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Beauty Is Not in the Size of Your Hips

By Intern Rusty | Posted Under Book Reviews | Comments (48)



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When I was 13 someone told me I could be a supermodel one day. That person was a well meaning relative trying to put a positive spin on the fact that at the time I looked more than a little like a walking stick figure. However, I topped out at 5’5,” so no matter what Tyra says and no matter what my hip measurements may or may not be, I was never going to be a model.

When Crystal Renn was 14, someone told her she could be a supermodel one day. That person was a scout for a modeling agency and he explained that all she had to do was lose a bit of weight. Renn had the height, lost 42 percent of her body weight to get the shape, and went to New York City at 16 to begin her career as a straight size model. Two years later she put all the weight back on, went into plus size modeling, and became the supermodel she had been told she could become.

Renn’s story is remarkable for several reasons; the narrative in the US is that if you lose weight and maintain a socially acceptable body type, that’s a kind of success. It’s a story told to us through advertisements, television shows, movies, etc. It’s a message being sold to younger and younger children and Renn’s Hungry flies in the face of that message. Renn’s time as a straight size model is miserable and, more to the point, not successful. Returning to the size her body is built to be, a size 12 (which is currently the average size for women in the US), is when she is finally able to take control of her career and be confident in a way she never was when she was constantly dieting and exercising past the point of exhaustion to maintain a size 0-2.

Renn’s whole life is on display in this book, from infancy up to her current life as a married woman with a successful modeling career. In addition to her own story, Renn takes the time to cite facts and statistics about eating disorders in the US and gives insight into the fashion industry. She discusses her experience on shoots in both versions of her modeling career, what it was like to live in a “model apartment” paid for by her agency, and the demands made on her by various photographers, agents, and designers. Mostly, though, the story is about her and the hell she put her body through for a false ideal of beauty before realizing that she would die if she kept living the way she was, and began eating again.

I have a lot of arguments with the way the fashion industry operates. From what I understand the discussion of “who perpetuates the size 0 trend” turns into a kind of round robin where the modeling agencies say they can only hire girls that fit the sample sizes that designers make, designers saying that they have to make sample sizes that small because it’s what the photographers want, and photographers saying that they’re just casting the kind of girls that the agencies send them. I’d be less offended if everyone would just admit that they’re casting models based on who will interfere with the clothing the least, that the garment is the point and not the person wearing it, but that’s not the case; the extreme skinniness of straight size models is sold as a lifestyle, as something we’re supposed to aspire to along with the $1,000 shoes in the advertisement. Many high end designers don’t even make clothing above a size 8 because it doesn’t fit their “brand aesthetic.”

More to the point, the US has embraced this image of skin and bones perfection even as we as a nation are getting larger. Female movie stars are, by and large, held to a physical standard that has more in common with runway models than with the starlets of years past. The diet industry is a multimillion dollar behemoth that spends millions in advertising to convince us all that our lives will be that much better if we just lose those 5/10/20/50 pounds. The first bathing suits seem to hit the shelves of department and big box stores less than a month after the push to make your New Year’s resolution all about losing weight. Young women are raised to be obsessed with their own bodies and the bodies of those around them, and made to feel inferior when they don’t measure up to an artificial set of standards. It’s appalling how much time and energy bright young women waste thinking about the size of their thighs or how to flatten their tummy. And now that the advertisers have young women fretting constantly over their appearance, it seems that they’ve begun to turn their attention to men. In the past year or two I’ve seen a sharp rise in the amount of diet plan commercials and/or advertisements aimed at men.

I wish that Renn’s book was required reading for every high school freshman in the country. Her message is simple and powerful: that happiness comes from being healthy and that healthy is not always a size 2. I’m a big believer in healthy at any size, and a big believer that the US needs to step away from the scale and start focusing on changing how we look at food in order to improve our nation’s health. I also respect Renn a lot for not bashing the naturally skinny girls she worked with; she admits that there are women who fit that size naturally but that she (and many other models she worked with) isn’t one of them. She doesn’t simplify the discussion into “real women with curves” vs. slender women, and she’s right not to because it’s not an issue that can be simplified in that way. The battle to change standards of beauty needs all the help it can get, even if that help comes from women who may fit the current standards. Jenna Sauers, a former straight size model who now writes for Jezebel, is a prime example of someone who is fighting to change beauty standards that directly benefited her.

Hungry is a heartbreaking story of what one teenage girl had to go through to find true happiness at the size her body wanted to be, but I hope that Renn’s message is able to reach more young women before they put themselves through similar experiences. No one should ever hate their body that much.

This review is part of the Cannonball Read series. For more of Rusty’s reviews, check out her blog. Or, follow her on Pajiba After Dark, nightly Sunday - Thursday.









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Comments

Excellent review Rusty!

Posted by: Cindy at May 7, 2010 10:04 AM

Awesome review. I feel like I should say something else, since it's so well thought out, but right now that's all I got.

Posted by: Carrie (Teabelly) at May 7, 2010 10:09 AM

Great review and excellent commentary, Rusty. Now if I could only get the TV to stop telling me I have to be a shredded 175 lbs.

Posted by: admin at May 7, 2010 10:13 AM

Why would any girl aspire to look like a skinny teenage boy? All girls should aspire to look like Christina Hendricks. The world would be a MUCH better place.

Posted by: , at May 7, 2010 10:13 AM

That was an awesome review. I like the idea of healthy at any size. I am naturally heavier b/c I am extremely strong. I don't disparage the naturally skinny ladies out there. I will just NEVER be one of them. Besides I'll take the extra muscle if helps my athletic performance. I just watched a woman of approx. 250lbs compete in a triathlon and finish. She will never look like me, but she is running and cycling more than most of the people I know out there. And that is awesome. I love the idea of becoming healthy through food and exercise. Focusing on the scale can become a vicious cycle. I am very interested in Renn. I think I will head out and get her book.

Posted by: Nimue at May 7, 2010 10:23 AM

Great review Rusty. The moment after I read this I placed the book on hold at my library.

What I find baffling is the attraction people hold for the stick thin physique. I’m not talking about slender people, I’m talking about the jutting knees, the bony elbows, the skin that is so taut each rib is visible in great detail. How do people find this attractive? Then again, I have a huge crush on Keith Olbermann, so my idea of attractiveness is unique.

Posted by: Scully at May 7, 2010 10:30 AM

Great review, it was interesting to read. Huzzah for girls with curves. My only curiosity comes in the fact that, whenever you hear these stories it's about how the fashion industry maims/demeans/irreasonably standardizes/psychologically damages women. Am I the only one who notices that the industry treats men the exact same way? You find me a male fashion model with a gut and I'll eat my Calvin Klein underwear.

Posted by: Blank at May 7, 2010 10:32 AM

Wow. Excellent review. I am going to get this for my daughter. At 18, she is absolutely beautiful, but as a size 12 she feels she is "less" than her thinner friends. I have told her time and again that she is healthy, fit and beautiful. It might be nice for her to see that from someone who lived it.

Posted by: dammitjanet at May 7, 2010 10:34 AM

Great review, Rusty. I'd like to extend the mandatory reading aspect to casting directors/panelists, as I've been all but mooed at during far too many auditions by size-ist costume designers when trying to get work in NYC. I'm even fighting this garbage working with a new group of HS directors that don't care how well the kids sing when auditioning for a musical; if they aren't thin, they aren't getting the lead. It's not just the girls being picked on: an All State tenor lost out on a standard show lead he was perfect for because he was a little chubbier than a mediocre tenor.

So, yeah, sorry to get all ranty in your review comments. I've just seen too many kids/fellow actors go through this kind of bullshit and get sick because of it. I've even done it, and had a similar negative experience: I was too sick, miserable, and weak to do well at auditions when I ran and starved myself down to stick-figure size. It's physically and emotionally draining. When you have people asking if you have an eating disorder and at the same time your internal monologue is going "if I lose 5 more pounds I'll get that next audition," something is very wrong. I'm better now, but the memories don't go away too easily.

Posted by: Robert at May 7, 2010 10:41 AM

What I find baffling is the attraction people hold for the stick thin physique.
---
Scully,

I'm with you here. I'm old enough to remember when Kate Moss was almost universally despised for reasons other than her choice of BF. And I would think, there's one of her and hundreds of models who look more or less like Cindy Crawford and Elle Macpherson. Why would any girl choose Kate Moss as a role model?

Posted by: , at May 7, 2010 10:42 AM

What I find baffling is the attraction people hold for the stick thin physique.

See, the problem with this is that you then have people who are naturally 'stick thin' feeling bad for also not measuring up to some sort of unattainable level of beauty. When we think like this, no one wins, we all end up feeling like shit for not being someone's ideal. Like Rusty said, it's about embracing being healthy at any size, and being happy in your body.

Posted by: Carrie (Teabelly) at May 7, 2010 10:48 AM

Great review - lots of food for thought here. I do believe that people's bodies have a set point they will be at if they have a relatively normal diet and moderately active life, and that trying to deviate from that is a pretty futile struggle. It's just as unfair to claim that only "real" women have curves as it is to say that you're not healthy unless you're skinny.

Posted by: AM at May 7, 2010 10:51 AM

This sounds like a damn good book. And I'm with Admin and Blank: it's just as bad for guys. Seems that if you don't look like that werewolf fruitcake in the Twilight movies then you are doing something wrong. I consider myself in pretty good shape, but I do not want, nor have the time, to spend 3 hours a day in a gym working to attain chiseled abs.

Oddly, most girls don't REALLY seem to care about washboard stomach. Anymore then guys don't care if a girl has extra weight. And if they do they are superficial twats so fuck em. We are all just buying into a false fantasy meant to make us all feel like shit and unworthy so we buy more exercise/diet/self-help etc bullshit.

Posted by: TylerDFC at May 7, 2010 10:55 AM

I am glad to hear people addressing the idea of attaining any standard. To say women should be more like Christina Hendricks can also be destructive. Breast implants on little stick girls can be the result of saying women must have curves. And I see this happening with men too. No should strive to be anything but healthy and feeling good. Its the same idea of wearing your hair or certain clothes for others. I don't wear my hair short for you. I do it for me b/c I like it.

Posted by: Nimue at May 7, 2010 10:56 AM

Carrie,

I was talking about the super stick thin model bodies. I have many friends who are slender naturally and there is nothing wrong with that. They do look very healthy. I’m talking about the people who are so skinny, there is absolutely no way it is natural.

This">http://img.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2006/10/size0Model_285x450.jpg">This is not natural.

Posted by: Scully at May 7, 2010 10:58 AM

That completely failed; though it preview fine:

http://img.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2006/10/size0Model_285x450.jpg

Posted by: Scully at May 7, 2010 10:59 AM

Yeah...that does not look healthy. I say, possibly becoming a huge hypocrite.

Models/the modelling industry are somewhat bizarre to me, in that a lot of the time they claim models are merely supposed to be 'hangers' on which clothes are showcased, but if you're looking at the 'hanger' thinking 'Man, they do not look well,' how is that showcasing a garment at its best? Aren't you supposed to look at clothes and go 'Oh, she looks amazing in that, I want one!'

Anyway, back to positive thoughts about health and loving ourselves!

Posted by: Carrie (Teabelly) at May 7, 2010 11:06 AM

No one should ever hate their body that much.

Oh, Rusty, I just fell in love with you a little. I'd really like to read this. Thanks.

Posted by: Anna von Beaversmack at May 7, 2010 11:12 AM

What I want to know is where are the normal sized models?

There are the regular models who are 6' 6" tall and 100 lbs, and then there are the plus sized models who are size 12 or larger. Where are the 5'5" tall girls who are 130lbs (i.e. my size)?

Posted by: BWeaves at May 7, 2010 11:33 AM

"Why would any girl aspire to look like a skinny teenage boy? All girls should aspire to look like Christina Hendricks. The world would be a MUCH better place."

It's no more enlightened to extol the virtues of Hendricks than it is to extol those of skinny women. The problem is an obsession with appearance, not necessarily what the appearance is. Girls shouldn't aspire to look like anybody - they should aspire to the presidency, for Christ's sake.

Posted by: samantha t at May 7, 2010 12:07 PM

I'm really kind of disturbed by the number of people who are jumping on to the "who likes sticks anyway!" bandwagon--that seems kind of diametrically opposed to the actual message of the book AND review. Healthy at ANY size, y'all. I'm no slender waif, but my mom is-- she was constantly picked on by everyone in her high school and STILL takes crap for being naturally thin even though she is well into her 60's now. One of my best friends is one of those "sticks" y'all are deriding--yes, you can see her ribs sometimes. But the girl is healthy as all get out. So is my mom. The both have normal, healthy, active lifestyles and happen to be "sticks."

STOP HATING ON THE SKINNY PEOPLE. It's just as bad as telling a healthy, active size 12 that she's a fatty. Jesus, there's not one ideal body type out there, and as long as everyone is healthy living well, they should be applauded.

Great review, Rusty, I'll be adding this to my book queue immediately.

Posted by: PaleoLithchick at May 7, 2010 12:09 PM

Great review Genny!

And I get that, PaleoLithchick. People are gorgeous no matter what their natural shape. One of my best friends is under 110 pounds, and used to get criticized by the nuns at my college for being underweight and unhealthy. She'd cry every time someone said something, because she was actively trying to gain weight. She just happened to be built exactly like her dad, tall and skinny. The girl would have ice cream for lunch every day for god's sake to no avail. It's just her size. And she's adorable.

Now me? Not built skinny. But I've learned to appreciate my hips and boobs. I could lose all the weight I wanted and never be below a size 10...my hips would laugh at me. "Silly fool, you can't get rid of ME!" But I'm fine not being a size 2 or 4 or 6. Not that I don't have bouts of low self-esteem, but it's way better than it was in college.

Posted by: Julie at May 7, 2010 12:29 PM

Crystal Renn is definitely a cutie but Ashley Graham (Lane Bryant undies ad that received some attention) gets my vote every time.

I was going to post the following as a statement but I'm a fashion industry dumbass therefore it becomes a question instead:
Isn't the industry pretty much controlled by gay men who viscerally hate *HATE* women and have no trouble demeaning them, which includes perpetuating draconian sizeism? (is that a word?)

Someone enlighten me.

Posted by: Barry at May 7, 2010 12:31 PM

Rusty - fabulous review! And I love your call for healthy at any size.

Posted by: tamatha at May 7, 2010 12:55 PM

Ok so I have no idea why I'm so interested in this thread...but I am. I'm really intrigued by Barry's question. I mean men are demonized as setting these satandards for women that they can't live up to. But I read an article the other day that says men think the size a women should be on average is around a 12. Women think it's an 8. These are generalizations based on averages of course. Just somthing I thought was interesting.

Posted by: Blank at May 7, 2010 12:58 PM

Robert, we recently went to my son's high school production of "Camelot" and were both incredibly surprised that the girl cast as Guinevere was easily a size 16....she was a lovely girl, a good actress and did she have some pipes!!! How sad that we were shocked that a high school production actually cast for TALENT and not looks. But, as an actress as well (as is my daughter I mentioned) we are used to losing out on roles to prettier, thinner girls. And, BWeaves, I'm with you completely. I'm 5'2" and 130 lbs....who is representing me??

Posted by: dammitjanet at May 7, 2010 1:06 PM

Excellent review, I will also be adding this to my ever growing "to read" list.

Posted by: Alli at May 7, 2010 1:13 PM

"Girls shouldn't aspire to look like anybody - they should aspire to the presidency, for Christ's sake."

I like that quote, samantha t.

Posted by: ERM at May 7, 2010 1:37 PM

samantha T, I was making a joke, but your point is a good one.

For the record, Mrs. , is 5-0/150 and I adore all her parts -- when we stand face to face she fits perfectly under my chin, like two pieces in a puzzle.

She still wouldn't want to be president, though.

Posted by: , at May 7, 2010 1:46 PM

Awesome review Rusty, I've been thinking about reading this book for a while, but was worried about its potential, "I am big bold and beautiful and everyone else isn't," message.

I also have tons of friends who are skinny minis. Of course, most of them complain about how fat their getting because their size 2 jeans are too tight and I want to snap their skinny little necks. Kidding. Mostly. But really, they're all very healthy and they just happen to be naturally small. And I just happen to be naturally larger than them.

Since I just started my diet this week, the review and subsequent thread was a particularly fun read. Like Ms. Renn, I'm tall (5'10"), and curvy (size 10/12). Our body types are very similar, but I'm really trying to loose weight. While it has to do a little bit with appearance, it mostly has to do with health. My family has a history of heart disease and working in a cubicle does hell for your daily activity and snacking. I've gained about 12 pounds since graduation last year and this unnerves me to no end. Not because of appearance (that much extra weight on my frame and height is about five extra pounds on a girl about 5'4"), it's because I don't want to keep rolling with weight gain.

One of the few reality shows I watch is Biggest Loser and I love it because of how inspiring it is. But it also unnerves me because about 8 of 10 people say they have no idea how they got that way. I want to be in charge of my health and in charge of my body.

But even knowing that I worry if image is still a bigger part of wanting to lose weight than I admit. I'm tall with curves and a stronger bone structure, I'll never be petite in any sense of the word, but I'm constantly reminded that I should be. As much as my guy friends say they like curvy women, they mention that when thighs don't touch, it's like the sexiest thing ever. They love long legs but only date short women.It's ok if she's got weight on her chest, but she'd better have thin and toned arms.

I know in my heart that I want to be the healthiest version of me possible, but I just can't help but think I'd like to be the most desirable me possible, too. It makes me feel like a terrible neo-feminist, but there it is.

Eh, but then I look in the mirror, assess my thunder thighs, big nose and soft tummy area and think I'm sexy.

I have no idea where I'm going with this. I think I want some chocolate and some venting. My apologies.

Posted by: Kayanne at May 7, 2010 2:29 PM

Did we mention that all Pajibans are sexy by association?

Posted by: Blank at May 7, 2010 2:39 PM

I am seven months pregnant and last week when I came into the office my coworker pointed out that I had gotten grape jelly on the underside of my belly, probably from brushing against the counter while I was making breakfast. She then pointed out that jelly is "like two points a teaspoon" and it is really hard to lose the baby weight after the baby is born.

Being pregnant causes strangers to approach me in the grocery store to comment on diapers, strangers to actually touch me constantly and people give me the death glare when I get my monthly (yeah monthly and no it is not decaf you fuckers) latte from starbucks. But the thing I wasn't expecting was all the comments about how little weight I am allowed to gain while pregnant. When my doctor says -try to keep it around 25 pounds, I am fine with that. But the baby books, online articles and iphone tips that remind you that you don't have to gain more than 10-12 pounds while pregnant and now is a good time to cut out all bad-for-you foods or you are killing your baby, I realized how bad the national obsession has become.

Yeah we are an obese nation and yeah most women get fat while pregnant, but with all the things I have to worry about being able to eat real icecream should be a given. Fuckers.

And for the record, I have gained fifteen pounds which gives me a while to go before I start endangering my baby you judgy bastards. I just happen to be carrying very high and outfront so it looks like I am smuggling a turkey in a Jane's Addiction video.

Posted by: Jennifer at May 7, 2010 3:40 PM

sorry being all ranty is not conducive to proper use of punctuation.

Posted by: Jennifer at May 7, 2010 3:41 PM

10-12 pounds?! Listen to your doctor. Don't starve the baby!

Posted by: admin at May 7, 2010 3:56 PM

Jennifer...

She commented on the grape jelly and then mentioned that it's fattening and that it's hard to get rid of the weight after the baby is born. The heck is wrong with that cunt? Ok, sorry, excuse my language, there are fetuses present. What the fuck is wrong with that fucking cunt? Better.

I'm serious, people who make a point to dictate unwarranted information on how you would maintain your dietary health are little sadists. Your doctor is the one with the degree and who happens to know you and what you and your baby need. And then there are those bitches who roll their eyes at people who take longer than a month to get all the baby weight off. Bitch, just because Heidi Klum can do it with her team of dietitians and personal trainers and six week hiatus from any real work, doesn't mean everyone else should be subjected to the same scrutiny.

Next time she starts telling you how many points are in a teaspoon, shove that utensil down her throat.

Posted by: Kayanne at May 7, 2010 4:08 PM

Jennifer: 25 pounds? I gained probably about ten more pounds than that in both of my pregnancies and my obstretricians didn't say a word. I also lost just about all of the weight (though, no, I was never back to pre-baby size, but I'm confident that's because I wasn't able to exercise nearly as much as I used to). During my second pregnancy, I had an insane craving for McDonald's shakes and had one, oh, three to four times a week. I lost the weight from #2 faster than for #1.

Jesus, people need to shut their traps around pregnant women. I'm sure you're being healthy and just having the occasional snack. You're entitled and the baby will be fine!

For the record, I had coffee daily, lunch meat routinely, sushi occasionally, and drank every so often through both of my pregnancies.

Posted by: samantha t at May 7, 2010 4:13 PM

"And then there are those bitches who roll their eyes at people who take longer than a month to get all the baby weight off."

Edited to add that I did lose most of the weight, but it took months. For my first, it took about a year (it only really budged when I got over an injury and could start running again) and for the second it took at least four months, and that was only because I had full-time help with the children, breastfed exclusively for a few months (see full-time help with children), got to exercise every day, and engaged in some healthy, though depressing, calorie restrictions.

One of my aunts asked me when my first was six weeks old if I was back in my old clothes. Bitch, I'm still wearing a maxi pad. What do you think?

Posted by: samantha t at May 7, 2010 4:21 PM

See this is what I come to pajiba for: fucking validation. You ladies rock!

Posted by: Jennifer at May 7, 2010 5:55 PM

Great review, Rusty.

And g'wan the size 12. Sure, I could be smaller, but I have ample brains too.

Posted by: Sara at May 7, 2010 8:02 PM

I think I may just have to pick this book up now. Great review. This is an issue that I've struggled with most of my life too. I'm 5'10" and an Aussie size 12 (I think that equates to a US 8-10?) and was told when I was younger that I could be a model if I could just lose some weight. I play representative sport and dance and am a pretty fit and healthy lady but despite knowing this, I still let myself get caught up in negative body image. It's silly, I know. Sydney is also a particularly bad city for it too, there is a serious obsession here for women who are blonde, tiny and tanned. Anyway, methinks this book could be useful.

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