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100 Books in One Year: Such a Pretty Fat: One Narcissist’s Quest To Discover if Her Life Makes Her Ass Look Big, Or Why Pie is Not The Answer by Jen Lancaster

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Book Reviews | January 13, 2009 | Comments (50)


Jen Lancaster has been through some trying and often scary times. From losing her job and her home to dodging bill collectors and begging for temp positions after being a VP she has done it all. But nothing and I mean nothing is as scary to a woman as stepping on a scale, looking at the numbers on it, and finally making a firm commitment to lose weight. And that is exactly what Jen did in her third book, Such a Pretty Fat.

Jen is what I would call delusionally confident. When she looks in the mirror all she sees is great hair, a beautiful smile, perfect skin. It never occurs to her that her hair is attached to a bowling-ball sized head, or that her perfect skin is stretched to max capacity. Even after she splits a pair of pants while bending over and knocks a strangers wine glass off a table at a resturaunt with her ass, she still labors under the fantasy that she still looks the way she did back in her VP or even sorority days. And not until she has to go on a book tour and has a panic attack about not fitting into an airplane seat does she decided that changes need to be made.

This is normally when I would put the book down and move onto something else. Weight loss is an issue near and dear to me, but reading about other people’s weight loss is about as appealing as giving up chocolate cake for carrot sticks. I hate all the motivational inspirational rah rah bullshit that inevitibly accompanies everyone’s weight loss story. As anyone who has ever tried to lose a signifigant amount of weight can attest to: Weight Loss is a Bitch.

But Jen takes a realistic approach to her weight loss. She realizes that crazy surgeries are not her thing, but neither is self-control. She opts for Jenny Craig because they tell you what to eat and when to eat and take all of the guess work out of it. Things move along well enough at first and then the proverbial wall is hit. She wants to learn to eat like a human, not live out of boxes. And through a series of unfortunate events moves from JC to Weight Watchers. We’ll just say that her opinion of WW is that it is one step up from a cult and leave it at that.

She also starts working out, telling her gym owner that she wants the meanest surliest personal trainer they have to work with her. And when she gets a voicemail from her new trainer Barbie to confirm her first session with her she almost has a stroke.

Jen Lancaster is nothing if not brutally honest. And she approached telling this story with an honesty that I appreciated. She tells you all of the nasty little secrets about her weight loss. Her cheating on her diet and looking for any excuse to not go to the gym. She talks about her inability to climb a flight of stairs without getting winded. And how it doesn’t matter what she wears it is always too small and never fits right.

It was refreshing to hear someone say what plays through my head on most days, which is: You don’t need to be a genius to lose weight. You just have to use some common sense. You know that salads and grilled chicken are better for you then stuffed shells and au gratin potatoes. But the stuffed shells taste way better. You know what you should eat and not eat and that sitting and watching sports on TV is not the equivalent of actually participating in them. But Goddamn, if you want to sit and watch TV instead of going to the gym and you opt for cookies instead of cucumber slices it is OK. You aren’t a failure, you are a human.

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Comments

The subject has always been interesting to me, so I enjoyed your review.

I'm curious about something, so I'd be glad if somebody would answer my question. I am aware that junk food tastes better (or it feels better) than vegetables and fruit, but is it also cheaper? Also, are fruit and vegetables less tasty in the States in comparison to other countries? Could price and quality be a factor in the obesity rates?

Posted by: Sofía at January 13, 2009 8:21 AM

Is this any easier to read than her first book, "Bitter is the New Black"? I read the first couple pages of that one out of curiousity and after I couldn't take anymore I resigned myself to wishing she'd meet the business end of a fucking anvil.

Posted by: Mike R. at January 13, 2009 8:33 AM

Sofia, junk food is generally cheaper, more available and more convienent than vegetables and fruit, particularly organic fruits and veggies. As for tastiness, local fruits/vegetables are good, but a lot of the stuff we get is designed more to withstand travel than taste good. I'd really recommend the book Banana which is a great story about the history of Central America, Asia, etc., and impact bananas have had.

Posted by: MrCreosote at January 13, 2009 8:56 AM

Sofia I don't know if it is still the case but when I lived in the States a few years ago it was definitely cheaper to eat rubbish than fresh food.

I am trying to do this now. It sucks ass.

Posted by: catag at January 13, 2009 8:57 AM

I don't think junk food is cheaper Sofia. Pears thend to cost approximately $1.00CDN/lb whereas potato chips (my favorite) cost about $3.00CDN/lb.

As far as the taste of fruits and vegetables, I think that the taste has been diminished. I believe growers (at least those who supply major retail chains) have cross-bred their plants to produce more profitable traits such as production volume and the ability to withstand drought/changes in weather, sometimes at the sacrifice of taste.

I suppose it's just one more reason to go to the farmers market down the road.

Posted by: admin at January 13, 2009 8:58 AM

I am aware that junk food tastes better (or it feels better) than vegetables and fruit, but is it also cheaper? Also, are fruit and vegetables less tasty in the States in comparison to other countries? Could price and quality be a factor in the obesity rates?

Well, Sofia sometimes different fruits or veggies suck or are more expensive than junk food. A lot of that has to do with the fact that in most places in the United States are no where close to any of the produce so it has to travel a long distance and it has to be preserved for travel or else it reeeally sucks. Of course all the travel causes an increase in price and such.

And unfortunately, many Americans prefer the cheap(er) fruits in a grocery store over the slightly more expensive locally grown produce that is generally more beneficially to everybody because they don't want the hassle of going to a farmers' market, or, like many people, don't have the luxury of one.

Plus, a lot of Americans like to use the convenience/time factor when they try to excuse their junk food habits. Excuses like "I don't have time" are the most prevalent.

Also, many of us just love our fattening shit. I'm just weird because I happen to love the good for you foods, too.

Posted by: Kayanne at January 13, 2009 8:58 AM

I also enjoy both, Kayanne. It's all about knowing when to stop. I spent the first half of 2008 having McDonald's for lunch at least once a week, but I started gaining weight so I switched to salads and water and only drink sodas on the weekend.

A friend of mine who lives in Michigan always mentions seeing Chilean fruit at the supermarket. The taste has to change after travelling across a continent. I can't imagine it smelling or tasting the same as it does here.

Posted by: Sofía at January 13, 2009 9:08 AM

Sofia-

As a mom trying to include as much fruit, veggies and other fresh food in my family's diet, here's what I've discovered:

1. You have to plan. Fresh food is often more expensive simply because we buy the stuff, but then it sits in the fridge until it goes bad - and it can go bad fast. Planning out your meals for the week allows you to buy what you need fresh and use it before it turns a horrible color.

2. Don't go to Whole Foods - or other high-end health stores. Your best bet, especially for produce, are Asian food markets - really! I live in the DC area and there are a bunch of them scattered around. The price of most produce is, I am not kidding, 30-70% cheaper than Whole Foods. Although not all of it is organic, the quality is pretty damn good (many local high-end restaurant chefs shop there).

Still, I am a sucker for a Big Mac. I just try to limit it to once in a while.

Posted by: Kariari at January 13, 2009 9:36 AM

I guess what I've been doing the last few years is the opposite of what she's been doing: just wanting to get off the self-doubt, self-criticism merry go round and live my fucking life. Stop worrying about it so much.

Ironically, it led to weight loss. Huh. Whatdaya know? So nowdays, I'm all Queen Latifah about it. I'm glorious, I'm gorgeous, I could stand to lose about 30 pounds, who cares?

Great review.

Posted by: Anastasia Beaverhausen at January 13, 2009 9:40 AM

To get a meal together, yeah, it's definitely cheaper to get fast food or fatty, preservativey stuff than assembling better food piece by piece. Convenience is part of it too, sure, but you can definitely get a higher volume of unfriendlier stuff for the same money in many cases.

Posted by: Jay at January 13, 2009 9:45 AM

When I moved to Florida from Michigan a couple years ago, I was SHOCKED by the relative produce section shittiness. I grew up with large barrels of fresh, local apples and 6-10 varieties of lettuce available all the time at the local, normal person grocery store, plus a huge (1 city block) long farmer's market every Wednesday and Saturday. You knew what varieties of blueberries, strawberries, and corn were your favorite.


Down here the most prevalent vegetables are bagged romaine lettuce and under-ripened avocados. No, the oranges are NOT better here. When I go to the tiny farmer's market (although the city has 3x the population of my hometown and my college town) and I asked the one guy selling corn (in season!) what variety he had, he stared at me blankly and said "yellow?". Pathetic. /rant


So yes, eating fresh can be a bitch depending on where you live.

Posted by: epimethea at January 13, 2009 9:51 AM

My way of dealing with unhappy weight gain was to FIRST start buying Lean Cuisines, hitting the treadmill, and going to a trainer at the gym. HATED IT. Lost very little weight, and was miserable.

Then I just started eating a pretty healthy but not totally perfect diet, and signed up for a 5k running group (hated the running at first, but loved the group so it kept me running until I woke up one day and kind of liked it-- probably because I built up a decent endurance and lost enough weight to not feel like I was dying every 5 steps).

Then I signed up for a really great outdoor bootcamp thing. It was fun, and it was better than going to the gym, so I canceled my gym membership and just kept up with the class.

Then I discovered roller derby. Y'all, roller derby is AWESOME. It's also a LOT of cardio. That's FUN. And you get to HIT PEOPLE. On SKATES.

End result: I do a lot of physical activities that I genuinely enjoy, I eat lots of food that's tasty and mostly healthy, and I can wear a bathing suit without crying.

Posted by: PaleoLithchick at January 13, 2009 9:55 AM

Great review, and great timing too, I just put a hold request on this book at my library a couple weeks ago. I'm really looking forward to reading it, though I'm a bit sad to hear about her Weight Watchers write-off; as someone who's lose 131 pounds through WW, I've got nothing but praise for the program.

Posted by: MB at January 13, 2009 10:06 AM

Your best bet, especially for produce, are Asian food markets

Indeed. The Super H Mart here's amazing, along with the international Dekalb Farmers Market. Bubba don't necessarily like Atlanta Internationale, but hey, the global village is a bitch and then you die.

Posted by: Jay at January 13, 2009 10:08 AM

We moved to lower Delaware almost three years ago and discovered a great variety of locally grown products. There are several orchards and farm stands within 10 miles, and a great little butcher shop. I never thought that plain roast chicken could taste great, but when it doesn't come off of a styrofoam plate, you can taste the difference. Mr. Lower waxes poetic about the steaks that come off his grill. Unbelievabably, the meat and eggs costs less than regular price at the super Walmart. I only shop there for staples now. I spent from September of 07 through last spring losing about 50 pounds. After 4 kids and being on the north side of 40, this was no picnic. You just have to find what works for you. I'm a numbers person, so I needed logic and a spreadsheet. I weighed everything, and, if it went in my mouth, it went on the list (insert fellatio joke here). I'm fortunate that I'm at home for lunch, so that was not a big problem. When I was working, that was the hardest. Yogurt got old for me really fast. The major upside, besides the weight loss, is that my kids eat less processed foods now. I make bread twice a week and limit fast food as much as possible. Third upside: my car no longer smells like french fries.

Posted by: slower lower at January 13, 2009 10:10 AM

Jay, Your Dekalb Farmer's Market is the fucking bomb. Despite being from all over the world, everything tastes fresh and they have all kinds of weird stuff. And bulk spices!

You normally dirty bastards are forgetting the best weight loss plan of all: sex. I work out and eat right so as not to disgust myself (I've been FAT before), but if I ever hit a wall, a couple sessions of athletic fucking always do the trick. Just don't swallow too often.

Posted by: courtney 2 at January 13, 2009 10:18 AM

Thirding the love for the Asian markets. I buy all my fresh veggies and meats there, and typically spend about $25-30 a week for two people, who don't eat out (except for my daughter's school lunch). The bad part is we buy some snacks there, too. My kid likes her Pocky and Baby Star snacks, and I love the frozen cinnamon-raisin tamales. But just Sunday I bought a quart of strawberries for $1.49. That's less than the grocery store charges during *summer*. Not crazy about DeKalb Farmer's Market because they tend to charge boutique prices.

I still go to the regular grocery store to buy everything else, but my overall buying is better quality and cheaper now.

Posted by: Wednesday at January 13, 2009 10:18 AM

I cannot lavish enough praise on Barbara Kingsolver's Animal Vegetable Miracle as a great read on why local food is better than what normally passes as 'fresh' in most supermarkets. I read it last summer and made the conscious effort to buy local and organic. Go Greenling!

I'd never heard about the Asian market being cheaper - thanks for the heads up.

Posted by: Stella at January 13, 2009 10:29 AM

Some of us are....single, local courtney!

*runs away crying*

Posted by: Jay at January 13, 2009 10:42 AM

Okay, a pound of pears (which typically go for 1.99 a pound all year here in North Carolina) may be cheaper than a pound of chips, but you get a LOT of chips in a pound, and only one pear.

Dur.

Posted by: AM at January 13, 2009 10:49 AM

I've also read this book and I thought it was great. The review is spot on. She's very realistic about her weight loss and about finding the right strategy for her. As someone who's done it all, including Jenny Craig and WW, it was refreshing to read my own thoughts on the page. And she's fucking hilarious. I would probably want to smack her in person, but in writing I laughed my ass off.

Posted by: clarkie at January 13, 2009 10:51 AM

Sofia,
My comment of weight issues being near and dear to my heart in the review is totally true. I have to watch my weight religiously if I don't want things to get out of control. And personally I have found that fresh fruits and veggies are a bit more expensive then prepackaged not-good-for you crap. I have the luxury of a farmers market a block away from me and it is all well and good to shop there. If you like only being able to shop Friday, Saturday and Sunday. It is way more convenient to buy a pack of cookies (from a store open 24 hrs/day 7 days/week) and munch on them in the car (where a ton of my time is spent) than buying 8 different fruits to take home, cut up, throw in a bowl and label as fruit salad before eating it. And yeah, the convenience excuse is nothing more than that, an excuse. But it is what it is. To really be able to eat healthy you need to make good decisions and enjoy everything, good and bad, in moderation. I think the moderation aspect of things is far harder to live with then the actual eating of salads instead of burgers.

Posted by: beegeek at January 13, 2009 10:52 AM

Some of us are....single, local courtney!

Jeebus Christ Jay, that just makes it easier. Single, drunken athletic fucking burns even more calories than sober athletic fucking as long as you consume low calorie drinks. Plus, if you do it right, there is absolutely no guilt or fear of judgement. You'll never see them again.

Posted by: admin at January 13, 2009 10:53 AM

You can do it Jay! Wait, does that "hot librarian" thing work for men the same way it does for us ladies? What? Oh, sorry, I guess for guys it just equals "nerd".

Posted by: courtney 2, aka local courtney at January 13, 2009 11:02 AM

The trouble is that junk food is just plain easier and quicker than the good-for-you stuff. And often tastier. It's cynically designed that way for reasons of profit, and there's additives in there that keep you coming back for more. Or so I'm told.

I suspect it's a bit cheaper to eat junk than to eat healthy - though if you add in the cost of unused gym membership, probably not so much....

I've done WW twice, it worked both times. But the discipline needed to maintain weight loss, meh, I don't haz it. So I try to eat healthily, minimise the junk food, take the stairs, and do at least 30 minutes walking a day. I'm still fat though. The trouble is I've run into the middle-age wall. The weight has now caused problems which ironically make exercise harder and more painful - back trouble, joint trouble, requirement for oxygen after 5 minutes on a cross-trainer... that kind of thing. Yes, I know, excuses, excuses! But since it hurts that much, how am I supposed to motivate myself to do it regardless?

Posted by: Tarn at January 13, 2009 11:06 AM

I'm glorious, I'm gorgeous, I could stand to lose about 30 pounds, who cares?

I *heart* you, originalAB.

Posted by: Anna von Beaverplatz at January 13, 2009 11:18 AM

Ugh. Weight loss sucks. My mom has fought her body her whole life, and she's never really made any headway, despite being a great healthy cook. Meanwhile, I am a size that in most professions would be shapely and normal, but since I'm an actor, I am 20 pounds overweight at 135 pounds (yep, I have had directors/instructors tell me this to my face, in auditions. Thanks!). I have only recently found the determination to hit the gym religiously (I'm approaching 30 and my career and health depend on it), but I still can't diet for shit. Mama loves good food.

Marilyn Monroe was a size 16, ya'll. America's idea of beauty has shrunk, while her waistline has ballooned. It's all kinds of wrong.

Posted by: Tammy at January 13, 2009 11:56 AM

It's all about the workout. It's good to taylor your food intake to your calorie burn rate, but if you try to do it all with food I'm convinced you're eventually doomed to failure. Get in the gym a couple times a week, you start to build some muscle, the muscle burns fat even when you're not working out, you feel better, you look better, it feeds itself. You just have to tell yourself during the first few weeks when the results aren't obvious that you aren't the one person in the world for whom working out doesn't have an effect.

Posted by: Eep at January 13, 2009 11:57 AM

It's all about the CSA's, people. Join one and it will change your life. Plus, it's definitely cheaper than buying veggies at the grocery store.

As far as junk food being cheaper, I've got to disagree. My homemade lunches never cost more than a few bucks - meanwhile, a combo meal at a fast food place easily goes above $5 (with drinks). If you make your lunches for a week and pocket the money you would normal spend on prepared food - you'll see.

Also, if you stop cooking out of boxes, you always end up eating better. Even something like Mac n Cheese. Strictly homemade everything (even the noodle - it's not that hard people, really), you end up with a real meal with real ingredients. Plus making a rue is fun.

Posted by: Estelle at January 13, 2009 11:59 AM

You can do it Jay! Wait, does that "hot librarian" thing work for men the same way it does for us ladies?

GODDAMMIT, I already told you all that it doesn't!

And what if you're a slow, romantic sensualist, admin? I just have to ride my goddamn stationary bike instead, huh?

*cries harder*

Posted by: Jay at January 13, 2009 12:02 PM

Jay, I only make you cry to feel better about myself.

Posted by: courtney 2, aka local courtney at January 13, 2009 12:46 PM

Fuck you, Title of this Book.

Pie is ALWAYS the answer.

Posted by: figgy at January 13, 2009 12:54 PM

You know Jay, with some modifications to that bike....

Posted by: admin at January 13, 2009 1:01 PM

But Jay, I think you're a hot librarian! Also, Sarina would agree with this book only because of its titular stance on pie.

What do you do when you have a broken back and you can't exercise? The only cardio I'm capable of is swimming, and I don't see no pool around here. I need someone to write a book about that.

Posted by: Nicole at January 13, 2009 1:14 PM

Hey Tammy, that "Marilyn Monroe was a size 16" is kinda an urban legend. Read about it on snopes, but basically, vanity sizing has run rampant and what we call a size 16 today was about a size 20 or 22 during Monroe's time. In our day, at her heaviest, Marilyn would've been in a size 12.

Not saying it's bad to be a size 12, or 16, or 22- just setting the record straight on Marilyn.

And MB- Jen Lancaster actually endorses Weight Watchers as a program in her book. She just doesn't like the meetings. She likes the POINTS system (me too!).

Posted by: Sheri at January 13, 2009 2:05 PM

"Marilyn would've been in a size 12. "

This doesn't really change my point, as most Hollywood girls these days are chastised for fitting into anything bigger than a size 4. Sadly, the pressure to be tiny to be taken seriously is just as bad in the regional Equity theater scene as it is in Hollywood. An actress I know in Cincinnati, who is a total powerhouse onstage, didn't start getting the real juicy roles that she was so right for until she dropped about 40 pounds. Even character, non-ingenue, roles! It's madness, and wrong, that delicious curves are something to be ashamed of when you are seeking a career in acting.

Posted by: Tammy at January 13, 2009 2:12 PM

I think you also have to eat at the right time. No snacking. It's tough, but it works.

Also, fruit and vegetables are very available here. If you're stuck in traffic there's a big chance somebody will come up to you and sell you some. People sell fruit cups on the sidewalk, or natural juices (fruit juices, not human - Those are for free) and it makes a lot of sense to have only fruit and vegetables in the summer.

Hmm, I guess I really have been spoiled after all.

Oooh, one more important question: is avocado expensive? 'Cause my sister lived in Austin for a while and said she had to think twice before buying a few because of the price. Seriously, avocado is expensive????

Posted by: Sofía at January 13, 2009 2:13 PM

To be honest I like a woman with some weight on her, skinny women with their ribs sticking out is such a turn off. Listen ladies, being able to see your clavicle isn't sexy at all.

Posted by: Pookie at January 13, 2009 2:32 PM

Avocados in the Midwestern US are expensive but well worth it, about two dollars a piece.

Avocados are packed with fat, when I read the fat content I almost passed out. I had been eating a whole one for breakfast at least twice a week, and I had lost 50 pounds last summer. Oddly, I stopped eating them and stopped losing weight!

Something about those delicous things, it's like they're good for you, they fill you up and satiate cravings for uglier, sugary fats.

Mmmmmmm, avocado. I deem you my personal Ennis DelMar.

Posted by: Stacy D at January 13, 2009 2:34 PM

Estelle,

What are CSA's?

Posted by: rlr260 at January 13, 2009 2:50 PM

TWO. DOLLARS???? We get three big ones for that price over here. A single avocado is about 60 cents at the market.

I'm not good with knowing what's in food or what they do, but maybe avocados absorb fat, like steamed potatos? Am I making any sense here?

Posted by: Sofía at January 13, 2009 3:16 PM

I never thought I'd say this, so the Apocalypse may be nigh, but Amen, Pookie.

Posted by: Nicole at January 13, 2009 3:33 PM

Eep, I completely agree with you. I am on month 7 of a fitness plan. I started by hiring a trainer, who after 5 months told me if I wanted to lose more weight, I would have to start jogging. I have always been petrified of jogging, but since I was paying her, I decided to take her advice. Since then I can't stop thinking about how much fun it is, I go 5-6 days a week and I'm feeling great. I'm still above a healthy BMI, but it's getting better all the time.

Diet alone cannot fix the problems. All you're doing is shrinking the fat cells. If you don't replace fat with muscle, the fat will come back.

Posted by: PseudoDiva at January 13, 2009 4:21 PM

I had been eating a whole one for breakfast at least twice a week, and I had lost 50 pounds last summer. Oddly, I stopped eating them and stopped losing weight!

Stacy D avocados have good fats. The body needs a healthy amount of fat intake; so avocado fat is better for you than say... deep-fried twinkie fat.

Pooks & Nicole y'all are so right. I'd like to submit to the jury Exhibit A: Christina Hendricks. I rest my case.

Posted by: Kayanne at January 13, 2009 4:24 PM

Pookie - no kidding. I get mass flack for being a general 95 pounder my whole life (I was not allowed to talk about it with my friends, and now they're not my friends anymore - that sucked) but before anyone snipes that I'm writing to be a smug bitch - trust that a cleavage area that resembles a xylophone isn't what you'd call hot, and neither is having a convex ass.

Thin is no automatic beauty enhancer - so keep on keeping on with anything that improves your general health - the walking and cardio may not give the most dramatic changes, but I gaurantee that you'll look way better than I have for most of my scrawny-ass days. When I was pregnant with my first kid I gained 60 pounds (more than half my body weight at the time) and I f'in LOVED it. I was all 'rollin rollin rollin' down the street and finally felt substantial and proud of my physical presence. It took about a year to melt off with all the nursing and I just felt bad about all the new mommy friends who went absolutely hysterical over it all...

It is often a place thing too - I live in Vancouver which makes it easier to make healthy choices, seeing as it's kind of a major scene here. My tater-tot loving Aunt will NOT move here no matter how much of a better life she could make for herself because she's insecure about the lifestyle - hardly anyone smokes or is obese (in general). If you can, find a zone that suits you, and make your contacts in it.

Posted by: replica at January 13, 2009 6:49 PM

PseudoDiva-
Awesome! I wish I could still run (never thought I would say that), but my left knee just isn't ready for it yet. Hopefully with a little more rehab... And yeah, a personal trainer can be a great thing. For me it was a friend who knew what he was doing and dragged me to the gym on the days when I felt like quitting. Once I got over the hump, though, it was smooth sailing. And you don't have to be some freakish rah-rah health nut or roid head either. I'm no Adonis, and I don't hit the gym every day, but I definitely know that as long as I get in the gym on a steady basis I'm going to feel really good and be able to indulge myself without feeling like I'll be dragging around another extra pound for the rest of my life.

Posted by: Eep at January 13, 2009 7:16 PM

A slow, romantic sensualist and a librarian? Oh Jay, I swoon....

Oh my, the weight issue...yeah, I've never been particularly thin. I used to wish I was teeny and delicate like the other gals in my office. A couple of years back, I started going to the gym for the first time in my life, and after a few months found myself discouraged that I wasn't losing much weight. But when a (male) coworker and I had to lug 5-gallon pails of water half a kilometre out of the woods for a job, and I found that I was having a *much* easier time of it than he was, I gained a whole new appreciation for my not-so-delicate little self, dammit!

Posted by: meaux at January 13, 2009 9:28 PM

Local food is hard to buy on a budget, but the absolute best solution, of COURSE is to grow it yourself, provided you live somewhere where you can do that. I live in a house right now with a chicken coop so that's free eggs from chickens you know are happy.

CSAs, rlr260, are great co-ops where people pay a farmer at the beginning of a growing season and for that season (usually around 22 weeks) they get a box of produce every week that they pick up from the farm or a location in the city. Around here (central NC) a season costs around $500. I'm not sure how good of a price that is but for restaurant-quality veggies and herbs with so much variety it seems like a good deal to me. Also, some farms will give you a big discount if you do volunteer work on the farm. Community Supported Agriculture FTW

Posted by: Meredith at January 14, 2009 3:31 AM

"It took about a year to melt off with all the nursing and I just felt bad about all the new mommy friends who went absolutely hysterical over it all..."

I couldn't believe the insane amounts of pressure my friends put themselves under to lose the baby weight. There are some serious misperceptions out there about how long this shit takes for the vast majority of us. About six weeks after my daughter was born, one of my more sensitive aunts asked if I was back in my old clothes. I just started laughing and said "Nope. Not even close." As if a new mother needs to hear that!

Now that I'm trying to have another child without success, I'd do anything to be worrying about the weight gain rather than worry about whether it's going to happen at all. Have some perspective, ladies - baby weight is, at root, a good thing!

Posted by: samantha t at January 14, 2009 7:21 AM

that's right Samantha t - you're SUPPOSED to be soft and roundy when you're a mommy!

Also - best of luck getting pregnant again...if all else fails, check out a chinese herbalist and see if he/she doesn't think you may have an infection or fungal/virus thing. I know, it sounds weird but two of my friends were able to get pregnant after all the expensive medical scenes because they had these minor viral imbalances that they cured with a few herbal supplements. I recommend trying that route as a last, outside possibility. Other than that, sometimes these things just happen once you shrug and move on. I'll cross my fingers for you.
:)

Posted by: replica at January 14, 2009 12:36 PM