Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns) by Mindy Kaling

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Cannonball Read IV: Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns) by Mindy Kaling

By pyrajane | Book Reviews | July 17, 2012 | Comments ()


Mindy Kaling is a badass. She's never fit neatly into any category, so she made her own. Her childhood stories are laugh out loud hilarious and she has that great storytelling gift where she captures the moment the way she saw it as a child with the understanding she now has an adult.

I love how she never seemed to realize that she wouldn't be able to do what she wanted. It seems like it never occurred to her to be nervous or unsure. If she didn't get a part or didn't find anything she liked, she'd write something for herself. This becomes painful when she and her writing partner sell a sitcom, have to audition for their own parts, and then don't get them. But she shrugs it off and moves on to the next awesome thing.

I really liked the parts where she talks about The Office, especially how everyone assumes she's just like Kelly Kapoor. No one asks her co-workers what she's really like because obviously she writes down what she thinks and says in real life and then gets in front of the camera and starts talking. She presents a neat list of how she differs from Kelly, nothing that she would never fake a pregnancy to save a relationship.

She does write about how frustrating it can be when you don't fit into the Hollywood box. People Magazine names her one of their Most Beautiful People, then doesn't bring any clothes that will fit her when she shows up for her photo shoot. After a quick and angry cry in the bathroom, she walks back in, points to a dress and calmly explains that they will have to take it apart to make it fit her. And they do. Total badass. And check out the dress. They were going to stick her into some navy blue, shapeless thing. Kelly Kapoor never would have forgiven her.

She is crazy talented and is perfect to write, direct and act on The Office. I'm glad she continues to assume anyone who doesn't think she's amazing must not understand what amazing means. Her book is great, her work is great and she is awesome.

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  • kirbyjay

    Tina Fey, Rachel Dratch, Mindy Kaling, Nora Ephron....the girls really know how to make you laugh without dick and fart jokes, though they can and will do that. Read them all, loved them all.

  • Addicct

    SO going to read this, thanks!

  • sarah_jwh

    The book is great, but the audio book is fantastic. I loved hearing her tell the stories.

  • pyrajane

    Whenever I can, I get memoir on audio. I couldn't find this one at the library though so I went for the hard copy.

    On a slightly related note, if you're interested in Alan Alda, get his memoirs on audio. You're going to read it in his voice anyway, so why not have him read it to you?

  • erich

    I like Mindy on The Office.
    I LOVE Mindy on The Late Late Show. She's one of those people who truly understands the freedom Craig's show gives, and she truly shines when she is allowed to be herself.
    I haven't had the chance to read her book yet, but I cannot wait to do so.

  • Jenne Frisby

    I'm glad you reviewed this, because I loved it so much. It's (by far) my favorite celebrity memoir. She's got a great sense of humor, and seems pretty honest about life in general. Your review made me want to read it again!

  • Captain_Tuttle

    Great review, thanks. Yet another book to add to the list. I really need to quit my job. Not just for the reading, but that would be a nice perk.

    I'm with Slash. I hope her show is good.

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    *revises five freebies list*

  • Slash

    I am kinda looking forward to her TV show, I hope it doesn't suck. The promos make it look pretty good, but I've been fooled by promos before.

  • Maguita NYC

    Love Mindy, absolute bad-ass breaking boundaries on the irrelevant perception that Indian women are shy, quiet and submissive!

    BTW, great review: How you were able to keep it short, concise, and straight to the point without giving away too much, and still wet one's appetite on finding out more about the subject's hilarious stories.
    Learning here on how to give book reviews for next year's CBR. Admire how you did it pyrajane!

  • Totally agree! This book is moving to the top of my list... as soon as I finish the Harry Potter series again. ::dork!::

  • pyrajane


    Some of my reviews are looooooooooong. Trying to describe why you like a book without describing tons of plot can be a challenge.

    Memoir seems to be a bit easier because it feels like you're describing a friend to another friend. "Read this book! This girl is crazy! We would totally hang out with her."

  • TheOriginalMRod

    Mindy is so cute. Thanks Mindy, from brown people everywhere.

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