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It's So Hard To Say Goodbye To Yesterday: Celebrity Deaths That Most Affected You

By Brian Prisco | Posted Under Comment Diversions | Comments (196)



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Twitter fills up with little RIPs everytime some celebrity kicks off, and it’s fascinating to see the simultaneous levels of give a shit. The film geeks solemnly wrap film stock around their sleeve when George Hickenlooper dies, but the rest of the stream is quiet. Then DJ AM dies and suddenly a million weeping teens are writing text speak eulogies. Roy Scheider dies, and all people can think of is, “Oh, the Jaws guy. Bummer.” Then sometimes someone like Heath Ledger goes and everyone’s upset.

When anyone dies, whether marquee actor, behind the scenes screenwriter, or longtime Scorcese editor, it’s usually a pretty sad occasion. Even if they had been long suffering from a painful illness and finally found peace, it’s still unfortunate. But celebrity death is particularly poignant.

So my question to you is which celebrity death had the strongest impact on you? I want to say it was Chris Farley or John Candy, one of the fat men taken before their time, but honestly, I think it was Phil Hartman. I’ve been watching a ton of “NewsRadio” episodes as of late on Netflix, and I fall to sleep with the DVD player screening “Simpsons” episodes, and it’s almost impossible not to see the impact that Hartman’s tragic death had on those series. I forever admired “The Simpsons” for simply letting Troy McClure and Lionel Hutz disappear into the sunset and not trying to replace them with obvious duplicates. Likewise, I realize “NewsRadio” had obligations to try to continue, but it was easy to see that the spirit of the series would never outlive its crooning funny man. I recently learned that “Futurama” became a virtual homage to Hartman. Hartman was supposed to voice Zapp Brannigan, and it’s clear to see Billy West based his performance on Hartman’s bombastic characters. They went so far as to name the lead character Phillip J. Fry in Hartman’s honor. It might have been the suddenness of Hartman’s death that made it so effective, coupled with the fact that he seemed like such a genuinely professional and kind-hearted guy.

My fiancee Jenny said so far it was Peter Boyle that upset her. As a child in elementary school, she watched Young Frankenstein every day for years. And while Boyle was a comedic genius, a gentle giant famous for playing bellowing grouches, she said it was the fact that in real life he turned out to be this fascinatingly interesting man. He was John Lennon’s best man at his wedding.

So which celebrity death has had the biggest affect on you? Sorry to portend such a Debbie Downer motif on you kids, it’s been mighty overcast in LA the past few weeks. But as I watch my “NewsRadio” episodes, it reminds me of just how much I really enjoyed Hartman, so it’s not all sad.










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Comments

Phil Hartman definitely. I love Troy McClure more than most tv characters, and I just started watching Newsradio last year and his Bill is genius. I was also really bummed when John Candy, Paul Newman, and Heath Ledger died. And Clueless feels a little sad now too after Brittany Murphy.

Posted by: Julie at April 28, 2011 3:36 PM

The one that annoyed me the most coverage wise was when Johnny Cash died (Sep 12, 2003) and John Ritter had died the day before so all Cash got was a quick footnote on CNN while the media mourned Ritter for frickin' weeks.
Because of course cheesy second-rate sit-com star trumps American Legend every time.

Posted by: PaddyDog at April 28, 2011 3:38 PM

Ones that haven't happened yet, but that I actually worry about more often than I ought. Namely: the Fourth Doctor and Maria from The Sound of Music. I can't even think about either without tearing up.

Posted by: Samantha at April 28, 2011 3:39 PM

Phil Hartman, without question. I love(d) that man and everything he did. I was on vacation in Europe when it happened (as a high school student who worked his ass off to pay for the trip), and I didn't hear about it until the day I got back home. My parents took me out to dinner at my favorite restaurant and broke the news to me. I'm still heartbroken about it.

And now I'm sad. At least you didn't post this on Friday.

Posted by: RobP at April 28, 2011 3:39 PM

Ronald Reagan. I cried in bed all day.

Posted by: Bobbo at April 28, 2011 3:40 PM

Aw, I loved John Ritter though. He was pretty young.

Posted by: Julie at April 28, 2011 3:42 PM

Octavia E. Butler, my favorite author. This might sound weird, but when I heard she'd died, I felt like someone had socked me in the stomach. I was really saddened by the thought that I'd never get to read another new story from her. I've never been the sort of person to daydream about meeting celebrities, but I always thought that if she did a book signing near me, I would be the first person in line. I would've liked to have met her.

Posted by: MelBivDevoe at April 28, 2011 3:43 PM

I was absolutely inconsolable when Nicholas Courtney passed away recently. It was like losing a beloved family friend. I've had the chance to meet a lot of Doctor Who actors and creators, but never the Brig and honestly, he was so damn timeless. I still can't believe he's gone. I've never heard a bad word spoken about Nick and he was a real gift to the fandom through all these decades. GAH! I'm getting myself all upset again. Crap.

Posted by: ceebee_eebee at April 28, 2011 3:43 PM

2: Jack Kirby. Johnny Cash.

Posted by: Fredo at April 28, 2011 3:43 PM

Elisabeth Sladen and Nicholas Courtney. The Brigadier and Sarah Jane Smith were my childhood heroes, right after Tom Baker (The Fourth Doctor). No other celeb death has affected me so badly, and I will cry my tear ducts out when Tom Baker goes too.

Posted by: Aislinn at April 28, 2011 3:44 PM

I bawled and cried on my pillow when Kurt Cobain died. I was only in elementary school but I had a major crush on him. Aaliyah was a really sad one because she was so young and sweet and beautiful.

I was watching Saturday Night Live when they announced Princess Diana and my little heart broke then too.

Posted by: becks at April 28, 2011 3:44 PM

Yeah, Peter Boyle got me too. Loved that dude. "Clyde Bruckman's Final Repose" is still, hands down, my favorite X-Files episode ever.

I think the one that was the worst for me, though, was Jim Henson. He died almost a year after my own dad, and it was like losing my second dad. Still I feel that loss, really. (Not as much as my dad, obvs, but pretty close.) Odd, right? To be so hurt from the death of someone you never even knew? but he had nearly as much an affect on my childhood (and, indeed, my adulthood) as my own parents did.

Posted by: Anna von Beav at April 28, 2011 3:44 PM

1. Jim Henson
2. George Carlin

Posted by: jthomas666 at April 28, 2011 3:46 PM

Oh god. I got a lump in my throat just looking at that picture of Phil Hartman. I have NEVER gotten over his death (and it sounds funny to say that), and I could try and pin point why...but there is no point when this article hits the nail on the head.

Posted by: AR at April 28, 2011 3:46 PM

Phil. I was depressed for days after learning of his death. It was not only a waste of talent, the world lost a truly good guy.

Posted by: Bobby at April 28, 2011 3:47 PM

Shhh, Aislinn, don't say his name! I was also v. upset about Mr. Courtney, and def. shed some tears over Ms. Sladen. *sniffle*

Posted by: Samantha at April 28, 2011 3:47 PM

Without question, George Carlin.

The man was my hero.

Posted by: citizen_cris at April 28, 2011 3:47 PM

Jim Henson. I think I was 8 at the time. And then Phil Hartman, because it was just so violent and sudden and tragic. But I think the biggest crusher was Kurt Vonnegut, even though he was old. There just won't ever be another Vonnegut.

Posted by: kate the great at April 28, 2011 3:47 PM

When I was 14 - Kurt Cobain

When I was 28 - David Foster Wallace

Posted by: Yossarian at April 28, 2011 3:48 PM

Joshua Jackson. Obviously.

In all seriousness, Elisabeth Sladen's passing last week made me very sad.

If I were five to ten years older, I imagine I'd probably be saying John Lennon. Maybe John Cazale.

Heath Ledger and Brittany Murphy were very sad, if for no other reason than they left us way too soon.

I dunno. There are many famous deaths that have upset me, but none of them have left me in too terrible of a state. George Carlin always seemed iconic and invincible to me, so his passing stands out. I was upset about Phil Hartman and Peter Boyle as well. Jim Henson really hurt.

Sometimes when I'm in a particularly morbid mood, I imagine the deaths of some of the famous people that have meant so much to me that we have not lost yet, because many of the ones I grew up appreciating are really getting up there in age. It worries me.

Posted by: DarthCorleone at April 28, 2011 3:49 PM

Jerry Garcia. It took me a while to be able to listen to the Grateful Dead without feeling sad and mad at him for OD'ing.

Then Phil Hartman, Gilda Radner, Madeline Kahn.

Posted by: mswas at April 28, 2011 3:49 PM

Mr. Rogers. :(

Posted by: SBrown at April 28, 2011 3:50 PM

River Phoenix. I was really shocked at the time. So much talent, such a short life.

Posted by: pcb71 at April 28, 2011 3:51 PM

Oh, Jim Henson. I still tear up at that video of Big Bird at his funeral.


Posted by: MelBivDevoe at April 28, 2011 3:52 PM

When you asked, I immediately thought of Phil Hartman, because he wrote Pee Wee's Big Adventure and was truly a gifted, hilarious man in so many ways. And someone mentioned here Jim Henson, who's talent was indeed truly special. The Muppets and Sesame Street influenced my childhood in such magical ways. He also did Fraggle Rock, which I adored growing up and must of watched that till I was at least 13. George Carlin also AMAZING, and he's not only funny but truly brilliant. Phil Hartman is such a huge loss though, and so sudden. Honestly, what happened? And why?

Posted by: Gina at April 28, 2011 3:52 PM

Heath Ledger. Can't explain it. I was sad for months....attached to Patrick Verona, perhaps?

Posted by: Kate at June at April 28, 2011 3:52 PM

Stupid, but Princess Diana and Katharine Hepburn.

With Diana, I was glued to the TV for the entire week, between her death and her funeral. I still remember my ex and my son walking in with the Sunday paper while I was making breakfast and showing me the headline. I have newspapers saved from all over the world from that week to this day.

And, Kate? Oh, god, my favorite actress of all time.

And Jim Hutton. I was so in love with him when I was a kid....

Posted by: dammitjanet at April 28, 2011 3:52 PM

Bill Hicks.

Posted by: QueBarbara at April 28, 2011 3:53 PM

Brad Renfro -- he was very close to my age, and I'd always considered him one of those talented but troubled types. I was always rooting for him to get it together, and it just didn't happen. Then, when Heath Ledger died just a week later, the whole thing seemed just too much. Both of them reminded me very much of someone I knew, and it all seemed a very bad sign.

Also, Jerry Orbach -- beloved Lenny Briscoe and my pretend grandpa. That one was like losing a member of the family...worse, really, since I don't much like most of my family.

Posted by: Siege at April 28, 2011 3:53 PM

River Phoenix. I was young and "Stand By Me" was one of my favorite movies. I'd just seen "Sneakers." And then boom. He was dead. I'd never known a young person to die until then; death was for old men. Then suddently, it just wasn't.

Every celebrity death reminds me of that.

Posted by: superasente at April 28, 2011 3:56 PM

Being a lifelong Beatles fan, it was a tremendous bummer when John Lennon was murdered on Monday, 12/08/80, even moreso because it was my 21st birthday (yeah I'm that old).

But I call bullshit on the 'best man' thing- I've read just about every Beatles book in existence, and not a single one of them mentions that Peter Boyle was best man at Lennon's wedding- he married Yoko on the rock of Gibraltar in 1969 or 70, and even that wasn't really planned. And I don't think they even knew each other when he married Cynthia in 62 or 63, so gimme a source.

Posted by: Tony at April 28, 2011 3:57 PM

Jim Henson - I cried. And it was so silly. His funeral really was an affirmation of life. He's still number one on my dinner party list. (There's a comment diversion we haven't had in a while.)

Cary Grant (I was 19)

Katharine Hepburn - Because she was the last of the people I would have given a lot to meet.

Posted by: Mrs. Julien at April 28, 2011 3:57 PM

Ed Bradley. Not exactly a "celebrity" as such, but he had an incredible personal history, served one of my inspirations for becoming a journalist and reminded me very, very much of my grandfather. I always wish I could have had a drink with Bradley just to hear his war stories.

Posted by: Tracer Bullet at April 28, 2011 3:58 PM

Warren Zevon, mainly because of the haunting beauty of the song 'keep me in your heart' from his last album...

Posted by: the FatMan at April 28, 2011 3:58 PM

Funny as it may sound - Karen Carpenter. She wasn't Ella Fitzgerald (or even Sarah Vaughn), but . . . that deep, warm, intelligent voice will always haunt me. Saddened me more than John Lennon.

Posted by: whatever4 at April 28, 2011 3:58 PM

Drew Hayes. Maybe he wasn't Kirby-fameous, but the comic he drew was pants-shittingly funny and made me appreciate indie comics and their artists.

Posted by: longcoat000 at April 28, 2011 3:58 PM

John Lennon. He was my hero as a singer/songwriter and activist. Yes, I learned of all his flaws and foibles but I have never loved a musician more. His murder marked the end of an era and the end of my youth. I wish, to this day, that he could still be among the living.

Posted by: Spender at April 28, 2011 3:59 PM

Douglas Adams.

Posted by: Theron at April 28, 2011 3:59 PM

douglas adams.

"space," the guide begins, "is big. really big. you really can't imagine how vastly, mind-bogglingly big it is. you might think it's a long way to the drug store, but that's nothing to space."

and yes, that was from memory. nobody has ever made me laugh as much as adams did, and continues to do so. repeatedly.

Posted by: matty blue at April 28, 2011 4:00 PM

Freddie Mercury.

Posted by: Todd at April 28, 2011 4:04 PM

Paul Newman, hands down. Not just because he was an amazing actor (though he was), but because he was an amazing person who used what he had to do nothing but good. He was like a more socially conscious version of Steve McQueen.

Posted by: Exploding Head Syndrome at April 28, 2011 4:06 PM

Frank Zappa, Jimmi Hendrix, Janice Joplin, Jim Morrison, Jerry Garcia, John Bonham...

Hey,what can I say? They were important to me musically.

Posted by: Uncle JR at April 28, 2011 4:13 PM

I'm kind of shocked and also not shocked that no one has said it yet, but Michael Jackson. I think it was the first time I had tears when a celebrity died. He was just such a huge part of my youth, and despite all the legal issues, scandal, weirdness and controversy, there was a place deep in my heart for that talented mega-superstar. The circumstances of much of his life and also his death were very sad.

Posted by: Whorish Mouth at April 28, 2011 4:16 PM

Patrick Swayze really got me. I really believed I was in love with him after I saw Dirty Dancing as a tween, so it felt like losing a first crush. Also, the amazing relationship he seemed to have with his wife. They did several interviews together during his illness and seemed unbelievably, beautifully in love. Their words combined with the photos of him wasting away, GAH!!

Posted by: Leslie K at April 28, 2011 4:16 PM

Patrick Swayze still tugs at my heart. I remember watching Dirty Dancing on loop as a little girl and kissing the TV screen when he would first appear. I have no shame in this.

Posted by: Rachel at April 28, 2011 4:17 PM

River Phoenix, Phil Hartman, Jim Henson and the little girl from Poltergeist. Heather O'Rourke - she younger than me, and it was quite a shock.

Posted by: llp at April 28, 2011 4:17 PM

Heath Ledger.

I can't forget my best friend calling me at work and asking me, "did you hear about Heath? He's dead."

It was brutal. He was our absolute favorite. We skipped school and saw A Knight's Tale in the theater FOUR TIMES. Even in his early, lightweight stuff, he had such a unique quality about him that we immediately loved. He grew into such an incredible talent, and it still makes me sad to think about what else he could have accomplished.

Posted by: Mel C. at April 28, 2011 4:17 PM

when i was 13, freddie prinze died and i was stunned. i'd been watching him on tv for a few years and it made quite an impression.

Posted by: splinter at April 28, 2011 4:18 PM

Jerry Orbach. The man was the voice of my childhood (Captain Fox from 'Galaxy Rangers,' Lumiere from 'Beauty and the Beast'), and Lennie Briscoe was my first television character that I wanted to be my granddad. I've never seen an episode of 'Law and Order' past the date when he passed. There's no point.

Posted by: Ozioma at April 28, 2011 4:20 PM

John Candy. Funny, funny, funny...but such sweetness

George Carlin What can I say? George Carlin. I like to think he just took a sabbatical in Borneo and will be back soon.

Tim Russert, seemed like such a regular guy.

John F Kennedy Jr and Diana, America's Prince and England Princess. Both too damn young. I still feel sadness for William and Harry

George Burns, cuz 100 is just too young!

Posted by: kirbyjay at April 28, 2011 4:21 PM

Mitch Hedberg, Jerry Garcia, Kurt Cobain.

Posted by: dna at April 28, 2011 4:21 PM

As soon as I saw the headline on FB, Phil Hartman was the one who came to mind, so seeing his picture above made me even sadder. I loved "Newsradio," and his voice work was amazing. And how he was killed was so sad and tragic. More recently, Heath Ledger comes to mind, as someone who had so much promise and talent and died way too young.

Posted by: lorent at April 28, 2011 4:21 PM

I had the honor of observing one of Peter Jennings' last newscasts from a balcony above his desk in the ABC studio (I was on a journalism school field trip). No one knew he was ill at the time, but as you probably remember, he died shortly after he left his job. His passing was really sad.

Posted by: elizabeth at April 28, 2011 4:24 PM

I know it's super cheesy, but still: Heath Ledger.

He just seemed so young, and so talented, and about to be on top of his game with the Joker performance, and he had a little daughter named Matilda (adorable!) and now she'll never know him...

It just came out of the blue and seemed so random.

Posted by: MM at April 28, 2011 4:25 PM

Bill Hicks. To this day I can't listen to that raving lunatic without getting a little choked up by the sadness of how much energy he put into trying to change a world that doesn't even know who he is now.

Posted by: Blank at April 28, 2011 4:27 PM

Without question, Charles M. Schulz. Peanuts absolutely dominated my childhood, so when he died I felt like I had lost a beloved family member, and the tears flowed freely.

After him, it's easily Johnny Cash. Words only fail to convey his complicated genius.

Posted by: Jeff in Middletucky at April 28, 2011 4:28 PM

Adrienne Shelly was the most personal for me. She was my redheaded idol when I got all into indie film in high school. I loved Hal Hartley's early films, and I loved the characters she played in them, and she was a fellow member of the tribe. I thought she'd kind of disappear into relative obscurity, and then I found out she was into directing. I remember being worried that she'd be a middling director but hoping for the best, and then she was killed. Every time there's a discussion about the dearth of female directors I think of her. We lost a good one, there.

Posted by: Pippa at April 28, 2011 4:29 PM

Madeline Kahn could do anything on the screen. When she passed I cried for two days.

Posted by: Walter Bean at April 28, 2011 4:30 PM

Dimebag Darrell. I was driving on the freeway when I heard it on the radio. I had to pull over and listen for them to say it again because I kept hoping I hadn't heard it right. He was and still is an enormous influence on me musically. My username (which has been my nickname for near 20 years) comes from my love of him. The tragic way he went, as did three other brave souls trying to help him, makes it that much more heartbreaking to me.

Recently the celebrity that hits me most was Robert Schimmel. He made it through a heart attack and cancer only to die in a car wreck. He was hilarious as hell and was an inspiration because he always kept his humor and a good outlook through all his trials.

Posted by: Paultera at April 28, 2011 4:31 PM

Robert Palmer

Still makes me sad.

Posted by: Amanda at April 28, 2011 4:35 PM

I have a few that I still get choked up about:

Paul Newman
George Carlin
Johnny Cash
Jim Henson

The world was blessed to have them.

Posted by: Melody Be at April 28, 2011 4:35 PM

I completely forgot the one that resonated the most with me: Charles Schulz.

Posted by: DarthCorleone at April 28, 2011 4:35 PM

Bill Hicks. He was only 32, for fuck's sake.

Posted by: Ballymena Bob at April 28, 2011 4:40 PM

I forgot Patrick Swayze. His uncle lived here in Oxford,MS at one of our retirement homes (the nicest one). Apparently other than supporting his ailing uncle and paying for the funeral. He gave money to every single person who helped take care of him. He personally thanked them all for making his uncle's last years so easy. I mean everyone too, the janitor, the nurses, the ladies in the kitchen. They all said that Patrick was one of the kindest people they had ever met.

Posted by: Melody Be at April 28, 2011 4:41 PM

Pete Duel committed suicide when I was 15, and a huge 'Alias Smith & Jones' fan. I was shocked silly by his death. The violence of it, the loss of a talented actor. I can still remember how that felt, and how I hated poor Roger Smith for years because he took over the part of Hannibal Heyes.

And Andy Hallett, dead of heart failure at 33 in 2009.
I'd met him several times at conventions, heard him sing, joked with him, listened to his rambling stories. He was quite a character, and even though I knew he was ill (the last time I saw him, he was walking like an old man), it was still a horrible shock to hear that Lorne was gone....

More recently, Elisabeth Sladen's death made me very sad.

Posted by: Tarn at April 28, 2011 4:43 PM

Katherine Hepburn. She hadn't worked in years, but she was more than just my favourite actress. She was smart and talented, but had a work ethic that was less determination and more sheer insanity. I admired the hell out of her. She died the year I went to college, and I felt broken just knowing she wasn't out there in the world raising hell anymore.

Posted by: Kelly Anne at April 28, 2011 4:43 PM

I'm with Leslie K. Swayze hurt bad.

For me, the hardest was Gilda Radner. I saw Gilda Live when I was 11 and didn't know she'd already passed at that point, but I became obsessed and immediately watched everything I could get my hands on that featured her. When found out she'd been gone all along, it genuinely shook me.

Posted by: Courtney at April 28, 2011 4:44 PM

Oh, thanks a whole bunch for inspiring this barefoot stroll down a broken-glass lane.

Like @MelBivDevoe my biggest hit was an author - Isaac Asimov. I was a mess for a week. Losing Frank Zappa leaves a smaller but sardonic little hole in my world.

Posted by: BierceAmbrose at April 28, 2011 4:44 PM

I'm with everyone else who was hit hard by Jim Henson's death. I grew up with Kermie and the gang, and even though I was almost an adult when he died, I couldn't help but shed a few tears over my now voiceless muppets. Fuck you, pneumonia!!

Posted by: noodlestein at April 28, 2011 4:45 PM

Luther Vandross. Michael Jackson. John Lennon.

Posted by: khia213 at April 28, 2011 4:51 PM

1) John Lennon
2) Isaac Asimov (although BierceAmbrose had to remind me)
3) John Ritter - I never cared for Three's Company, but I enjoyed Ritter's comeback in 8 Simple Rules ..., and I was quite sad for awhile.

Posted by: Pat C. at April 28, 2011 4:54 PM

David Foster Wallace. I've had The Pale King sitting on my desk for days, but I can't bring myself to read it because then it'll feel like he's truly gone. Since his suicide, every time I read his "This is water" speech I feel like I've been punched in the gut. Jesus, what a loss.

Posted by: Adrienne at April 28, 2011 4:56 PM

This might sound really lame, but, Glenn Quinn. I love Roseanne reruns and finding out that he passed away so young is still upsetting to me.

Posted by: mnme at April 28, 2011 4:58 PM

Phil Hartman was killed on my birthday, so that really blew. John Ritter and Patrick Swayze's deaths were very sad - way, way, way too early. But to me, the saddest ones are the suicides, like Hervé Villechaize ("ze plane! ze plane!") or Jonathan Brandis, that really beautiful kid from Ladybugs.

Posted by: Gabrielle at April 28, 2011 4:58 PM

This might sound really lame, but, Glenn Quinn. I love Roseanne reruns and finding out that he passed away so young is still upsetting to me.

Posted by: mnme at April 28, 2011 4:58 PM

I'm not really personally affected (effected? I can never remember) by celebrity deaths. I miss their work, and I have sympathy for their families, but not much more than that.

However, when Bill Murray dies I will take a week off work and cry forever.

Posted by: the_wakeful at April 28, 2011 5:10 PM

Jon Eric Hexum--star of two of my favorite 80s tv shows: Voyagers! and Cover Up--who died in a tragic on-set accident while working on the latter show. I was 11 and he was 27 and beautiful, and I mourned him for months.

Posted by: Annie at April 28, 2011 5:14 PM

Chris Farley. And I have no explanation why. I was very close to tears when he died.

Posted by: Rest In Peace at April 28, 2011 5:18 PM

DarthCorleone, Joshua Jackson is alive you moron.

Posted by: Ter4 at April 28, 2011 5:23 PM

I bawled my eyes out when Heather O'Rourke died. It just came as such a shock that someone so young would pass away so suddenly.

I was saddened by the news of Elisabeth Sladen's passing, but I didn't cry until the premiere of Doctor Who ended with a dedication to her, complete with a clip of Sarah Jane walking away and waving goodbye. I still get teary-eyed thinking of that.

Posted by: Craig at April 28, 2011 5:27 PM

So many that have already been named: Jim Henson, John Candy, Kurt Cobain, Phil Hartman, Douglas Adams.

But one not mentioned yet (as far as I saw): Jim Varney. Better known as Ernest P. Worrell (or for you kids out there, Slinky Dog from Toy Story 1 and 2). I found out almost a YEAR after his death that he died. Yes, his movies/commercials/TV shows were silly stupid fun, but dammit, as a kid being silly stupid fun was what life was about.

KnoWhutImean?

Posted by: Adam at April 28, 2011 5:28 PM

Stevie Ray Vaughan. Being from TX, it was a huge deal. What made it so sad to me was that he'd overcome so many struggles in his life and died in a random helicopter accident. Life by the Drop gives me chills.

Posted by: Sharon at April 28, 2011 5:31 PM

Mitch Hedberg, for sure. What a waste. And Hunter S. Thompson just shocked the hell out of me.

Posted by: Cherry at April 28, 2011 5:32 PM

Christopher Reeve

Posted by: rabbi at April 28, 2011 5:36 PM

Roberto Clemente, Gram Parsons, Lowell George, Chick Hearn, Joe Strummer

Posted by: Buzz Nutter at April 28, 2011 5:37 PM

Greg Giraldo.
My friend texted me at work and later confirmed for myself via Facebook (which Facebook is a seriously bullshit way to find out about someone's death no matter whom they are to you)

He was extremely funny, smart, and talented. The headlines labeling him only as an "insult comedian", were wildly inaccurate as well as dimuniuative for such a talent.

Posted by: Dr Turkelton at April 28, 2011 5:38 PM

Alex Chilton. One of the best.

Posted by: dave at April 28, 2011 5:43 PM

I second or third Nicholas Courtney and Elisabeth Sladen. I've been watching Dr. Who since 1964 and they were my two favorite sidekicks. I don't think you can really call the Brig a companion.

Posted by: BWeaves at April 28, 2011 5:44 PM

The most recent was Poly Styrene from X-ray Spex. I remember hearing her sing when I was 14 and searching used record stores for Germ Free Adolescents for several years before my friend Kieth saw a copy at Underground Sounds and called me. She is one of the singers who changed the way I listen to music and it was a punch in the gut when I saw the announcement of her death.

Posted by: Derek at April 28, 2011 5:50 PM

Heath Ledger. He was so young and had a brilliant career ahead of him. His death at such a young age made everything seem more fragile.

Posted by: Sofia at April 28, 2011 5:51 PM

Princess Diana
Heath Ledger
Natasha Richardson
Peter Jennings

All felt like a knife to the gut.

Posted by: Val at April 28, 2011 5:54 PM

Oh, Kurt Vonnegut would have destroyed me if I'd been in high school when he passed. It's a shame we never met and I'll never get to tell him how he saved my life, but I've a feeling he already knew.

@Ter4: The Joshua Jackson you're thinking of is from an alternate dimension. Joshua Jackson (RIP) died ages ago.

Posted by: RobP at April 28, 2011 6:04 PM

Stevie Ray Vaughn 1990
Les Paul 2009
Gary Moore 2011

I'm kind of a guitar nerd.

Posted by: Dano at April 28, 2011 6:08 PM

It's a little odd, but Captain Phil, from Deadliest Catch. I guess because watching the show made me feel more connected to him as a person, whereas with most actors and musicians I end up more connected to their characters and music than to them as people.

Posted by: DominaNefret at April 28, 2011 6:13 PM

Heath Ledger, Phil Hartman, and Mark Linkous (Sparklehorse)

What hurts most is knowing there will never be another one like them. Thx for the memories, RIP

Posted by: dagnabbit at April 28, 2011 6:21 PM

Richard Harris

I have watched Camelot so many times. I first saw it when I was in, oh, maybe middle school so 5th grade-ish. And my little 5th grade self fell in tragic love with that young Richard Harris. I loved the way King Arthur looked at Guinevere and how he loved her and of course fantasized as much as an innocent can about him looking at me that way. (I imagined lots of kissing and "I love you"s.)

When I was in high school Richard Harris was touring with a revival of Camelot and my mom and I went because there was no way in hell I wasn't going to see this man that I loved in the role that made me love him.

Our seats were for shit and this stupid cow behind me who had, "...played Guinevere in high school!" kept singing along, loudly, but I loved every minute.

When the show ended my mom and I went to the stage door because I was going to meet him, oh yes, I was. We were the first people at the door and various and sundry cast members came out, and then HE came out of the door. My 15-year-old, star-struck, love-struck self muttered something inane, got an autograph and then walked away. I got about 20 feet away and burst into tears because I didn't get to say what I wanted to, which was that I loved him. He was still signing autographs so my mom dragged me back over there (I was embarrassed for my tears.) and we stood in line again. He teasingly said, "Didn't I just see you?" And my mom, close to tears herself, told him, "She loves you. And didn't get to say it." The darling Mr. Harris said, "Awww, sweetheart...," and hugged me to him. And I bawled all over his white sweater.

When he died, I died a little too. And cried for days.


Posted by: Shonda at April 28, 2011 6:29 PM

George Carlin - brilliant man
Heath - TOO Young and so sweet and talented.

I sing opera, so when Luciano Pavarotti passed I cried like a little baby.

Posted by: dinka at April 28, 2011 6:29 PM

YES, DominaNefret, Captain Phil. It's been over a year, and despite my Deadliest Catch obsession, I still cannot watch the second half of last season, knowing he was dead and knowing how much of it was captured on camera.

He was the most REAL of the DC captains, and his relationship with his sons cracked me up. I don't know if I'll ever feel ok about watching it ever again.

Posted by: Meggrs at April 28, 2011 6:30 PM

None of them. I don't know these people and seeing them on TV or Movie screens doesn't change that fact. So, yeah, it might be sad that a stranger died and they won't be around to put out product I would enjoy; I'm going to concern myself with the actual people around me.

Posted by: Wembley at April 28, 2011 6:31 PM

There are so many that others have already mentioned, like Jim Henson and Jerry Orbach. There was also Gregory Hines. I remember hearing about his death and being so sad. He was an amazing performer who I adored.

The other is kind of a semi-celebrity. Kim Manners was a television director who died a few years ago. His work on The X-Files and elsewhere really impacted the way I view television. I cried like a baby when I heard he'd died.

Posted by: Lipton at April 28, 2011 6:32 PM

Heath Ledger. I'm not even sure why, because I'm a 48 year-old hetero male who isn't even close to his demographic. But I loved him since "Roar", liked him in various things and then was so excited for the buzz of "Batman", then poof. It just seemed so wasteful.

Posted by: Dave at April 28, 2011 6:37 PM

Leslie Nielson. Decry his later works all you like, Airplane through Wrongfully Accused all made me laugh as a teenaged delinquent.

I refuse to go into work the day Mel Brooks dies

Posted by: A. Biro at April 28, 2011 6:46 PM

And, oh, oh, my God how can I have forgotten my beloved Harry Kalas?!? I grew up listening to him call Phillies games, and even met him once. What a gentlemanly, wonderful man. His true love for the Phillies shone through every call he made, and when he died I cried and mourned him as if he had been part of my family. No game will ever sound right to me again, and I know the whole fanbase of the Phillies feels exactly the same way. I still miss him every summer, and always will.

Posted by: noodlestein at April 28, 2011 6:54 PM

Ossie Davis, I had him one college semester as a professor and he was the most charming man I have ever met, his love of film and television was all he needed to survive the racism and hatred thrown at him during his very long career. I didn't read anything about his passing, not anywhere.

Yet with Heath, it just felt wrong. The whole thing, I still feel as though there is something strange about his passing. As if we are all unaware of the real reason he died.

And seriously, Luther Vandross. He had released that song "Dance With My Father Again" and then he was gone. Too young. I mean youtube his live stuff, watch him sing A House Is Not A Home". This man had arguably the greatest voice in the world, and passed without much mention in the media.

Posted by: Gamal at April 28, 2011 6:55 PM

Kurt Vonnegut. Read about his death at work and cried at my desk.

Posted by: Mulva at April 28, 2011 6:56 PM

Here's a musician's edition:

"Piggy" (Denis D'Amour) of Voi Vod in 2005. Underrated guitar player; poor guy had cancer.

Chuck Schuldiner of Death also died of cancer in 2001.

Stevie Ray Vaughan in 1989.

"Quorthon" of Bathory, one of the best 80's black metal bands (If you don't believe me get ahold of their 1985 album called "The Return...").

Cliff Burton of Metallica in '86.

[& Punch Imlach too, I must say ;) ]

Posted by: harold ballard's ghost at April 28, 2011 7:07 PM

Freddy Mercury...I cried when I heard he died.

Posted by: Kimma at April 28, 2011 7:10 PM

Fred Rogers and Blake Edwards. Mr. Rogers was such a comfort when I was a little girl. And when Blake Edwards passed away I had to re-watch my favorite Pink Panther films...

Posted by: vllach at April 28, 2011 7:12 PM

Recently - Heath Ledger. I was so depressed. It's what somewhat ruined The Dark Knight for me. I left the movie theater in a depressed rage going, "Fuck you, Ledger. You died and there was nothing I could do to stop you."

It was the same with Phil Hartman. I was so incensed that he was taken so young. I also hate Andy Dick for providing Hartman's wife with the drugs that provoked her to kill Phil. Hate. I don't hate people. It's monstrous.

Also, I was really depressed that Anna Nicole Smith died. I don't know why. Probably the whole "she left a baby behind." To this day, that depression really boggles me.

Posted by: duckandcover at April 28, 2011 7:18 PM

Richard Biggs who played Dr. Franklin on Babylon 5.

Posted by: Foxeye at April 28, 2011 7:20 PM

Steve Irwin...My mom woke me up in the morning to tell me, and I just started crying. It was strange to cry over someone I didn't know, but for all intents and purposes, shows like his raised me. The fact that he was so optimistic about everything of course didn't help...

Posted by: feebthefurbieassasin at April 28, 2011 7:21 PM

I don't believe I read anyone mention a professional wrestler's death, so here is part of my contribution to the list.

Chris Kanyon, Andre the Giant, Owen Hart, Curt Hennig, and a whole host of other wrestlers from the 1980s on.

Bill Hicks, I never heard the man until over 15 years past his death, but it saddens me to know he isn't walking this planet anymore. And what do you think he would have to say about everything going on had he still been alive?

From music: the man the shares the same date of death as the Nirvana front man Kurt Cobain, in my opinion the death of Layne Staley had a greater effect on me the Kurt.

Movies, I'll go with Brandon Lee.

Posted by: Mortis301 at April 28, 2011 7:30 PM

Swayze :'(

Posted by: thimble at April 28, 2011 7:37 PM

H/t to Dano for mentioning Gary Moore, a brilliant, underrated guitarist.

So many good suggestions, but after reading his biography, Bill Hicks is right up there for me and I didn't discover him until after he died. The guy had spent the best part of his life on the road honing his act to a razors edge, had just found his audience then FUCKING CANCER. Full year, zero insurance and not enough money to cover all the treatments he needed. That he kept performing and pushing himself (chronicled in Rant In E Minor) up to 3 month before his painful and untimely death is a testament to his dedication. You could argue- fairly- that he was denied the opportunity to shit on his legacy, but he was also denied the chance to cement it.
Ditto Heath Ledger- different field, but again, cut short as he was hitting his stride.

There's just something about lost potential that gets me every time.

Posted by: Dave Shepherd at April 28, 2011 7:42 PM

Andy Kaufman, because I do remember thinking it was a bit.

Brandon Lee, because I knew the prop guy who was there.

Randy Rhoads, because I was supposed to see him the next day with Ozzy.

Posted by: Protoguy at April 28, 2011 7:46 PM

It is weird that so many people listed celebs that died when they were OLD. Their deaths were hardly unexpected and tragic. We had out time with them, and they contributed much.

The younger ones, that still had much to give are the tragic ones.

As for me, only a few. As many have said already Bill Hicks. A huge influence on me. But, in a way, perhaps for the best. Do you think he could handle today's world? Imagine the rage he would have had at us for allowing Bush II. For making Billy Ray Cyrus' homely daughter a celeb. For Gulf War 2. For the govt handling of Katrina. He would have exploded. Like we all should have.

Stevie Ray Vaughan. Especially as I had just seen him perform days before his death.

Richard Pryor. Not so much his death. His illness that robbed him, and us of 2 decades of his working life. The great lesson that he taught us. That no matter what happens, you laugh at it. That nothing can't be laughed at. And you keep going.

Posted by: Sean at April 28, 2011 7:47 PM

Definitely Billy Mays.

Posted by: Amanda6 at April 28, 2011 7:56 PM

I know this is dumb but The Crocodile Hunter.
And to see his daughter now as she is a carbon copy of him tugs at the heart.

Luther Vandross - He seemed like such a nice man and for some reason his songs always made me feel warm inside.
Michael Jackson - it felt like a piece of my childhood died, I even remember crying to my husband saying he wasnt supposed to die I just thought he would outlive us all being creepy.

I am going to loose my shit when Prince dies.

Posted by: blacksred at April 28, 2011 8:02 PM

Steve Irwin.

I wanted to grow up and be him, and when I heard he died from a stingray (of all things) stab, I got so angry at the universe. Animal Planet hasn't recovered since.

Posted by: Kristin at April 28, 2011 8:11 PM

"I am going to loose my shit when Prince dies."

I suspect the crazy little man will outlive most of us

Posted by: Sean at April 28, 2011 8:12 PM

@Shonda,

your Richard Harris story is lovely.

Posted by: Tarn at April 28, 2011 8:13 PM

Oh my god, how could I forgot the worst one for me: Harry Kalas. He was the voice of the Phillies (and NFL films and for a short time Puppy Bowl). His voice was unique, he was charming, he was old school, and he was as important to the organization as the players and the Phanatic. I've never seen my city mourn collectively until he died two year ago. On my 28th birthday no less. That night at the bar my friends and I cheersed to him with the bartenders and everyone else in the joint.

Posted by: Julie at April 28, 2011 8:21 PM

As soon as I saw the photo of Phil Hartman at the top of this post I went straight to youtube and found this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wHMUtVSFEPI
Just a silly CD-1 commercial my friends and I still quote to this day: "That guy creeps me out," followed by "I think he's kind of interesting." Phil Hartman for the win. Sniff.

Posted by: Pamela at April 28, 2011 8:22 PM

29th birthday. I keep forgetting I'm 31. :p

Posted by: Julie at April 28, 2011 8:24 PM

Newman, Swayze, Ledger. I don't need to elaborate on any of those. No tears, but there was the sense of shock, and in retrospect stupid flash of reality, that even the seemingly immortal die.

When Bob Dylan goes, I will be inconsolable. Like I'm going to go on a week-long bender and will be found several cities away sobbing into a baby blanket and wearing one shoe (not mine).

Also, Jean Beliveau. One of hockey's true gentlemen, a giant of the sport. I admire him very much. That one will END me.

Posted by: Laurie at April 28, 2011 8:30 PM

Steve Irwin and Heath Ledger were both tough ones for me.

Steve Irwin was just so good, as a person, as a father and husband, as an entertainer and champion for educating people about animals. He was just this ball of sunshine and happy energy and you could see how much his family loved him. My heart broke for his wife and children when he died.

Heath Ledger, I'm more angry than anything about his death. It was so avoidable. He died by mixing the wrong medications. That's it. He didn't even overdose, just took the wrong stuff at the same time. His performances in Brokeback Mountain and The Dark Knight blew me away and I'm so pissed that I, and the entire world, missed out on other brilliant performances that he undoubtedly would've turned out. And again, he left behind a young child which makes it even sadder.

Posted by: Dingles at April 28, 2011 8:30 PM

Princess Di was really tragic. I was in my teens and I remember watching CNN or something late at night. It sounded like a simple car wreck. A few broken bones and other injuries, but certainly nothing fatal. Then she was gone.

Gianni Versace. That was just fucked up. Absolutely shocking.

Aaliyah made me cry. MTV (they had videos back then, remember?) had a ticker on the bottom of some shitty rap video that announced her death. I actually thought it was a sick joke.

Phil. I still can't believe his wife robbed their children of both of their parents.

And Heath. Sad for his family, but most of all, his daughter, who won't have any memories of her father.

Posted by: Kala at April 28, 2011 8:36 PM

The first ones I thought of, in order:

Phil Hartman
Jim Henson
Douglas Adams
Freddie Mercury
Ian Curtis

I almost couldn't go to work on the 10th anniversary of Phil's death, I was so sad.

I do enjoy a lot of the post-Henson Muppets stuff, and I will see the new Muppet Movie -- but for me, Kermit is dead.

I actually thought of Douglas Adams today. I'm moving desks next week at work, and the new desk doesn't have a place for my little refrigerator. I had to take the fridge home today without being able to defrost the freezer. Fortunately, I had a towel in my car.

I can't listen to "Somebody to Love" without crying. George Michael's cover makes me cry even harder, especially when I watched it live on MTV during the tribute concert.

I don't think anyone's mentioned Ian Curtis from Joy Division. I wasn't even a teenager when I heard Closer. He was already dead then and I didn't even know it. I found out when I started looking for other music by the band. I did get to see New Order live, who I love dearly, when they came to the US but it just wasn't the same.

Posted by: Three-nineteen at April 28, 2011 8:37 PM

It's been said, but for me it was Heath Ledger. I do love John Belushi, Phil Hartman, and Johnny Cash, but there were before my time. Especially Belushi and Chris Farley. I enjoy the heck out of them now, and if I was around or old enough to remember them, I would have been devastated.

But it will always be Heath Ledger, I think. When 10 Things came out for the first time, my pop took me to go see it. Just me and him. And we don't do that a lot. And I was around 10 at the time. Which I'm sure a lot of the movie went over my head. I didn't follow him religiously, but I enjoyed watching him a lot.

My parent's were thrown when they heard John Ritter died. We watched 8 Rules together a lot. I loved him equally, but I don't remember being too upset about it, even though I think I was the only one in school that watched re-runs of Three's Company.

Posted by: Candee at April 28, 2011 8:39 PM

I forgot to mention James Dean. Of course he's way, way, way before my time, but it always makes me sad that we didn't get to see him age. It's so weird. He was so great, and he's gone. He died in a car accident. Awful stuff. He could have done many great things, as well as Heath Ledger.

Posted by: Candee at April 28, 2011 8:43 PM

George Harrison. Sigh.

Posted by: Katers at April 28, 2011 8:50 PM

Also--stupid Pajiba! Making me all depressed and teary-eyed, and distracting me from school work...

Posted by: Candee at April 28, 2011 8:54 PM

Phil Hartman
George Harrison
John Spencer (Leo from West Wing)
Tim Russert

And oddly, Selena. I was a kid and it just seemed so fucked up -- the president of your fan club?

John Spencer and Tim Russert's were the heart attacks book ending my dad's own heart attack and death at 50. When Tim's happened after, I'm pretty sure that's the first time I all-out bawled over a celebrity death. Seeing his son on television killed me.

Posted by: Sara H at April 28, 2011 9:20 PM

Definitely George Harrison - I still get a bit weepy every time I hear his music. And Molly Ivins! She would have had most of those yahoos on a spit years ago!

Posted by: funtime42 at April 28, 2011 9:22 PM

Every one dies. Not a single one of these bummed me out. I do not mourn their death through age, infirmity, or tragedy. I celebrate that they lived, their deeds their legacy, and that I lived in the same age as they.

Posted by: clancys_daddy at April 28, 2011 9:24 PM

Several of you mentioned Jim Henson so I decided to finally look up the memorial service for him I've always heard about. I found the video of Big Bird singing "It's Not Easy Being Green" at it. I should stop sobbing in a few years now, thanks.

Posted by: Dingles at April 28, 2011 9:27 PM

Robert Heinlein, when i was 16. I cried and cried. It seems weird, looking back near a quarter century later, but at the time, he was like a literary father figure to me, and a beacon in my horribly traumatized youth.

I cried over Johnny Cash too. I still get sad over Freddy Mercury.

I get pretty sad whenever we lose one to an OD or suicide--it just hits a little too close to home.

Posted by: idleprimate at April 28, 2011 9:34 PM

I was extremely sad when Elliott Smith died. He was so gifted and the thought that I'd never hear new music from him was devastating. Such a loss. I am so happy that I got to see him perform - it was just a few years before he died.

Phil Hartman - I remember my roommate from college actually called to see if I was okay. I always thought he was one of the funniest men alive.

I cannot imagine having come of age with The Beatles and the whole John Lennon thing. I love The Beatles, but I was just a kid when he was murdered.

As to Michael Jackson, I actually don't think it's hit me that he's dead, if that makes sense. It just seem so surreal.

Posted by: samantha t at April 28, 2011 9:35 PM

And Princess Di - that was absolutely terrible. Dawning on me that I'm now older than she was when she died.

Posted by: samantha t at April 28, 2011 9:37 PM

speaking of sad celebrity deaths, Poly Styrene of X-Ray Specs died a few days ago, after a long battle with cancer.

As i get older and more and more actors/writers/icons who are meaningful to me die of disease and/or old age, sometimes the sadness i am struck by is the passing away of my world, and my own mortality.

Posted by: idleprimate at April 28, 2011 9:43 PM

Ah Shonda, what a beautiful story. I got a little weepy reading it.

There have been a few actors that I had mad crushes on many years ago that I looked up once I got a computer and was shocked and saddened to read of their deaths. Nicholas Clay aka Lancelot from Excalibur died from cancer and from all accounts, he had a very hard time of it. Kevin Smith aka Ares from Xena died from a head injury from a foolish accident. But I think the one that really hurt was Natasha Richardson. She was such a lovely woman and she and Liam Neeson seemed so happy together. What a waste.

Posted by: snapnhiss at April 28, 2011 9:48 PM

Thanks for mentioning Tim Russert in the comments above. He was great. He had a lot more to give.

In college, I remember, I was really upset by the passing of Elliott Smith, but also and especially by both Walter Matthau and Jack Lemmon. I guess they were old, but so are my parents, and when people my parents' age pass away, I freak out.

Mitch Hedberg and Bass Wolf (!) passed within days of each other, and I remember thinking it was all too much.

Posted by: jenn at April 28, 2011 9:58 PM

When I was 8 or 9 years old the children's author Roald Dahl died and I cried for hours. I think I am still affected by the fact that he died (which makes sense... he was old when I was young) and no more books would be written.

Posted by: petalfrog at April 28, 2011 9:59 PM

Dennis Hopper and Tony Curtis. Not hugely, but they did all the same.

Posted by: zomgmouse at April 28, 2011 10:22 PM

Michael Jackson. I cried like a baby all day. The only celeb death that made me actually shed tears. It's just so sad that he never got a chance to be happy, and I spent so many years being happy to listen to his music and watch his performances.
Aaliyah. I was such a huge fan of her when she died. She was so young and beautiful. I remember the tv was on one morning and they were talking about it and I jumped out of bed hoping that it wasn't true.

Another was Marilyn Monroe. I didn't realize that she was dead when I was a kid. I loved her movies and I just assumed that she was an old lady somewhere in LA living off her wealth. I was devastated when I found out otherwise.

Posted by: kayla at April 28, 2011 10:30 PM

Patrick O'Brian and Douglas Adams.

Posted by: Hell Kelpie at April 28, 2011 10:33 PM

1. Phil Hartman - his goodbye episode of SNL where he sings "So Long, Farewell" and gets teary eyed...never fails to hurt.

2. John Denver. Just because. And because I want someone to write a song like "Annies Song" for me, but it will most likely never happen.

3. Dominick Dunne. Classy all the way. Love the books. Love his TV show. His daughter was killed by an abusive man who then worked at a posh restaurant. Mr Dunne went to the restaurant with a sign that said "The hands that cooked your meal tonight also strangled my daughter". Brave and bold and I will reread his books forever.

Posted by: Maria at April 28, 2011 10:39 PM

John Candy. He was only like 50 at the time and just hitting his comedic stride. He was an all around heart warming guy who was a genuinely great person in real life too.

Phil Hartman's death came more as a shock than sadness for me. I guess I was never much of a fan, but it was sad considering the macabre circumstances.

Patrick Swayze. I got cancer around the same time he did. And though his was much worse than mine, I thought he would pull through and that we would both be here to this day. A pity he had to go when he should have had plenty of years still left ahead.

Posted by: Muteki at April 28, 2011 10:39 PM

Just to show how old I am, and since no one else has mentioned him, Walt Disney died at a relatively young age (65) when I was a young teen enchanted by the magic of his movies. He was a pioneer and a visionary in so many ways, and while I realised later that he could be a hard man (welcome to the human race), to me he was magic.

Also, even though I'm Canadian and was young at the time, the assassination of John F. Kennedy made my head spin. I remember they announced the news over the PA at school and sent us all home for the rest of the day. My best friend and I watched the coverage on his family's nice black & white TV and couldn't understand why anyone would kill such a seemingly beloved man.

Posted by: Uriah Creep at April 28, 2011 10:45 PM

John Spencer. I remember reading about it, and how it just hit me in the gut. I cried all through the West Wing episode where he dies, too.

Posted by: Figgy at April 28, 2011 11:05 PM

I was really crushed when Michael Bolton died. That man had a way with the heart.

Posted by: Lucas at April 28, 2011 11:13 PM

Oh man. I think the worst for me is actually Peter Boyle, though I'd forgotten he died. Young Frankenstein was one of my favorite movies when I was a kid, and I've always seen his Everybody Loves Raymond character as a much more curmudgeonly version of what my dad would be like when he's older and a grandpa. When my dad was diagnosed with leukemia five years ago, I started watching Raymond somewhat obsessively (despite finding the overall show pretty annoying) just for the fix of my pseudo-future-dad. It was a way for me to remain hopeful that my dad would get through this and live to do all the grouchy-but-loveable things the character does. It's just one of those weird things people do when a loved one's life is at risk. When Boyle died, I was terrified to my core that it was foreshadowing for what was to come for my dad. I actually refused to let myself read any of the news reports about his death because I knew it would tear me up too much. I somehow successfully blocked it out of my consciousness. Until now. Phew.

Posted by: C_H at April 28, 2011 11:15 PM

Kayla, thank you for mentioning Michael Jackson. He defined my elementary school existence and when he died, the students I teach now (high schoolers) could only mock and sneer. It broke my heart because I don't think they understand how important he was - how many barriers he broke. And I don't think they understand how talented he was. And how tragic his life turned out to be. I definitely mourned his death.
Jim Henson hurt a lot too. And Mr. Rogers.
I guess it's mainly the ones who shaped my childhood that really hurt.

Posted by: missquiss at April 28, 2011 11:25 PM

Deforest Kelly. When Bones died I was shocked. I was a really miserable, geeky middle school student who skipped a lot of school and watched a lot of Star Trek. It was devastating to lose someone I spent so much time with, especially because I SO wanted to emulate his sarcastic wit.

Posted by: Zilch at April 28, 2011 11:56 PM

Prisco, John Lennon was the best man at Peter Boyle's wedding. Not the other way around.

Posted by: mc at April 29, 2011 12:03 AM

I'm glad I'm not alone regarding my reaction to Jim Henson's death.
I was in kindergarten and still remember finding out before going to school and sobbing throughout the day. I remember trying to explain to our foreign-born teacher's aide who he was (she knew Sesame Street, of course, but not the man behind the wonderment). Coming from a family of artists, even at such a young age I had a deep respect for the artists and artisans behind great works (I knew perfectly well that the Muppets didn't just spring forth from the ether).

Posted by: zyzzyva at April 29, 2011 12:28 AM

Owen Hart was tough because I was still pretty young and though I knew wrestling was fake I still enjoyed the whole production. Plus Bret Hart, his brother, was my favorite wrestler and I just felt so bad for him and his family, especially with the way the WWE had treated some of them.

As an adult I'd have to say Heath Ledger. And its mostly because of the fact that he was so young and was right on the cusp of great things.

Posted by: Dave at April 29, 2011 1:10 AM

My first was Kurt Cobain.

(Before that there was Ian Curtis, but that was after the fact that his music got to me).

And Heith. The amount of raw exploding talent that died with him made me very sad for weeks.

Yes, I'm a sucker that way.

Posted by: Magiel at April 29, 2011 2:40 AM

Posted by: butters at April 29, 2011 2:43 AM

I can't. I just can't.

The stupidity and madness and inevitability of the circumstances under which Dimebag Darrell was taken from us... they stake a corner of my mind to the ground and it just runs in circles. It spins and spins and spins, an orbit of confused rage and incomprehension. The gravity of what was still to come from him, what he still had yet to do, what would never be, what will forever remain unfulfilled. Such weight.

Or Kurt Cobain.

Or Peter Steele.

Or Heath Ledger.

Or Mitch Hedberg.

Or Andy Hallett.

Or Cliff Burton.

Or Douglas Adams.

So many more. On and on my mind spins, ever trapped on the spot, and...

I can't. I just can't.

Posted by: Baldo at April 29, 2011 4:06 AM

Johnny Cash. I used to spend a lot of time with my grandparents out in the country (it's Kansas, so there's a LOT of country) and when my grandpa would drive me anywhere we'd put on a Johnny Cash tape. He'd sing along some and he sounded so incredibly like Johnny, and my grandpa's name (given name, actually) is Johnny-- I thought Grandpa John WAS Johnny Cash for most of my young life. I found out later that I'm the only person that has ever heard my grandpa sing, in his deep gravely bass, just like Johnny Cash. When Mr. Cash died I got a taste of losing Grandpa John... it still stings.

Posted by: Muttley Crew at April 29, 2011 9:00 AM

So glad to see a couple of others remember Fred Rogers as well. I was in my late 30's and cried at my desk at work when I read the headline. I felt like a small part of my childhood was gone...hell, I'm tearing up now thinking about it.

Posted by: OlorinGrayhame at April 29, 2011 9:30 AM

I already commented, and many people said this one as well but I want to also add Princess Diana as a death that affected me. I don't remember crying...but I remember being so sad for her sons. It was incredible to see how many people all over the world were affected by her death and that is what stuck with me. Watching William and Harry walk behind her coffin was one of the saddest things I ever saw.

Posted by: Whorish Mouth at April 29, 2011 10:26 AM

Ayrton Senna

Posted by: Uncle Mikey at April 29, 2011 10:31 AM

George MacDonald Fraser, too

Posted by: Uncle Mikey at April 29, 2011 10:33 AM

Heath Ledger was probably the first celebrity death that I really cared about.

I was sitting in my dorm room freshman year checking my Yahoo Mail when I saw that he had died. All of the girls on my floor were shocked--it was extremely sudden.

We had all seen 10 Things I Hate About You of course and I absolutely adore Knight's Tale (shut up). This was before the Batman franchise I think and we all knew he had died during production for the Doctor Parnassus trainwreck. So yea, very sudden.

Sometimes I watch his movies (I especially loved his performance in I'm Not There) and just wonder what would have happened to him if he lived.

Aside from that, I was the only one in my high school who cared when Don Knotts died. Barney Forever!

Posted by: grace b at April 29, 2011 10:42 AM

Tupac...so young, so gorgeous, so much influence, so much potential for more.

Posted by: TheEmpress at April 29, 2011 10:45 AM

Heath Ledger. My boyfriend had this funny game that he used to play around the time of Ledger's death where he'd text/call me and say, "Did you hear about [random celebrity]? He/she died/got married/is sick, etc." When he called me and mentioned that Heath Ledger died, I assumed it was another joke. And then he told me that he was serious, and I checked the news, and I started bawling. He was too young and too talented. Such a waste.

I wasn't overly upset when Aaliyah died, but I remember watching Live with Regis and Kelly (was it Kelly at that point?) the next day and Usher was scheduled to perform. Instead of singing whatever hit he was there to promote, he sang "It's So Hard to Say Goodbye to Yesterday" and dedicated it to Aaliyah. When he broke down in the middle and had to be consoled by the hosts, I lost it. I'm tearing up just thinking about it.

Also, does anyone remember QT from 2Gether? I was heartbroken when he passed away, especially because he and I were basically the same age.

Posted by: burpany at April 29, 2011 11:29 AM

Brandon Lee, because he was my friend, the savior of my sanity, my partner in petty crime. I was the girl who'd told him to get over himself when we met, and repeated it even after I found out who he was, so naturally he had to befriend me. We cooked together, drank together, rode way too fast on his bike. The last time I saw him, he was genuinely happy, in love for the first time, at peace with himself. He said I'd be getting a wedding invitation soon.

I was driving home from work when I found out he had died. The DJ moved on to the next story. I pulled into a parking lot and screamed and beat my hands against my steering wheel. His death wasn't in the following news report.

Posted by: Reba at April 29, 2011 11:35 AM

Late to the thread but this has been very interesting reading. So, Brian, I thank you for this thread.

I don't really bum out about celebs mostly because I don't know them personally: But Mitch Hedberg because it is such a waste. Such. Waste.

I do know, though, that when Ray Davies dies, I will mourn fervently and forever.

Posted by: klingonfree at April 29, 2011 11:57 AM

Bill Hicks. A modern day prophet. His words are timeless and still ring true today. When he died (so incredibly young) the world suffered a great loss.

Elliot Smith. What a sad and tragic ending.

Posted by: Talia at April 29, 2011 12:08 PM

Charles Nelson Reilly. Every May 25th I crawl into bed and watch a whole day of Match Game on the DVR.

Posted by: Jennface at April 29, 2011 12:25 PM

Tim Russert. He made Meet the Press such a great show, fair and full of questions that no one else had the balls to ask.

He was also from Buffalo, NY-my home town and went to high school at my brother school, Canisius. I had the pleasure of hearing him speak at a patent law dinner a year before he passed.

He was an amazing man and the news has not quite recovered from his death.

Posted by: pajamas at April 29, 2011 12:55 PM

D. Boon of the Minutemen. Phil Hartman. Kurt Cobain. John Candy. Elvis. John Lennon. Bob Stinson of the Replacements.

I don't really count people like Johnny Cash who reached old age and more or less completed their careers. I thought a lot about Johnny Cash when he died, but it was more of a respectful observance than mourning. He went out like any of us would want to: He worked right up to the end, and when he died his work was done. Elvis died several years before his heart stopped, but that had a big impact on 11-yr-old me. I'm with Prisco, though: Phil Hartman was a major, major loss.

Posted by: pk at April 29, 2011 1:52 PM

Heath Ledger. He always reminded me of my younger brother and the fact that he died of an overdose, and my brother had a bad drug habit, was just too close to home. Unfortunately, my brother lost his fight with drugs and OD'd just four months ago at age 28, also leaving behind young children who will have only vague memories of him. The similarities between them always haunt me.

Posted by: tipsywoozy at April 29, 2011 2:09 PM

Layne Staley. I know he didn't die until 2002 but he was in the process of dying since the mid 90s.

Posted by: Andy at April 29, 2011 2:14 PM

YES to Jeff in Middletucky and DarthCorleone! I just love peanuts. There's something sweet and innocent and hopeful about it. And that Charles Schultz died the night before his last strip was planned to be published... devastating.

Jim Henson and Princess Diana too. I don't know why her death affected me at all. I remember hearing about it and crying and not really knowing why.

Posted by: rhombus at April 29, 2011 2:35 PM

Jeff Buckley. I remember hearing Grace and being so sad when I eventually found out he died.

Posted by: Bee at April 29, 2011 3:22 PM

1. Michael Jackson
2. Mitch Hedburg

Posted by: Gnaius at April 29, 2011 3:32 PM

Oh, Shonda, that was wonderful. How many of us have a chance to meet the crush of our younger selves, and get to talk to him and get a hug?

My daughter was also very upset when he died, because he will always be Dumbledore to her.

Posted by: dammitjanet at April 29, 2011 3:51 PM

Michael Landon

Posted by: Alex Burless at April 29, 2011 5:20 PM

Lucas, if Bolton is dead they should let him know. He's supposed to be on stage tomorrow night.

http://www.songkick.com/artists/182931-michael-bolton

Posted by: clancys_daddy at April 29, 2011 8:44 PM

Andy Gibb when I was very, very young and because of Micheal Hutchinson, I have only been able to listen to INXS again just this past year.

Posted by: Dale at April 29, 2011 9:15 PM

John-John Kennedy. My cousin and I had a running thing that he was my boyfriend and Prince Felipe of Spain was hers. My aunt got Hello! magazine from Spain and we loved it. And Princess Diana. This same cousin called me at 3 am and said, "You need to get up because I'm out with my boyfriend (now husband) and it was on TV that Diana died." I was upset every time someone mentioned Diana today during the wedding coverage. And when the Duchess of Cornwall got out of the car. I know it's silly but I never got over that.

Posted by: Az at April 29, 2011 9:44 PM

Only one celebrity death made me sob. And I did it off and on for days: Princess Diana. Her death was just incredibly, profoundly sad and shocking. Some days I'll remember she's gone and just think "damn." I mean, I cried my fucking eyes out over her.

I will lose my shit completely when Willie Nelson and Loretta Lynn die. I will call in grieving to work. I will wear black for a month.

Posted by: Snuggiepants at April 29, 2011 11:17 PM

This is an obscure one, but Rebecca Shaffer. She was on the show "My Sister Sam" in the 80s, and was murdered by an obsessed fan when she was 21. I was 10 when it happened, and a huge fan of her and the show. I remember my older sister explaining to me what happened, and just not understanding it. Just being so confused. The same thing with Heather O'Rourke. I couldn't understand how somebody a couple years older than me could just die.

I thought about Phil Hartman recently when I was watching "The Pee Wee Herman Show" (the new stage show) on HBO the other week. I kept thinking something was missing, but I couldn't put my finger on it (I thought it was the 20 year old guy planning Cowboy Curtis, but that wasn't it). A couple days later, it hit me. It was missing Captain Carl. And my heart sank.

Posted by: Samantha at April 30, 2011 12:17 AM

@Alex Burless: Michael Landon filmed a movie at my house when I was in high school. He and his crew practically moved in for a week and he was a living doll: Charming, funny, down to earth, ate dinner with us, and at the premier of the movie, he invited my whole family and we closed the place, singing around an old piano in the hotel where the party was.

A sweetie pie was Little Joe.

Posted by: klingonfree at April 30, 2011 12:35 AM

Madeline Kahn- I loved her and didn't know she was sick with cancer, died too young.
Aaliyah- This sweet young person, I did not know at all but through her music, killed in an idiotic plane crash. Her death just seemed brutal.
Princess Diana - I was going to the late screening of The Full Monty and the concessions person told us she had died, I thought they had bad intel. The week before I had seen every freaking tabloid magazine in the grocery store with her photo on it and wished the press would just leave her the hell alone.

Posted by: soupd at April 30, 2011 1:25 AM

Sal Mineo, John Belushi and Freddie Prinze-I was a kid and watched SNL and Chico & the Man. I saw Rebel Without A Cause, thought Sal Mineo was adorable and tracked down all his movies to watch. I had scrapbooks of news clippings about them.
John Lennon's death made me rethink my love of the Beatles. (I'd gone off them and now knowing there'd never be a chance of them reuniting, made me appreciate their music again.
Aaliyah (glad some mentioned her). I remember saying to my then boyfriend, how sweet she seemed and I liked her tomboyish image. She wasn't sexing it up like most poptarts. Then I woke up to the news of her death and was genuinely saddened.
Luther Vandross-was always a fan and I still can't listen to 'Dance With My Father' without crying.
Michael Jackson-I grew up with Michael. As a little black girl, I was one of the millions who just knew she would marry him.He was so talented and so damaged. I really wish he could've found his peace.

Posted by: Shazza at April 30, 2011 7:21 PM

Frank Zappa. I was in front of a convenience store when I saw the blurb on a USA TODAY in a vending machine. I actually puked right there on the snow covered sidewalk.

Posted by: Monte X. Hector at April 30, 2011 9:10 PM

Peter Sellers. I was only 8 at the time, but to that point, he was the closest thing to live action Looney Tunes to me as Inspector Clouseau. Considering I had a sheltered kid life, it's amazing my parents let me watch those movies.

No, I'm never fucking watching Steve Martin.

Second was the passing of Mel Blanc in 1989. Looney Tunes had never been the same since the 60's, and Warner Bros. milked the cow until it done keeled over, and Blanc's voice had become less than what it was - but it still hurt hearing that the 2nd best part of those cartoons passed away.

Last - Jim Henson, just before high school graduation was devastating - probably 1/2 of the graduating classes of 1990 dedicated their commencements to him.

Posted by: idiosynchronic at April 30, 2011 10:00 PM

I read pretty much all of these, and I for one am glad it took so long for MJ to be mentioned. I could not care less about him.

Mitch Hedberg, though! My sister and I rarely see eye to eye anymore, but our love of Mitch is the one thing we agree upon. I didn't know he had health problems like that, and his death was a huge shock. Likewise San Kinison- I heard that on the radio and it was like being sucker-punched in the gut. Really sad and sudden.

Phil Hartman, obviously, was a huge shock for us all. TV wasn't the same. To be honest, as a huge SNL fan from age 5 (I'm 35 now), every SNL death has impacted me. Comedians bring me joy, so I value their lives more than a Swayze or some other actor.

Richard Harris, and God, I know this will seem terrible, WAS Albus Dumbledore, and I think that was the saddest thing about his death. He'd lived long and made many beautiful films, but not being able to make it to book 7 was a blow. I watched Lawrence of Arabia again right after his death, and when he dies on the motorcycle right at the beginning... awful!

Most musicians don't bother me much, even though I really love music. But both Tupac and Cobain tore at me personally. As a cop, their kinds of tragedies are the kind I see often, and the sudden loss of life like that really affects me.

Posted by: EJ at May 1, 2011 2:16 PM

DarthCorleone, Joshua Jackson is alive you moron.
Posted by: Ter4 at April 28, 2011 5:23 PM

Joshua Jackson (RIP) is in reference to a long-standing site joke. Please refer to the Pajiba dictionary...This passage in particular: "Joshua Jackson R.I.P.: the corpse of the Canadian-American actor, who had appeared in primetime television in and in several film roles, he was best known for playing Pacey in the television series “Dawson’s Creek” and Charlie in The Mighty Ducks films."

So great job on insulting someone when right after their joke they say "IN ALL SERIOUSNESS". Really. Just a great job.

Posted by: SPAGHATTAH NADLE (formerly popejenm) at May 1, 2011 4:13 PM

Madeline Kahn, though it was well after the fact. I saw Young Frankenstein in an English class in high school and loved her, and then looked into some of her other movies and LOVED her. And then I decided to find out more about her, and it turned out she'd died 4 years prior. It broke my heart, and even to this day I still feel sad when I think about it.

Posted by: Gabs at May 1, 2011 10:27 PM

River Phoenix that death was devastating it took me years to forgive Johnny Depp over his involvment (and I love JD), John Candy and Phil Hartman in both cases I really honestly didn't believe either was dead or could die because they were so funny, Gilda Radner sweet woman tragic loss, and Jim Henson he made my childhood so special.

Posted by: lcl22 at May 2, 2011 8:33 AM

For some reason, who popped into my head was John Spencer. When they were casting The West Wing, they wrote Leo McGarry as a "John Spencer"-type when that wasn't exactly a widely known type. Thank G-d they bothered asking him.

And I anticipate being in bed with a box of tissues for days (read what you will into that image) when either Kelly Bishop or Jessica Walter passes.

Posted by: YLlama at May 4, 2011 12:51 AM