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Georgia Tech Fraternity Offers Helpful Advice on How to 'Lure Rapebait,' Be Horrible People

By Dustin Rowles | Miscellaneous | October 8, 2013 | Comments ()


The title of the following email, from Matthew Peterson, the social chair of Georgia Tech’s Phi Kappa Tau, is “Luring Your Rapebait.” It was sent to all of his fellow frat brothers. The gist of the strategy is this: Get woman a drink, grind up on woman, have sex with woman. If at any point, the strategy hits a lull, get woman more drinks. Repeat until woman has sex with you, at which point, you send her on her way.

It’s important to note, however, that Peterson implore his frat buddies, “NO RAPING!!!!!” They key is to get the female so wasted that she volunteers consent.


“Alright chods, some of you could use some help on how to mack and succeed at parties. Mostly pledges do, but some bros could use a review. For anytime throughout the party… If you are standing by yourself at any point, YOU ARE OUTTA HERE!!! If you are talking to a brother of your pledge brothers when there are girls just standing around, YOU ARE OUTTA HERE!!!

Ok, if it is before midnight… A group of girls is standing around, grab a bro or pledge bro and go talk to them. First, introduce yourself and get their name, ask if they are having a good time, and then ask if they want anything to drink. If they say yes, walk them to the bar and tell them what we have to drink. If they say no and they look like they are in a sorority, ask them if they are in a sorority (DUH). If not, choose one of the following: where are you living, where are you from, have you been here before, how are classes going, or where all have you been tonight. Then proceed to have a conversation. IF THEY ARE HAMMERED AT ANY POINT BEFORE MIDNIGHT, JUST SKIP THE CHIT CHAT AND GO DANCE.

Midnight or after, if you have been talking for awhile and they’ve had a couple drinks, ask if they want to dance. If you see an untalked to group or a solo girl, go up to her and ask if she wants anything to drink. If she says yes, get her a drink and then ask if she wants to dance. If she says no, ask her to dance. DANCING IS FUN!!!!! Always try to dance. If she does not want to dance and is with friends, say “aw thats no fun” (or something like that) and then ask one of her friends.

Here is how to dance: Grab them on the hips with your 2 hands and then let them grind against your dick. After that slowly alternate between just putting your hand across their stomach, but make sure don’t to go to high (keep it under the boob) or too low(dont try to finger her… yet). After a song, start putting your cheek on the side of her cheek. ALWAYS USE YOUR HANDS OR ARMS TO GUIDE THEIR DANCING in order to maximize your pleasure. If she starts putting her hair over her ear, THAT MEANS SHE WANTS A KISS. Therefore, try to give her a kiss on the cheek. They usually like that and nothing really should ebcome of it. In the case, go for the neck kiss. If for some reason they aren’t down for a cheek kiss, just dance through it or say you are going to get another drink and see if they want one. And then repeat from the beginning.

If the party is going good (a.k.a. there are a lot of open girls) try to escalate cause it’s awesome. Here is how to escalate: Try to twist her hips around to face you and dance front to front. FROM THERE THE OPTIONS ARE UNLIMITED! You can make-out with her (tongue on tongue), you can stick your hand up her shirt (not right away though), you can go for a butt grab (outside or inside the shirts), or use your imagination. ALWAYS START WITH THE MAKING OUT!!!! NO RAPING.

A short guide consist of the 7 E’s of HOOKING UP! 1. Encounter (spot a girl or group of girls) 2. Engage (go up and talk to them) 3. Escalate (ask them to dance, or ask them to go up to your room or find a couch, depending on what kind of party) 4. Erection (GET HARD) 5. Excavate (should be self-explanatory) 6. Ejaculate (should also be self explanatory) 7. Expunge (send them out of your room and on their way out when you are finished. IF ANYTHING EVER FAILS, GO GET MORE ALCOHOL. I want to see everyone succeed at the next couple parties.

Never trust a dude who uses the word “mack” unironically.

(Source: Total Frat Move via Jezebel)

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  • Josh

    Its a frat, a large quantity of them are full of assholes. That doesn't excuse it, though, just one of the horrid facts of existence. The internal memo does not surprise me. What I did find interesting was the "ask if they are in a sorority if they look like they are" bit. As if to say, "If they are in a sorority, do not Not!Rape them, because they have the social and administrative clout to fuck us up in the long run."

  • e jerry powell

    Maybe Rebecca Martinson needs to hook up with Matthew Peterson and work out a book deal.

  • I want to be filled with rage, but I can't stop laughing at the fact that he misspelled "chodes".

  • bonnie

    I've long held a prejudice that terrible people are crappy spellers, and that particular misspelling is not dismantling my prejudice.

  • Pippa Laughingstock

    I feel like the level of my disenchantment with the culture at large is best expressed by the fact that I felt so relieved and grateful that he said NO RAPING even though what he really meant is NO "RAPING". Baby steps, patriarchy. Baby steps.

  • dorquemada

    I blame the Rap.

  • Slash

    I think he stole the DENNIS system from "It's Always Sunny..."

  • ZbornakSyndrome

    Story time: I just volunteered on a campus for RAINN day, asking people to pledge that they are against sexual violence.

    One boy told us "You women take everything way too seriously. I mean, rape is bad, but no one's going to die if someone cops a feel."
    I desperately wanted to tag him with a GPS tracker, so I could keep tabs on his whereabouts.

  • Thor

    You could share something that happened on my campus the last year I was there: A guy copped a feel, the girl said get fucked, he beat her unconscious. At a Frat party.

  • ZbornakSyndrome

    Geez! I hope that girl was ok.
    It's disturbing how quickly that shit can escalate.

  • NateMan

    Best part is: I guarantee he was totally seriously, and didn't think it was malicious at all. In his mind he's a saint if all he does is grope a woman's ass.

  • ZbornakSyndrome

    To me, that's the scariest part: The men that know rape is wrong, but think that everything leading up to rape is cool. I mean, it doesn't seem like it would take much to cross that line.
    Once you've trapped a woman in a room and are groping her, why stop there?

  • nosio

    Reading things like this make me incredibly grateful that 17 year old me was bratty enough to follow through on my declaration that, "I've been stuck with girls for the past 4, long, shitty years, and fuck me if I'll apply to any school that revolves around Greek life."

    (Obviously, sororities and fraternities can be full of wonderful, positive experiences, but after spending my teens tucked away at an all-girls school located directly next to an all-boys school, the idea of pledging in college just seemed too much like High School Pt. 2. I wasn't even considering the date-rape scenarios back then.)

  • L.O.V.E.

    Not to defend this douche, but I do appreciate that between getting an erection and ejaculating he expects all the members to do a little landscaping. yardwork is important.

  • Sara_Tonin00

    I went to frat houses a total of twice through my 4 years of undergrad, and one of them was during orientation week. The Delta house aka the football house was known for having a "red book" (called by others the "rape book") of virgins deflowered.

    About 10 years ago the school eliminated Greek life period - two fatalities related to drinking was too many for such a small school.

  • Jezzer

    Is anyone ever really surprised by a "Greek House Does Horrible Thing" story?

  • wsapnin

    of course while reading that, all I could hear was Micheal Shannon's voice. I know you all have seen it before, but it's always good for a morning chuckle.

    shit like this makes me glad my daughter is gay.

  • stella

    Ew. Like seriously ew.

  • emmalita

    There was no Greek system at my college (billions and billions of years ago), but there was a party house. The hosts gave a speech near the start of each party - girls got their own drinks and if they were too drunk to get a drink they were too drunk to have another drink. Guys were not to try to talk a girl into having sex with them. One complaint about unwanted attention got you kicked out of the party, multiple complaints got you banned for the year. The guys who lived in the house enforced the rules and kept it a safe place. They also got a lot of sex from enthusiastic partners, but never on party night.

  • ZbornakSyndrome

    I picked my college because it had no Greek System. There were plenty of campus parties (everywhere), because the campus was super into consent rules, everyone sort of watched out for everyone else.

    One night I got walked home by four random people who saw me walking in the wooded path by their dorm late at night. They thought it was dangerous and decided to go with me as a group. It was really sweet, and the fact that they offered me some pot brownies for the journey just showed how considerate they truly were.

  • Sara_Tonin00

    That is an incredibly enlightened party house for billions and billions of years ago.

  • emmalita

    Which just goes to show not all college guys are that kind of asshole. And when the guys hosting the party take that kind of stand, other people follow their lead.

  • Viral marketing for Neighbors?

    Seriously, the author of this letter is anywhere between 18 and 21 and thus raised in the Internet Age. How could he possibly think PUTTING THIS IN WRITING would, in any way, end well for him and his frat?

  • simplysarah

    Am I wrong in the assumption that Frats have always been like this but without the glorious internet we were all just blinded to it?

  • Jezzer

    Depends on the fraternity. (But no.)

  • Yes.

  • L.O.V.E.

    And this is why my daughter's college choices will be limited to a nunnery or Ms. Robichaux's Academy in New Orleans where she will study arts and sciences, religion, potions, ninja arts, mma, and play soccer.

  • bastich

    "Potion-Slinging Ninja Soccer Nuns" needs to be a movie.

  • L.O.V.E.

    I am currently holding auditions at a local JC Penney intimates section.

    I found a mannequin that is going to be a STAR!

  • bastich

    Get me in a scene making out with Jennifer Tilly, and I'll work for free.

  • Maddy

    I can't even deal with this shit. I lived in a residential college for 2 years (admittedly in Australia) and boys did charming things like make a 'pro-rape' Facebook page but that's OK because 'boys will be boys'. There are some nice ones too obviously, but the whole culture is gross, but whenever girls say anything about it they're being a 'prude'. FFS

  • Bert_McGurt

    " can go for a butt grab (outside or inside the shirts)..."

    Call me an old man, I guess, but university girls keep their butts in their shirts now? F*ckin Bieber. It's got to be his fault.

    And come on dude, the seven E's? You make the D.E.N.N.I.S. system look chivalrous.

  • NateMan

    Counter it with the 3 Ds for bystander intervention:

    This technique involves causing some form of distraction that will interrupt the flow of potential violence. Once
    the bystander identifies a high risk situation he or she goes to work
    to distract either the target or the one about to do the violence. Some
    examples would be ask one of the people to help you find a lost item,
    interrupt to ask for directions, spill a drink, or start
    talking to the couple and don’t leave so isolation cannot happen. An
    easy technique women can use is to invite another woman to go to the
    bathroom with her. Once she is away from the other person, check in and
    ask if she is afraid or needs help. One male student noticed a woman was
    frowning and looking uncomfortable with the attention she was receiving
    from another man. He went up and asked the other man, “What are you
    doing with my girlfriend?” The woman played along and soon the other
    male left.

    When a bystander doesn’t feel safe to approach the situation
    alone, she or he can involve others. An example of this would be to say
    to one’s friends, “I am concerned for that person. Can you find their
    friends and get them to check on the situation, while I stay here and
    watch.” Another way would be to ask a bouncer at a bar to look into the
    situation. You could also ask the host to intervene. For example, “I am
    worried for that girl, who is so drunk. Could you let that guy know that
    upstairs is off limits?”

    With the direct approach you confront either the
    potential target or the person who you think is about to do violence.
    Examples of this technique would be to say to the couple, “We are
    finding her friends and they will take her home.” Or to say to the
    woman, “I am not letting a stranger take you home.” Or to say to the
    man, “Hey, you can’t take her upstairs; it’s not going to look good.”

    Credited to Dorothy Edwards, U of Kentucky, and being implented all across the higher ed system.

  • Captain_Tuttle

    I was in college well over 20 years ago, and my girlfriends and I implemented a similar system. I remember one night sprinting with 3 other girls from what I think was the Pi Kap house back to our dorms to rescue one of our friends who had gone off with a guy. Turns out he was the anomaly. He saw she was too drunk, got her home, and was helping her with the barfing part of being a freshman chick. We were terrified for her, and she lucked into one of the nice ones. I don't remember his name, but I do remember he was from Warner-Robbins, GA. So if there's a Pi Kapp Gator from around that time reading this (doubtful), please thank him again for me.

  • zeke_the_pig

    I implemented the first and third D's at a warehouse rave at last year's NYE celebrations when some wasted gorilla dickhead was tenaciously and aggressively trying it on with a completely unwilling woman. Having witnessed first hand that they do indeed work, I'd like to thank the people involved in spreading this message at campuses and elsewhere.

  • BobbFrapples

    Gag a maggot. *sigh*

  • NateMan

    Ha... Now there's a phrase I haven't heard in a long time.

  • BobbFrapples

    It felt appropriate. :)

  • Joe Grunenwald

    I never knew how to dance before reading this. So I learned something.

  • ZbornakSyndrome

    I've been so wrong about dancing for so long...who knew?

  • bastich

    I'm stealing "IF ANYTHING EVER FAILS, GO GET MORE ALCOHOL" as my personal mantra.

    Otherwise, screw these douchemonkeys.

  • Fredo

    I hope we get a reading by Michael Shannon soon. It's the perfect juxtaposition to that University of Maryland sorority email from a few months back.

  • ZbornakSyndrome

    Shouldn't we reverse the genders for this reading? Maybe Melissa McCarthy or Meryl Streep?

  • bastich

    My vote is for Kristen Schaal.

  • Maguita NYC

    Why are people surprised by this. You can be offended, and you should, but this is Campus reality. Where reported rapes have been constantly on the rise for the past 8 years.

    We have raised our daughters to learn how to protect themselves from rape, isn't it time we raise our sons to never think, behave or act like rapists?

    This is exactly what sons need to learn:

  • Yes, parents are culpable. It's not just the boys that need to be brought to account for such abhorrent behavior.

  • Ruthie O

    God, yes. I've been on the other side of this ploy. So many of my friends were during the college years. Legally, I gave consent. But emotionally, I did not. I felt gross, icky, and used afterwards. Legal consent is a really low bar; any decent human being should want their partner to WANT sex, not to just begrudgingly nod their head out of sheer exhaustion or drunkenness.

  • NateMan

    Very, very well said. I've had bad, drunken sex. And apart from the very real problem of pushing rope, it just wasn't as much FUN, for either of us. Let me be clear: it was always with consent, with me being at least as drunk as the person I was with. But with both of us out of it, it just wasn't fun. And sex should always be fun.

  • John G.

    that's a good point. consent can be begrudging. You can't have begrudging enthusiasm

  • NateMan

    It's important to note that increases in 'reported rapes' doesn't necessarily correlate to a rise IN rapes. Those rates are decreasing, in fact. It can (and I hope does) also correlate to an increased willingness of survivors to report their assaults, as well as schools, partly due to social changes and partly due to increased required reporting because of Title IX, putting a greater emphasis on combating the problem. Frats are not, despite assholes like this one, as rape-friendly as they used to be. Schools are coming down very hard on this sort of behavior, as they should.

    The situation is not perfect. But it's important to recognize that it IS improving, and not judge the system as a whole on the behavior of the douchebags that puff out their chests and salivate all over the Internet. Colleges will always, always have a problem with sexual assault. Too many sexually aggressive people in combination with the first real taste of freedom and easy access to drugs and alcohol will always be a problem. But we're working on it! :)

  • Maguita NYC

    I saw this today... Does it hold true in your experience?

  • NateMan

    I'd say it's probably location and organization specific. I'm pretty sure our rape rates have gone down. I can tell you with 100% certainty that our administration is not at all hostile to rape reports. They WANT to know as soon as possible. It wasn't always that way, and it certainly isn't the case at some other area schools, but we've got some great people at the top right now.

  • John G.

    why is it important? It's nowhere near good enough if shit like this is going on, so why do we have to take care to acknowledge that "hey, it's not as rapey as it could be."

  • Ruthie O

    I think it's important to note improvements because we should recognize the work that people are doing on campuses to make the situation better. I worked at a sexual assault education organization in college, and it could be really defeating to spend time, tears, and energy targeting a problem that seems to have no solution. The little victories are what keep good people motivated to continue to do good.

    But overall, I agree that any rape is too much rape. Still, I so appreciate the work that men and women are doing to combat sexual assault and promote awesome, enthusiastically consensual sex.

  • John G.

    I agree with you to a point. We don't want to talk ourselves into futile apathy, but we also don't want to congratulate ourselves too much over minor victories. it's a delicate balance.

  • NateMan

    Because to just look at it, throw up your hands and say "Welp, it's a shit show!" makes it feel like it's a problem without resolution. It's not. And the people who are working hard to improve matters - which, BTW, includes me and a number of my friends - deserve respect and appreciation for that, rather than the negativity and finger pointing that it devolves into. Typically by people who aren't working on campuses, don't volunteer their time, and don't do anything but bitch and moan about the problem. I've been on this campus as student and staff for 16 years. I can tell you the situation has gotten significantly better here and at other schools in that time. We no longer have administrators who make a habit of blaming the victim. We have lower rates of sexual assaults. We've cut down on binge-drinking, substance abuse, and underage drinking. Every year the incoming class gets a little better, and the graduating class has a little more breadth of knowledge and empathy. We've gone from a place where males in general and organizations in particular listened grudgingly to women's rights organizations yap (in their minds) about rape to a place where fraternities actively and voluntarily invite those same groups to give talks to their brothers about consent, sexual assault, and bystander intervention. Not all of them listen, but some do. And every single one who learns to take a step back from having sex with a girl who is drunker than them, or learns to distract their friend from taking advantage of someone, or who no longer throws out misogynistic or homophobic slurs is a win.

    That's a big fucking deal. So yeah, we need to be proud it's not as rapey as it could be. It's pride in our work that lets us continue doing it.

  • Maguita NYC

    What breaks my heart is that beyond all that good will, those efforts and sacrifices, at the end, in many cases punishment is not dished because of lack of funds.

    Let me explain: Because of budget cuts, THOUSANDS of rape-kits go on untested for years.
    And here is the kick in the stomach:

    For a victim to go through the horrifying act of rape, the fear of being wrongly accused of attracting/causing her own vicious rape, the heart-wrenching decision to report the rape, the embarrassing and at times heartless lines of questioning, the callous accusations, the judgment in looks, submitting to a rape-kit, and all that paperwork that follows afterwards, and then...

    Your rape-kit lays untested because of lack of funds.
    If the process is not followed through until the very end, are we truly making things that much better? Or just making more empty promises in bringing abusers to justice.

  • emmalita

    You and your colleagues get all the cupcakes.

  • NateMan

    Woo, hurray for cupcakes! :)

  • BigBlueKY

    Exactly -- we teach women to protect themselves from rapists, but where is the momentum to protect men from becoming rapists?

  • Gauephat

    Really, the "don't rape people" aspect should just fall under raising a decent and respectable person. We don't expect mothers and fathers to give their children the "don't murder people" talk either, because if you raise children that respect themselves and others it never gets anywhere close to that point.

    EDIT: Though really, rape is really much less of a black-and-white crime I suppose. It is not difficult to mistake or confuse lack of dissent for consent, or a million other scenarios that might or might not be considered rape. It definitely would not be amiss for parents to emphasize the importance of communication between partners.

  • I did actually receive a "don't murder people" talk.

    It consisted mainly of, "Murder causes lots of paperwork. Don't do that to me."

  • Maguita NYC

    As long as mothers AND fathers don't take matters into their own hands and don't mind a language that whether intentionally or unintentionally blames women for being noticed, heckled, leered at, attacked, beaten, violated, and every little or monstrous act in between, things will not change.

    We have to start teaching boys to be responsible for their own bodies and actions as well.

  • NateMan

    It's there. Check out the White Ribbon Campaign. They, among others, are working hard on the issue. They still need more support, however.

  • TherecanbeonlyoneAdmin

    Well shit, at least I know what I've been doing wrong all these fucking years. Also, Are we sure that this was an actual e-mail and not just written in crayon and sticky-tacked to the bathroom door?

  • Mrs. Julien

    That's not sticky-tack.

  • lowercase_see

    Can I, sincerely, say how much I appreciate the emergence of feminism to the forefront of Pajiba? It's always been there, dancing around in the background, but the past few weeks these kind of things have started to take center stage. Kudos.

  • Idle Primate

    Yup, soon we can skip talking about movies altogether in order to focus on important exposes of college students who drink and dance as a sex strategy. We can devote all our time to outrage and make lynch mobby declarations without any pop culture distractions--unless they are feminist decnstructions of sexism in the media. It's going to be so fun!

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  • NateMan

    Seconded with enthusiasm!

  • Alex Smith

    *sigh* As a man I'm embarrassed of this. But now I can look forward to the internet burning him at the stake

  • Legally Insignificant

    It's guys like this that give fraternities a bad name. Every chapter has one or two, the problem is when they're the majority. Good game Sunday, by the way.

  • Mrs. Julien

    I'm hoping he'll be burned in effigy. Heck, I'm hoping he's burned just about anywhere.

  • John G.

    they never came near my tabloids

  • ZbornakSyndrome

    And you win the internet for making that reference.

  • Mrs. Julien

    He would, but I was making a Cheers reference.

  • ZbornakSyndrome

    There is never an inappropriate time to make a Thin Man Reference. Even in the face of a Cheers reference...

  • Mrs. Julien

    You've got me there. Your logic is unassailable.

  • ZbornakSyndrome

    True Story: I moved to New York for college expecting it to be all Martinis, quips, fancy dress dinners and murder mysteries. I was a very disillusioned freshman. Damn you Powell and Loy!

  • Mrs. Julien

    What is the veracity rating on this? Couldn't it, please, be a parody, please, of that awful, please, sorority woman's, please, letter? Please?

  • ZbornakSyndrome

    I like that you still have that much faith in humanity. It's heartwarming. Tragically misguided, but heartwarming.

  • BigBlueKY

    It's a**hole bros like this who need their reproductive organs removed. Preferably by a fed-up sorority girl. On their frat house lawn. In front of all his other bros.

  • jeannebean

    ... with a blowtorch.

  • MauraFoley

    Don't worry, we fed up sorority girls castrate them... emotionally.

    (No but seriously though slowly escalating the flirt insults until they actually hit at creamy frat boy feelings nougat is one of life's most delicious pleasures.)

  • e jerry powell

    Oh, girl. Tell me about it!

    Wounding frat boy ego is my idea of a fun night out.

  • zeke_the_pig

    I live in London, and though I'm not English and I don't drink tea, whenever I read shit like this I spontaneously find myself doing this while staring vaguely westwards across the pond:

  • Fabius_Maximus

    You and me both. Except that I like tea.

  • PDamian

    You live in London? But what happened to your squat outside the home of La Belle Belluci?

  • zeke_the_pig

    Let's just say she moved me...

    Oops, I said the quiet part loud and the loud part quiet.

  • PDamian

    Oh, dear. So sorry. Better luck with your next obsession.

  • zeke_the_pig

    Cheers. I think I got what I needed out of this one.

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  • manting

    and this is surprising? Its a frat, the lowest form of social brotherhood.

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