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Everyone's Stalking You on Facebook

By Dustin Rowles | Posted Under Miscellaneous | Comments (38)



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A colleague of mine who studies social networks for a living told me the other day that the activity that accounts for the single highest number of page views on Facebook is men looking at women’s pictures. It’s an interesting note (and maybe a little creepy for some women), and I wonder, actually, how much time people spend on Facebook stalking one another, so to speak. I mean: In a way, anyone who posts pictures, personal information, and the like are putting themselves out there. So, I guess you should be aware that a lot of your friends are probably checking you out.

In related news, a recent study that Forbes did on Social Networking (via Jezebel) basically concluded that women dominate sites like Facebook, and Twitter, where it’s all about chatting and socializing, while men dominate sites like Linked In, Digg, and YouTube, where it’s less social and more content and status oriented.

Women don’t just visit different sites from men, they use social media differently than men. Experts believe the difference between how men and women operate online mirror their motivations offline. While women often use online social networking tools to make connections and share items from their personal lives, men use them as means to gather information and increase their status.
“We’re women—we like to talk about things. Women use social media as a way to connect,” says Jodi Kahn, the head of iVillage.

I guess I’ve always wondered, considering the decent size of our readership, why we didn’t have any sort of following on Digg or Reddit (not that I’ve tried to create one), but it makes sense in light of the fact that Pajiba is still a female-dominated site. It also allows me to understand why our news posts aren’t usually as popular as the conversational posts (or Pajiba Love). Folks around here, it seems, are less interested in the news as you are in commenting on it. We’re working on balancing that.

Speaking of Facebook, there’s been quite an uproar over the last week about the site’s privacy policy and how it’s been taking your privacy rights away by, among other things, sharing your personal information with third party sites. Now, even Congress is getting involved, though I guess I’m a little confused about what the big fuss is about. I think if you put something online, and especially if it’s available for some people to see, you’re kind of giving up your rights to complain about privacy. In other words, if you put nudie photos of yourself on Facebook, don’t expect a really high level of privacy.

Finally, I’ve been complaining about John Cusack’s Tweets both here and over on Twitter for weeks now — I’m a little chagrined at just how dumb and reactionary Cusack is (the same criticism applies to Adam Baldwin). What’s perturbed me the most about Cusack’s tweets is his terrible spelling and grammar. Seems the NYTimes found that to be a fascinating topic, as well, and posted a fun article about the grammar police over on Twitter who basically spend countless hours pointing out people’s spelling and grammar mistakes. Cusack has been a huge target for them. I know there’s a lot of you who can get behind that. For those grammar Nazis who don’t get enough of a work-out here, you can always join Twitter and exercise your grammar superiority over millions.

If you do, be sure to follow us on Twitter. And if you’re not already, give us a Thumbs Up over on Facebook, too.









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Comments

In my experience, women stalk on Facebook just as much as men. I'm not saying I've never looked at the pics of someone I barely know, I'm just saying they do it too.

Posted by: Optimus Rhyme at April 29, 2010 4:38 PM

Cusack's not the best Twitterer, but I still worship his acting.

That said, he's not nearly as ridiculous as Adam Baldwin. Every other Tweet from that guy is about "O-care" or "liberal media." The guy posted a bible passage to explain why he thinks gays shouldn't be in the military. Cusack's reactionary, but Baldwin's a plain old dick.

Posted by: ChristianH at April 29, 2010 4:39 PM

"grammar Nazi's"

really!?!?!?! COME ON!!

is this a test?

testes, testes, 1, 2, 3.

ssssibilants. ssssibilants.

my head's gone all 'splodey-like.

Posted by: stopthemadness at April 29, 2010 4:41 PM

He did that just to fuck with us.

All Digg does is fuck up page loading with its glacial ass. Rather than sex, Pajiba readers are probably just generally smarter than that.

Women also share pictures of shirtless guys and ogle their male friends. They just call me "cute", but, hey, whaddaya gonna do?

Posted by: Jay at April 29, 2010 4:47 PM

I'm not on the FaceSpace etc. SO THERE!!

@stopthemadness: hee hee. I know, right? It's like they do it on purpose.

Posted by: MM at April 29, 2010 4:47 PM

I followed John Cusack for a day, and it made me weep, so I gave up. I like to remember the good Cusack times, which basically ended over a decade ago.

Posted by: Carrie (aka Teabelly) at April 29, 2010 4:50 PM

How does one "increase their status" using the sites you listed? What is that even supposed to mean?

Especially for Youtube, it sounds like they arbitrarily used a masculine stereotype to categorize it, and then used the fact that men use it more often than women to build a case for that stereotype.

But the stuff about why more women use facebook makes sense.

Posted by: ERM at April 29, 2010 4:51 PM

PS - Really? People actually try to play "grammar Nazi" on Twitter? That is rolling a 500 lb. boulder up a steep hill without a doubt.

Posted by: MM at April 29, 2010 4:51 PM

There's an Adam Baldwin? I haven't heard of that one before.

Posted by: ERM at April 29, 2010 4:53 PM

Like Special Agents Johnson, there's no relation.

Posted by: Jay at April 29, 2010 4:58 PM

Or Babs and Buster Bunny.

Posted by: Optimus Rhyme at April 29, 2010 5:03 PM

As a fan of his movies and someone who still has not fully learned the lesson to separate the actor from his public persona, reading Cusack's tweets was a bit disillusioning to me. I'm willing to give some allowances to LOL-speak, especially in a 140-character environment. His tweets are jarring enough in construction to deserve comment, though, in this reader's opinion. I myself have come a long way from when I first arrived on the internet, as I typed only in complete sentences and immediately corrected any typos. Nevertheless, I still have a certain threshold I do not like to cross. I guess I'm coming around somewhat; I'm something of a stick in the mud.

One of the reasons I stuck around Pajiba was that it had such a high female population relative to most of the sites I frequent.

I've been known to look at women's pictures on Facebook, so I guess I fit the typical male internet profile.

I generally welcome all stalkers, but I doubt there are many with that aspiration.

Posted by: DarthCorleone at April 29, 2010 5:04 PM

Pajiba is female dominated site??? I'm not trying to be snarky, but this really comes as a surprise. Agent Bedhead, Stacey, Figgy, and Rusty... so then I guess loads of the commenters are women? Are you sure about this, Dustin?

Posted by: Lola at April 29, 2010 5:08 PM

Lola, I thought the same thing, and I've been a Pajiban for nearly 4 years now. Had no idea it was female dominated.

I've never Facebook stalked, but then again, I only go to FB for Cafe World.

Posted by: Brie at April 29, 2010 5:11 PM

There's so much correlation implying causation here that I need to sit down (again).

Posted by: branded at April 29, 2010 5:13 PM

I guess I'm one of those linguistic goose-steppers. Jodi's "differently than" successfully derailed my interest in her thoughts. At least she didn't throw a "definately" into the mix.

Posted by: laredo at April 29, 2010 5:16 PM

branded >> That's why I gave up my statistician career. It's a losing battle.

Well, not really. I gave up because I was bored.

Posted by: DarthCorleone at April 29, 2010 5:18 PM

You know, I've met Baldwin a couple of times, nothing lengthy but had a few words with him. He seemed polite and unassuming, even humble (we had a brief conversation of how he felt privileged that opportunities had come his way to work at what he liked, with people he liked, etc). I didn't bring up politics because well, we clearly don't share viewpoints there. But I enjoyed the time spent in each case, I think it's been three or four times now. I left him with thanks for the work he's done (which I've enjoyed) and he gave what certainly appeared to be genuine appreciation for the recognition.

Just goes to show politics has become one and the same as religion in this country, its belief accepted as faith, its defense and promotion a matter of spiritual life or death for the advocates (on both sides), accompanied by much hue and cry. I think I like the situation even less than when people define each other based on religion, actually. And I really dislike that a lot to begin with.

-Frob

Posted by: frobme at April 29, 2010 5:32 PM

What Facebook is doing reminds me of Minority Report, where people walk down the street with video adverts scanning their eyes, determining who they are, and marketing directly to them personally. Scary. After seeing NYC recently with the video screens that are everywhere and constantly talking, and now adding what Facebook is doing, all we need is some sort of physical identifier to tie the whole thing together. Needless to say I'm pretty uncomfortable with the whole thing, and especially the idea of marketers getting an even deeper hold on my kids.

Combine this phenomenon with the tea partiers and were reaching escape velocity on Idiocracy people!

Posted by: katy at April 29, 2010 5:32 PM

It's *not* stalking boys.
It's necessary 'research'.

Posted by: Ms MoMo at April 29, 2010 5:48 PM

Are you sure about this, Dustin?

The rule is: Never assume any Pajiban is male, unless he's definitely stated so.

Posted by: Jay at April 29, 2010 6:25 PM

When on Facebook I like looking for any nipple slippage, upskirts etc.

I wouldn't call it stalking though, more of an auto-erotic research type situation.

Posted by: BarbadoSlim at April 29, 2010 7:23 PM

Well, I've always though Slim would be the type to give a wink and nod to the underwear section in the Sears catalogue if it was well lit, so I don't mind if he peeks through my facebook albums. Not much you can do, yeah? Well, actually I can control what he sees, and if I don't, then silly me.

The truth is, facebook and every other similar thing is depending upon you to remain lax, uninformed and too enthusiastic to get feedback for you to put much second thought into that funny 'look what my butt just did!' post.

We will always be exposed to advertising - especially as long as we remain a 'consumer confidence' based economy. If you haven't considered taking steps to prevent identity theft or fraud, 2010 would be a good year to start, yeah? But otherwise, ads will come at you every which way, and it behooves us to improve our critical thinking skills rather than waste too much time trying to prevent it.

The Japanese 'eightfold room' type of thinking will get the last laugh.

Posted by: replica at April 29, 2010 7:46 PM

Hm. Yeah, I'd say I use Facebook for stalking. Well, to an extent. I mean, I'm pretty damn lazy, so it only goes so far before I pretty much need a nap.

And Jay, we can't help it if you're *adorable*. And that doesn't mean that *some* of us don't find you dead sexy.

Posted by: Anna von Beaversmack at April 29, 2010 8:13 PM

Branded +1. As for Adam B: we’ll always have Jayne Cobb, leave it at that.

The basic rule is don’t post anything you don’t want the world to know. While I have issues to Facebook’s “rights” to my property, I don’t assume for a second how anyone I befriend might look at it.

I think if you put something online, and especially if it’s available for some people to see, you’re kind of giving up your rights to complain about privacy.

Sounds to me like someone is clearing the way to post their collection of Boobquake photos....

Posted by: Squirrelgripper at April 29, 2010 8:25 PM

Look people, I work in marketing and am studying social media. Personal privacy is gone. Unless you want to live off the grid with the militia, you just need to let your crazy ideas of privacy go. And as your smart phone tells you where the closest favorite restaurant/store/whatever is and serves you up a percent off coupon while telling you your friend is already there you'll forget privacy ever existed.

Posted by: fenchurch1 at April 29, 2010 8:47 PM

I go to Youtube to find old music videos and funny clips.

And I don't FB stalk.

So I figure that I'm not the normal web surfing guy.

Had no idea it was female dominated.

Why do u think I come here? Pajiba is my stalking ground for bossy Internet wenches.

Posted by: Fredo at April 29, 2010 8:48 PM

But Jay, you are just so cute.

I get around to stalking most of my Facebook friends (if stalking means randomly flipping through their photo albums).

I posted some questionable photos for Boobquake but didn't put my face on them. That was my way of protecting my privacy. Sure all my Pajiban FB friends saw them but if they were to post them elsewhere they'd be anonymous. In theory. I don't think anyone could pick my rack out of a lineup or anything.

Oh, and I remember filling out a survey for Pajiba and I think the results of that revealed the female domination. (Or is it just that women are more likely to fill out surveys?)

Posted by: lainiefig at April 29, 2010 10:42 PM

From what I've observed, Facebook exists to provide sorostitutes a forum to post 1,862 pictures of themselves at parties/clubs, usually posing with at least ten other girls of comparable attractiveness (bonus points for the token fat friend), and often holding a red cup or beer bottle while making "the kissy face."

the kissy face may also be interchanged for the sideways peace sign.

Posted by: Dingles at April 29, 2010 10:43 PM

Jay, cute is good for boys.

My only issue with FB is that the defaults tend to be the least private, and if something is changed or added - you get that default with no warning. The correct thing to do is to start with the most private settings, then let the individual open up his world as he chooses.

Posted by: Cindy at April 29, 2010 10:58 PM

wow, breaking news, Pajiba discovers 2 year long struggle concerning privacy and Facebook.

i ran screaming terrified from facebook a long time ago, like Jamie Lee Curtis from ol' rubber kirk face.

but i did used to stalk on it. not women, but youth. i would check out photos from pages of folk i knew when young, looking for nostalgic remembrances of youth. without actually contacting folk i barely remembered mind you.

this was a big part of my deciding to get off that particular digital boat.

post facebook life is really good, as compared to during facebook life. I really recommend dropping it. its not just that it is a time waster, it is a perception distorter. hugely. HUGELY.

drop the book. get your kinky digital kicks on Pajiba!!!

Posted by: idleprimate at April 29, 2010 11:01 PM

Yep as a Young Male visitor of Pajiba I can agree that all I do on Youtube is look up ways to kill a bear with a fork and scavenge through Digg links to find the most INTENSE ab workout.

I only go on Facebook to update my friends on how my ab exercise routine is going and to post shirtless pictures of myself fighting bears.

Now I'm off to grow a beard, set it on fire and play XBOX

Posted by: RonnyK at April 30, 2010 1:08 AM

Heh, I put my Be-Godtopused Rack all UP on Facebook on Boobquake, It was well received. I don't really understand why anyone has any real expectation of privacy on the internet, particularly photos. Don't put it online if you don't want it seen. My Pajiban FB acct is not accessible to my family or clients, but even if it were, fuck em if they can't take a joke.

So, I guess you should be aware that a lot of your friends are probably checking you out.

Ummm, YEAH!

Posted by: Lindsey with an 'e' at April 30, 2010 1:28 AM

Facebook? What's Facebook? A book with lots of faces or something? Why would I want to look at that?

Boobsbook, sure.

Posted by: , at April 30, 2010 1:30 AM

It pretty much WAS Boobsbook on Monday.

Posted by: Lindsey with an 'e' at April 30, 2010 3:18 AM

There's an Adam Baldwin? I haven't heard of that one before.

Posted by: ERM at April 29, 2010 4:53 PM

__________________

Are you serious? If you are, I'm going to have to ask you to leave. Just get your shit and get out. No, don't hug the murdertank. I SAID GET YOUR FILTHY HANDS OFF IT!!!

Go to imdb.com and see this great man's face. Then look at his body of work. Then come back and apologize.

Posted by: Kballs at April 30, 2010 8:22 AM

Oh, it's the guy from Firefly! I thought it was another one of the Baldwins, as in Alec, et al.

Posted by: ERM at April 30, 2010 6:06 PM

I once had a Twitter fight with Adam Baldwin. I couldn't believe he was a W. Bush fanboy (he posted a pic with him and George hugging and smiling, no joke) and I asked him whether he was serious or satirizing (along with the picture there came a text about how much better the Bush era was compared to the US under Obama). He @replied me several times, calling my a "liberal hypocrite" or something, calling his hoard of followers and fans on me (yes, a celebrity directing his fans to fight me) and trying to label me some kind of left-wing American nut. I told him I'm def. not from the US and seriously not interested in that artificial rightwing/ leftist fake polarizing shtick going on in this media country of yours. So I told him to suck it, that there is no way of defending or even loving Bush Jr. and blocked him. He then deleted his tweets.

For me he was just that guy from Firefly. Now he is that ignorant, uninformed, misguided guy from Firefly. Oh yeah, and he is dumb. At least John Cusack has his head screwed on the right way.

Posted by: Yetused at May 1, 2010 4:47 AM