you prove my point with your crappy guilt-by-association argument.

Dear Mr Idleprimate:

I absolutely adore you. I always look for, and enjoy, your comments. This time, however, I gotta say something.

I spent 20 years in the Navy, and the past year selling computers at a big box storem I'm obviously pretty old, and have had many years of experience (including two wretched marriages) dealing with men.

Your people do, indeed, spend an inordinate amount of time portraying yourselves as pretty base life forms. I'm just going to ask that all following statments be prefaced with "in my experience", k? You portray yourselves as being essentially without emotion that is not directly related to which team won what game. You barely know the names of your own children, much less their birthdays. You will, indeed, bang just about anything with a pulse. You whine and complain that women are snotty bitches, yet the only women you deem worthy of your attention are the sme 5 snotty bitches everyone else wants because they're hot.
Sigh. I freely admit that my experriences have been somewhat limited in that I have spent most of my adult life around military men, but is the average civilian so different? Or am I really jut that wrong?

And kindly forgive any typos as I am thunbing this on a blackberry.

XD Single, Lindsey, and here's why:

Gilly: While I understand that you prefaced your statements, I can only say that you are as bad at choosing dudes and I am at choosing women, apparently. I will say that it sounds like what I've complained about with women my whole life - women cry about the losers they've been with while continuing to go after the same type of guys.

I've no doubt guys do the same thing, but in my case, my ex-wife was dumb as a box of rocks, so I was determined to avoid much of the same problems I had by dating someone brilliant. 2 Masters and a PhD in Sociology. I forgot about the crazy. My next serious relationship was also very smart. 2 Masters in Chemistry and working on a PhD in Microbiology. Also crazy. Aspberger's crazy.

I raised my daughter as a single father because her mother couldn't be bothered to do anything for her birthday or any day because she's a narcissistic psycho drunk bitch who is still married to her pedophile husband. Actually left all our daughter's belongings in a box on the driveway, including the xmas gift my kid had given her. And that's the least horrible thing she did to my daughter.
I'm still friends with the first brilliant one because she was a good step-mother to my daughter, but the second brilliant one left me because I wouldn't cut all ties to the first brilliant one. The only ties I still had were the ties my daughter had with her as her only 'real' mother. She lost her real mother, I wasn't going to take away her pseudo-mother because this crazy bitch can't handle not being in control.
My high school ex called me out of the blue a couple of years ago and told me she was separated and wanted to hook up. Turns out she wasn't separated and too stupid to know that she shouldn't use her credit card to reserve that nice hotel room.

And still I wouldn't stoop to saying "You are all crazy, selfish bitches" even though "in my experience" you are all fucking crazy, selfish bitches who think of no one but themselves.

I'm willing to admit that I made poor choices, but at least I made choices rather than simply settling for the same person over and over.

That being said; a/s/l Lindsey? :D

Not that Asbperger's is crazy. as always, its more complicated than that

Protoguy,

So all the women you've been with ended up being crazy and possessive, but you say you haven't settled "for the same person over and over?" Yes. Yes you have. A person's education level or job or income level does not constitute "different" people. What you need to do is work on your Crazy Lady detector. Realize you have a weakness for them and recognize the triggers. Did she get too drunk on one of your first dates? Is she totally confused about why men have broken up with her in the past? Does she get irrationally worked up over little irritations? These are all examples of RED FLAGS, especially if they happen early in the relationship when you're on your best behavior. I've seen them all and the women always turn out weird.

So while I feel bad for your daughter and her future with a shitty mother, I REALLY hope you can find a way to steer clear of lunatics for both your sakes. Listen to your gut. It does not, in fact, have shit for brains.

RE branded: "Congratulations on buying into the bravado stereotype. If we men say it, then obviously it must be true. Why on Earth would anyone ever lie about their libido, right?"

So ... men, who also constantly claim that they (specifically in marked contrast to women) always say what they mean, are not to be believed when they say something?

Men don't get to be the "rational" ones but then claim the same privilege women supposedly do - to say one thing but mean another. Make up your minds. If you yourself always clearly and definitively say what you mean, cool. But not everybody with a penis does. Obviously.

I don't believe everything men say, just observed that men themselves say these things, all the time. And I'm sure (and assumed everyone understood) that there are exceptions. But your implication that men don't do this (claim they have simple needs when it comes to sex) is what's utter bullshit. Maybe you don't do it, but you're not all men. Your view doesn't represent all of them any more than mine does.

I suspect men don't want to appear to be "complicated" because being "complicated" (read: emotional) is a womanish thing. Men have always described women as crazy, irrational, etc. Basically, that women are always emotionally and psychologically imbalanced, one bad day away from a nervous breakdown, unreliable, etc. Because of all those girly emotions. Emotions that men don't have, apparently.

Many men don't want to cop to having any emotions other than content, horny or angry (always justifiably angry, of course, unlike women). Because having emotions is a chick thing. I guess you didn't get that memo. You should contact the International Men's League and ask them to update their email list.

@Slash

This. I was just talking with a guy who regularly uses the phrase "don't get all crazy", and who REALLY didn't appreciate that phrase being used back at him. Because only girls get crazy. Duh.

Protoguy I spotted your problem:

A woman who appreciates the fact that my idea of a perfect night is two hours of foreplay and 3 or 4 orgasms for her before I'm done.

Damn, dude. I've got shit to do.

And again, my point was that I don't believe all women are crazy, selfish bitches despite what my own experience tells me.

I will add, however, that when men start paying $300 a week to color their hair, $200 a week to get a mani-pedi, $200 a week on drycleaning $500 t-shirts from Abercrombie while trying to run me down with their monster trucks on their way to spend $7 on a cup of burnt-tasting coffee while texting on their $400 iPhones and fishing through their $1000 Coach bags for their Xanax and taking up all three lanes while doing so...When the only shop in our area that is doing brisk business despite the recession is a store called Katy Bug Faye, then I'll consider the idea that men are as crazy as women. In general.

I think my problem is that I live in an area with a lot of wealthy, stay-at-home moms whose days seem to consist of the above.

Okay, maybe every two weeks. Gotta fix them roots. There are a number of nail/spa/salon places around here. The nail place's m/p's are $80, but the cheap salon's are $120. Apparently the only reason a color job is over $200 is if foil is involved. My ex apparently got the foil treatment...until I got laid off, then she had to do it at home herself.

Either way, there are 4 of them in the strip mall I work at and they are always full.

oO"

On a lighter note. The Starbucks has a drive through. Woe betide you if you're not paying attention when passing the entrance or exit. It's like the buffet opened on a weight watchers cruise, in tanks.