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When Reporting on Affairs and Wrecked Homes, I Can't Help But Notice Someone is Always Left Out...

By Courtney Enlow | Celebrities Are Better than You | November 12, 2013 | Comments ()


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Yesterday, the Daily Mail ran an interview with Emma Thompson in which Thompson addresses the widely publicized affair between Kenneth Branagh and Helena Bonham Carter which ended her marriage to Branagh. Thompson, as always, was a classy gem, even pointing out similarities shared by herself and Bonham Carter, chiefly “being slightly mad and a bit fashion-challenged.” I cannot overstate how wonderful this woman is.

My issue is with the Daily Mail, and all other entertainment journalism pieces discussing a relationship-ending affair. Go read the interview and see if you can spot it. I’ll wait. It’s worth it, because of Thompson’s aforementioned gem-ness.

Did you find Waldo? I’ll tell you what you didn’t find: Kenneth Branagh.

Thompson notes that she and Bonham Carter made their peace years ago. There’s an 11-year-old quote from Bonham Carter stating, “Yes, I’m a habitual serial home breaker, apparently.” There’s discussion of Bonham Carter’s children, films both Bonham Carter and Thompson have appeared in, and photos of both women alone and with Branagh. But, other than that, there is very little Branagh.

Because, you see, the only one to blame is Helena Bonham Carter. The only one who would need forgiveness—be it Thompson’s or ours—is Helena Bonham Carter.

I don’t think I need to tell you that affairs are wrong, but who knows. I could get an influx of angry “how dare you cheat-shame!” comments. I’m sure people have all kinds of reasons and I’m sure many of them are totally understandable, but at the end of the day I think we can agree that many if not most affairs are bad things, with both parties sharing the badness. But, call me crazy here, when two people have an affair and one is married and one is the otherwise unattached “other woman” or “other man” shouldn’t the majority of the blame lie with the married person? Why is the “other woman”—in this case, Helena Bonham Carter—the villain, while the man who broke his wife’s heart, relegating her to “crying in a bedroom” as she states, gets off scot-free?

And this is the norm in terms of Hollywood gossip. Think about the Aniston-Jolie-Pitt triangle that still shows up on tabloid covers to this day. It’s still Aniston vs. Jolie. How often does Pitt actually get brought into things? How much has any of this affected his career and public image? The answer is zero, while Jolie is still Evil Slut and Aniston is still Sad Cat Lady.

It’s gross anyway. It always is. But, for some reason, it’s especially gross when used in this way. Thompson is all class, and it’s clear from her answers that this is a non-issue for her, at least in terms of what she wants to put out there publicly. She’s there to talk about herself and her movie. And every headline is “Thompson Forgives Bonham Carter.” Wronged wife forgives badly dressed harlot. There’s something missing. And it’s a big problem.





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  • Vida

    Well we dont know what happened in any of these situations. maybe Emma forgave her ex too but they left those comments out of the article because for some reason the press likes to sell drama between women. of course the blame is to be distributed equally but in some cases where people blame the other woman its because of the way she behaved during the affair. I've heard stories from wives that had the other woman calling them and harassing them. I mean yes your man is the cheater and blame hi for having bad taste and picking crazy lovers but you're going to blame the crazy person too!

  • Guest

    Obviously the blame is to be shared equally but i think

  • kirbyjay

    Maybe she hasn't forgiven Brannagh.
    Simple, right?

  • e jerry powell

    Not for nothing, but I was too busy being heartbroken that Kenneth Branagh left Emma Thompson for anyone but me. But yes, everyone seems mad at Angelina because of Jen and nobody seems to have shit to say about the penis owner. It's not as though Brad Pitt was just walking absentmindedly through the forest and fell in to Angelina's vagina like it was some kind of tiger trap.

    I would like to make a small distinction, though. At least nobody was taking the names of those girls Ashton Kutcher was banging in vain so much, because it was KUTCHER that was at fault. Demi had laid out the rules for the hall pass, and the dumbass Ashton couldn't take yes for an answer and keep his happy fun time on the down-low like his wife asked. Of course, we already knew that he was a dumbass of a Ken doll, so it didn't cost him much in terms of career, and it made Demi come off (unfairly) like a shaming-worthy slut, and for as little positive as I think of her, Demi Moore doesn't deserve that.

  • Belphebe

    So Emma Thompson had a bad breakup in '95 and met her soul-mate partner of 16 years in '96, had a daughter, then adopted a former child soldier. Blah-blah blah cheating scandal, this article focuses on the least interesting thing about her. Which I get is the point that Courtney is trying to make, but I scrolled through the comments and was surprised that no one commented on the fact that Emma Thompson adopted a Rwandan child soldier because apparently she is Nanny McPhee in real life????

  • Sara_Tonin00

    I hadn't heard about that - fascinating!

    And Greg Wise is a fabulous catch for Ms. Thompson. Oh, Willoughby.

  • John G.

    I have always loved HBC, and when Branagh took her, I always blamed him, and I still hate him. Both women are well rid of him. He's an egomaniacal dickface.

  • Indy

    Perhaps Emma doesn't mention forgiving Kenneth because she doesn't.

  • The Mama

    Having been the Emma in my own little triangle, I can tell you that I blame my own Kenneth way more than I blame my own HBC. Mainly because there were too many HBCs in my life to blame, but that's beside the point. The others that came before the final one were nameless and faceless to me; I didn't know them, they didn't know me, and they had no loyalty to me. I know they were aware that he was married, and I know they made the choice to ignore that, but their choice affected them. HIS choice affected me.
    And I don't really blame the final HBC. At least, not for the affair. I blame her for other things - she was cruel on top of everything else - but not for the affair. Her choice to have an affair affected her and her husband, but it was my husband's choice that affected me and my kid.
    I would also say that while the "other woman" gets blamed for breaking up the marriage, the betrayed wife gets blamed almost as often for not being able to "hang on" to her husband. It's her fault because she "let herself go" or she "didn't have time for him".
    Affairs are messy, horrible things. Rarely is the whole story told. Once an affair comes to light, it's devastating for everyone involved, and yes, I'm including the participants in that statement.
    Having said all that, Emma Thompson is, and always has been, a class act.

  • Lisbeth Solis

    Well, Pitt frankly sounds like a wimp whenever he addresses the situation, like he was swept off his feet by Jolie and were it not for her, he'd still be with Anniston.

  • Twillahiss

    I really loved this article, every single thing about it but this beauty:

    “how dare you cheat-shame!”

    is so completely perfect in its snark that I feel like hugging it..

  • Etaoin_Sherdlu

    It's possible that Emma, being a polite British person, refrained from mentioning her ex-husband to point out that, while she has made peace with Helena, she still has unresolved issues with Kenneth. At least, that's how I read it before seeing others comments.

  • themanda

    when i confronted my then husband about the woman he was having an affair with, his response was "don't be mad at her." i was like, wtf would i be mad at HER for? she didn't promise me fidelity, you did!

  • the other courtney

    Preach it. When my ex-husband cheated, I was annoyed at the chick (we all worked at the same company... awkward does not even begin to describe that scene) but she never made any promises to me, so meh. Him I took to task. The drama and gossip and fall-out was all heaped on us (trampolina and myself) with the ex somehow escaping unscathed.

  • emmalita

    Not to in anyway downplay the pain you went through, but this will always be Trampolina to me:

  • JustOP

    'while jolie is the evil slut and aniston is the sad old cat lady'
    Do people really think this?

    Whilst I agree with the gist of what you're saying, I find the whole topic a little... repulsive, distasteful, awkward?

    It's just a lot of people making assumptions about a really horrible time for these three people, as if they have any real informative opinion on the subject - or to use this horrible scenario as a podium to get across their own 'beliefs' or 'ideals'.

    I guess I can't help but put myself in those peoples shoes and think how violated I'd feel, not only due to what's happened to me, but the invasion of my privacy, the interjection of opinions by people who do not know me, the judgement, the aforementioned using what's happened to spread a viewpoint.

    Ugh, I just hate these types of stories, and I hate the Daily Mail (as any Brit with an average level of IQ points should), which probably adds to the uncomfortableness.

  • Well, even look at when it is reversed; a married woman cheating. STILL, the man she cheated with does not get nearly as much of the fire as she does.

  • Untamed

    Let's agree, Courtney, that if Kenneth was not mentioned, it was his ex wife's choice. I think this is less about who is ultimately at fault and more about who is currently more famous. Let's not make more of it, please.

  • This is far from scientific, but.... If memory serves, Meg Ryan really took it on the chin image-wise when she flung with Crowe. Crowe? Not so much. All else being equal, I'd venture women get the infidelity backlash worse, no matter which spot they're in: cheated, cheated on, or cheated with. Culturally, no matter how progressive our thinking, we're still conditioned to expect that men will be led around by their genitals and women will be motivated most by family, fidelity and commitment.... so a woman "wrecking" a home, be it her own or someone else's, is easier to hold up as a disturber of the norm and vilify or ridicule.

    EDIT OF CHAGRIN: Stupid iPad touchscreen. I so was not trying to up-vote myself.

  • ZbornakSyndrome

    I do think HBC deserves some of the blame, I mean, she did know what she was doing and that he was married.
    Still. The onus of this is on Branagh. He made vows to Emma Thompson, it's on him to keep them.

    Really I'm more upset that Emma Thompson is being bothered with this nonsense when she's far too fabulous to dwell on it. She seems to have found a much better place in life anyway.

  • IngridToday

    Serioulsy this happened almost twenty freaking years ago and she's still be extensively interviewed about it.

  • If you said "I do" then don't bang someone else without your partner's permission beforehand. If said partner is not inclined to that sort of arrangement then (a) you may have found the wrong partner, and you definitely should have mentioned your inclinations beforehand and (b) you need to respect your partner's wishes or set about breaking off that partnership BEFORE you have sex with someone else. This is not a difficult equation - but it does require some difficult decisions.

    The person who deserves the blame for Thompson's marriage ending is Branagh. I don't care if they were having problems before that. Shagging your spouse's friend (or anyone not your spouse) is the coward's way of opting out of your marriage. Sure, HBC could have said "Er, no, that's a bad idea." but she was not the one in a legally binding relationship at that point, so while it was a bad call, I'm still laying this one at the feet of the married person who disrespected the vows.

  • kirivinokur

    I get your point but legal/illegal bonds would be that high on the list of factors to consider.

  • Sure, you could apply this to any committed relationship - and I wish people would. It's just that getting out of a legally binding contract is a hell of a lot messier and more expensive than ending a relationship without legal ramifications (depending on where you live), so maybe folks should consider what sort of framework their partnership has before they get into it.

  • kirivinokur

    1) My reply was very poorly worded. It should have said something like 'whether or not a legal bond is being broken doesn't matter as much as breaking a commitment'. So I agree.
    2) As for the expense, that's also not near the top of the list. If you're gonna cheat, it would be strange to think about the financial ramifications of your actions. A smart would-be cheater should think that way, but whether a divorce is cheap or expensive wouldn't make it less/more wrong.

  • JenVegas

    Soooo as someone who has been a "homewrecker" (although the couple was only dating and not actually married at the time) I can tell you that the reason I most often heard for it being All My Fault was because there is (apparently) some unspoken bond of sisterhood that is supposed to prevent us from....fucking attached men? IDK. I missed a memo or didn't get a handbook, or something. But what I was told over and over again implied that it was a greater sin to go against my "sister" than it was for him to have cheated on his girlfriend. Because, I guess, we expect men to cheat? Like I said, I still don't really get why I took all the blame on that one, and I don't get it when it happens in pop-culture either. Dumb scapegoating I suppose. Shrug.

  • Zoe1078

    The sisterhood thing is kind of silly, but doesn't it still get down to the golden rule about treating others as you want to be treated? I know it's a simplistic and childish approach, but isn't it still a good way to live? And I agree that the person in the relationship who's stepping out bears more responsibility than the person they're stepping out with, because the former made a commitment and the latter did not, but I'm not sure that absolves the latter.

  • JenVegas

    Who said anything about absolution? Certainly not me. But, in as much as this discussion is about how men are often exempted from taking any of the blame in these situations, I shared my experience with that. You're welcome. That some ladies hold their fellow females to a higher standard than those men they chose to partner with is not the fault of The Other Woman. So as far as I'm concerned everyone should share the blame in situations like these. That's my point.
    As far as the Golden Rule goes, get back to me when you live your life perfectly 100% of the time. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone and all, if we're going to get biblical about it.

  • Zoe1078

    As I already mentioned, I'm in full agreement that the cheater bears more responsibility than the person they are cheating with (male, female, or otherwise). I think that the "wronged" party might blame the "other" more than their partner as a defense mechanism--it's less painful to blame the "other" than it is to blame someone they're already emotionally invested in and in love with, and it allows them to (probably inappropriately) remove themselves of blame as well (ie ignore whatever role they played in creating pre-existing problems to damage the relationship before the "other" came along). Why everyone else also blames the "other" more than the person in the relationship, I don't know and won't try to justify.

    My point was just to explain where I think the "sisterhood" thing came from. I'm not religious in the least, but I think most creeds and cultures still subscribe to the basic guidance of the golden rule.

  • KC

    I agree Zoe1078. I see it as treating others with common decency and respect even if you don't technically "owe" them anything. But I really hate it that the man who is in the relationship rarely gets the blame, it is so weird.

    And I really just don't see why people are okay with wasting someone else's time. The wronged party could be out finding someone they can truly love and trust instead of wasting time with someone who clearly doesn't care enough for them. I dunno...I hate situations like this.

  • Twillahiss

    Too bad about the downvotes, I appreciate your candor.

  • JenVegas

    Thanks.

  • BWeaves

    I wouldn't blame Emma. She might have talked about Brannagh and the journalist left that bit out, because HBC makes a better story.

  • foolsage

    Not to put too fine a point on it, this societal way of blaming women for extramarital affairs is rooted deeply in Christian theology. It all goes back to Eve and the apple, people; more Americans are Christian than belong to any other religion, and Christianity continues to have profound influence on our society.

    For those who believe in such things, the Bible itself tells them that women are the ones who cause sin. That's an awfully hard argument to overcome, because you can't reason through it and you can't provide evidence to the contrary; it's all based on faith.

    From Original Sin came a whole host of misogynistic beliefs, mostly during the Dark Ages. Biblical characters like Bathsheba were turned into temptresses despite what the Bible stories actually said - e.g. Bathsheba herself committed the grave and unforgivable crime of bathing while King David spied on her. That harlot!

    Then we have books like Proverbs, full of pithy (if blatantly misogynistic) sayings like, "Wise friends will rescue you from the Temptress - that smooth-talking Seductress/Who's faithless to the husband she married years ago, never gave a second thought to her promises before God./Her whole way of life is doomed; every step she takes brings her closer to hell." (Proverbs 2: 16-18) or "For the lips of a loose woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil;/ but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword./ Her feet go down to death; her steps follow the path to Sheol." (Proverbs 5: 3-5).

    Sigh.

    I really don't know how to combat this stuff. It's everywhere in America; we're still a deeply Puritanical nation in many regards, and still cling to this Dark-Age misogyny loosely based on the Bible.

  • BlackRabbit

    Hell, not to mention Lilith. She didn't want to be second fiddle to Adam, so she is cast out and becomes a boogeyman. She also boinked an angel, which is ambitious.

  • foolsage

    Good example. She's the prototypical Bad Girl, but all she seems to have wanted was equality.

  • I understand where you're coming from, but having been professionally trained in theology, may I emphasize that the issue is one of Tradition and interpretation taking precedence over the actual text when forming a belief system upon its teachings?

    I find it humorous - in the most gut-wrenching, soul-crushing way - that people consistently misinterpret and misapply Biblical texts to suit their assumptions and cultural blinders. It happens across all spectrums of belief (fundamentalist, conservative, liberal, agnostic, etc.) when approaching the Bible. You can make the book say anything you wish it to say if you try hard enough. (I'm looking at you, Westboro.)

  • foolsage

    Oh, I absolutely agree; that was part of the point I was trying to make (i.e. that a tradition has arisen that calls for people to recast Biblical women as temptresses, even when the original text doesn't support this reading).

    That same problem appears more or less everywhere when dealing with exoteric Christianity. That is to say, strong traditions have formed, and people mistake these traditions for actual Biblical scholarship. See e.g. the Old Testament on homosexuality, compared to what most Christians THINK the Old Testament said about homosexuality (i.e. that it's an abomination - you know, just like eating shellfish, or women wearing men's clothing - all abominations described with the same word). Oh, and Sodom and Gomorrah weren't destroyed because of homosexuality, but because the inhabitants were jerks to visitors. Nonetheless, there's an immensely strong tradition that says Sodom was destroyed because of sodomy. Sigh. Freaking Dark Age myths, I tell ya.

  • Vida

    That's not true. In the old testament men had more than one wife and it was acceptable so I dont think it has to do with Christianity.

  • foolsage

    What does having more than one wife have to do with the belief that women are innately tempting to men? What does it have to do with traditions that arose outside of Biblical scholarship? You claimed "that's not true" then said nothing at all to support your claim.

  • Vida

    lol it made sense to me when I typed it. I forgot people cant read my mind. what i meant was its not true that its because of Christianity that people blame the "other woman". its because of patriarchy. When there were multiple wives there didnt seem to be a problem between the women. In Asian countries where Buddhism is the main religions it is socially seen as acceptable for men to have affairs but women are still held up to standards of purity. I agree with NateS1973, people just use the texts they want to justify their own beliefs. Also Christianity teaches to forgive, even if the woman is considered a whore, socially so if they really wanted to be Christian they wouldnt be blaming the other woman at all. They would just forgive everyone

  • Yocean

    Agreed, though in this case I got the sense Emma has not forgiven Ken really and the reason Helena and her got along afterward was through recognizing him as the common enemy. And he deserved that, though Emma is too classy make that part explicit. Or am I just reading into something the coverage did not focus or care to dig in and being too forgiving? By the way, while we are on the topics of affairs, I was once horrified watching a Japanese talks show with bunch of young girls discussing romance when one of the girl recommended every girl have an affair with a married man once on their lives. Her reasoning was that it enriches you and it is easy. Of course this is conceivable only because so many men cheat, and men are of course blamable, but I was put off by that kind of blatant disregard for the other's life's for the sake of one's own convenience and comfort.

  • rio

    Yeah, man always get left out, even when is the married woman doing the cheating on her husband. So the lesson here for all the ladies is: No matter what it's always our fault!
    Is sleeping with a married person a colossally shitty move if you are aware they are in fact married? Yes it is, you are knowingly causing pain to someone else but guess what? You didnt promise that person to stand by their side and freaking respect them until you kick the bucket so yeah I can't stand homewreckers but I consider the homewrecker the person that was married and decided to be an ass and cheat, not the person they cheat with.
    And somehow I still love "Jolene". Damn you Dolly Parton and your angelic voice!

  • PDamian

    For some reason, I now have an old Vanity 6 song running through my head ...

    "There's 2 things we can't stand
    One is a jive talk man
    The other is a jive talk man with no money
    Can U dig it?
    Click"

  • Maguita NYC

    Even in real life you see it. "That whore wrecked their marriage", "That woman stole my husband", "That bitch took him away from me".

    It happens in every day life, where the man is a poor helpless child mislead by a manipulative evil adult bitch, where he was forced into cheatinghood. The homewreckers should get the blame for breaking marriages and families, no question about it; But more than often, the MAN helped. He did not helplessly submit to another person's will. He took action. He participated fully, and it is beyond time to treat men like proper adults.

    And place the blame equally.

  • ZbornakSyndrome

    Unless the married guy in question was hit over the head, raped and brainwashed, it's his responsibility not to be "stolen".

    That said, I think it's easier to vilify the other woman because if you don't then there's the painful fact that the person you loved totally betrayed you.

  • ljridley

    I had a best friend who is a man. When he got engaged, his intended decided she didn't want him to be friends with me anymore, her reasoning being that she trusted him, but not me. I suppose it was easier for her to think she trusted him and that I was some sort of hussy with magical powers of seduction (if only!) but I tended to think she just really didn't trust him. They got married. Eventually he led her to believe that we weren't friends, proving himself remarkably untrustworthy.

    The sad thing is that I think he thinks I blame her for the whole mess. I don't. I blame him.

  • ZbornakSyndrome

    "I trust you, I just don't trust THEM" is one of my favorite lies people tell. It's so delusional.

  • Maguita NYC

    It depends on the kind of woman you are. If you were raised to blindly blame women, whether for breaking a marriage, promises, stealing boyfriends, or even in cases of rape, then yes: You will concentrate all your disappointments on the other woman.

    But if you were raised to be aware of your gender, the fight for equality and the importance of self-awareness, then you would put the blame equally on your husband as well as the other woman.

  • ZbornakSyndrome

    Oh, I agree with you, though I tend to blame the husband (or whoever cheated) more.

    I've just heard so much about "guarding my husband from home-wreckers" and "keeping the hos away", that it gets old. I mean, he isn't a toddler (I hope), he should be able to cross the street without your supervision.

  • Maguita NYC

    Right there. What you just said, I agree with you so much!

    Women constitute 50% of the population. When did women start fighting other women to keep or attract the attention of a man! When did we start believing that we should fight one another in order to keep a man?

    It pisses me off to no end. How did Feminism translate suddenly into viciously shredding each other for the attention of a man. 50% of the population, there are more than enough to go around; don't sell yourself short, and don't treat the man like a child. He needs to be responsible and earn his right to be by your side just as much as you do. Where did women's self-respect get lost, and when did this self-mutilation of our gender begin.

  • I would go so far as to propose that in order to be a "Homewrecker" you must be the one who has the home. Ergo, the third party is falsely labeled in these situations.

  • Maguita NYC

    I agree. The breaking of a family, a unit committed through ceremony to stick together through life and its challenges, should befall on the one who broke that promise.

    Isn't it time to label the cheating man a homewrecker as well?

  • Naye

    It's more than often, its every single time, and he more than helped, he caused.

  • Maguita NYC

    The saddest thing I have encountered during my years of office work, are the women who had been through thick and thin for years supporting husbands, fighting to keep the family together, and ending up being dumped for a newer model, or one without baggage, i.e. children.

    And what do you hear often the man saying as a way of explaining the separation?

    "I was miserable for years on end, and I needed to make myself happy."

    It is unfair. How do you think SHE's been feeling all these years? What do you think those poor women were going through while their men were apparently alone and miserable? Not to belittle someone's unhappiness, but misery is often shared in a marriage. It is just a matter of perception.

    But women have been taught very young to hold on to their promises tightly and over-perform. Whether in marriage, career, paying bills, paying off loans, women have learned they are judged more harshly and would do better in keeping their end of the deal.

    While sadly somehow in the past few decades we raised the man-child. That "man" being encouraged to deflect responsibility and put the blame of his breaking promises on the evils of women. How many do you see escaping responsibility in child support? You even see this behavior reflected in new laws, whether it is about abortion or equal rights: If you are a man, you have an easy way out, while the blame and sole responsibility lie on the woman's shoulders.

  • Naye

    I can't go there Maguita NYC, it's gonna make my face turn purple. From joblessness, to fidelity, to child rearing, men may not think so, may not see it, but I see it time and time again, grown men being coddled. Passes made for the sake of the male pride. I know more successful women than I do men, more woman running a home than I do men, more women just making life work by any means necessary, and sadly a lot of these women are carrying the dead weight of a man along behind them. I did it for years. And got nothing but tyranny, disrespect, and unappreciation in return. And he didn't even cheat on me. The mother tends to come out in me in relationships. I had to kill her for my own sake. Now men think I'm a ballbuster smh. Can't win.

  • Maguita NYC

    I am so sorry for your past boy-troubles Naye! And understand it truly. With years of experience you tend to have less tolerance for bullshit, theirs and yours as well, and thus be labelled a ballbuster.

    Even in situations of break-ups, no matter the responsible party, or parties, the woman always ends up being vilified and taking the full blame of the failed relationship.

    It is unfortunately so, with men being coddled by other men as well as women.

  • Best example I can think of is the Meg Ryan-Russell Crowe-Randy Quaid triangle. Crowe clearly suffered no backlash, even though he was the third wheel. Quaid didn't either, even though his career was in decline. Ryan? Hasn't been seen in a decade.

  • Vida

    IDK Alicia Keys didnt get any backlash and she actually attended the baby shower of the woman whose man she got with. Neither did Giselle Bunchen, Romo had a pregnant baby mama at the time. I'm not too sure JLO got that much hate for going public with Marc Anthony months after his divorce and Dayanara Torres, Marc's ex actually went on Christina's talk show saying Marc wouldnt cheat on her with Jlo because Jlo was her friend and wouldnt do that to her. And no one called Britney a homewrecker when Federline was still with his baby mama. I really think it just depends on how good your publicist is and how discreet the cheater- and so called homewrecker are.

  • Tecuya

    Randy? Please. Dennis. If she was with Randy the move to Crowe would have been applauded.

  • I knew it was a Quaid. But yes, Dennis Quaid.

    Look, it's Christmas, when thoughts turn to that greatest of Xmas movies, Christmas Vacation, starring...Randy Quaid.

    /that's my story and I'm sticking to it.

  • Twillahiss

    The squirrel in the house is the funniest scene EVER.

  • Aaron Schulz

    tossing a huge bag of dog food on lightbulbs kills me everytime, its such a simple little sight gag and i love it

  • kirivinokur

    Well, all that face-tinkering probably didn't help.

  • kirivinokur

    Is this really the rule? I think a lot of the blame revolves around who’s more famous or more interesting. If you think of the cases of Hugh Grant, Bill Clinton, Ryan Philippe, Jude Law, the guy deservedly gets all the blame with only some focus on the other half of the cheating pair. Monica Lewinsky got a lot of press, as did Abbie Cornish, but I think Clinton and Philippe still got the blame. I think the Branagh-Thompson-HBC is unique in that Thompson and HBC had recently played sisters in Howards End and, I’d imagine, were friends. That’s an interesting angle.

    The Pitt thing, he’s just Teflon. I can’t explain that.

  • Vida

    It actually seems like Aniston gets all the hate in that past triangle and not the one who would be considered the "home wrecker" or the cheating spouse. Maybe because Jolie-pitts seem to have a good publicist that shells out the good publicity stories. Not to be cynical but thats just what it seems like to me. Angelina gets a lot of praise in the press and I remember reading ages ago that she's a control freak when it comes to the press that can attend her events, sort of snubbing the ones that dont give her good publicity. Anyone remember the snub Seacrest got from her once on the red carpet?

  • IngridToday

    He also later on said he was unhappy with Ainston and since Ainston's be in and out of relationships, it's seen more as something is wrong with Ainston.

  • Vida

    Someone once pointed out Pitt becomes whoever he's with. When he was with gwyneth Paltrow he was just like her, when he was with Aniston he was like her and now that he's with Angelina he's just like her. so if he gets with someone after angelina i'm pretty sure there will be an *eye rolling deep interview about his level of unhappiness with her. I feel like he always brings up Aniston to stir up controversy and get publicity.

  • axis2clusterB

    Agreed with the Teflon comment.

  • Miss Laaw-yuhr

    I think the Pitt thing is mostly that people are mentally high fiving him and saying "Well yeah, it's Angelina Jolie so of course."

  • Vida

    I dont think so. Most ppl seem to think he lost his balls with Angelina and she's crazy.

  • Bedewcrock

    I'm curious to see if that will happen with the alleged infidelity on Tim Burton's part with the mystery blonde from a couple of weeks ago. Maybe if the blonde was more of a celebrity, the tabloids would have Bonham Carter and her pitted against one another?

  • I'd forgotten about that. Male infidelity stories tend to die on the one, don't they?

  • stella

    Thats because boys will be boys, right? *rolls eyes*

  • evita

    oh come on, Burton was not cheating on HBC... Burton would have left her if he didn't love her, but he does

  • Naye

    Is this sarcasm?

  • evita

    nope, I truly think he would have left her if there were someone else. he did broke up with the blone model on the phone before getting together with Helena

  • Naye

    One never knows how a person will evolve with age. Didn't he leave his first wife for another woman?

  • evita

    not sure. but if it's how you say in your first sentence, then it's irrelevant. i still have doubt about those photos (Burton and the blonde) bc they are way too grainy when on other occasions you can see cellulite on paparazzi pics. maybe tampered with so they sell better? otherwise why not using the sharp ones?

  • Naye

    Eh, I don't know the every detail, I was just arguing the point that, a man who has a habit of leaving one woman for another repeatedly, isn't really so defensible when it comes to cheating. He see what he wants, and goes for it. It's thin line from a wandering eye to cheating, so I think it's possible he could cheat and just keep it secret at this point instead of upending his family all over again. I just thought it was pretty speculative to say definitively that he would not cheat on her because he would just leave her. I just don't want to give him quite that much benefit of the doubt after his history.

  • ZbornakSyndrome

    Maybe HBC didn't "steal him", but she certainly has a thing for attached men.

    And I agree about the stolen thing. Burton wasn't a gem in a glass case, he was a person who should be responsible for his actions.

  • Jezzer

    This happens every single damn time, and I want to scream whenever somebody in the comments starts harping on about people like Helena, Claire Danes, or Kristen Stewart being "homewreckers." Those homes were wrecked before they ever got there.

  • lowercase_ryan

    it is your destiny to defend K Stew. I'm glad to see you have stopped fighting it.

  • You've been waiting so, so patiently, lowercase_ryan. Well played.

  • alwaysanswerb

    Those homes were wrecked before they ever got there.

    Exactly. Do these people believe that if HBC, Danes, Stewart, et. al. had said "no," then those men would have thrown their hands up and called it a day with infidelity?

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