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Look Me in the Eye by John Elder Robison


Cannonball Read / Sophia

Book Reviews | August 4, 2009 | Comments (10)


I saw Look Me in the Eye on a recommended reading list and decided to take a look. Robison wrote a memoir of his life with Asperger’s after being prompted by his younger brother, the New York Times bestselling author of Running With Scissors, Augusten Burroughs (Burroughs apparently hated his family so much that he changed his name—I will know more when I actually read Running With Scissors). Robison spent his childhood, teenage years, and young adulthood wondering what was wrong with him and feeling like a fraud. He knew he was different but wasn’t diagnosed with Asperger’s until he was in his forties. But despite Asperger’s, a violent, alcoholic father and a mentally ill mother, Robison still built a life for himself. A whiz with electronics and sound, Robison made exploding guitars for KISS and designed electronic toys before going into business on his own.

I don’t know too much about Asperger’s or autism, but I thought Look Me in the Eye was an interesting look from Robison’s perspective. I kind of feel the hypochondriac urge to delare myself somewhat autistic, and I could sometimes relate to Robison’s point of view: I’m not big on small talk; I much prefer honesty, I cannot give someone a fake compliment, and I tend to really focus on one thing at the time. That’s where the similarity ends, though, and some of the chapters that Robison probably most enjoyed writing, I wasn’t as interested in. Robison keeps it brief, but I really didn’t need any details about his electronics work. He could have said, I did some really hard, innovative, gadgety stuff, and I could have simply believed him.

Robison also doesn’t talk too specifically about how Asperger’s affects him in his day-to-day, personal life. A couple of chapters are devoted to the subject, but Robison is married twice and he barely describes how he meets them or their interactions. I guess I am usually more interested in the personal and it wasn’t always there. Also, Robison comes from a very unique and messed-up family and I was left wondering more than once whether his behavior (that I would consider odd) was a result of Asperger’s, his parents, the times, or spending summers in rural Georgia. Robison was in Florida, working on a KISS tour and he shot a snake right outside of his motel door—with families nearby in the pool—with his (probably illegal) handgun. And Robison was surprised when the disgruntled motel owner objected. I enjoyed reading Look Me in the Eye, but I found myself eager to pick up Running With Scissors to see if I could get more of the story of Robison’s family.

This review is part of the Cannonball Read series. For more of Sophia’s reviews, check out her blog, My Life As Seen Through Books.


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Comments

I feel like I'm one of the few people who really hated Running With Scissors. Augusten Burroughs makes me want to do harm. To him, not to myself. I really couldn't see anything redeeming about him or his messed up family.

I can't remember much about the brother though, or how much he's in Scissors.

Posted by: Carrie at August 4, 2009 9:08 AM

Augusten Burroughs is my favorite author. I would suggest reading Dry first, as I thought Running with Scissors was one of his weakest books. I also read his brother's book and the family history made more sense reading Augusten's books first. I also would recommend reading Possible Side Effects after Dry.

Posted by: Felicia at August 4, 2009 9:21 AM

Augusten Burroughs is my favorite author. I would suggest reading Dry first, as I thought Running with Scissors was one of his weakest books. I also read his brother's book and the family history made more sense reading Augusten's books first. I also would recommend reading Possible Side Effects after Dry.

Posted by: Felicia at August 4, 2009 9:22 AM

'born on a blue day' is a book you might like.

Posted by: gem at August 4, 2009 9:53 AM

Nice review Sophia, very timely. I have a son recently identified as high functioning autism and our second is showing signs. I was never formally diagnosed, but my youth was marked by lot of Asperger's traits (eye contact, social impairment, narrow focus etc) and autism is paternally inherited, so it's possible.

I get by ok now (most colleagues just assume that "I have my ways"), but growing up with it was horrible. No one gives you a script when adolescence hits, but most typical teens find a way to improvise. Aspies on the other hand just can't. It was like being the only person left out on a secret, yet people think you know anyway, expect you to act accordingly then look variously bemused/shocked/amused when you don't. Don't know if that makes sense, but I can't think of a better way to describe it. Depending on how far down the spectrum you are, it's not something you necessarily grow out of, so much as develop a strategy for managing.

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Posted by: RandyPanTheGoatboy at August 4, 2009 10:04 AM

Running with Scissors was one of the most infuriating books I've ever read. I picked it up about the time the movie was coming out. The soft cover version offered no "plot" synopsis (my first annoyance), and instead had a series of "critics" praising the book as "hilarious" and "the funniest thing they ever read."

The book IS NOT FUNNY AT ALL. Not even a little. It's dark and disturbing and I found nothing redemptive or even retrospective about it. It served no purpose other than to make me disgusted that such a family existed and no one was arrested.

Gah!

So I think my point is, I would not recommend that book.

Posted by: Lindsay at August 4, 2009 10:33 AM

I've read this book, and I think that the things you find annoying are exactly what Asperger's is like. He doesn't go into the emotional aspect of his marriages because he isn't really capable of describing it in a way that engages. It's probably difficult for the writer to discern what the 'average' reader would find interesting. It's almost like understanding the author through osmosis. That said, a better editor would have been welcome to guide him more closely.

Posted by: Treena at August 4, 2009 10:52 AM

Why am I not surprised that Burroughs (who has a background in advertising) noticed the marketablility of Aspergers/autism?


Posted by: MadameUgly at August 4, 2009 1:00 PM

Lindsay, I agree completely. Who the hell finds something like Running with Scissors as funny as the lit crits did? It was completely effed up in every way imaginable.

Posted by: Sally at August 4, 2009 7:49 PM

When I read the cover flap on this one and it mentioned that he doesn't like to be called by his name, or call anyone else by name, I knew I didn't need to read it... I'm married to it.

Posted by: Mrs Smith at August 5, 2009 2:36 PM